If Love Is My True Nature, Why Do I Dislike Some People?

If love is our true nature, and we truly want to express that in our lives, do our preferences have to diminish? If we are living from love, can our likes and dislikes for others still exist?

Rupert says: ‘It’s natural for the mind to like some things and dislike others due to its conditioning. And I don’t feel that they need to disappear. You can like one person and dislike another and still know and feel that you share your being equally with both of them.

‘It’s not really the person that we like or dislike. We like or dislike their behaviour and the way they think – but we love their being. I often sit with the image of the person whose thoughts and actions I detest, until I can feel love for who they really are – because if we can’t do that, how can we expect them to do that?’

*This video is from one of Rupert’s in-person retreats at Mercy Center, 9–16 March 2025. For more information on upcoming retreats (many of which can be attended online via livestream) go to:

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Timestamps:

0:00 The Distinction Between Love and Preference
3:07 Personal and Impersonal
4:27 What We Really Like or Dislike
5:51 A Loving Practice for Those We Despise
8:27 Our Shared Being
10:04 The Remedy for Feeling Separate

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