YOU OWE YOURSELF THIS ‼️‼️‼️‼️

Hey, y'all. Hello, Thrivers and Survivors. How y'all doing? Happy Friday. Good evening to you. Bear with me while I get myself situated. I have to do a little adjustment here. Hey, guys. Happy Friday. What's up? What's going on? Shout out to my Warriors. Shout out to my Thrivers. Shout out to my warriors. Shout out to my drivers. Shout out to my champs in the house. So happy to be here, guys. What's up? It's your girl, Mommy Sochu. If you're new here, big, big hello to you. Welcome to the community of Thrivers. We're moving on with life, whether easy or hard, post-narcissistic abuse. And this evening, I'm here to share a message with all of you from a very good place. I want to share with you what I have truly embraced for myself as a survivor, as someone carrying along with life, minding my own little business after going through this hell on earth experience called narcissistic abuse and just dealing with toxic and dark people in general, and just learning to unlearn a lot of things that I used to know, things that I used to do, things that I thought were normal. And today I am stopping in to talk to someone to share this important message to you, hopefully to inspire you, to motivate you, and to help you keep pushing as the driver that you are after going through what you just survived, because you did if you're here you're still standing you've survived such a sick dangerous experience and if you're going through it now you know my heart goes out to you so it does it does I know what you're going through I know where you're at if you've recently been discarded or if you're going through that you've been going through it for a few weeks a couple weeks you know you you were in a relationship maybe a marriage, this could be your family, this could be your family. And such a painful experience to go through, no matter what age you are, no matter what the relationship dynamic was. It's a painful experience, but there is so much light on the other side of being a victim to these type of abusers. And today, I want to tell you that you owe yourself so much, so much. You've given yourself so much. You have abandoned and neglected yourself so much many of you are like me and you were born into these type of situations you didn't ask for it you were born into it it's just been part of your life story and because of that you've been stripped away from a lot of things you learned the hard way how to individualize yourself you learned the hard way what self-love looks like what it should look like, how it should be for you. And it does suck to have learned the hard way because there's so many situations that probably could have been avoided had you known and understood self-love. There's so many things that wouldn't have happened had you known the letter, the word no. Had you known the powerful word no? As simple as it sounds, many of us, it's been difficult to really say no. It's been something to learn. We didn't realize the power of our no's. We didn't know that we can say no, that it's okay to say no. We didn't realize that we don't have to give everybody so much of ourselves, all stemming from our own childhood wounds and issues, our own attachment issues, our own abandonment issues. Whether we knew it or not, a lot of us, whether we've accepted it or not, that's really the core of the issue is something happened to you as a child that made you feel like you needed to fight to be seen, fight to be heard, fight to be loved. And you may have not realized that, but that's really, that's what a lot of us have been doing all of our life. Being there for everyone, overly exhausting ourselves to be there for everyone, everyone, good and bad. And if you went through a narcissistic relationship. You have been a punching bag however long you were in that relationship. Emotionally, you took hell. Emotionally, every day was a battle. Every day was a constant emotional rollercoaster ride. You might have woke up with a whole different being than the person that you were going to sleep at night with. You probably didn't know what you were going to get most days when you woke up. You didn't know if they were going to be happy. You didn't know if they were gonna be mad you didn't know if they were gonna come home from work happy one minute they love you next minute they're showing you absolute hate and it leaves you confused it leaves you going back and forth in your head in your mind with decisions so many of us we didn't know what we were dealing with and we stuck in these relationships we rode and we died literally ride or die ride or die we did it so many sacrifices we made exhausted ourselves doing things that we didn't even agree with doing things that we weren't okay with all for the sake of pleasing someone or trying to keep peace with someone a lot of us tolerated a lot of mess a lot of crap because we just don't want drama we just don't want problems we don't want to be seen as someone who complains someone who's not content someone who's judgmental someone who's mean or cold-hearted we took a lot we've taken a lot those of you dealing with narcissistic parents oh my god the constant ridicule and belittling you are never good enough and and if you pay attention you're probably doing things to try to get love from this parent and you are never going to get some of the most painful parts of going through narcissistic abuse is accepting that these people never loved you that these people will never love you that they cannot love you that's that to me was the hardest part because I could have sworn it was love and that's where I was flawed I was like oh wait all of that was fake everything they ever promised everything they said all the tears they shed they exhausted me with tears they exhausted me with sad stories stories and so I felt bad and so I kept abandoning my emotions and my needs to keep trying to meet them at theirs to keep trying to please them to keep trying to put them on a pedestal make them feel good I burnt myself out I put myself to the side like many of you have done and are doing a lot of us that are here right now yeah we're we're tough lovers we love hard we're we're we're pretty normal so we don't you know love is not a like a light switch we don't just turn it on and off on and off like that's that's that's just not how that's not our reality that's not how we roll and we have been dealt by people who don't move like that people who will look you in your eyes and say i love you you're the best thing that's ever happened to me you are you know my rock and then turn around and be sleeping with 500 people that's that's that's what you went through a relationship with a real liar. Liar. They only pretended to seem realistic when it was going to be to their benefit. But besides that, it was never real. Everything they said was baloney. It sounded so good. They mirrored things so perfectly. They made you feel like they were really it. You're so mean. I know that ride of love that you were on at some point with that person but I also know that it was not love and you owe yourself owe yourself a big big sorry you owe yourself a big big sorry because you fell into a trap not knowing it was that you walked into something that seemed normal and okay not realizing you were being set up you allowed people to use you you owe yourself a big sorry a lot of us we allow these people to use us because we could not say no from the simple fact that we've been living in fear we've been taught somewhere along the line that our feelings does not matter that our worth is invisible what you have to say nobody wants to hear you're weird you're awkward you're strange so stay in your little bubble I continue to isolate yourself don't live don't don't don't be a lover of life be afraid we've been taught that. Many of you need to just forgive yourself for the simple fact that you married somebody just like your parents. You chose this path in life because that's what you know. It's what you knew. You were bamboozled because your parents, your guardians, your family, they've been playing your whole life. The devil's been using people strategically your whole life to make you look foolish. You owe yourself a sorry for ignoring your intuition because you felt it. All the times you felt it was wrong. All the times you knew something wasn't right. All the times you went back and you knew you shouldn't have gone back. You owe yourself a big sorry and with that you owe yourself so much love. So much love. Self-love has nothing to do with our outward look, our appearance. It has everything to do with how we approve of the being that we are. Mentally telling yourself that you are more than enough because you are. Mentally deprogramming those negative thoughts, beating yourself up, thinking that everything you do is wrong. Taking your self-care serious, learning how to pour into. You can't take that time back. You can't get that time back that you've lost with these people. It's okay. What you can do now, though, is use the time that you have to live your life unapologetically. unapologetically. You owe yourself this. You owe yourself happiness. So many of survivors of NPD don't know what happiness truly feels like. You may have an idea, you may have a vision of it, but have you ever really lived it? Some of us have. Some of us have set ourselves free. We're thriving. We're doing things. We're moving around. We're traveling. We're moving on. We're entering into new, better, stronger relationships. You owe yourself this. You owe yourself so much compassion and dedication to pouring everything you've poured into them, everything you wanted to give and give to them. Now give it to yourself. You validated them. You knew how to compliment them. You know how to put them on a pedestal. Put yourself up there. Not because you're some godly, you know egotistical prideful being no it's because you understand the god inside of you you understand the god who created you so you understand that you were not born to walk in fear you were not created to be afraid and and you were not created to be anyone's soundboard or punching bag you were not designed to be held captive in a marriage with what you now know is a narcissist. That's not anybody's destination. You were not put on this earth to suffer in the hands of your narcissistic family. It is okay to set yourself free. You owe yourself this. You owe yourself going through that painful cutoff phase. You owe yourself that release. Cutting them off is so powerful and you owe yourself that because they are not going to let you go. You must be the one to do it they are not going to let you go you gotta let them go you got to in your head out of your spirit because you owe yourself this many people have been holding on too long many people have been trying to figure out answers that they're never going to get for far too long you owe yourself this time now to take you serious what do you want for your life have you really thought about that maybe maybe you haven't because if you did you won't be so worried about them anymore you won't be so caught up in them anymore you will now notice that the focus is on you how do you move forward how do you get unstuck be proactive take the initiative and pour life back into your life pour love back into you you owe yourself this you owe yourself this know that it is okay. It is okay that you let them in your life. It's okay. It was an experience. Don't beat yourself up forever. They took 10 years from you, 20 years from you. It's okay. You didn't die. You were probably supposed to, but you're still standing. And even if you're going through pain right now, trust and believe me, as long as you remain standing, you're going to get stronger and stronger and stronger and better and better. And this has made you wiser than ever before. You know what that sounds like to me warrior you know what that sounds like to me thriver that sounds like victory and that to me tells me you have something to celebrate you owe yourself that you owe yourself a celebration because you made it you're still standing it did not get it did not take you where it was supposed to it did not destroy you like it was supposed to many of you are on your healing journey and as you're on it you're starting to see clearer and clearer how much you need to feel sorry for them they are pathetic are really the problem they've always been the problem they are sick many of you you're witnessing it you're trying to move on they are still trying to hoover you and if you don't answer the hoover they cussing you out you're like wow nothing has changed you are still the same wishy-washy unstable mentally jacked up toe up from the floor as person and I am not missing nothing this is your ultimate loss wow this is victory you owe yourself so much give it to yourself now you can't erase the time you can't take back what was done what was said but moving forward you owe yourself nothing but good go out have fun get out stop being afraid thinking that everybody's a narc and you gotta be out here just scared no don't live like that don't let the trauma make you afraid to live a life after what you went through. Just be smart. Be wise. Walk in discernment. But you owe yourself a life now. A lot of you were married to these type of people for decades and you couldn't do nothing. You didn't do nothing. Your time is now. I don't care how old you are. I don't care how rough it's been. You now have the power to cut the life support. You now have the power to take your life back. These people are afraid of you. What they don't want is for you to walk in your best self. What they most fear is for you to grow you owe it to yourself to grow you owe it to yourself to pour into your into yourself so you can keep growing and never stop you owe it to yourself to wake up every day and find a way to empower yourself to keep going you owe it to yourself to take setting boundaries serious moving forward in life learning that saying no doesn't make you cold-hearted doesn't make you one of them and that you don't have to break your back bend over and be there for everybody self-love compassion self-care oh my god you owe this to yourself survivor as the days go on as the weeks go on as the months go on continue to pour into you continue to do for you continue to love on you and take every bit of that serious every moment of that serious anyone that comes around try to tap in that does not align with your vision with your energy don't tolerate it The moment they show you that they are not for you, walk away from it. Let it go. You owe it to yourself to let go of the past and focus on the future. That future that you know exists for you. It's still there. It's waiting. There's a handsome man waiting there. There's a beautiful woman. There's a thriving business waiting for you. There's a career waiting for you. Financial blessings are waiting for you. You owe it to yourself to allow those doors to open, especially if you are someone who have suffered a major loss dealing with some type of toxic narcissistic clown that you take the time to love on yourself and take it serious and understand the power of self-love because you owe yourself this this is how we heal this is the only way forward forget about yourself turn your back now you owe yourself don't feel bad and if you do know that it's okay to be sad if you've made the right decision. It's very okay. It's new. Change can be scary, but it's necessary. If you're going through this, change is necessary. If you care about your life, change is necessary. Don't stop trying. Don't stop loving. Don't stop living either. I want you all to be happy. I want you all to move on with your life in a blissful way. I want you to affirm nothing but positivity and greatness over your life and speak life into your life. Because you owe yourself this. They've taken way too much from you. Take it back. Take it back. And continue to walk in the light. Shout out to you, warrior. You fought one hell of a fight. And for a lot of you, it's time to rest. It's time to relax. You've been fighting your whole life. Time to live in a world of peace. You owe yourself that. You really do. You really do. I pray that you release. I pray that you learn to let go. I pray that you learn to become unbothered and live. Because you owe yourself. i pray that the pain releases i pray that every time you think of them or you're reminded of them you don't feel the same i pray that you stop beating yourself up for how ugly things have because you're still beautiful you owe yourself all of that positivity stay strong do not give up know that you survived something you weren't supposed to and victory is ours they couldn't destroy us y'all i don't think some people understand how serious it is to have gone through this your whole your whole life these this type of abuse affects every decision you've ever made in your life and it's intended to keep you stagnated it's intended to block you it's intended to destroy your blessings but when you learn the power of freedom the power of letting go the power of forgiving you start to pour into yourself in ways that change the whole game it affects your glow so heavily they don't see it coming they never saw they never saw the beast in you the way that they're seeing it now a lot of you you owe it to yourself to walk proudly proudly as the being that you are now after the abuse because you're not the same person you were before and um i pray that we all stay strong and we all take self-love serious we really really start pouring into ourselves. I see too many people beating themselves up about an experience they went through with abusers. Abusers and beating themselves up. I'm gonna let go for so many. I pray that this helps someone. I appreciate you taking your time on this beautiful Friday night to listen to me because this was something that was just on my heart and I had to stop and share it with you guys because a lot of us need to know that we owe ourselves so much. It's not too late for nothing. Wake up tomorrow and live your best life. Enjoy your weekend. Go into next week with a different mindset, with a different type of motivating spirit. Continue to press and push forward. Thank y'all for your time. Thank you to my new subscribers for subscribing to my channel. This is a Thrivers community. And shout out to my subscribers, y'all. It's so good to be here with you. And I look forward to seeing y'all on another live. Stay tuned. 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