How To Get Your Life Together In 90 Days | Enter Your Winter Arc + Level Up By 2027

Are you watching all of these winter arc videos and thinking, okay, but am I already too late? I'm here to tell you, no, whatever day you're watching this 90 days from today is still 90 days. What matters now is giving yourself a simple structure that you can actually follow when life gets busy, when your motivation dips, and you have one of those weeks where everything just kind of goes sideways. So today I'm going to show you my three part winter arc system for getting your life together over the next 90 days. I'm a neuropsychologist who has spent years helping accomplished women build systems that work with the way humans actually function. Because when your calendar is full and your brain is even fuller, willpower isn't something you can count on every single day. And by the way, if you want some extra support and getting organized and finishing the year strong, I've linked my free finish the year strong workshop below. It's a great place to build the systems that will support you through these next 90 days. So sign up if you can, and I hope to see you there live. So let's start with a first step because before you get into your winter arc, before you get it moving, you have to decide exactly what you're building towards. So imagine sitting down at a restaurant and being handed a menu with 100 different options. Everything sounds good and you keep reading it because you don't want to choose the wrong thing. And then 20 minutes later, you're still trying to decide what to order. Having more choices sounds great, but it also makes it harder to choose anything at all. Your goals can work the same way. When you give yourself 15 things to accomplish over the next 90 days, you're spending energy deciding what to do instead of actually doing it. And because there's so much to do, your list is left unfinished. By the end of those 90 days, you don't have really anything to show for it. So for this first step, we're going to start with something small enough that can actually get you moving because momentum gets much easier once you've started. So I'm going to draw this out for you in what I'm calling snowball, your winter arc model. So let's picture a hill and a snowball. Well, you don't have to picture it. I have it here for you. For this to work, where I want you to start is we need to start small. So this first step in your winter arc is to pick three commitments, pick three commitments for this next 90 days. And here's how I want you to choose them. Grab a piece of paper and give yourself about an hour. You're going to start with a complete brain dump, write down everything you want to accomplish, change, improve, organize and finish before the year end. And don't edit yourself yet. Just get it all out of your head. Then we're going to sort that list into three buckets. So bucket one is one habit. So something you want to repeat consistently, maybe that's taking a 20 minute walk every day or starting a yoga routine three times a week, just one habit. And then bucket two is one project, something with steps and a finish line. This could be something like getting all of your paperwork organized before December 31st, just something actionable that moves your goal forward. And then bucket three is one mindset. This is the way you want to show up during these next 90 days. Maybe it's practicing saying no before you automatically say yes. Maybe it's deciding what to pause and ask yourself, does this actually deserve my energy before taking something on? Then once you've sorted everything from your brain dump, I want you to pick one for each bucket. Everything else on the list, that moves to January. I promise you a good idea can wait until January. It will still be a good idea in January. This is one reason those giant yearly lists tend to fall apart because when you give yourself 15 things to accomplish, you're also giving your brain 15 opportunities to feel bored, anxious, overwhelmed, and unsure where to start. And that giant list can hand you all four of those feelings at once. And that's when things start to fall between the cracks because you're just too overloaded and too overwhelmed. But a list with just three things gives you something that you can actually see with three commitments. You can tell by Friday whether you've moved the needle, right? You can look at your week and you can know whether the habit happened, whether your project moved forward and whether you practice that mindset that you chose. And if that project is too big to complete in one quarter, that's completely fine. Just break it into smaller steps so that you can see the very first thing that you need to do this quarter and then next quarter and then so on. Now the last thing here is that I want you to connect each one of these three commitments to something bigger. This is where you're going to link it here to your sun and moon goals. I teach my clients that sun goals are your five to 10 year goals and your moon goals are your one to three year goals that move you toward that bigger vision. So ask yourself, which moon goal does this winter arc commitment feed into? Because when you know why this matters to you, you're so much less likely to get bored with it five weeks from now. So write one sentence next to each commitment, explain why you chose it and what bigger goal that it supports. I recently saw this in my work with my client Cassandra. Once she started working from her actual capacity and streamlined her commitments around what mattered most to her, her family and her most important work, that's when her systems finally started working for her instead of asking her to carry more than she actually had capacity for. Your winter arc becomes much more manageable when you stop trying to carry 15 goals and give yourself three things that you can actually accomplish within your capacity that move you towards your goals. So now that you've picked your three commitments, let's make sure that they can survive a hard week because any high achieving woman knows at some point over the next 90 days, you're going to have one of those weeks. So think about a campfire. When you first build it, you have a big, beautiful fire burning. It's warm, bright and easy to keep going, but you don't expect the fire to look like that all night. At some point the flames get smaller, right? Maybe you add another log, maybe you try to rearrange the coals. Maybe you just have to give it a little bit more attention so it doesn't go out, but the flames will at some point get smaller, but you don't have to rebuild the entire fire every time that they do. You just have to keep it going. So I want you to start looking at your goals this same way, feeling tired and falling off a part of the process. What matters is having a way to keep moving when that happens. So this is where I want you to build what I call your tire day version because one of the biggest cycles that I see women get stuck in looks like this. So if we go here so I can draw this out for you. So usually it looks like you start strong, then you fall off because you're human and life life's. Then you feel bad for falling off and you guilt yourself and maybe even shame yourself, which I hope not, but I see it happen a lot. And then because of that, you start over and then the cycle just goes on and on and on. We're going to interrupt that cycle before it starts. So going back to our snowball from the beginning next, I want you to keep it rolling. It might move a little slower on some days, but it's still moving forward. So here's exactly what you're going to do. You're going to take each of your winter art commitments and you're going to ask yourself, what is the smallest version that still counts? That's your placeholder or your tire day version. So for your habit, if your goal is to walk 20 minutes every weekday, your tire day version might be putting on your shoes and walking five minutes. If your goal for your project is getting your paperwork organized, your placeholder might be setting a timer for 10 minutes and organizing one small stack. And for your mindset, maybe you're practicing saying no once a week. So your placeholder might simply be pausing before automatically saying yes. The key here is to decide all of this before you're having the hard day in the psychology world. It's called coping ahead. Write your placeholder right next to each commitment and your planner or your habit tracker or somewhere you'll see it. And for your project, I want you to use one simple rule. 10 minutes on the clock counts as showing up and you can use what's called the race the clock method. Set your timer for 10 minutes and just start. 10 minutes feels small enough that your brain doesn't have to fight you very hard to begin. And then once you've started, you may find that it's much easier to keep going. Who knows? I don't know. But even if you stop when that timer goes off and still showed up at count. So I want you to decide right now that a placeholder day gets marked as complete. No feeling guilty, no judgment, and no moving the goal because you had a hard day yet you kept the snowball rolling. Okay. As an ambitious woman, I know it's easy to strive for perfection, but it's unrealistic and it's unsustainable. Good enough. It's good enough. Forget perfect. For me, I have a treadmill goal is every week day I get on my treadmill, but there's definitely days when my cycle is starting or I have a mental health day and something comes up and I just don't have the same energy that I usually do. I still get on the treadmill, but maybe I just walk for a short time. Maybe I cut it short at like five minutes. I'm probably doing less than I originally planned. I know I am, but I still get on. So now that you've picked your three commitments and you've decided exactly how you'll keep them moving when your energy dips, the final step is to make showing up so easy that your environment starts doing some of the work for you. So picture taking a road trip, for instance, to somewhere you've never been before. You could just get in the car, start driving and figure everything out as you go. Every few miles, you'd have to decide which way to turn, where you're stopping, where you're staying, whether you're even still in the right direction, or you could spend an hour before you leave looking at the route, booking out your hotel, filling up the tank and deciding where you're going to stop along the way. Now, once you're actually on the road, all you're doing is following the route instead of making a thousand little decisions along the way. That's the kind of preparation I want you to give yourself before your winter arc starts. I'll show you how to make some decisions right now that your future self won't have to make when you're tired, busy, or tempted to skip the plan. So let's finish our snowball here and make it easy. So you've picked the commitments. We figured out how to protect it. We want to keep moving on the hard days. Now we're going to create the conditions that make showing up actually easier. So the first thing you're going to do here is that an accountability appointment. This is one accountability appointment that you're going to put on your calendar. So pick one person who can check in with you every week, the same day, the same time. For example, you could text them with three commitments and ask them to check in with you every Friday, or maybe you send them a screenshot of your tracker and you guys meet up for coffee weekly, do whatever works for you. Just make it consistent. There's a reason accountability works. When someone else knows what you've committed to, your goal moves outside of your own head and having that external accountability can make it easier to follow through. When your motivation starts to dip research on goal pursuit has found that making a specific plan for when, where and how you'll act can significantly improve goal attainment. So please do not skip this step. Put your accountability on the calendar now before you need it. Accountability is actually so helpful and important. I've infused it into almost all the areas of my program so that I can really help my clients, not just give them the information on systems, but actually give them the support that they need to carry them to their goals. We do a weekly accountability meeting. They also have a one-to-one accountability check in with me each week. We also have coworking sessions and body doubling. I really want to create an environment where you're wrapped around to make success easy and automated and play into what the research supports on goal achievement and making things easy to reach our goals. So really think about how can you infuse research back things like accountability within your goal getting system. The point of it is super simple. You're just giving your goal somewhere to live outside of your head using behavior science in your favor. The second thing here I want you to do is to put your three commitments. Let's do that in your calendar. So this looks like your habit will get a recurring block. Your project gets recurring work session and your mindset gets whatever reminder or routine that will help you practice it. Give each one a real start time and then this way we're giving your goals a place to happen instead of just hoping that you'll find time to do them later. And then the third thing here is habit tracker. So set up a habit tracker somewhere that you're actually will see that you can use one in the productive well-promotion system or in your planner, whatever that you'll look at every day and that you can stay consistent with. And there's actually really interesting research behind this, actually a meta analysis of 138 studies found that regularly monitoring your progress can increase the likelihood of reaching your goals with an even stronger effect when you physically record that progress. So put that tracker somewhere that you can see it. Every check mark is a little piece of evidence that you're following through and you want to be able to look at that tracker and think, look at me, I'm actually doing this. And then there's one more piece that I want you to look at. It's your physical environment. So I'll put that number four environment here. What's one thing in your space that consistently pulls you away from the goal that you're trying to accomplish? Maybe your phone lives on your desk and you're constantly picking it up and checking social media or maybe your workout clothes are buried deep in your door so they're out of sight, out of mind. What could you move, remove or put in place so that the behavior of you want becomes easier. Another example might be that the snacks you want to avoid are sitting directly in front of you every time you open the pantry. I know when I was trying to quit bad snacking, I just stopped buying the snacks and then I planned healthy options to have on hand. And so I had something ready when I got hungry and it really worked for me. So the principle that I want you to use is this. Take one temptation out of the equation and decide what you're going to put in its place because the planning piece matters just as much as the removing the distraction. So all these ways of making it easy actually work. So to give you an example, to give you some proof, my client Sheryl actually wanted to get back in a consistent workout routine and we installed together specific accountability to get her back on track. And then when she was back on track, I asked her, you know, what was the key things that really helped her? And she said, the biggest thing was the jumpstart. Something that you said kind of ignited in my head. You said, send me the picture of your workout clothes ready the next day. So then she started sending me pictures of her workout clothes the night before and getting ready for the gym. She started sending me pictures of herself walking into the gym, even when she could only do 30 minutes. And then over time she was doing 45 minutes and adding more weight. That's what I want you to build to a simple system that makes this next step obvious enough to take, make it easy to start. And like I said, if you want help putting all the pieces together so you can actually finish the year strong, come join me for my free finish the year strong workshop. I'll walk you through the systems that you need to head into the new year, feeling strong and ready to conquer it. The link is in the description below to save your seat. So now you've got everything you need to start your winter arc today. I want you to answer one more question. Which of these three snowballs is going to be the hardest for you to keep rolling? Is it the habit, your project, your mindset? Is it keeping it rolling or making it easy? Whatever you picked, that's the one that I want you to start with and pay the most attention to as you head into this 90 days. But if you're watching this and you want to go even deeper to build the bigger systems that organize your entire life, I want you to watch my proven life organization systems video. Next, I'll show you the simple systems that I use to organize my goals, time, work, home and everything in between. So you can watch that video next. If you're interested in working with me, you can click the link below. The workshop is below until next time. Cheers to planning, manifesting and enjoying your dream life. Namaste.