This is Day 10 of The Nervous System Wealth Recode, a 9-part video program.
The Nervous System Wealth Recode is not about budgeting, hustle, or positive thinking.
It's about dismantling the nervous-system patterns, beliefs, and survival strategies that silently control how you experience money.
I went through this recode myself.
What surfaced wasn't just financial habits — it was money trauma, inherited beliefs, fear-based decision making, and the constant pressure to "figure it out" instead of feeling safe with money.
Over 13 days, my relationship with money shifted from tension to clarity. My body stopped bracing. My decisions slowed down. The urgency disappeared.
This recode created relief, not hype. Stability, not forcing. Peace, not performance.
The Nervous System Wealth Recode helps you:
• Identify where money fear lives in your body and behavior • Release inherited and survival-based money beliefs • Regulate your nervous system so money stops feeling threatening • Shift from scarcity and urgency into grounded, intentional choice • Build a relationship with money that feels safe, honest, and sustainable
This program is for people who are tired of "trying harder" and ready to rebuild their money experience from the inside out.
Wealth isn't just what you earn. It's how safe you feel while receiving.
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Hey, this is Ebony White. I am so glad you're with me today. Today is day 10 of that 13 day challenge to
The Wealth Recode. So today we're gonna work about we're gonna work on frequency calibration and that's
regulating up
Regulating our emotions up and as you can see here in the background, we always go with frequency
So this is uplifting harmonic, not harmonica, but harmonic tones
Not too fast, something that makes your chest
expand. So I chose this one because I think it's
It kind of radiates with my third eye and I feel it there
So I'm gonna take that as a good sign. All right, so let's start up with the
somatic practice today
It's power breathing
Inhale four
Hold for two and
exhale six
Okay, that's it. So now that you've done that
Now we're going to go on to our prompt
Now that you've inhaled one
two
three
four
The prompt is where have I been shrinking so others feel comfortable
Now your vibration is already there. It's already there
Where have I been shrinking so others feel comfortable
And you can write this and you can think about it
the first thing that comes to mind is
for me is
In the company of others that may know different things and I think I experienced this yesterday
going to
Power discussion from community members to
all the legislative
divisions of New York
and I think that
The most important thing that I learned is that I started to feel like I was shrinking because I did not know
The codes or the regulations that were being passed in in in Congress
I didn't know all of them, you know, and most people they didn't know all of them
They just knew what was specific to their
Their area to their need, right?
So when I was my turn to kind of get up with the group that was talking about affordable housing
Which I have 20 years of you know
Advocating for that and actually working in the real estate profession
So
When I got up there was
The there was this
Someone from the Long Island Board of Realtors MLS system
Those to the vice president president
Then there was someone from vision Long Island who kind of took a very broad look at you know
The areas of Long Island and came up with what everyone needs and then there was the woman from CDC Long Island
She was the CEO
and president and
So and here I am. I am from Gordon Heights Chamber of Commerce and
In in the space of the black and brown community
Right away I felt a little bit intimidated I felt intimidated a little bit I felt intimidated
Then I had to take and breathe and say I am safe. I
Am secure and supported so I said that to myself before getting up and it was my turn
And so I didn't minimize anything that I did
I
Said the words I am the voice that hears what everyone comes to tell me
I am the boots on the ground person that feels and sees what everyone else
can't
And I think that statement is very true about myself
But it also
rang so very true that it gave me the spout of confidence to
Really sit back in that and say that's a great space to be in
And sometimes you're around people that you don't feel comfortable, you know feel because you don't feel inadequate
And we start to shrink and
Do this this whole challenge. I've been addressing my shrinkage
Because you know no matter what we do or you know who we are
We do have a certain amount of shrinkage and we do learn
Day by day by day if we allow ourselves to learn
so
When question came to me because they were talking about broad spectrum folks, right?
So I said well for my community you're asking me for my community what you need, right?
And I said, well, I agree with everyone that has said that we need education
From the beginning. I said what we also need education in the middle and we need education
So if there's something going on in
problem-solving
we don't have that and
It's not offered to our communities enough
You know in the community we can have to go outside the community to find it
But how can we do that if we're working we're doing all these things that we have to do and then we're still worried about
Losing our home. I said
Contributors to that is is is you know
Gentrification as the gentrification happens does not just they just get pushed out
It's because they don't have the information and
we don't have the information to stay where we're stay put or how to stay put and
how to
Continue that generational wealth that you were talking about
so I felt strong and comfortable in saying that and I contributed in my own way and
right after I was getting ready to go and
the
assembly men from from New York came up to me said I
Want to meet with you about that and
That made me feel really good about that and if you wanted to have a conversation about
what I was doing and how the people are really, you know feeling and so
That gave me the confidence to say I shouldn't shrink anymore
Because what I do is important to the world
The world needs a feeler
The world needs a healer the world needs a teacher
You know an instructor the world needs someone who's bold and you know brash
The world needs you so shrinking is not gonna get it. No matter who you are. It's not gonna
Stop
From what the world needs, you know, the world needs you no matter what capacity you serve, you know
It's when you don't serve you when you're out of line that you're serving like for me for me to
to
Be that
Armor-bearer
Would not be me. It wouldn't be me. I
I'm not an armor-bearer. I'm not a brash
civil civil rights
Person I'm not in-your-face
Go at you thing. I'm not one of those people
It's when I'm in alignment with my true self and that day this yesterday was I aligned and says
Hey, this is what I do. I this is who I am. I'm the heartbeat
things
So, what did I learn from that that I had been shrinking
For years being the heartbeat is central heartbeat of things. I've been shrinking around people who had
Doctorates
Claimed to be, you know
Educated who would ramble off their degrees
To me once meeting me. So I felt more I felt comfortable in not shrinking and I
Taught myself that day not to shrink
so
Other places is when I see
You know
People being treated
They shrink because maybe I don't have much to say but I do
Because I'm the heartbeat. I
Am the heartbeat of what?
People need that's why people come to me
It's the heartbeat of I need the information. I need to feel that comfort because I know you have that so I
Agree today and every day afterwards I am not shrinking
And here's the beauty about realizing that
Right, you may have to say a couple of times, but if you really mean it
if you really
Mean it
It happens just like that and you don't have to keep repeating
When I was going through the affirmation stage, I really had to convince my nervous system of those things and I was beautiful that
I'm enough. I had to keep saying it for years
And until one day I woke up and I said I don't feel like saying that today
so it was
It's very true that
When your nervous system believes it when you want to believe it when you're open enough that your nervous system is saying I want
To believe that I gotta believe that
It does
You then
Don't have to keep repeating you may be reminded in a few kind of steps in
You may have to remind it. I'm safe and supported
But
It's it becomes you
So that's today's this is day 10
And the realization is that you stop lowering your frequency to match old
You see when I went into that room yesterday
It was a new room. I didn't meet. I didn't know these people. I didn't know maybe I knew one or two. No three
But I didn't know anybody else
Was a new room
So this is another level of confidence another level and
The universe will place you in those rooms when your frequencies aligned to where you're supposed to go
So just remember that
When you're on this journey and see this 13-day journey is just the beginning the tip of the iceberg
Right to where you can go this is just elevating to your next level
You're not next level might be another 13 days. Maybe 10 days a five days of getting something together
but
It's you doing the work. It's not someone laying their hands on you and go over we can lay hands on ourselves
We do have that healing power, right? We have that ability
because when I'm out speak something and the vibration is
High enough high enough what's the word high enough you can do that
So day 10 is down three more days see you next time
