YOUR CUT OFF IS TOP TIER SELF CARE 💆🏾‍♀️.

hey what's up guys hey elisa look my day one in the house what's up elisa how you doing today love what's up ashley renee how you doing sis viewers watching warrior on deck i love you right back the discern target 68 91 in the house what's up what up alicia erica s what's up what's up feeling the vibe yeah come on dance with me now because because guess what y'all those of us that have cut these people off it's self-care at the top of the top top tier top tier self-care top of the top of the top of the top monday happy monday i had to come in dancing because sometimes you just gotta find your happy place sometimes you gotta find your happy place sometimes you gotta find a place to tap into to get away from the brain fog the distractions the pullback some of you maybe the ruminating let's talk about it today because if you don't know you need to know that your cutoff is top tier self-care man I don't even know how I'm gonna come at I don't even know how I'm coming at y'all today because there is so much going on up here so much going on up here I don't know if anybody else feels that way but you guys this is girl mommy so true mommy so true I am here checking in beautiful Monday thank you guys for stopping in to join me on live check out that new merch though y'all it says caution relative does not equal family with that matching bucket hat though oh my god if you're interested in mommy so true merchandise check it out the link is available on all my platforms it's definitely going to be in the description box after we get off that live after we get off this live go ahead and check it out oh my gosh y'all shout out to my warriors in the house to my thrivers in the house erica says so unbothered planning trips loving life i love it i love it sonya cornelius hello thank you for the thank you for the compliment brother hype man nerf of the word thank you i'm glad you like that shirt caution relative does not equal family shout out to um shout out to one of my i'ma call her a co-worker jazz smooth jazz if she's in the house she probably catch this replay but she works on a lot of my merchandise and um she does have a business i think it's called oh my gosh i am terrible i'm gonna have to figure it out and tell you guys next time I'm sorry smooth, I love you sis, forgive me please family, you know that word man, that word is is deep and if you know narcissistic people, you know that just because you're related to them it doesn't mean anything, it doesn't mean anything just because you married them got a kid with them baby daddy, baby mama, it doesn't mean anything hey if you're new to the channel, what's up, welcome in um, if you have not subscribed, um, and subscribe if this is a community that you resonate with if you are healing past, you know, narcissistic abuse past um, if you're, if you're healing past hell of an the hell experience on earth called narcissistic abuse, this is a great space for you to be, we are thrivers, we are, we've, we've gone from being victims, we survived it, now we're thriving past it and um today we're talking about the power of our cutoff, that is to the core of me the biggest messaging on my channel is about the power of cutting these people off, the power of walking away, the power of taking your life back, there's so much power in it and today I have something deep on my heart that I want to share with my, my, my family out there, my thrivers, my warriors, just bear with me guys in the comments if you don't mind I will get through and try to read as many as I can before I log off today I want to take a moment to talk about how if you don't know, you must know that your cutoff is top tier self-care What do I mean by that? If you've been through narcissistic abuse, you've never had the opportunity to tune into what is known as self-care. If you were raised by them, if you've lived with them, if you've married them, if you've worked with them, they're energy draining vampires They don't give you the chance to be your own yourself let alone your best self because they're they're jealous hateful spiteful deceptive you know they're all about games they play with people's lives all the way down to your own parent it's like you'll wonder why did i why was i born into this family yeah a lot of us had that had that question still have why am i why was i born into this family don't worry about it god had to use somebody to bring you into this world just because they're relatives they don't mean they're your family though a lot of you you're my family now and I don't know y'all from from anywhere you know but that's just how it works we have lacked a lot those of us who've been around these kind of people and I'm gonna start with those of us who were raised by these kind of people because that is my story learning what self-care is sometimes it's almost I don't know what to call it if I should call it embarrassing or if I should call it I don't know I'm just yeah sometimes it's a little embarrassing to to really accept that so much have been held from you so much love so much support so much have been held from you so much has been kept from you you've been lied to a lot you've been lied to about a lot of things things that didn't even have to be a lie you've been lied to you've been you've been literally gas lit about reality of life growing up in narcissistic homes you're you're raised in fear you know you're raised in fear you're raised in doubt there is no speaking up you're raised in silence and it strips you from building a strong character see our characters are deep within us deep deep deep within us that's why if you know narcissistic people you know they don't change character is hard to change it can be managed it can be altered but it's difficult to change because it's deep deep within you it's almost like that's your soul your character goes a long way it's it's more than you know how you appear on the outside and how you seem to outwardly people is more so about how you are with people how fruitful are you in this world what do you give you know how how do you handle situations there's so much that comes with character and when you've come with through when you live through this type of abuse whether family or relationship you lose a sense of who you are many don't even ever know who they are many many don't ever know what happiness is many never understand a lot of things about their life and it's painful to be raised by these type of people because unfortunately your life goes in all kinds of crazy directions for example daughters of narcissistic mothers they end up getting impregnated by men they ain't got no business sleeping with they end up marrying people they don't got no business marrying I mean it's it's really it's really bad and it's really sad and it's not because you know these are men and men and women who are just stupid it's not because you lack intelligence it's because you were never taught the importance of caring for yourself caring for yourself mentally caring for yourself emotionally oh spiritually they tried to tell you who God is they tried to force you to believe what they want you to believe just so you can forever be that doormat so you can forever be silent so you can forever beat yourself and doubt yourself because the more you do that the more you're dimming your light the number one thing that they're hating on anyway it gets to a point in all of our lives dealing with narcissistic abuse where one decision has to be made that is cutting these people off that is walking away this is a drastic a drastic life or death situation because it's a life or death situation that you're in that you're stuck in that you're married into that you're living with that you're calling mom or dad your family those relatives they would love to see you hurting they would love to see you down they would love to see you without especially if you're against how they want you to live how they want you to move how they want you to do things what they want you to believe your cutoff is top tier self-care when it comes to narcissistic abuse Your cutoff is top tier self-care when it comes to narcissistic abuse, because this type of abuse is bondage. Your soul is bounded. Your heart, oh my God, spiritually, you're tied up and bound to some tree somewhere in some forest. Your cutoff is top tier self-care because when you cut them off, You're freeing yourself. You're literally freeing yourself from this bondage because you're in shackles when you're dealing with these people. If they are your parent, oh, they have programmed you to be a certain way. And that is why life has probably been extremely challenging. You have been working hard. You've done a lot, but you just can't seem to get in a place where you know you need to be or want to be. That's because they have shackles on you. That's because these people are after you. they have bonded you in all types of ways and for many of us it seems like life just seems so messed up so jacked up just until we cut them off though until we learn the power of walking away though until we learn how to distance ourselves though and detach though until we bravely muster up the strength to leave them alone true self-care because this type of abuse is a silent killer it's a silent killer when you've been conformed to not know how to set boundaries you're you're setting yourself up for for early death in life your soul is trapped you can't speak you're always silenced you can't express yourself you you doubt yourself so so you're stuck and stagnant in life not because you're incapable but because you don't trust your own self because of this silent killer you've been sitting around people who are highly critical people who are dramatic as hell they create ---- just to keep their face at a certain you know it's all about image they'll lie and take it to their grave they'll lie on their dead mama dead daddy just to prove a point that's how sick they are so sick that they led you on into a relationship of death because that's what it was a marriage of death hell because by the time it's over you're barely hanging on to your life your cutoff is top tier self-care because if you don't do it this will take you out if it don't kill you it'll destroy you you'll never be able to bounce back from this type of pain because it's painful matter of fact painful is an understatement if you don't cut these people off you oh my god the damage is real y'all there are people that don't bounce back there are people that don't find themselves again there are people that cannot seem to empower themselves after narcissistic abuse because they are just zombied out they've lost their mind they've lost all hope they've lost their faith they they've lost they've lost it all because they didn't walk away because they didn't cut them off because they kept finding reasons to believe that this was some type of love your cut off is top tier because once you cut them off you will see that love was never there was never part of it and it will never be because that person is incapable of giving it and receiving it you can accept how demonically influenced they have been with you the many times they tried to kill you. The many times they watched you damn near die. The many times they turned their backs on you when you needed them the most. Your cutoff is top tier self-care because you're dealing with people who are never going to be dependable or reliable. They are never going to respect your boundaries. They are never going to respect you as the man or the woman that you are. They're never going to respect the God that you serve. That's why you're cut off tier self-care. If you're dealing with narcissistic people, you must understand how powerful it is to block and delete these people from your life. I don't care how painful it is because it will save your life. They do not have no good intentions for you because it's not about you. It's not about you. It's not about the other kids. It's not about the last relationship. It's not about the new relationship. It's not about the new person. It's not about new money. It's not about a new job. it's not about none of that it's really not about none of that you're dealing with a demon who don't even know what the hell they're doing they don't even know what they're at that's how lost they are they're so lost that's why they bring confusion to you because they're lost they're confused their life is confusion they operate in confusion that's where they thrive best this is what they do you got to block that confusion that's what your cutoff will do you got to block that silent abuse that's what your cutoff will do you learn to cut them off you ain't gotta tell your story you don't gotta worry about feeling like you're alone because the universe start fighting for you god is definitely your defender definitely on your side in front of you behind you on top of you all around you all up inside of you oh my god when i think about the damage the aftermath when i think about the severity of having to piece back the life that this type of a creature came in and tried to crush rip apart shred when I think about the losses that survivors are taking when I think about the hell that people are enduring I get so motivated and so empowered to stand firm in telling people be brave be courageous and take your power back away from these these deadly demonic jokesters because that's exactly what they are that's exactly what they are if you're dealing with narcissistic abuse you cannot allow the knowledge to just be something you're hearing you need to accept it because the truth about narcissistic abuse and healing is you may never bounce back to that person you used to be you may never get into a place of of like full healing depending on the severity of your situation how many years you've been through this how much of this you've gone through, what ends up happening is you manage You learn how to manage it. You learn how to cope with it. You learn how to deal. You learn how to keep moving along in life however you can because some days are hard Some days are okay. Some days are great. That's why you have people that are on this healing journey. and you'll see them showing up in platforms years later. I've been, I've been, I've been, I've cut them off five years ago, but I'm still in this community why because I'm still healing healing is a is a journey it's an everyday walk because you were entrapped in this effed up situation for so long there is so much that you got to shed and purge there is so much you've got to unlearn and relearn there's so much deep programming you've have you got to be unwilling to do or you've got to be willing to do and that is a lot of work it's gonna take a lot of time but that work cannot kick in until you understand the power of cutting them off love them from a distance because many are like you know i still love them love them from a distance because your cutoff is top tier self-care these people don't want your love they just want to use you you ever heard a narcissist say i love you next time you see that next time you hear it translated to i want to use you because that's what that means when you first met them they were quick to say I love you they could tell you were usable because guess what y'all that cool girl you think you are that cool man you think you are that was a cover-up because behind that coolness we were people-pleasing you know what makes us look so cool in past chosen ones you know what makes us look so cool we're so laid back you so chill so relaxed you so unbothered nonchalant a little bit that should make you look cool especially to a narcissist but they quickly uncover that mask that we have on because we start telling them so much stuff we start showing so many emotions and we think we're being strong we think we're telling them you know don't don't waste my time I've been through a lot and you think they're hearing you but really what you're showing is your fragile sense of self so guess what happens now you become paradise to a narcissist you become easy prey because all that cool ---- that we thought we were on we were the ---- don't get me wrong but a lot of us we weren't that cool because after red flag number freaking one we would have cut their stupid asses off we weren't that cool we weren't high boundary enough they were attracted to the outwardly coolness yeah you look cool you look like you got it going on and yeah you probably been to school and you have high achievements blah blah blah but behind it all a narcissist being a narcissist can tell you've had you know had relationships toxic relationships you done told them you had traumatic background growing up so they knew off rip oh possibly low self-esteem possibly some confidence i can play around with because you opened up your heart and told them all the things someone has done to you and how you took care of everybody you telling them how much you're a people pleaser i do stuff for people i'm down for people i'm a rider i'm a real one and they just sitting there taking notes oh bet tell me one and little did you know you were being set up because you didn't understand self-care but if you go through narcissistic abuse i bet you they will abuse you enough for you to learn the importance of self-care you will make it top tier because eventually you'll walk out of that door or you'll push them out because if you're a real one you're not staying in that relationship i don't care how they fooled you into it if you're real you're not staying in that relationship eventually you walk the **** out period many of you already know about this your cutoff game is top tier self-care you already know because since you've cut them off life has been going up you've been doing better your skin is glowing you on newer and better things you're becoming more and more unbothered even on your bad days you're doing way better than you were last year the year before six months ago you're not the same person you're you're elevating because your cutoff is top tier self-care once you disconnect they got away from them, block them change your number, move away, whatever the hell you did, it made a whole difference, a weight get lifted off your shoulders when you walk away from these people when you wake up and you're willing to say you know what, i'm done, not doing this ---- no more who the hell do you think i am, when you finally throw the deuces, it's like yo life changes, it may be hard, you might feel isolated, you might feel alone, but life changes because you're no longer bound to people who are lying to you tricking you deceiving you, kicking you while you're down, you're no longer stuck around jealous ass people enemies of progress who are keeping other people away from you who are sabotaging your success, and many of you can attest to it, you're like, I cut them off, my life going up and if that's you hit that like but you're like, yeah, it was painful at first, it hurt me at first I went through a lot at first but guess what, i am rocking on, i'm moving on, i'm moving on up to the top, they finally got a piece the Jeffersons, is that where that just came from, girl, let me take my butt to sleep y'all no, but this is real though i had to come in and check in and tell y'all this because a lot of people take it too lightly, what they're going through and a lot of people need to remember that they've made the best decision of their life, cutting these people off and a lot of people who are dealing with you know the aftermath of a discard and and trying to put their self and their life back together they need to be reminded how magnificent of a choice they've made by hanging on, don't accept those hoovers, keep pushing even though it's painful right now you got it you got this because you're now entering into the top tier version of self care something you've probably never done some of you this ---- hurts you so bad you have no choice but to look in the mirror and work on it you have no choice but to look in the mirror and and say oh my god what's this what's that how is you like what i'm seeing so then you're gonna start doing stuff about it you're gonna change your diet you're gonna work out you're gonna do something you're gonna start shopping you're gonna start going out again something some of us we have to be forced to get to this place pain the the discard seems painful it hurts when your own family don't want to you know show you what you want to see but you must understand what you're dealing with you must understand you're dealing with some narcissistically demonically dumb ass people and they need to be cut mom dad grandma grandpa you gotta go i gotta go you gotta go somebody gotta go because we all ain't staying and we all ain't staying here your cutoff is top tier self-care some of you have mastered the art of very little contact if you have to even deal with them you're like you're not coming to my house you're not just about to pull up you set direct and clear boundaries that's top tier self-care boundaries some that's a word a lot of survivors never even heard until they've discovered narcissistic abuse you discovered narcissistic abuse is what you were going through now all of a sudden you learning words like boundaries and empathy and empath and all these other words you probably never heard before because the pain forced you it forced you to have to really pay attention to what you went through so you can really take your power back the pain forces you to take your power back essentially it does essentially it does i'm gonna go through some of these comments and i'm gonna let y'all go i appreciate you guys joining me on today's live and listening to me on this um monday night i love coming into to my to my lives mondays and fridays 9 p.m eastern time you guys are amazing let's see here sister corinne yes it makes me feel like i've been left back in life being raised by liars yes yes we've been we a lot of us are lacking in oh my god and then they have the audacity to sit there and talk about you make mockery of you insult you and criticize you and the truth of the matter is a lot of the things you're going through is really their fault not to point fingers not to blame games not to play the blame game but if you're dealing with narcissistic abuse the truth is what it is it is what it is they've done what they've done and it's had a reaction it's caused some effects in your life and a lot of it is not good a lot of survivors go through a lot of hell a lot of ---- they don't need to go through they go through a lot losing a lot just a lot of suffering a lot of stagnation in life they don't take care of you properly they ignore you they abandon you they don't pay attention to your schooling they don't support your schooling they barely support anything you do they just try to control you but at the same time neglect you oh my god it's a painful thing to go through my heart goes out to anybody who is coming out of this and entering into their healing journey i know exactly what you're going through oh my goodness it's challenging bringing down those strongholds after holding on to the trauma that i've went through it's like let go it's easier said than done though lisa a lot of people can resonate with that it's easier said than done it's like let go but it's it's easier said than done because there's so much more involved with the damage and how you even got caught up in the matrix so healing from it it's just it's a lot it's a lot this this recovery is real y'all at atma die ace the pure-hearted divine entity i have my way out they are trying to get me to go to jail by hurting them next month i'm gone and they know it and they don't want me to leave unless death or in jail you see what i'm saying you see what i'm saying these people literally want to kill steal and destroy you your cutoff is top tier self-care it most definitely is oh my god corinne says god god got me through i love that good evening Christian Therapist 333 god bless you thank you for being here discern target hey shout out to my members in the house by the way they transfer their negative energy into your soul energy does not lie it transfers i mean it does not die it transfers that demonic narcissist will kill you even after they are dead huh i am telling you yo this is not nothing to play with they love wickedness viewers watching says because they are wicked to the core he says it's amazing how your feelings for them dry up when you go completely no contact and block those demons yep everything you feel everything you're feeling if you're just coming out of this trust me it dies off if you strictly go no contact if you really like treat them like they're dead and stay down on that stay true to that and really start working on you pouring into you focusing on your healing it it seriously fades away before you know it you wake up one day and you're not even bothered the same the feelings are not the same you actually might even feel sorry for them you'll start looking at it like oh my god ew you're gonna start praying and thanking god you're gonna praise and thank god for for the discard like i never thought i'd be happy for how it all ended but i am so glad what i am so glad a lot of y'all need to be thankful for how the discard happened because they did so much damage they they cannot come back from that ---- i am so glad because what you don't want is for a strong person to heal because i'm gonna look at the whole situation like okay my stupid ass definitely was playing with my own life dealing with you but guess what i'm awoke now and i see how much you were a waste like i i i ew oh jesus no y'all know what that means i don't know what's happening with me tonight yo um but nah though cutting these hurtful people off and letting them live in whatever delusional ass story that suits them best is seriously your your top tier self-care and that's my last point of tonight because that's exactly what's gonna happen your cutoff bothers the ---- out of them most of the time they don't see it coming a lot of times they don't think that you're bold enough that you have the balls enough to really you know divorce their ass or cut them off or really go no contact with your own mama you my mama so what you're not a good one so bye deuces you know it's like they're going to create delusional ass stories that best suits them to everybody they will die swearing they ain't did nothing you're a liar you did it somebody else did it everybody else did it and that's why i talk about being unbothered because that is that to me being unbothered healing from this it's an act of self-care you have to you have to be unbothered so you're not killing yourself with all these thoughts and all this stuff because it's it'll mess with you emotionally it'll mess with you spiritually it'll mess with you mentally you went through enough of that went through enough of that you know brian muncie what's love him from a distance, yep I said it Doreen V, being transparent and giving only makes them think the abuse can continue, Mmhmm Come on now. You better be tough. You better be smart. Ooh wee. Good timing. I'm four weeks no contact. Joanne J, that's what's up. Keep going. You got it. You got it. I promise you, you do. Oh my God. You guys are amazing. I appreciate all of the love and compassion and support in the chats tonight. Megan, Bryan says trying to walk out but got three kids that depend on him, hey sometimes you know that is the situation, that is the situation you've got to think hard about that, they're depending on him because are there things you don't want to step in and do, sometimes we stay in the situation because of comfort, kids are not, don't walk in fear, kids are not, don't, don't let the kids be a pawn in the game for you as well, don't think that well they need their dad because I don't want to do this and I don't want to do that and their dad does it, okay well if the dad is a narcissist then you're being selfish, you have to be willing to take on more than what you want to be comfortable with that comes with this, there's no excuse to not being able to cut off someone who is not pouring into your life, the last thing you want to do is raise kids with a narcissistic person the last thing you want to do, you're not just hurting yourself you're hurting your children so when you talk about depending on them, what do the children need, you know, is it, is he your only support, maybe he is, so you need to come up with a plan, you know and so you know there's levels to this but I want to encourage you to know that children don't, don't make it any different, cut them off, period, find a way to detach, save your life, save your kids, I am telling you how serious this is the older your children get the more you're going to wish you didn't allow them to depend on this man you're dealing with a whole narcissistic boom that's not a good parent that's not a good parent i've known people who swore up and down that the narcissist they were were good parents until things got ugly parental alienation kicked in kids getting older the kids acting out acting crazy acting like the narcissistic parent it gets bad i'm telling y'all it gets real bad somebody said life goes up when you get rid of these demons i saw that those that curse us will be cursed and those that bless us will be blessed in jesus name i love that thank you for dropping that lisa brights and narcissists are demons get out for them preserving in prayers yes oh man coveta we all felt that way we stayed long but it's okay it's okay vj blackovich what's up say mommy you crazy i try not to be you know i be trying to be cool pekka pekka pool you are very good at speaking for us look it's coming from my soul i relate this is real this is reality this is reality you know denise perry post-narc divorce no contact is challenging but self-care is needed absolutely it is challenging that's why you need to care for yourself because you are going through hell even still with the divorce is hell still hell, my goodness Teresa Allen, I want to talk to my peeps that knew me back then because it hurts all over again, I understand that. Hey Michael Boyd, done with people that have motives behind what they do, fake people, I'm a continual being alone, being alone wolf, my peace of mind is everything and life is good now and it's like a weight has been lifted off, I love that, thank you for sharing that, thriver keep going, champion keep going, oh you guys are amazing, hey Yolanda Swift, I had no idea he was a narcissist until after I stopped dating him, all I knew is I had to get out before I lost myself then I started hearing about what a narcissist was and it was him too 2018, wow, I'm so glad you survived that, dodged a major bullet, that's awesome, hey Christopher say it aloud, 51 years of narcissist abuse and I'm 51, just started to heal four months now oh oh, that pierced my soul, oh brother, I am, I am praying for you, my God y'all see what I'm saying this is, this, this thing is deep man, it's deep, a lot of people are had no idea they've been dealing with it their whole life, had no idea, always thought something was wrong with them, always thought something was wrong with them just to discover but we thank God for discovery at 51 you are now educated and becoming empowered, own own up to that, you deserve that now, I pray for your healing i pray for your recovery i pray you find happiness you know enjoy in spite of it all in spite of it all yeah ashley easier said than done sis i already know freckles please six weeks no contact i went back to get some of my belongings i felt like i don't know what i'm doing even though i know it was the right thing to leave you did the right thing you're just going through the motions it's okay you're just going through the motions it's all good oh my gosh oh man y'all got some great comments in here tonight robin trotter nine years after i left he still tries every manipulative trick in the book to get me to respond to him i've blocked him on everything and he still tries glad i found my strength and self-love me too because some people those hoovers they just get more and more oh my god some narcs just just it just oh my god y'all oh jesus i don't you want to get into that some of them hoovers they elevate those hoovers to a whole nother level but it tells you a lot it should tell you a whole lot that person has a huge job they are determined to finish you off they have a huge job that means you got something real big on you your light is tremendous that demon want to take you out honey but it no go be lisa williams you know you are healing when you no longer think of them every day and it gets even better in time absolutely absolutely what's up dej in a three-year period my ex of eight years left me my bestie of 10 years passed i lost my home twice lost a job my car my pet my innocence oh listen you're cut off anybody in your life that doesn't serve you that doesn't deserve you cut them off and watch watch how life starts to change because if I'm if I'm if tell me if I'm wrong Deji you probably had some narcissistic people in your life and because of them you lost everything let's be let's be all the way real because if you had everything that means you were on your ---- so if you lost everything that means you had some narcissistic people who were also on your ---- oh oh uh-oh y'all gotta be careful cut them off because cutting them off is top tier self-care save yourself stop taking L's for these demons that's where i'm at i am so tired of sacrificing myself and my ---- for demons i'm not doing it no more y'all i'm not doing it no more never been so fearless about walking away starting over doing it alone never been so bold and ready ever in my life but i'm embracing it i am ready for it because i know that our cut off cut off is everything man there's so much power in that for us going through this these people don't deserve you it's not your fault that you're crafted the way that you are it's not your fault you're so empathetic so sweet so given it's not your fault nobody has the right to take advantage of that ---- that's dead ass wrong that ----'s evil that ----'s evil we can call it low boundary you can call it whatever the hell you want no they took advantage of you they took advantage of you they took your kindness for weakness they took your love for foolishness and they deserve to get cut clean the **** off out of your head out of your heart if you can just detox find ways to force yourself to heal find ways to force yourself to move forward they never deserved you man they dead ass wrong for what they did dead ass they deserve for you to turn your back on them and live your best damn life and ---- on them a lot of you you you you got some haters to ---- on yeah you do you got some mouths to shut yeah you do stand on that ---- don't lose the real one that you are because of pain stand on that ---- man that's what they want they want you to you know fall out lose yourself never pick yourself back up just feel all defeated and ---- no stand up soldier you got this warrior f these people unapologetically walk the **** off cut them off f these people man these people are the reason why you're hurting when you ruminate think about that remind yourself you're having anxiety when you're going through those panic attack moments where you just can't believe you got played like that or you feel like you miss them or whatever it is remember how they played you remember the the evil they've shown you every time you ruminate every time you have feelings that don't feel good it's a remembrance that that's not somewhere you should ever want to be again you miss them so what go take a shot go to sleep get over it because by the time you sober up you're gonna realize you don't miss ---- there's nothing to miss you know it's not enough good to outweigh the heavy bad it's not enough weren't enough good times weren't enough good moments wasn't enough money to have you how you were all messed up and and just all all just discouraged and weak and depressed and ---- like no cut them off because your self-care should be your your top priority right now this person is not worth you sitting there you know allowing that trauma to trigger repetitive thoughts find ways to fight it soldier you got this don't let that i love yous and and the fake ass you know promises and all that stuff keep you bounded in this relationship mom dad whoever the hell they've shown you who they are repeatedly please believe it please believe it cut them off and make that a top tier when it comes to your self-care too many people are not taking themselves serious enough for me to be calling themselves thrivers or or to be you know talking about healing you're not understanding that healing is about you it's not about learning about the narc anymore it's about you damn love their stinking asses from a distance until that ---- fades away and if it doesn't fade away learn to live with it learn to manage it secretly love them you just can't let go of that love secretly love them you don't have to ever dwell on it talk about it just I love that mother effa but that mother effa is dead to me keep it that simple the mother effa is dead to me I love it all but whatever I don't **** with them I never will never again you know Nas Nasneen Lee hey first time here this is amazing to hear I have three children and I walked out it's much better with me being a stable mom than an unstable environment for my kids i'm happy for you i'm proud of you i know that took a lot of strength and i know that's tough but i know that was probably one of the best decisions you've ever made in your life for you and your kids i know y'all got peace hey my gods hey jesus god is good i love that thank you for that testimony april fisher already did and it's the worst thing i've done didn't know he was a narcissist first let me keep on Keep learning, keep growing. Guys, I'm going to let y'all go. It's getting late. I've been trying not to keep y'all on here all night, but it's like y'all be giving me so much good feedback, and I love it. I love the engagement. I encourage it. Man, meet me back here Friday night, 9 p.m. Eastern time, and follow back up with me next Monday, same time, you guys. We'll be here. We're still thriving. We're still going strong. We're still pushing hard. We're still empowering, educating, and remaining unbothered, and life is going on. life is going on tomorrow's a new day wake up start over embrace it go to sleep tonight knowing that you have the power you have the power do not forget that do not forget that there's so many comments i'd love to go through a lot of them but y'all i will be here all night i really encourage you guys to you know um use the super chats during my lives it's easier for me to see your comments um it's not about money shoot put 50 cents on there i don't care but there's hundreds of the comments coming through here and i want to be able to read and engage with you but sometimes i can't get to all the comments so utilize the super chats when you're on my lives just an fyi it'll help you so much um but the live replay will be on i'll go back to these comments and read them if i didn't get to you tonight please forgive me i'll be back next time join me next time and and share your thoughts and comments those of you watching the replay thank you for tuning in um leave your thoughts and comments as well thank y'all all for being here thank you for your time. Thank you for your resilience and your strength. Thank you for being the warriors and the drivers that you are. Thank you for empowering me to keep going because y'all do that. Y'all do that for me. It's because of y'all that I can stand here with this type of strength because I understand that y'all understand me. I know that y'all resonate. We are God's people and we're going to keep going. We got this. We got this. We are. Hey, I'm going to leave y'all with that. Got my brothers and sisters with me i don't know the words we are family yeah i want everybody inside look if y'all coming to atlanta to see me august y'all gonna have y'all gonna have a blast because i am i am an entertainer oh all right see you in august we will be RSVPing for that very soon so stay tuned all right guys stay blessed have a good night i will see you guys very soon until next time beautiful people take care y'all bye