Steve Found the Man Who STOOD HER UP, TWICE ✌🏾

We do a segment around here called What He Really Means. It's where I decode the real meaning behind those very, very confusing text messages that men often send to women that they're dating. Now, every time we air this segment, our social media pages go wild with questions, comments, opinions, everything. So, backed by Popular Man, this is What He Really Means. Hey, everybody, this is Tani. Hi, Tani. All right, now, before we get into some of these text messages that have you confused, kinda set up the scenario for us. Okay, Steve. So, I went to Vegas for my friend's bachelorette weekend, and I met a guy, my first night out, and he was all, yes, mm-hmm. And he was also there for a bachelor party. It felt like a love at first sight connection. We really liked each other a lot. We hung out a few times as a group, and we stayed in touch. He actually happens to live in my hometown in Massachusetts, and because I go back and forth, I figured, you know, we can probably build something. So, I ended up going to Massachusetts to see my mother about a week later. Okay, so, so far, you're probably thinking, wow, this is, like, unbelievable. It was kind of last minute, but he did agree to meet with me, and when the day came, he stood me up, and I'm out. Let's see how he tried to explain standing you up. He said, okay, you deserve to know it all. Before I met you, yes, I was talking to someone. We're not in a relationship, but yes, we do still talk. I didn't expect for us to hit it off the way me and you did. This past week has really showed me what love can be about from you, more than I have over the past two months with the other girl. I should have told you how it was, I apologize, and I totally understand that you would just move on, but like I said, I know what I want, and that is you. Just need to let me clean my pants before I set a bright future for us. So, this was your response, which was really good. This whole thing just makes me sad to think about, honestly. So now, okay, let me help you with this part. Here's a guy that you just met. So you gotta, I read men's texts different than women do. I don't know how you've shown him what love can be in just a matter of days. Look, you're a beautiful young girl, so I get it. So what happens next? So we planned to meet to go to dinner, and he came to pick me up from my aunt's house, and as soon as he picked me up, he told me he left his wallet at home. I know. He said we'd make up for it the next day, and the next day came, and he flaked on me again. Yeah. So what'd you do after that? I blocked him. So you blocked him? I did, I blocked him. So then, how did he respond? He slid into my DMs on Instagram, and he asked me, well, he actually said that. Well, I have it. Hi, so you blocked me. I didn't know it was that serious, but okay. I called to tell you I was outside to apologize, but I see you moved all the way on. This really hurt, because I've really been wanting to explain myself, because you are who I want, but I'll leave you alone. So you said, if there's something you want to say, I'll give you an opportunity to speak, and I'll listen. So then he said, I don't have anything else to say, you made your point. Then he said, but I appreciate you for everything, and how you've raised my standards of what I really want. To which you replied, you said you wanted me to give you a chance to explain yourself, and now you're choosing not to take it. I don't have the time for these kinds of games, and I would really appreciate it if you would get to the point, or just stop wasting my time entirely. Good luck to you. I hope you find a love as big as the one we could have had. Get in his face. Where are you with all this right now? So, Uncle Steve, can I call you Uncle Steve? Yeah, I'm everybody's uncle, that's what I am. Yes, well. I'm still thinking about the possibilities, and the ideas, hold on, hold on, the idea of what could have happened, and so, like many other women, the idea of a person doesn't always leave you right away. You might block them, but then there's still, there's a part of you that wants closure. Well, that's what I was gonna say. Listen, listen to me. Women like closure. The problem with closure is, men don't really do closure. We're just done, and we move on. Now, me personally, I think there's an omission of a lot of information here. Mm-hmm, I agree. And I really need to know what he's hiding. That's what I would want to know. So, I found him. It's what I do. We've got John joining us via video chat. Oh my God. How you doing, Uncle Steve? I'm doing good, man. John, you've been listening to Tani. Is she right to feel confused? Yes, she's very right to feel confused. I take all fault in that. I just want to first apologize to Tani. I just wanted to let you know that. Okay, we got a little technical difficulty. We may have lost. Let's try to get him back. Okay, I got word. We have him? All right, well, here he is. Well, John flew across the country to tell Tani exactly what he means. We're gonna hear what that is when we come back. So, John, do you think you feel the same connection that Tani does? Yes, at first I wasn't sure. I knew it was there, but I still had doubts. We were on the opposite side of the country. Didn't know how it was gonna work. All right, John, let me just ask you this. There was a little shadiness in the beginning, the standing her up. What was that about? Why did you stand her up? First time, it was because of the relationship part, to be honest. When she came, surprised me. I just wasn't ready to come out and see her yet at that time. The second time, the relationship was over. It was more personal. That day was a very bad day. Angry, I was angry at other stuff as well. I'm a father as well, so I was pissed off at other stuff with my family, and I didn't want her to see that. Let me stop for a second. Tani, how you feel hearing this so far? I feel a little confused, but I mean, of course, you know, I came here to talk to you about this. I didn't expect you to show up, but I mean, there was a part of me that wanted answers, and of course, like many other women, we always want this person that we had this idea of to just show up and prove us wrong in some kind of way. So let me ask you this. What would make you feel better about this? Consistency, and his actions, speaking louder than his words, because he's really good with his words, but need some action, and you're here, so that's a big action. So what would you like to say to Tani? First off, I wanna apologize about the confusion, and secondly, I wanted to apologize about my true feelings for you. I've never felt this way about anyone else before, and you deserve it all. You deserve it all from me. I'm just asking you for a second chance. I came all the way out here in front of these people to tell you that. So I'm asking, you said you want action, so I'm asking, will you allow me to take you out on a date? On a real date? Real, proper date. You gonna bring your wallet? Yes. I will give you a third chance, because that's actually what this is. Okay, great. So if the two of you are serious about giving this a proper shot, I got a car outside. I'm gonna let you go out on me. Okay. I want you to go out, just have fun. You have one mission. Okay. To allow him to show you who he really is. That's your only mission. In 90 days, I want you all to let me know how it's going. Okay. I appreciate you so much. Thank you.