WHY YOUR SILENCE IS STARVATION !! #empath #narcissist #narcissism #npd

Hey Jennifer, Sam, Kayla, Lady Gordon. Hey y'all. Happy Friday, guys. Everybody do me like you. Y'all, I'm on my Afro Beats joints today. I only compete with the woman I was yesterday. Hey girl, I love that name. Trin Trin. Afternoon, family. It's Friday. queen b says hello i'm checking in on a friday man early too i couldn't help myself i hope y'all doing okay to those who are available at this moment what's up guys just want to have a quick conversation with y'all this beautiful afternoon thank you ladies for being here y'all i'm talking about something that we all need to really you know have a conversation about somebody say yes i caught a lie what's up courtney laster lady gordon i'm so glad i found your channel and instagram i'm so glad you you did too lady gordon shirley gonzalez hey shirley said i needed this much love sweetheart much love much love much love d'andrea walker hi all anyone experiencing and workplace narcissism whoa whoa i've been trying to avoid talking about it but i need to one of these days because if y'all don't know i'm still in corporate america and um yeah narcissism all up and through there all up and through there baby these people are after you in every way possible at work at church boy on the bus at the bus stop it's just man Shirley Gonzalez said, "Oh, we not for real tick" tick tick tight when you're stuck in the constant cycle with a narcissist why is it so hard to leave listen honestly it's hard but it's not hard it's up to you it's up to you and we're gonna talk about that a little bit today i'm glad you're here hang tight okay hang tight thank y'all for being here those of you who are here y'all bear with me I've been jamming all morning. I'm like, ooh, I'm amped. I don't want to shoot a video. I want to get on live. I want to see who's available. The sun is out. It's Friday. Why not talk to my beautiful people and those who are available right now to have a conversation? Because we're thrivers and we're on that path, at least we're trying, right? A lot of us who are. So today, we're going to talk about our silence my favorite subject it means so much more than what people know so join me in the conversation you guys um much love to y'all wherever y'all at um i i don't know where y'all are checking in from but hey wherever you're at so much love to you thanks for being here on this beautiful friday i hope you have a great upcoming weekend and if you're struggling from narcissistic abuse before i get started i really really want to give you a big cyber hug because i know it's hard um and i know a lot of you watch these videos for some type of encouragement and motivation while you're still in pain and i've been there i know what it's like to sit back watch these videos and still be hurting and you're listening to people talk about thriving and being silent and all of this and you're looking at your situation like but how like what what do you mean like so um i i am mommy so true you guys um thank you for being here those of you who are new i'm glad you caught me on this live before i get into the topic of today's live and dive into the title i want you to understand why i'm doing what i'm doing i'm doing what i'm doing because i want you guys to know that the powers within you these people are powerless. You really have all the control. You really do. You really truly do. And in order to get away, break away, and really move forward in your life, you have to really be brave. You have to find courage. But it's in you. It's within all of us. All of us who have dealt with narcissists, all of us who are here right now in this very moment, we have some type of courage and we have some type of bravery that has been instilled in us since before we were even birthed. So we need to pull that out of ourselves to defeat and fight and kill off the narcissist. And this is one of the realest things I would ever tell y'all. There's no magic tool. There's nothing I can tell you about how to get rid of them, how to shake them off, how to break the cycle, except but to find that strength within you and stop doubting it. It took me years to discover that very secret right now. I had to really stop doubting myself. I have the power here, not the narcissist. I gave them the power to even do what they've done because of my empathetic ways, my genuineness, my authentic genuineness. So in reverse, that same power, I have to force it out of me to change the narrative so that's why I said it's not hard but it is hard it's only hard if you refuse to find that courage and that strength that's there inside of you it's there you're dealing with a coward they are actually afraid of you but they've been trying to put fear in you all this time because of how sweet and nice and empathetic and compassionate you are they've taken advantage of your kindness for weakness so they can hide behind this mask of confidence, this mask of I am a God to you and you should bow down to my presence. But once you grasp the fact that you're dealing with a fake and phony definition of a human being, once you take power, once you obtain real clarity, once you radically accept what's in front of you, what's happening and who you're dealing with, you see very clear that they are weak. You see very clear they've been setting you up and you see very clear that you have all the power in the situation. They've done everything they could do to blind you from seeing all of it. They are nothing but a big old sack of lies. Don't fall for it. Don't fall for it. Much love to you from Canada. Aw, much love to you too, T-Type. Thanks for being here, man. Thank you, guys. I really appreciate y'all. She said, I've left so many times already. It's terrible. When you leave just to beg them back, don't fall for it no more. These are hoovers. These are hoovers. And actually, the next time either I drop a video or go live, I'm going to talk to you guys about what to expect when narcissists are losing control. And the Hoover is one of them. They Hoover y'all out of panic. They Hoover y'all because they know, damn, although I don't want this person, I don't want nobody else to have them. So let me go finish the job. Let me go. Let me go knock them back down because I know they somewhere thriving and healing because that's the type of person they are. I knew they were going to discover their strength. So let me go back and hoover. Let me go back and make them seem like, you know, I love them. I miss them and get them caught up right back in that same dysfunctional narcissistic cycle. It's a loss of control that brings them back around. They miss the supply of having control over you and your life. That's why they come back around. That's why they hoover you. And that's why hoovers are so intense. A lot of people don't dodge hoovers or they try to, and then they get snapped back in before they know it because the narcissist is so intelligent at manipulating you because they want control over you okay but yes i can't wait to talk about that next time y'all bibbles bop bibbles boop i don't know that's pretty cool says they are parasites yeah they are ed one i have blocked him and his new supply on social media i know they've been spying on me yeah because they're both losing control you've gone silent silence make narcissistic people freak out because they want to control you. I'm telling you that that control is everything for them. They live for that. Nanny Rivera, girl, I just quit my job an hour ago. Ooh, my boss was such a narc. You have been such a great help to me for months now. Oh my God. Thank you for opening my eyes after seven and a half years. They lost Alpha Shore. I'm proud of you, Nanny. Nanny Rivera, I'm proud of you. I'm telling you, narcissism in the workplace is very real it's very real and sometimes I feel like the workplace environment narcissism is used to push you to another level sometimes it's like you just need to wake up and accept you know what I'm better than this damn job this company because they're using me they don't appreciate me and they got me messed up they're just all jealous they're jealous of your light so really you don't even need to be there that's how I'm taking it honestly I'm just like you know what these narcissistic bosses and co-workers they did they're doing me a favor they're showing me where i don't need to be i'm proud of you for quitting and walking away and cutting those ducks off because baby you about to walk into something so much bigger and better for your life i'm really proud of you awesome awesome awesome Lebron James restrict or block i don't know because i i got three enemies now but i will never back down and yes they spy from all sides and i ain't paranoid period period they make you strong. These people not ready for this, man. Honey B said the narcissist pleaded guilty to his third DUI and felony, vehicular assault. He lied in the courtroom and scapegoated me anyway while pleading guilty. I moved 900 miles away, five months, no contact today. Y'all are, I love it. It's powerful Friday. It's testimonial Friday. Listen, that's why I'm talking about what I'm talking about today because y'all silence is starvation for narcissists and y'all just bear with me with those comments y'all mama go back through and read them but let me dive in because y'all are hitting everything on the nail like this is what i'm feeling so i i guess i am on the right topic or or right thing because man every day every day i'm confirming how powerful our silence is as people who've been victimized by narcissists we've been completely taken advantage of we've been mistreated but it's because we're rare we're rare these people don't know what to do with us they don't know how to handle us we're too much we're too damn loving too damn nice like they don't know what to do with us they just be like yeah like literally that's just they they literally this is i don't know this is a whole bentley what i'm gonna do with a bentley man i'd rather deal with a honda man there's too much maintenance here man these narcissists are weak lazy cowards they don't want to put up with no Bentley that's too much work they rather wake up every day roll over pick up that phone and go sit in the bathroom for eight hours and and fake ---- while they set up new supplies and old supplies like for real so mistreating you because you're rare just confirms what an idiot they are complete idiot complete fool that's number one okay it's not hard to go silence with a narcissist when you recognize you're dealing with a fool that's why I told whoever asked me in the beginning why is it so hard to leave and all that I said oh it's hard but it's not hard it's only hard if you refuse to pay attention to the fact that you're dealing with an idiot a fool like I mean if you're a true empath you and fools that it just don't it just don't click you too authentic you too real and people who are foolish minded like narcissists people who are one-sided who don't want to hear nobody's perspective because they are above everybody and their opinion is better and they know everything you can't get nothing out you can't you can't share your perspectives you're always wrong people like that with with empaths or any type of person that holds real empathy and compassion it just it just would never work it's just it's just a unequal and unbalanced equation like it just would never work you put that you put those two things together in chemistry it's gonna keep blowing up you know so boy to do you wrong is really where this idiot these fools really completely mess up at thank you for the super chat this is for you she says queen aria learn lirza i'm so sorry y'all I'll be butchering some of y'all's names but thank you for the love thank you for the love um but no seriously this is real this is real this is real and honestly if you guys want to you know uh join the membership the information is in the description box that helps me see you know certain comments it stands out um it just it comes with a lot of great perks so check that out if you want to join the membership and i do put separate videos on my channel for my members so if that's of interest to you warrior go ahead and check that membership out um miss ty said what the hell want to play games like that. I laid down for a minute, but those days over. Nah, for real, for real. Corrine Mills says, Warriors, Warriors. What's up, sis? Welcome to the live today. But Shirley Gonzalez, I have a P.O. Box coming. I do. I do. I will announce that very soon once it's ready. Please bear with me. I was supposed to have that a long time ago, but I'm getting there, y'all. I'm going to announce my P.O. Box very, very soon because I'm coming up on my first year on YouTube. I'm so excited, man. That's why I be showing so much gratitude and love to y'all because y'all don't even understand. I've been warming up. I am just now about to really take off with everything because I am truly taking my healing journey very seriously. And I see and feel what it's doing for me. And I love you all so much that I'm so inspired to go hard. And I am celebrating one year very soon on YouTube. Congratulations to all of you for what you've done for this channel, what you do for each other, the support. I mean, we're not going to get into that today, y'all. Let me finish talking about this silence because I am not going to be able to shut up. But yes, yes, yes. Thank y'all. Thank y'all so much. I would never be able to not take moments to thank y'all. So yes, thank y'all. But yes, so getting right into the topic though, for real. Being that silence is starvation. The thing about the narcissist, and so many may not agree with me, but they set their selves up. They set their selves up for everything. Thank you so much, sis. God bless you. I see you still dropping that. They set their selves up for everything because what's so funny is these narcissists, boy, they sitting somewhere praying for someone like you. Even right now, after the relationship done fell, after everything done fell apart, they think they deserve someone like you. They done prayed for somebody just like you. Here you came. You came to uplift them because you were sent, right? You came to uplift. You came to inspire. You came to motivate. You came to do something good in their life. You gave good in their life for a reason, for a purpose, okay? And for that same very purpose, they chose to still do you wrong you prayed for me you got an opportunity you let it slip through your fingers because you're a fool you let this type of a person go because you're a fool and now they're going to turn around and continue to pray for someone just like you again and trying to make everybody else just like you knowing damn well it don't work like that and if they don't know they they gonna find out soon because and a narcissist might get one empath maybe two sometimes three in their lifetime but guess what all three of them empaths gonna leave them eventually that new supply eventually wakes up and runs they divorce them too they leave them too don't nobody stay with the narcissist not even their narcissistic new supply because eventually they narc each other to death and it explodes too that's also an unbalanced unequal equation that'll not never work out all they do is humiliate each other and sometimes they're stupid enough to humiliate each other till they die. Shit. I mean, hey, that's on them. But to still do you wrong after you came into their life, after you gave, after you sacrificed, after you were authentic and genuine, that was very foolish. That was very foolish. And the best thing you can do is go silent. You know why? Besides there not being much more to say, this is cutting the life support. silence means you're no longer offering narcissistic supply i'm not that empath i'm not that that that woman or that man that you thought was a fool or an idiot silence means game is mother effing over and i'm talking about really being silent and some of y'all may not be there that's why i started this by saying look i know a lot of y'all might be in pain and you watch these videos but listen if you want to get through this if you want to thrive through this if you want to really, really, really, really defeat what has happened to you. Learn the power of your silence and learn that silence means that you're starving the narcissist. This is what you want to do. This is what you need to do, but you need to do it with complete courage. You need to do it with complete bravery. You need to be completely clear because silence means that you're setting hard boundaries. Silence means that you're not just, you know, passively letting stuff go or just half saying no. Silence is really letting them know and feel that they're dead to you. I'm telling you, this is the key. You need to let a narcissist feel that they don't mean nothing to you. Like you, you're not on my radar. Who are you? What? Married to what? Silence means I really don't need to have the last word I don't care to argue you're not getting those reactions from me anymore if I'm still living with you if you're still you know dealing with them silence means you know there's no point to say certain things really just laugh at them that was funny like just watch them argue with themselves watch them just humiliate themselves they can't stand you being silent because it means you cut their oxygen. Because when you weren't silent, you're saying a lot, you're doing a lot, you're still giving all the narcissistic supply that they're looking for. So when you get silent, you're literally starving this fool of the oxygen that they need. They literally need for you to give them control. And by control means you reacting. That's why you don't accept hoovers and you remain silent. Because when you're texting them back, you're talking back to them on the phone that's that's that's feeding in that's continuing to enable that's allowing them to know yeah i can come back i can keep messing around with you because after they discard you a little while later here they are trying to have conversations here they are stalking you here they are looking all over the world for you here they are with these chance encounters that's what they're called chance encounters when they're popping up at places they know you're going to be at your favorite bars the local church the friends that you have their houses their parties they're you know anything to make sure they're going to pop up so you see them so you get triggered getting your feelings now you're trying to text them now you're trying to look for them now you want to have a conversation these people are smart when it comes to manipulating you just to get control so when you get silent you literally change the narrative it's literally game over fool I'm not your fool and if I was I'm not no more it's literally I don't got nothing to say to you because there's nothing to say to you what have I not said it's literally I'm taking control and power because you're powerless and I see that silence means you don't run nothing over here this is not your stage I ain't your puppet silence means that circus clown show that you thought I was part of this ain't that oh you thought I was gonna hang around and keep giving while you sit back and be selfish. No. Silence means I know how to set boundaries and I'm not playing. Your silence starves them. This is how you eradicate a narcissist from your life, honestly. Treat them like they're literally dead. Like seriously. You have to literally find that brave person inside of you and realize that you're not losing nobody here. you're losing yourself. You've been losing yourself this entire time. So it's time to be silent. I'm going to starve you with my silence because I need to figure out my life. And while I'm silent, I know you don't belong here. I don't belong with you. I need to cross this out of my life. I need to change this. I need to move 900 miles away. And while you're doing that, eventually they get the picture because what they don't want is for you to abandon them. What they don't want is for you to be silent. What they don't want is for you to leave them hanging and they have to figure you out. They have to guess. They have to play guessing games. They have to try to read your mind and they can't. They have to try to figure out what your next moves are and they can't. Silence is I'm living my life. I'm taking care of me. I am not interested in feeding into your narcissistic games. This is why you starve them of silence. This is why you literally get numb to them in a whole different type of way you have to wake up to what has been happening to you and you have to wake up and see that damn I've been dealing with a fake and phony coward I have to step up and the best way to defeat them is to really just because a real empath wants to be kind and loving and compassionate man like but we gotta put ourselves first how about being loving and compassionate and kind and polite with yourself first. Because if you do that first, you'll know when you're giving it to the wrong one. You'll see the red flags. You won't even ignore them if you give all that to yourself first. These people teach you that no matter how kind you are, no matter how religious you are, they just don't care. Your kindness, your politeness, your prayer, your love, it's not getting you anywhere with the narcissist. It won't get you anywhere. It never will it never will so why not starve them why not take it all back because they've been taking your kindness for weakness this entire time never forget that a narcissist is fundamentally fundamentally fundamentally i can't even say certain words right y'all i'm supposed to be an american citizen by now fundamentally they lack any type of real and authentic power and this is despite the outward appearance that they have despite how they look and how they come off some of these people are very confident that's why you know we have these narcissistic bosses narcissistic managers these leaders they get these kind of jobs they have these type of operations because they know how to act they know how to appear they know how to show people what they want to see but behind that is no real substance it's like there's nothing there nothing but jealousy hatred nothing but manipulative thinking and ways of doing things that's all they have so when people try to throw it in there like you know a narcissist oh this person can't be a narcissist they got money they're doing good for themselves they they have a lot of following and people love and respect them okay and so what so that makes them disqualified them the ones we are not looking enough if you ask me, the ones that are leading us the ones that are running businesses the ones that are, you know, these trillionaires to me, a certain amount of money becomes highly questionable and highly satanic because it's like okay who are you sacrificing? How much control do you have to live like this because it's weird when we're living in a world full of all this poverty and you got people who are completely filthy rich to the point where they got enough money to feed the whole planet and they're not doing it, something is wrong here but they're the ones being praised and worshipped and no one's paying attention to the fact that they're the narcissist and that they are narcissists, man we live in a crazy world y'all but I'm really glad y'all brought up the fact that narcissism works and runs in the workplace a great topic to talk about on a Friday because they do, they do, narcissists are the reason why a lot of people are jobless, a lot of people can't climb up in their career because they sabotage your work, they sabotage everything, they make you want to give up and they do make you quit eventually. Sometimes for the right reasons Sometimes for a setback. We've got to starve these people of our silence. A lot of people misconstrue what silence means for a survivor. Silence doesn't just mean shutting up. Sometimes that's not it. It's shutting down who you are for the person that's unworthy of you. It's no longer giving them parts of you that should not be given. You've got to learn how to slash dice and shut these narcissists down Your demeanor has to change. You've got to show a different type of you because they think you're sweet They think you're stupid. They think you're truly a fool. And the way these people work in order to turn off that switch that you've enlightened because you've shown them all this empathy, you better show them that they really don't even know you for real. Show them who you really are. Change the game. Starve them with your silence. That's that definite no. No, I ain't doing it No, I ain't got it. No, I'm not giving you that. No, I don't want to be with you. When you're discarded and they're hoovering, they're hitting you up, be completely thorough and clear and firm. I don't want you. I don't want to be with you. Don't sugarcoat nothing with these people. Be cutthroat. That's how you starve them. That's starving them. That's being silent that's that's changing the game that's not allowing that narcissistic parent to use their victim ass bullshit on you all the time to get you to stick around come around and be around that's telling that that that narcissistic parent about themselves straight up and down starve them all they want from you is narcissistic supply anyway so cut that cord cut that support don't give them that anymore like i said you want to eradicate a narcissist starve them with silence change the way you talk to them change the way you compliment them stop complimenting them shut them down shut them off if you can even if you're living with them you can do this I'm telling you because your reactions have to change they have to change you need to be firm and you need to be strong you need to let them know I don't want you your very existence is disgusting once you start talking to a narcissist like they are a parasite for real like they are the bottom of the pit for real guess what's gonna happen they gotta go find that supply somewhere else a lot of y'all get surprised about the new supply don't nah that means you've been doing your job yeah it was painful they got a new supply but look somebody else had to do it because you was tired a long time ago this fool prayed about you prayed to have you and then dropped you on your face like you stink or something so yeah you switched up you stopped having sex that's going silent that's starving you. I'm not touching you. You can't touch me. We not doing it. We still married. I don't care. I don't care. You're not to be trusted. What you don't want to do with a narcissist is try to play pretend and just go along with what they're doing with you. To me, that's the dumbest thing to do. It sets you up. You only do that when you're dealing with those vicious, harmful, malignant narcissists because they're violent and you don't want them to get crazy on your ass. So you got to pretend and fake and play it cool until it's safe to go. That's different. Trust me. I've been there. I know how to handle them. You got to really pretend because they're nuts. But even with them, pretending ain't even good because once they catch you in the lie, they're going to beat your ass. Once they know you're faking, they're going to try to shoot you. So for me, I think you just need to be brave and be straight up with any narcissist, malignant or not. What you going to do with that gun you so bold I dare you to do it honestly y'all I'm a firm believer in facing the devil head-on like a head-on collision look you so brave and so bad do it if I tell y'all how many times I looked that demon in the face while he had a gun and I said do it and he looked at me and then when he sat his little stupid narcissistic ass down yeah he did you can't do it not this child because as soon as you thought about it, God knocked your head, knocked you in the side of the head like, boy, you stupid. I wish you would. It ain't enough demon in you to do that to this girl. You stupid as hell. You can't even do it. That's how I think. I'm sorry. That might be cocky, but I don't feel the need to be fearful of somebody who is a big old sack of fear. You're a coward. What do I need to be scared of you for? Shoe fly don't bother me. You need confidence deal with a narcissist their confidence is fake but yours is real you need to let them know man i what you gonna do because i ain't the one i'll beat your ass i'm telling y'all y'all got to be firm and strong yeah you might be dealing with a violent one get strong and firm and call the cops and get his ass up out of your house these people instill fearing you they make you scared to leave they make you find excuses to stay or starve them with your silence and start calling the the cops. Stop hiding what's happening behind closed doors because you're afraid. You've got to run for your life. You've got to be thick-skinned. You've got to be smart. You have to be wise. You have to be brave. You have to be courageous because what you're dealing with is not a joke. This is nothing to play with. If you sit there and play with this narcissist, you're going to dwindle away like somebody with cancer. They're going to spread and spread and spread until you die so if you don't starve them with silence and change the game and learn how to shut them off and shut them out you're gonna keep hurting yourself and they're gonna enjoy the show you gotta have tough skin to deal with a narcissist there ain't no punking out because that is a punk that is the ultimate punk the ultimate punk they're bullies because they're punks bullies can't even fight for real i bet when you get mad ain't no controlling or empath that blows up boy narcissists think they full of rage and anger you dealing with an empath that's been narcissistically abused for years and years and years boy don't piss me off i might be the one to shoot you i don't mind stabbing you up i'm not that damn empathetic i noticed a demon in you i don't mind getting rid of you yeah i said drink some water on that because um honestly that's the real y'all i wouldn't be mommy so true if i wasn't keeping it all the way 100 and i'm not just saying this this to be saying this this was really how I maneuvered through it because I realized what was in front of me when you see the demon you cannot unsee it don't play with a narcissist don't let them continue to think that you're just a joke don't continue to use love and politeness and kindness that ---- don't work it's gonna keep you stuck in that cycle stop texting them back stop answering their calls stop feeling the need to explain and all these long ass text messages just like what become unbothered stop caring and let them feel that you don't care because you should not you've cared enough you cared so much that it hurt you to even have to feel like you don't care now but it is what it is it is what it is somebody said no response no reaction no contact forever joseph i love it i love it because for real divine departure hey it's sad that narcs are the CEO CFOs yeah they are they are ashes to ashes and dust to dust they take your kindness for weakness that's the truth surely they do be careful queen they watching i don't care let them watch that's another reason why i'm even doing this because trust me they watch hard they watch hard thank you for the ammunition to keep talking my ---- because as much as they will never give up neither will I let them watch I got the perfect show for them too I got the perfect entertainment stage for the narcissistic fool I'm not scared of these goofy man don't don't don't get me started y'all I want them to watch honestly you should want them to watch you thrive from behind the scenes go ahead and watch what's that what's it doing for you go ahead and torture yourself watching me talk about how disgustingly sick and weird y'all are I don't care i piss i piss all of them off let the let the last narc who was around me tell you i don't give a damn all that empath ---- gonna be thrown out the window at some point because they push you too far for so many of us they turn us into a beast but for the good you got to be a warrior out here in these streets man these narcs are everywhere it ain't no being all extra nice yeah treat people how you want to be treated don't be out here being all nice and easy then they gonna teach you that because i promise y'all i used to be the sweetest too damn sweet like what person never say no after all these years 33 years of really never saying no being taken advantage of boy i am tired now i see that wait a freaking minute i got to starve people with my silence once i notice that we're not the same oh i gotta switch up on you that don't mean i'm fake that don't mean i'm narcissistic no that just means i'm ******* smart that means i know to get away that means i know to shut off that means i know to treat you different your silence is your lifesaver this is a tool you gotta know when when to turn you off and give them a different version of you so they can back off from you because they never will unless you you gotta cut the cord with them stop respecting disrespect Joseph I love that because that's facts divine departure says it's best to know your color personality this method when dealing with those pos they know things ah they know things about us we never even paid attention to and this gang stalking ish is the **** annoying No, it is. They know a lot of things. They paid attention to a lot because it's all about manipulation. It's all about control. They paid attention to a lot. They didn't pay attention to the right things, though, because to me, they didn't realize that so many of us are naturally born warriors. We just had to wake up. We had to be pushed to our limit to learn our power. A lot of them had to learn it the hard way. A lot of you are the reason why a narcissist is never gonna be the same they are somewhere mad defeated salty trying to trying to plan how they gonna kill you and that ---- ain't never gonna work instead they gonna end up finding more and more evidence that you are moving on and thriving on with your life and you don't give a damn about them or what they got going on and they just gotta keep watching that and seeing that and living with that sorry not sorry Jessica Hayden said i just cut off my narc a week ago my confidence is at a whole new level because of these videos thank you sis that's what's up i'm proud of you girl i'm proud of you oh somebody said they are spiritual thieves yes man basically these creatures are not worth your time no they're not no once you discover they're a creature it's like run **** off get away running with scissors if you asking why they are getting ahead in life right now just know that they would be spiritually spanked soon yeah man getting ahead in life right now with a narcissist don't mean nothing there's a lot of rich and wealthy narcissists that don't mean ---- they're not always broke it's not about the outward appearance y'all it ain't about the material things what they got what they can achieve how many people love on them how many people appreciate them what their following looks like a lot of narcissists have the most following that don't mean ---- that's not what matters that's not what matters baby don't pay attention to all that because like like like running with scissors said they will be spiritually spanked soon i'm gonna put an emphasis on that spiritually spanked soon because karma catches up with that ass their karma set up way different way way different janna curtis i didn't even know about all of this until i started watching all these videos and it clicked and everything he made me doubt was validated see once you see it you can't unsee it once you notice what you're dealing with it's like damn you are a lame you're a punk you're a coward like wait you've been doing all of this so you can control me because you know I'm just this really nice person like and I'm not saying you're perfect just because you're nice you're nice enough to let a narcissist in your life you're not you're nice enough to let a narcissist you know come in with their little sad story what's up member I see you Manuel thanks for joining no but like you're nice enough to you know do all of that just to find out you're dealing with somebody who ain't got no genuine authentic substance behind this mask like everything about you is false it's disgusting it's freaking disgusting whoo somebody said what do you think of a restraining order shoot if you can get one get one but a narcissist don't care about that if you're dealing with a certain type of narcissist they don't care if you got a restraining order a court order these people are mental like if they want to come for you they're gonna come for you regardless but if you can get a restraining order and if that works cool sometimes they're so nuts they won't even allow that to happen they'll manipulate the court because the judge might be just as narcissistic as is the fool that you go on the court with they're gonna take sides they barely even gonna hear your side of the story it's just man it's sick so i mean if you can go that route go that route if it works for you it works for you but for me boy i tried all of that when i realized that all odds were literally against me i was like yeah i gotta fight different because the court system don't get it these lawyers and judges don't get it nobody gets it but me so i gotta fight different i gotta show this man this ---- is dead like you whatever you thought this was this ain't that whoever you thought i was i'm not that you're going to hate me at the end of this i remember saying that i said oh you're gonna hate me after this ---- oh i'm gonna make i'm gonna make sure you hate me oh hate me for this ---- yes y'all this is real reverse narcology on them hell yeah i'm telling you i'm telling you man multiple vpo violations for three years they don't care about a piece of paper no they don't next step is to handle it myself that's what i just said these people don't care about no courts no judges no police they don't give a damn they not threatened by none of that matter of fact that ---- might backfire so for me because i called the cops for help i said he trying to stab me and i need y'all to come get me now i got arrested when they got here because in defense i threw hot water on his little light-skinned ass and um he started peeling so they get here and he goes look at my chest look at what she did to me so i go to jail that just tells you the the system we live in the the i could have lost my job i could they don't care about that don't give a damn about none of that so you gotta fight different if you don't understand what silence means you better start figuring it out now okay because i'm telling you that's what's gonna save you with these people this was gonna save you you need to eradicate that narcissist out of your life you don't want to just break up you want to have a burial you gonna have a funeral it ain't no we just broke up no it's they're dead I don't know them anymore it's just a memory it's just a story now I talk about it to share an experience that happened but really I don't give a damn it's just somebody I used to know but they dead now somebody said yes sir because baby when they was with you they treated you like you was dead don't forget that they treated you like you were straight up dead like you was not there like you didn't even matter boy your feelings was shitted on so bad it took everything in you to stay alive you could have been crying snot coming down holding a whole bottle of pills ready to die in front of them and they they would have just been like go ahead and hurry up hurry up and do it what you waiting on they would have walked off and gave you silent treatment for two months because you had a mental breakdown so if you don't like sis said if you don't reverse narcology they ask good luck manuel says they think the law don't apply to them boy they think rules don't apply to them the law nothing they're above all of it ej benton says hi what's up absolutely y'all but i'm coming to an end man i just wanted to check in on this beautiful friday with my people thank y'all for all the engagement in the conversation i'm so sorry that i'm you know all up in my nose on camera but the change of weather is really getting me like dang you guys need to um I need to go drink me some sea moss or something boost my immune system because whoo one thing I don't get is colds and you know what's crazy y'all that's funny I said that I used to get colds a lot growing up even through my 20s and it wasn't until I started my healing journey that i stopped getting colds i found out that it's connected to emotional suffering i can't wait to start talking to you guys about the emotional effects on our body dealing with all of this abuse like a simple cold high blood pressure back pain all of this ---- is sitting on you because of all these spiritual demons that's been fighting you you love it does it takes a toll on you physically janna curtis yes yes yes yes but thank y'all so much man this was great i'm happy y'all were able to check in with me and join this live i'll be back soon don't even worry about it um so yeah i am definitely oh somebody said i feel like that armpit lump i had from the abuse it wasn't cancer it was a minor infection yeah most of the time the stuff that happened physically be stuff that can't even be explained it's like nobody even knows what it like the doctors when you when you when you are suffering chronically from narcissistic abuse most of the time the things that are happening to you the doctors can't even explain it that's how you know it's spiritual y'all but we'll talk about it we'll talk about it thank y'all so much i love y'all shirley gonzalez you're welcome thank you have a great friday y'all have a beautiful weekend i'll see y'all very soon um thanks for being here y'all and um yeah until next time until next time beautiful people stay blessed stay blessed much love take care y'all don't forget silent silent baby those that know what that mean you know what it mean until next time y'all bye