Body Language Analyst Reacts to Harry & Meghan, Netflix Documentary. What Aren'T They Saying?

Like, I curtsied as though I was like... So it was a bit of a shock to the system for her. What's going on everyone? Welcome to the Behavioral Arts. My name is Spidey and I use my degree in Sociology and Psychology, my certifications in Body Language Analysis and Criminal Interrogation, and over 10 years experience as an award-winning mentalist to teach people behavioral analysis and practical psychology on stages and television shows all over the world. In the recent Netflix documentary, Harry and Meghan, Prince Harry and Meghan Markle tell us their story all the way from when they met, all the way up until now. But what does their body language, facial expression, and overall behavior suggest? Is what we're getting an unfiltered true story? Or are there things that they're hiding? And what are they feeling emotionally as they retell this story? In this video, we are going to take a deep dive into the behaviors we see in this documentary, more specifically, the first two episodes. So in this video, we're focusing on the first two episodes, which is a lot about their individual backgrounds, how they met, and their beginning. And there's a lot of really great stuff with the behaviors that we're seeing. So here we go. Let's jump right in, starting with this. Why did you want to make this documentary? I'm not going to say that it's comfortable, but when you feel like people haven't gotten any sense of who you are for so long, it's really nice to just be able to have the opportunity to let people have a bit more of a glimpse into what's happened and also who we are. So she's being asked why she wanted to make this documentary. And before we look at any of the body language, any of the behaviors, let's look at that hesitation. Because it caught me off guard. She hesitates for a while before she even begins to answer. And to me, the first question I had in my head is, why do you need to think about this? You've been thinking about this project for a while. You've been working on it for a while. This is probably a question that you knew very much you're going to be asked, why are we seeing this suspense, this hesitation, before we actually get to any semblance of an answer? That was bizarre for me. So besides that initial hesitation, we have a couple more interesting things. The first of which is the answer itself, or at least the first part of it, where she goes, I'm not going to say it's comfortable. And that is a non-answer statement. The question is, what is your goal? Like, why did you want to make this documentary? You weren't asked if you're comfortable, if you're uncomfortable, but she snuck that in. So we have this long hesitation with an um, which is a verbal leak when we hesitate audibly and there's um, uh, this kind of thing. So we're getting that. Deep breath, then a non-answer statement, so she doesn't begin by answering the question. And in behavioral analysis, we call all these things delaying tactics. Basically, anything that you put between the end of the question and the beginning of the answer. And typically, we're delaying to buy time to think of a good answer. Now, does this immediately indicate deception? Absolutely not. There aren't any behaviors that allow us to know for sure that someone's lying. But delaying tactics typically indicate that there's a certain intention here, that there's a certain priority, and that we need a second, we need a moment to spin it right, to make sure that we're presenting it right. To add to that, what we see with the body language is a very slow blink. As her head comes down like this, her eyes actually stay closed for two seconds as she says, I'm not going to say it's comfortable, and they just close for a really long time. Now, in a social situation, when the eyes are closed for an extended period of time, typically it means one of two things. The first one is an unpleasant image that we're having a hard time dealing with. So we're literally just closing our eyes to focus on something else or get this image out of our head. But typically, this is done with a harder squint, and very often we see the hand come up like this and block or rub the eyes, and we see an unpleasant expression on the face. We're not seeing that here. The second reason you might see someone with their eyes closed is when we're trying to think of something, when we're trying to formulate a thought. And this is so subconscious as a gesture that we even observe it in children that were born blind. When they have to think about something, when they have to internalize their focus, they close their eyes to help them focus better. And that's really valuable information because they don't really have a need to do that, nor did they learn it by observing other people. So we know it's innate. All this to me indicates that she needs a second here to go to that narrative. And we're not getting her first initial gut response. We're getting something that she thought about. The other thing that really got me curious is that first non-answer. I'm not going to say it's comfortable. Well, there are, for me, two issues with this. The first is, why are you uncomfortable? I mean, you just kind of threw that line and didn't really build on that. I would love to know, why are you not comfortable? Is it the cameras? That wouldn't make too much sense. You're an actress. You've pursued a career in front of the camera. And then since then, you know, paparazzi, press, interviews. She's very used to doing this. She also went looking for this documentary. She wanted to make this documentary. You're making a documentary where you're telling your story. You've volunteered to do this. So what is it about this that's not comfortable? The second reason that struck me as a bizarre thing to say is because her body language during that statement and throughout this documentary never suggests discomfort, ever. She likes to tell her story. She's smiling. She's excited most of the time. I don't see discomfort, especially in this moment. It's very rare that when we're uncomfortable, we expose our neck like this. Usually discomfort is we close in. We're guarded. It's very rare that we're uncomfortable like this, plus with that smile on her face. So you're saying you're not comfortable, but your body language is saying different. So here's the reason I believe she started with that line. First, I think it's just part of what Megan does. As an actress, as someone who gives a lot of speeches, she's a good speaker, and I think these lines that start with this little fishhook, to say, well, I'm not gonna say I'm comfortable. It kind of gets you curious. Ooh, okay, why isn't she comfortable? What's going on here? So it's kind of this actress line that kind of pulls the audience in. But the second and bigger reason I think she started with that is because Megan often makes attempts to be relatable for everyday person watching her to go, oh yeah, I feel that. I understand that. And we see this even right in the beginning of the documentary they show a clip of her speaking to her audience, and she's got this towel around her head, and she's sitting on the floor. It's super casual, and these are all things, let's be honest, that she's doing intentionally to kind of be like, hey, I'm just like you. Because we know she could have a highly produced studio with lighting and makeup and in a fancy outfit with her hair done. But she does these things to kind of relate to everyday people. So I think that's what she's doing here. She's trying to be relatable because she knows that to most people it's uncomfortable to be in front of a camera, to tell your story. For a documentary that's gonna go on one of the biggest streaming networks in the world. So by saying that, like, I'm not gonna say it's comfortable. I don't think she's speaking to her discomfort. I think she's speaking to the discomfort that most people would feel in a situation like this in order to connect, to create rapport. Finally, I do think it's a really quick attempt to silence the critics. People out there will say she loves the camera, she loves the attention. So she's, and that's why I think the wording is that way. It's not I'm uncomfortable, it's I'm not gonna say I'm comfortable. So if you think I'm comfortable, that I'd like this, I'm not. That's not what's happening. Just wanna get that in before I answer the actual question. To further go down this path of relatability, she gets to the answer. So after she says she's not comfortable, she gets the answer as to why she's making this documentary. She tells us her intention to, you know, say the story from their angle, to present their story. And there isn't much there with the body language. I do believe that that's very important for her to actually get her story, her version of things out. But as she's saying that, we see pictures of them together. And we see them in kind of everyday situations that we might find ourselves in. You know, they're sitting there, they're having some tea or coffee, and then we see them out in nature on their bikes, just having a good time. So again, there's this intention here to show us like, we're just everyday people. And we wanna tell you about how we're just everyday people, living an everyday love story. Okay, now we're gonna hear the story of their beginning as a couple, and how things got started for them. And we're gonna look at some scenes of Prince Harry. But before we do, do me a huge favor, hit that subscribe button, turn those notifications on for more behavioral analysis and practical psychology content. I asked if I could see his feed. And so that's the thing, when people say, did you Google him? No, but that's your homework. You're like, hmm, look, let me see what they're about in their feed. Not what someone else says about them, but what they are putting out about themselves. Okay, that's just a really quick clip that I thought was really funny, because she really makes a distinction between feed and Google. Like there's a difference between his Instagram feed and Google. Those are two different things. And I think the reason for that is the following. She has publicly stated before that she didn't Google him. Before they met, she had never Googled him. She didn't really know much about him. And people called her out on that and said, what are you talking about? Of course you Googled him. Even if he wasn't a prince, who doesn't look up the person that they're about to go on a date with? But on top of that, this is Prince Harry, you for sure Googled him. So I think what happened is, as she thought about it, she was like, yeah, it's not really believable that I didn't Google him or look him up. So here she's kind of subtly amending that statement and saying, you know, people ask if I Googled him. No, I didn't Google him. I just looked at his Instagram feed. Those are two different things. You know, for me personally, when I say that someone Googled something, I don't necessarily mean that they went to www.google.com and looked the person up or the thing up. I just mean they did some research. They looked the person up to a certain degree. I don't know what website they used. So I think her making this distinction is kind of a sneaky way out of that to say, no, no, when I said I didn't Google him, I meant I didn't use google.com, but I looked him up on Instagram. Yeah, no, I told her, of course I looked him up, and I think it's her kind of being publicly called out on that statement and going, yeah, that doesn't make a whole lot of sense. What I love about Harry in that clip, they even kind of zoom in on him, is he's listening to her make that distinction and he goes, mm, and at the same time, we see the eyebrows raised. We get an eyebrow flash. Eyebrows go up and down. Now, my regular viewers know that I pay a lot of attention to eyebrow flashes because there's a ton of research on it out there, and I have a separate video. It's a quick six-minute video all about the science of eyebrow flashes and why we know the things we know. I'll leave a link in the description if you wanna take that short, deep dive, but basically, in a social situation, eyebrow flash, which is the eyebrows going up, means one of three things. One is emphasis, when you wanna emphasize something. Two is social acceptance, social connection, social approval, just basically good intention towards someone, like you see someone, you go, hey, how are you? Eyebrows go up, it's just a social gesture, and finally, the third is surprise. So basically, when we're surprised by something, those eyebrows might shoot up. So basically, to sum up, an eyebrow flash gives importance to something. So whether it's verbal importance with that emphasis, importance to someone, or importance to something, like, oh my God, look, there's something there, and I think that's what it is here. I think it's a mix. She's making this point, this distinction, and he's going, mm, like, oh, that's a good point. Oh, I like that, I like what you did with that because he's probably struggled with that Google search as well, so when she makes that distinction, it's almost like he's impressed by it. He's like, mm, yep, that makes sense. That is a different thing, an Instagram feed and Google, totally different thing. Paparazzi used to harass us to the point of where we had to be forced into smiling and answering questions to the traveling press pack. Would you look at this camera, please? All right, so there we have Prince Harry talking about his early experiences with the press. This is obviously something that his whole life has irritated him that he's had an issue with for reasons that we're gonna go into in a little bit, but there's a lot of interesting stuff going on with his behavior. First of all, that blink rate is sky high, and usually blink rate is, we look at the change in blink rate, not necessarily just blink rate overall. The average blink rate is somewhere between 16 to 20 blinks a minute. That's more or less the average. Some people, on average, are much higher than that. Some people are lower than that for whatever reason, so change is more important than what the blink rate is, and for Prince Harry over here, it's way higher, not than the average, but from his norm, so if we compare it to other clips of him in this documentary, he has a pretty steady blink rate. I would say in that area, 16 to 20, but here it's just firing off, and this is an indication of stress. Typically, when stress spikes, the eyes dry out, and a heightened blink rate attempts to correct that. Also, when he says traveling press pack, we get a couple of things. One is that eyebrow flash again, and in this case, it's classic emphasis, like he's emphasizing what his problem is. It's that press pack, and at the same time, we get that chin jut. That chin comes out as he almost spits those words, press pack, traveling press pack, and this is very consistent with aggression, unpleasant emotions towards something. Also, there's this interesting overall sassy bobbling going on. We see his shoulders popping like this. His head is bobbling around a little as he's talking about this, and this is consistent with irritation. It doesn't happen very often with him. I've seen it in one or two more places where he's talking about something that irritates him, but typically, he's pretty good at having a calm, steady demeanor. I mean, it's even part of his upbringing, but in this case, he's definitely leaking unpleasant feelings towards the press. He's getting worked up over it. The stress is going up. We have that sassy bobbling, spitting of the words, that chin jut, so there's a lot of unpleasant stuff towards the press from an early age. As a parent, could I ask you to respect my children's space? We've had 15 cameras following us today. I haven't been worked up. No, but as a parent, I want to protect children. I think she had a lived experience of how she was struggling living that life. She felt compelled to talk about it. Okay, so I know that this analysis is about Harry and Meghan, but we have to talk about Princess Diana because she is a driving force for Harry, and we're gonna get into that very, very soon, but there's something about this clip that is really powerful in the way that she spoke to that reporter. First of all, notice how she didn't go right in front of the camera. It's not like, pay attention to me. Like, I have this thing to say, and I want this to be a big news story. She blocks the camera first and not really give him much of an opportunity to have her there, and then she moves so that all we see is her shoulders, so it's not about her. It's about what she's trying to say to the gentleman behind the camera, and what she says and the way she says it is terrific. These are the words of a powerful speaker who can move people with the way she speaks, and here's why. For those of you who watched my analysis a couple of weeks ago of Lindsay Lohan on David Letterman, from a while ago, there was a point where he was being really kind of condescending, and he was going after certain things she didn't want to talk about, and at some point, she just looked at him and made a reference to him being a father figure. Oh my God. Come on, be a father figure. All right, fine. I'm like three times your age, for the love of God. So in psychology or persuasion, we call this reframing or parts integration. So basically, we all have roles in our lives. No one's an exception. We all have roles. Even all of you watching right now, you have the role of being a father, a mother, a son, a daughter, a sibling, and even outside of the family. You have the role at your work. You have the role with your friends. We have all these different roles, and sometimes, when we're in one of those roles, we kind of block out the behaviors of other roles. So what reframing or parts integration does is it takes a behavior from a different part of you and brings it into this scenario. So exactly like Lindsay Lohan said, right in this moment, don't be the interviewer. Don't be the comedian. Be the father figure, and it's shifted. We saw a shift. We're seeing the same thing here from Princess Diana. She's going up to the cameraman, and instead of saying, don't do this, stop, and speaking to the cameraman, she speaks to the family man within him and says, as a parent, I'm asking you this. I'm not asking you this as a princess. I'm not asking you this as a celebrity. I'm asking you this as a parent. And again, notice how it's not as a mother. It's as a parent. So the man can connect more with what she's talking about, and at the end, she goes, as a parent, I want to protect children. Not my children, children. As a parent, I want to protect children. So the language here is really suggesting that it's not just her saying, you know, as a mother, I'm asking you to stop. She's trying to make this relatable for him and pull in his family man role or part into this situation. Brilliant. Then we cut to Harry talking about, you know, the way his mom did certain things. And he says she felt compelled to talk about it. Again, with that eyebrow flash. Again, for emphasis, she felt compelled to talk about it. And I think he's preparing us because he's about to draw some parallels between Princess Diana and Meghan Markle. And I think here he's suggesting that even my mom, at some point, was just compelled to come out and talk about it. And that's no different than what we, more specifically Meghan Markle, is doing right now. I saw things, I experienced things, I learned things. The pain and suffering of women marrying into this institution. So when I got to meet Em, I was terrified of her being driven away by the media. The same media that had driven so many other people away from me. So again here, we're getting more of that parallel between Diana and Meghan. And again, we're getting a lot of B-roll to cover the body language. We're not getting much with the body language. Quite a bit of eyebrow flashing there again. So these are important points he's making. And one line stood out to me, the pain and suffering of women marrying into this institution. So he's trying to take what we feel for his mom or the situation his mom was in and repurpose it to Meghan. At the end, we get a very distinct facial expression. It's almost unmistakable as he talks about the media who drove everyone else away from him. It starts towards the end of when he's speaking, but then he stops talking and we see it very clearly as he has this crooked, kind of the one side of the mouth is going here like this. We're seeing that bit of a tension here, that line with that one line accentuated on one side. This is unmistakable. This is the facial expression of contempt. Contempt is the only universal emotion that is not symmetrical on the face. Most other universal emotions, all other universal emotions, because we're not consciously doing them, they just come out as symmetric. We're not really controlling it. So smiles or anger or sadness or whatever it is, typically symmetric. Contempt is the only one that's not. And it looks like this. It's either that lip that goes up like this with that line or sometimes it's the triangular corner of the mouth like this. Quick note, because I get this a lot in the comments whenever I talk about this, I can't emphasize enough that contempt is the only universal emotion that's not symmetric. There's tons of other stuff that are not symmetric. And I get this in the comments all the time. I go, no, hold on a second. Sometimes when I concentrate or when I'm suspicious or when I'm flirting or all these different things, but these are not universal expressions of emotion. In other words, one person focusing might look very different from another person focusing. One person flirting or being playful might look very different from another person being playful. But contempt looks the same pretty much anywhere in the world. And most people on this planet would recognize that as being contemptuous, even in isolated tribes. So it's the only universal emotion that's not symmetric. It's not the only expression that's not symmetric. I accept that there'll be people around the world who fundamentally disagree with what I've done and how I've done it. But I knew that I had to do everything I could to protect my family, especially after what happened to my mom. You know, I didn't want history to repeat itself. So a few things here. First and foremost, I must say this is the most I remember wishing that a camera would just stay on someone. Because there are things here I would like to see. With this body language, this facial expression, they just keep cutting away from it. And we're just getting little bits and it's aggravating. But there's enough there to spot a few things. First and foremost, his priorities. So his priority is to protect his family. He wants to be a protector. And I think there's a part of him, and this is sad, there's a part of him who wants to redeem himself or get redemption for the loss of his mom. He was too young, he couldn't do anything. I bet there are times where he wonders if there's something he could have done different. And I think he really doesn't want it to repeat. I mean, he even literally says it. I'm not really doing much analysis there. He says he didn't want history to repeat itself. And I think he really means that. So I think he really puts a lot of emphasis on being that protector. There's a gesture there as he says, I knew I had to do everything I could to protect my family. As he says, everything I could, we see the head going like this. Now, the head shaking no is one of the most misunderstood gestures in body language, in all of body language. So often I see in comments on social media, people saying, oh, when they said that they were shaking their head like this, it means they're lying. And I just, because first of all, there's nothing, there isn't a single gesture that can allow you to know that someone's lying. If you've been told that, if you're under the impression that there's something out there with the eyes, the mouth, the nose, the hands, the head, whatever it is, that will allow you to know that someone's lying, it does not exist. Least of all a head shaking like this, because this can happen in a lot of contexts. It can sometimes indicate inner conflict, but it's really a far cry to say that when someone does this, it means they're being deceptive about what they're saying. Absolutely not true. In social situations, when we see the head going like this, typically it means one of four things and all four start with the letters D-I-S, dis. And they are disapproval, disbelief, disappointment, or disagreement. Now here's the challenge with this. It's very difficult in this context to try to figure out why his head is doing that, because there are a lot of possibilities. So here are a few places that my mind went with this as possibilities. The first is, so it's happening as he says, I knew I had to do everything I could to protect my family. So it's really on everything I could. So could it be disappointment in himself and maybe a bit of disbelief with everything I could, insinuating that he doesn't feel that he did everything he could? And even if that's what it is, there's kind of two paths. First is it, he didn't do everything he could to protect Megan and his children right now, you know, because they're all over the news and history seems to be repeating itself in his eyes. Or is he still thinking about his mother and going, he doesn't feel like he did everything he could to protect her, so now he's trying to redeem himself. Another place I went with this is disbelief of what happened to his mom. Still till today, thinking about his mom, he can't believe what happened and maybe struggling with the thought of that happening again. So it's possible that we're seeing this, you know, I have to do everything I could so that that won't happen, but he's having a hard time with that image. The third possibility for me is that in his head he's thinking, there's nothing I wouldn't do. So when he's saying, you know, I knew that I had to do everything I could, like in his head he's going, there's literally nothing I wouldn't do and that's the gesture that's coming out, like there's nothing off the table. So let me know in the comments, what do you think? Which of these three theories do you like? Which one do you think fits better? Or do you have another reason as to why this might be happening? Again, I always say this, you know, body language gives us clues, rarely does it give us a specific answer as to what's going on and in this case, there could be a lot of possibilities as to why the head is doing that. I'm getting on the plane and I'm going to the middle of the bush. What? What am I doing? Like, what if we don't like each other and then we're stuck in the middle of the bush in a tent? In the middle of the night, just like hear this rustling. See the shadow, I'm like, oh my God, what is that? It's like an elephant munching leaves above the tent and the shadow, I'm like, are we safe? It's fine. He's like, we're fine. Promise I'll keep you safe. And I believed him. You put a lot of faith and a lot of trust in me. I did, true. Okay, first and foremost, notice how the important thing for him there is that she put faith in him to protect her. This could be a big part of the reason why their romance was ignited very quickly because even she's putting emphasis on that right at the end. How important it was that she felt safe with him and look at that. For him, that's so important. That's the thing he latches onto. Like he found a woman that he can protect the way he couldn't do with his mom. Okay, now we're going to go based on that clip into something that relates to my professional experience as a performer. Entertaining people with the seeming ability to read their mind. And mentalists are very open about the fact that we're using trickery, nonverbal communication, psychology, and we can't really read your mind. But the roots of mentalism are magic. So mentalists are basically magicians who focus a lot more on tricks that make it seem like we can read your thoughts and we know things about you. And it's where I apply a lot of my behavioral and body language analysis stuff. So that being said, throughout my career, I've studied all kinds of magic and mentalism and performance. And there is a massive difference in the way that kids magicians speak to their younger audiences and the way magicians or mentalists who work mostly with adults speak to their audiences. And there are three very big differences. One of them is exaggerated facial expressions. So when you look at a kid's magician, all their expressions are super exaggerated. As something surprising happens and something funny happens, everything is purposely exaggerated. The second is a purposeful shift in cadence and tone. So if you look at an adult performer, magician, or even just an adult talking to other adults, yes, there are ups and downs and emphasis. But if you look at a kid's magician, they'll go up here as they talk about something and then down here as they talk about something else. And the third is exaggerated illustrators. So in body language, illustrators are the gestures we make to emphasize our points. And when we talk normally, some people are very animated with their hands, so you might see a lot of movement there. But when adults are speaking or when you look at, once again, a performer doing shows for older audiences, these gestures are typically pretty contained. Whereas with kids magicians, once again, it's big, exaggerated gestures with this over here and that over there and that and all these big, broad gestures that really illustrate something, really create big images. So why am I talking about this and what is the huge relevance to what we're seeing on this screen? Here's what it is. Occasionally, you have magicians who do both types of performance. They do family shows, kids shows, and at night, they might do a show for adults. And every now and then, you see one who brings those same mannerisms from the kid's show to the adult's show. And the show feels very corny, very fake. Adults do not like to be spoken to the way kids are spoken to. And we know this. We study this. We stay away from this. And that distinction, that fact that we know that adults don't like to be spoken to the way children are spoken to is the reason that I believe a lot of people, even if they don't really know why, do not like Meghan Markle. Because she speaks the way you would speak to children. So look at the way she's telling that story. I hear her wrestling. And I look up, what is that? And she's whispering. And then she's over here. And oh my God, with the elephant. And it's so emphasized, it's so exaggerated that subconsciously, it feels fake. And she doesn't only do this when she tells stories. She does this a lot when she talks. The facial expressions are exaggerated. The gestures are exaggerated. But then she might start whispering at some point. This is also the reason a lot of people compare her to Amber Heard. Because Amber Heard does those things a lot as well. And I'm not saying, by the way, I'm not saying that for a fact it makes someone fake. Like I'm not saying for a fact that this is an indication that she is fake. I'm just saying that because she does this, it subconsciously rubs people the wrong way. In fact, I bet that there are a lot of viewers, and you can confirm in the comments, who watched that clip just then and just felt irritated. And you weren't sure why. But something about it just made you go, oh, this is something I don't like about the way this story's being told. Okay, this is a really good spot to throw in this disclaimer that is something that's really important for me to tell you. So this is not the first video I've made about Harry and Meghan. And in the last video that I made about them, there were people in the comments who said, oh, you obviously hate Meghan, and you just want to attack her. And like everyone else, you just want to take her down. And in that exact same video, in that same video, there were some comments that said, oh, well, obviously you love Meghan, and all you want to do is defend her. But you're not talking about what's really going on with her. And I'll tell you exactly why I got those two types of comments. It's because I make an effort, not just with this analysis, but with all my analysis videos, to stay right in the middle, to be objective. So if you want the honest truth, whether I despise Meghan or I love Meghan, it's neither. She's just someone that I think has interesting behaviors, and I can analyze those behaviors, and I can tell you that there are times where she's a little extra, and she feels fake, and there are times where I feel she's concealing things, and she does act like a diva at times, but it doesn't mean that I hate her and I despise her because of that. Now, that being said, if you have reasons that she rubs you the wrong way, you don't like her, or you feel like she's done something to put out negativity in this world, I absolutely respect that. On the other hand, if you feel like she's being unfairly treated and that people are criticizing or over-criticizing her a little too much, I can respect that too. This is the problem with being in the gray area and trying to stay objective. When I try to stay in the middle, anyone who hates Meghan and is over here looks at me and feels like I love Meghan, and anyone who's over here who loves Meghan looks at me over here and feels like I hate Meghan. So it's kind of weird because if I pick one side, at least half the people will get along with me, but when I'm in the middle, it's almost like everyone disagrees with me. So please keep that in mind. When I try to stay objective in my analysis, I try to remove all emotion from it and just look at the behaviors because the moment I let my emotions affect me, it skews me one way or the other, and I don't wanna do that. So if at any point you feel like I'm defending her or attacking her, I'm really not, I'm just pointing out behaviors. That's what I do. Nine or 10 paps standing in the middle of the street, and they were all sort of blocking the car by saying like, hey, how are you doing, Meghan? I was like, oh, thanks, stay warm, guys. And I remember H the next day saying, you can't talk to them. And I was like, I'm just trying to be pleasant. Like, I don't know what to do. I've never dealt with this before. He's like, right, but the UK media are saying you love it. You're smiling, you love it. Hold on, the media thought that the woman who pursued a career in acting liked attention and cameras? Why would they think that? Of course she likes the camera and the attention. This is someone who chose a career as an actress. It's such a weird statement to me, or more so like a weird thing for him to have said, to said like, they think you like the cameras. Yeah, she's an actress. She does like the cameras. There's nothing wrong with that. You know, a lot of people like the cameras. She's one of them. So anyways, I thought that was a weird thing for him to have said. Let's look at the body language here. When she's talking about the communication she had with the paparazzi, she's talking about one of her earlier experiences. We see an illustrator there as she's talking about that exchange, but in most cases we illustrate with open fingers as we talk like this. We very rarely illustrate with closed hands like this. Unless we're holding something, you know, like I might be holding a glass of wine and I'm talking to you or my keys, but here, and even if we're sitting like this, we tend to open up as we illustrate. This is a very rare thing. Fingers come in when we're feeling negative emotions. You know, it could be anger or aggression. Obviously, if we're, you know, when we're angry, you know, we might make fists to fight, but often even when we're just feeling a little insecure, those fingers come in just to be a little more protected. Things come inwards again when we're feeling vulnerable. So, you know, she is seeing that as an unpleasant confrontation. I don't know if that's the way she perceived it back then or now thinking back on it, it feels like this confrontation, but that to me is a pretty confrontational gesture with the hands like that. Then when she shifts to talk about herself and her response, those fists open up a little, not enormously, but the exact amount that would happen when you relax. When the hands are relaxing, we're feeling a little more comfortable. So it's very possible that she saw that like from their side, it was a confrontation. But then as she talks about herself, in her head, she was trying to be polite or she was trying to be kind. So the hands relax a little. They do come together. And I'm not seeing an over amount of like pacifying or stress. Maybe it's simply because she's saying stay warm. So like she's kind of illustrating like staying warm, you know, bundling up. It's possible. But there's an eyebrow flash there. As she says, stay warm guys, there's an eyebrow flash. And I'm going back and forth as to what this might be. It could be the eyebrow flash that as she's remembering what she said to them, she gave them that eyebrow flash of approval, like stay warm, like she's trying to be kind. But it can also be that she's trying to gain our approval. Like I told them, you know, I was kind to them. It seems like she's looking right at the director or whoever's sitting behind the cameras. She goes, and I was like, stay warm guys. Like I was being nice to them. Please approve, love me, accept me. So, you know, that could be the eyebrow flash for that. When we get to that second part where she's talking about what Harry said to her, there's a ton of stuff with the body language. First, we get two eyebrow flashes. The first is on, you can't talk to them. And I think that's two things. Emphasis, like that's what he said, you can't talk to them. But also a little bit of surprise. She was surprised by like, you can't talk to them. We also get right in that part an eye flutter as she's talking about that. An eye flutter is something we see when we're processing information. Like either we're having a hard time getting words out or having a hard time acknowledging something someone says, but that quick flutter is processing information. So quite simply, or it could be that she was just trying to process like, what am I supposed to do? And the other really distinct thing that we see in that moment is a classic display of genital blocking. So when we're feeling attacked or vulnerable, because as a species, our main purpose is to survive and to procreate, we are very defensive over our reproductive organs. So with men very often, you might see if they're feeling unconfident. Those hands might go in front of them like this and they might block it or hold something in that area. But with women, a very common gesture we see is one arm across gripping the other arm like this. Like this. And you know, this is different. This could just be comfortable. You know, arms across are very comfortable. But this is really protecting those reproductive organs and it's something we rarely see in moments of comfort. And if you look at hers, there's a pretty tight grip on the right hand. We could see that. So I think this conversation just made her feel defensive. She didn't really understand it. She had a hard time with it. And she's just kind of trying to figure out what to do in that moment. But there is vulnerability here. So this debate that they had is also a really great opportunity to talk about something else. And I don't think enough people think about this. And here's what it is. A lot of people say that, oh, they're used to being in front of the camera. But they're used to being in front of the camera for two very different reasons. And when we overemphasize the similarity, we ignore the very important differences. So Harry has been used to being in front of a camera since he was born. But that camera was press, paparazzi. It was part of his decor. It was just part of his life. They were just always there. So to him, a camera is a cue to just live, to be himself. And we see that reflected in his comfort in front of the camera. Yes, there are times where it seems like he's being deceptive or there are things that he might be hiding. But most of the time, he's just himself. That's what a camera is to him. To her, she pursued a career in acting. She went looking for that camera. She wanted the camera. That's the first difference. He didn't go looking for it. It was just part of his life. She went looking for it. The second difference is, to her, a camera is a signal to put on the role, to act. To him, it's a signal to just be himself. So it's very different, and this is why sometimes we get that contrast where we feel she's really, really fake because, to her, that's her entire experience. When the camera's on, we act. Even when Will and Kate came over and I had met her for the first time, they came over for dinner, I remember I was in ripped jeans and I was barefoot. It's like I was a hugger. Always been a hugger. I didn't realize that that is really jarring for a lot of Brits. There is a forward-facing way of being. And then you close the door and you go, oh, great, okay, we can relax now. But that formality carries over on both sides. And that was surprising to me. Okay, there is a lot there. Like, a lot, a lot. First, when she talks about, you know, I'm a hugger, I was a hugger, and when she's talking about when she went to hug them or she's thinking about when she went to hug them, we see a little cluster there. First, we see a flutter. The eyes flutter. As her head goes back, like she's taken aback, and she licks her lips. We see a lip lick. So this is processing, taken aback, and lip licking is typically stress. So I think she's remembering that and how stressed she was and how taken aback she was that hugging was unacceptable or wasn't the norm. Then she goes on to say something that I've been debating with myself. And here's my debate. So it's at the end where she goes, you know, you have all those formalities when you go out there and you behave a certain way, and then behind the closed doors, you're like, okay, I can relax now. And to me, this caused the debate. Because one half of me is going, did you just admit that you put on the front when you're out there, you know, in public? Did you just confirm what a lot of people think, that there's this kind of fake, exaggerated, not real you, and then that you're someone else behind closed doors? That was my first impression. But then the other impression that I had was, yeah, but I kind of get it. Like, you know, you're with royalty. You're surrounded by royalty. There are certain ways that things have to be done. And so it kind of makes sense that in that environment, you have to behave a certain way. And then behind closed doors, you can just relax and be yourself again. And I think that side of me won a little bit more, but made me realize that it's more so about the fact that she didn't grow up around this. So to people who did, there's gonna be less of a difference between those two behaviors. It's second nature to them. But there, it's like night and day. And honestly, a part of me kind of feels for that situation. Because think about it. When that happens, she's faced with a choice. Choice one, be what they want you to be. So do everything you're supposed to do. But when she does that, people call her fake. She's fake. Oh my God, she's so fake. If she doesn't do that, and she sticks to who she is, and she's more casual, then she's disrespectful. So it's a really difficult position to be in. And again, I think it highlights the fact that the problem is that she's just not accustomed to those behaviors. So she sticks out like a sore thumb. And it kind of irritates people. Because there's no way she can handle this to where she's not going to get criticism. Now, that being said, there is something else in that clip that she said that, I'm having a really hard time believing. And even if I believe it, it's not a great look. And here's what it is. If you're being introduced to royalty, to, at that time, second hair to the throne, because she's meeting William and Catherine, that either Harry would have said something. You know, knowing how she is, knowing that she's casual, he would have said something. Like, it's not proper to wear this. You know, you should do this. Here's how you should greet them. Like, something to prepare her. And if he didn't, you would expect that she would ask. You know, out of respect. Sorry, out of respect. I would expect someone to say, oh, by the way, listen. I know this is really important. This is your brother. What do I do? Is there a way I should greet him? Is there something I should wear? So the fact that she's going, oh, it was just, you know, they came over for dinner. And I'm just barefoot, ripped jeans. And it's like, really? Were you, though? Like, you didn't ask? Nobody told you? So I'm struggling with that. I'm struggling to believe that they didn't have that conversation. Nobody told her that she didn't know. And I'm also, like, if that is the case, she didn't ask, out of respect. You know, I would. If you were gonna take me right now to meet royalty, I would say, listen, what do I bring? What do I wear? What's customary? How do I show respect? How do I show gratitude? Like, I would ask you. Forget royalty. I would do that if you were gonna introduce me to your parents. If you were gonna take me to a party with your family, I would ask all these questions. So, yeah, it's not a great look for me that she didn't care. My grandmother was the first senior member of the family that Meghan met. She had no idea what it all consisted of. So it was a bit of a shock to the system for her. Okay, now we have Prince Harry talking about when she met the Queen. And it's much of the same idea, that, like, it was a shock to her and she didn't know what to expect. But, again, like a part of me would expect that anybody who was in a situation where they're gonna meet the Queen would be given certain instructions. Because they asked, that would be number one. Again, I would ask. If not, I would like to think he would have told her. If not, I would like to think that some staff member would have said, okay, this woman's gonna meet the Queen. Let's, you know, prep her as to what she's supposed to do. So I have a hard time believing that. Also, his behavior here is highly suspicious. A lot's going on. Now, again, please remember that no behavior or no amount of behavior can indicate for sure that someone's lying. But there are certain behaviors that when we see in clusters, indicate increased stress, therefore increased odds of deception. Never certainty. But there's a lot here. For example, we have a lip lick, which happens in stress. We have a quick lip lick here. And once again, that corrects stress and also grooms to make us look more presentable. Second, we have a face touch. One of the most researched indicators of deception because in stress, the blood flow of the face actually shifts and it does cause a tingling sensation. So face touching. Then he hesitates quite a bit. And he repeats a bit of a three times. And that is, first of all, speech disfluency, when our words kind of fall apart on us a little bit. Second of all, hesitation. Third of all, verbal leaks. There's that hesitation, all these things. These are all things where I'm thinking about what I'm supposed to say or I'm trying to sell my story. My brain is working overload. I'm stressed. So he's very stressed about this. Now, could it be that he's simply stressed because he's thinking back to how awkward it was and how stressful it was for him that she was just meeting the queen and didn't know? Absolutely, it could be that. But take these behaviors and combine it with the fact that I simply have a hard time believing that nobody prepped her a little bit. Oh, and by the way, I'm sure that there are tons of people watching this who know Royal Protocol, who know if it would have been likely for her to have been prepped. Please let us know in the comments. I think it would. It doesn't make sense for me that she wouldn't. But let me know. Maybe it's like, no, you know, they just let people go high-five the queen. Like, I don't know. But, you know, I find it unreasonable that nobody prepped her. That makes sense. Americans will understand this. We have medieval times, dinner and tournament. It was like that. Like, I curtsied as though I was like, pleasure to meet you, your majesty. Like, was that okay? So we start with a stop gesture with her hand as she goes, Americans will understand this. Like, this isn't for English people. This joke is only for Americans. So stop gesture is when the fingers come out like this. And it's typically like something like, you know, something startles you and you might do this. But it's also a signal to people to like, I got this. Like, this doesn't involve you. So that's what we're seeing here. And then she proceeds to mock something that is traditionally something that the British do. Courtesy, bowing. This is something that shows respect. So it's kind of a misplaced mockery in my opinion, especially when you're talking about the tradition of royalty. This is his family we're talking about. This is the customs he has been raised around that we're talking about. So she does this exaggerated bow and it's mockery. And you look at him and, you know, you don't need me to tell you what's going on in his head. As he's looking at her, at first he's not smiling and you can't really see the left side of his face, but you can almost feel that that left side might be going with that contemptuous look. You kind of feel it in the way he's looking at her. He's looking down like, what is this? And then he kind of forces out like a smile, but it's not a genuine happy, I find this funny smile. It's kind of an awkward, tight-lipped kind of, okay, let's move on from this. Smile and he turns away from it and kind of looks down. I don't think he's loving this at all, nor should he. I am very rarely certain when it comes to drawing conclusions from behavior. But there's something with this that I am, well, not certain, but so convinced of that I would bet a lot of money. I would bet my car on this. She's told this joke before this way to American friends of hers and it hit. It landed well. And that's why she's presenting it with such confidence and saying, this is for the Americans. But yeah, to me, it just, it feels a little disrespectful to mock this tradition that's so important. Forget royalty, but to your husband's family. I was just so amazed and proud of her that like, you know, you fall down, you get back up and she just kept going and going and going. All I wanted was to be on a TV show with longevity and consistency. Okay, I'm gonna preface this one by saying that she was talking specifically about her early career, what she wanted towards the beginning of her career. And then she goes on to say that what she wanted changed and evolved. But you know, for me in my head, the question that keeps coming up is, how far does the apple fall from the same apple earlier that day? You know what I mean? Like, yeah, we change, we mature, we evolve. The things we want out of life definitely change. But do things that we wanted so fundamentally, you know, in our adult life, really go away? Or do they just change into a different way of presenting themselves? So when she's saying, you know, that at the time, all I wanted was to be on a TV show with longevity, you know, like multiple seasons, she's saying that there was a time where she just wanted to be in front of that camera. But does someone like that really step that far away from that desire? I don't think so. Anyone I know, all my performer friends, that fire never really goes away. It evolves, but it's still there. Now we're going to go on to look at the other episodes and go really much more into a lot of the controversies and things like that. But right now it's just more of the beginning stuff. And I think that last clip is just a really great way to sum it up for me. I think she does like the attention. I do think that her focus is very much in words and on herself. And I think this is the reason she rubs people the wrong way. Some people look at that kind of thing, oh, whatever, you know, it's Hollywood, it is the way it is. And a lot of people look at it and go, well, I just can't stand that. And then when she's coming into the monarchy, to some people this is sacred grounds. They just can't accept this kind of person and it affects them personally. And that's fine too. There's ways we can have these conversations in the comments without, no, you're wrong, you're an idiot, no, no, no. We all have our different opinions. And we're all affected differently by this. Because Meghan Markle entering the royal family has different repercussions for different people. So whatever your perspective is on this, total respect. Hope you enjoyed this analysis and that there were certain things that were clarified with the behavior. I look forward to seeing you in parts two and three for the rest of the episodes. Let me know in the comments what you thought. See you on the next one.