YOUR MOTHER USES YOUR SIBLINGS TO ABUSE YOU #triangulation #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #npd

Why would your mother try to go so hard to make you jealous of your brother and sister? She will break her neck to make sure that you feel this small in comparison to your brother or sister. She'll buy your brother or sister gifts, big gifts, a down payment on a house. she'll buy your brother and sister a brand new car co-sign on a loan she'll even go as far as to buy her grandchildren your brother and sister's kids she'll spoil those children and if you have kids she won't buy your children ---- and it's deliberate she wants you to know she wants you to know you're not even good enough to receive these gifts and money that I'm giving to your siblings. You're not good enough to receive this. I want you to feel this small and I want you to see how much more I love your siblings and how much I don't ******* love you, how much I hate your ass actually. And I hope it hurts. I hope it stings. I hope you can't sleep at night. I hope you have nightmares. I hate you. I gave birth to you, but I hate you, bitch. So sit back and watch me spoil your brother and sister and treat you like ----, bitch. Yeah. Your mama does it on purpose and it doesn't start in adulthood. She's been doing this since you and your siblings were small children yeah remember those times where y'all were having dinner y'all were five six seven eight nine ten years old your mother would deliberately give your siblings ice cream and make you sit and watch and if you were chubby a chubby little kid she'd say you know your fat ass don't ******* need no ice cream so she'll sit make you sit there and watch your siblings enjoy their ice cream while you get nothing that is triangulation in early childhood playing your children against each other but let me school you real quick okay because um your siblings are too ******* stupid to see how how much manipulation is actually taking place your brother and sister are also narcissists and narcissists love to join together they will band together to jump and attack one person, the scapegoat. Your siblings are too dumb to understand that your mother is using them as pawns to abuse another person. This is called abuse by proxy. You can Google it. It's an actual term in psychology, abuse by proxy, which is third party abuse, using a third party to abuse an innocent victim. The narcissistic mother and father does it amongst their children. If there's multiple siblings, they triangulate their children and play them against each other. This creates an early childhood. This is where a child's insecurities, they plant the seed of doubt and lack of confidence and insecurity in their children in early childhood. And then as you become older, teenage years, young adulthood, those planted seeds of insecurity, they blossom and they grow. And then when you're an adult and you start getting into romantic relationships you're going to attract abusive people understand that your mother groomed you from an early age to pick and choose abusive lovers it starts in early childhood by making you feel insignificant creating those insecurities inside of you by comparing you to your siblings and buying and doing more for your siblings and making you feel like ---- so you grow up looking for love in all the wrong places because your mother denied you that love because she's a narcissist she did not emotionally connect with you she's empty inside but she uses money and gifts in her mind that's a form of love and it's not money and gifts and and a narcissist's way of of love is to give money and gifts to control whoever they're giving those gifts too. So if she's buying your siblings money, uh, gifts and giving them money, it's not out of love. Understand it's out of control. She doesn't want your stupid dumb ass airheaded brother and sister to escape her grasp of control. So she uses money and gifts to control them. This is financial abuse. This is also Google, Google it. Um, it's used in, in psychology in terms of narcissistic abuse. Narcissists, if they have money, if they're wealthy, they control their children financially to prevent their children from being independent outside of them. They want their children to stay controlled, codependent and enmeshed. So giving them money, gifts, whatever is a form of control. It is not love. So this is another reason why your mother does more for your siblings, because if your siblings are toxic and narcissistic, they'll be greedy for money and gifts. Your brother and sister lack morals and integrity. They don't care that your mother is abusing you. They'll pretend not to see it. All they care about is, sure, mom, give me the gifts. Give me the money. I'll take it. And your mom will be like, well, sure, I'll give you money and gifts in exchange for me controlling you in your life. I don't care how old you get. I want to control you and my grandbabies. And your siblings are dumb enough to allow her to do it because they're super greedy for money and gifts. You on the other hand, no, there will come a point in time where you will stand up to your mother and say, I don't care that you do more financially for my siblings. You know, if you have a brother and your mother allows your brother to move home, he's a grown ass man, especially if he has children and he don't pay child support. Your mother desperately wants to control your brother. And especially if she don't have a man, I know women that are married and treat their husbands like roommates, but they fall, they fall in love with their adult sons and they will allow their sons to move in home, move at home with them. And they'll treat the son more like a romantic lover instead of their married partner. That's a narcissist for you. Narcissistic women are obsessed with their sons. They want to control their sons and will allow their sons to live with them rent free don't pay no bills long as her son can mow the lawn take out the trash and put a couple groceries in in the fridge she will not bother her son for money and even if he is wealthy he'll pay the bills for his mama that's another video if he tries to get a girlfriend the family will sabotage his relationship with the girlfriend because the mama and the sisters of the whole family want to control the money that's another the video let me get back to the point if you stand up to your mother and say I cannot be bought I don't want your money I don't want the gifts I don't care if you do more for my siblings I want peace of mind I will not allow you to control me or my children I will cut you off I will pay my own ******* bills I will sign my own loans for a car a house whatever I will provide for my children financially. I don't need you for nothing. I needed love and you cannot give love because you're an empty, horrible, abusive person, an insecure, self-loathing, hateful ass ************. What I want from you, mom, you do not have the ability to give. You don't know how to love. Giving gifts and doing favors is not love. It's a form of financial abuse to control the person you're giving that said gift to and if my siblings are too ******* dumb and too greedy to see what you're doing and that you're actually abusing somebody there your siblings understand your siblings are willing participants that's why you got to cut your siblings off too they are willing participants they're willing to allow your mama to use them as a pawn to hurt you yeah that's why you got to cut their asses off too they're just as ******* abusive and greedy for money and gifts They will sell their souls to stay attached to your abusive mama to keep receiving the money and gifts. They all got to get cut. You don't need the money or gifts or the validation from your mother. She needs it from you more than anything. And when you deny that, you will become woke and you will understand the game and you will never need her again or acknowledge her. I got to do a part two.