Pastor: 'Queer Is God’s Design' & 'Hell Doesn’t Exist.' Let’s Debunk | Ep 1373

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Allie responds to the "pastor for queer ministry" at Trinity Lutheran Church (ELCA), who claims no one is going to hell for being gay, denies that hell is a real place, calls Christianity the "religion of bigotry," and declares "queer is God's design." She examines what Jesus actually taught about hell and eternal punishment, what the Bible says about homosexuality, and why God's design for marriage and sexuality has never changed. Also, Allie answers viewer questions of reading other religious texts, nursing throughout the night, and a female pastor at a Christian preschool.
Queer is God's design. That is what one preacher from South Carolina is blasphemously saying from
his pulpit, as well as all different kinds of things about hell. And this might sound crazy,
but chances are your friends, especially the progressive ones, believe some of this stuff.
So we will be giving you the responses to some of the things that he was saying in his sermon
that is now circulating online in today's episode of Relatable, as well as answering some of your
questions via voicemail about preschool and sleep training and lots of good stuff. We've
got all of that and more on today's episode of Relatable. Hey y'all, welcome to Relatable. Happy
Monday. Hope everyone had a wonderful weekend. Maybe you heard yesterday at church, hopefully
you did, something like this, that God's eternal plan of redemption is going off without a hitch.
We have every reason to have hope and have joy because we get to spend eternity with Him and
He's coming back and there's going to be no more wickedness, no more sadness, no more cancer,
no more abortion, no more oppression, no more blasphemy, like some of the things we're going
to talk about today, no more craziness. Everything is going to be in perfect order, in perfect peace,
forever and ever. We will get to spend forever with Jesus and with the body of Christ and we
can rejoice in that. Yes and amen, no matter what is going on in your life, no matter what is going
on in the world, God is seeking and saving the lost. He is advancing the cause of righteousness.
He is advancing the truth of the gospel and His kingdom through the mostly unseen and unsung work
of faithful believers around the world. And you are a part of that by being a believer and living
your life every step of the way in a way that glorifies God, no matter how seemingly mundane
the next step might be. Everything done to honor the Lord echoes in eternity and it advances the
cause of Christianity, advances God's kingdom. So we are a part of something bigger than ourselves
and if you ever want to ask yourself like what is really going on, the news lies to me, I can't trust
everything that I see, what's AI, what's not, if you want to know what's really real, if you want to
know what's really going on underneath all of the headlines, what the government is telling you,
all you got to do is read the Bible. That's what's really going on at all times. If you want to go
down some kind of exciting detour from the mainstream narrative, read the Bible. That's
never going to be what the mainstream is telling you is going on. Read scripture, God's eternal
plan of redemption and how it is working out every second of every day without hindrance,
without interruption, without interference, without a hitch. It's amazing. It's a miracle.
God's eternal plan of redemption going off without a hitch.
All right, we got some craziness to get into today. It is Theology Monday and it is going to
be theology. Last Monday we had more of like a newsy episode because I had been off for a week
and we had some things that we need to catch up on, but today we're truly going to dive into some
theological subjects. Before we do that, just some administrative things. We are hiring,
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okay, I'm not even going to read that resume just because you don't have time to thoroughly read
every resume. And so there are some things that will just completely discount it right away.
If I see a resume that's sent as a Word document, I'm not going to read it. If I see a resume that
is more than one page, I'm not going to read it. Same thing with cover letter. There's no reason
for these to be more than one page. Um, and you make sure it's concise by keeping it to only the
most relevant information. So I don't need to know what GPA you got in high school. I don't need to
know what classes you took in college. I don't really need to know about your extracurriculars.
I don't need to know that you are an intern and youth group. Not that those things don't matter.
Those things are wonderful, but they're not relevant to the position I'm hiring for.
All I want to know is do you have the relevant experience, uh, for this role? All of the other
things. Are you like-minded? Are we on the same page? I can assume a little bit just from you
reaching out, but that will come out in later conversations and interviews and things like that.
What they need to know initially is do you have the relevant experience for this job?
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do not apply for a job that you do not have relevant experience for. I remember doing that
when I was at a college. I'm like, maybe just by chance, or maybe God is just going to like,
connect me to this job that I have no business applying for whatsoever, but I'm just going to
take a shot. And of course, anything is possible, but it is not a good idea. It's not a good idea.
It actually demonstrates that you probably didn't listen to the person who was saying that they are,
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for out there. All right, let's get into it. Let's get into some of this craziness. And then I'll
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there was this pastor and his sermon, if you can even call it that going around online,
woke preacher clips, he is always circulating some of the crazy things that so-called progressive
Christians are saying. The reason why I think this is relevant, I mean, this person might seem
kind of obscure. What do we care what a Lutheran preacher is saying in Greenville, South Carolina,
but it is important for us to know that wokeness did not die. It might've seemed like that after
Donald Trump became president, that they are fading into obscurity, but understand that the
people who identify as such, but I actually don't think that those two things can go together at all,
that this mentality is prevalent and that it's going to get more prevalent as people are looking
for some semblance of meaning in religion and some things about Christianity that they like
without actually having to die to self, without actually having to give up their worldly values.
You'll remember Jubilee when I sat in the middle of 20 professing liberal Christians,
and we went through all the claims on gender and sexuality and abortion and things like that.
And so I feel very, very familiar and by the grace of God equipped to handle these kinds
of arguments. And today we are going to be talking not just about the sexuality aspect,
although we will, that's a huge one when it comes to those who identify as progressive Christians,
but also the existence of hell and the definition of sin. This particular pastor says that hell
doesn't really exist as a physical place, except for the manifestation of anti-LGBTQ
discrimination here in America, that that is actually what makes hell. So let's go through
some of his claims about homosexuality, not being a sin, hell not existing. And I want to try to
help you think through these and give you words and tools so that you can respond to similar
arguments in your own life. Let's go ahead and place out four. Who had the nerve to tell you
or any of us, or this world for that matter, that being queer makes for an awful person?
What in the, he decided to buy a pet rock, paint it like a poodle, name it Percy,
and take it for walks because he was too lazy to own a real pet, was he thinking when he told you
this? And I assume that it was a man because in most cases it always is. Why has Christianity,
the religion of a humble brown-skinned immigrant from Nazareth, become the religion of bigotry?
Who had the nerve to tell any of us that we would be going to hell for the way God created us to be?
Okay, there's a lot there. We're just going to ignore Percy and the pet rock thing for
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We're going to play another clip of that, another part of a sermon in just a second,
but we got to break this down. Who had the nerve to tell you or any of us or the world
that being queer makes for an awful person? I assume it was a man who had the nerve to
tell any of us that we would be going to hell for the way God created us to be.
Here's the answer. Who told us that it's possible for us to go to hell? Who told us that hell
exists? Jesus did. And it's not just people who are gay. As Romans 3.23 tells us, all have sin
and fall short of the glory of God. That said, we'll circle back to the question of homosexuality
as a sin in just a second. Let's talk about the existence of hell. The Bible explains that hell
is eternal, fiery punishment for sin. One misconception is that Jesus never talks about
eternal punishment, but Jesus himself actually refers to hell multiple times in the New Testament.
He refers to hell far more than he refers to heaven. Matthew 23.33, to the Pharisees,
you serpents, you brood of vipers, how are you to escape being sentenced to hell?
And one thing I just want to say about the Pharisees, because I see another misconception
a lot, especially among those who call themselves progressives, is that while the Pharisees were
the religious people, and that's why Jesus didn't like them, Pharisees were in authority. And so
that's why Jesus bucked against them. They were keepers of the law. And that's why Jesus had a
problem with them because he was some kind of rebel. Jesus didn't care about religion. He didn't
care about law. He didn't care about rules. He cared just about relationship. That is a
misconception of what Jesus came to do. Jesus came to fulfill the law. Yes. And so we are not bound
to the cleansing and ceremonial law of the Old Testament that has been fulfilled in Christ,
but he doubles down upon the moral law. What he points out with the Pharisees and with the
Sadducees and some of the religious leaders at the time is not that, hey, you're too good
at keeping the law. His problem was the hypocrisy. His problem was that they didn't understand that
the law is also about your heart posture, that obedience to God starts on the inside. That's why
he says, if you look at a woman lustfully, you have already committed adultery. That is not Jesus
saying, oh, you're keeping the law too well, you law keepers. He's saying, no, you are law breakers
down to your heart. You don't even understand the spirit of the law. And so I just want you
to understand that, that his message to the Pharisees is not a message to religious people.
It's a message to rebellious people. It's a message to people like the Pharisees who are not
truly following God. They might be honoring God through lip service, through their external
appearances or saying that they are, but in their heart, they don't believe in his authority.
Mark 9 43 through 48. And if your hand causes you to sin, cut it off. It's better for you to enter
life crippled with two hands than to go to hell, to the unquenchable fire, Jesus calls it. And if
your foot causes you to sin, cut it off. It is better for you to enter life lame than with two
feet to be thrown into hell. And if your eye causes you to sin, tear it out. It is better for
you to enter the kingdom of God with one eye than with two eyes to be thrown into hell where their
worm does not die and the fire is not quenched. And so this preacher, when he mocks the idea
of hell and the existence of hell, he is mocking Jesus's own words.
Jesus calls hell the unquenchable fire. Luke 12 four through five. I tell you, my friends,
do not fear those who kill the body and after that have nothing more that they can do. But I
will warn you whom to fear. Fear him who after he has killed, has authority to cast into hell.
Fear God. Of course, there is also good news is that yes, there is a hell and there is also
a heaven. John 3 16 tells us that whoever believes in him and Jesus will not perish,
but have everlasting life. We get reconciliation to God. We get spared from that eternal punishment,
not because of anything we do, but because of what God has done for us through Christ.
We read that in Ephesians two as well. And so, yes, there is a hell and the hope that we have
to escape the flames of hell, the just punishment that we deserve for our sin is found in Jesus.
That's the mercy, not in glossing over hell's existence or the existence of sin.
The next claim that he makes Christianity has become this religion of bigotry. He says,
why is Christianity the religion of a humble brown skinned immigrant from Nazareth become
their religion of bigotry? So here we see the intersectionality. If someone is brown skinned,
if someone is an immigrant, that they must also be accepting of homosexuality and transgenderism
and all of these things. This is critical theory, queer theory being projected onto the Bible.
This is not Christianity. This is not someone who loves God and his authority and wants to
read the Bible asking, how can I glorify God? This is someone who wants to use a religious text to
justify sin, to justify and to downplay what God calls an abomination. That is blasphemy.
Okay. His problem here is not with Christians. It's with Jesus. It is Jesus who says in Matthew
19, four through five, that God created us in the beginning, male and female,
and joined us together in marriage as one flesh. It is God in his word that calls homosexuality
depravity. As we read in Romans one, this preacher is confusing biggest bigotry with the establishment
of right and wrong, which God establishes, not us. And if God is love, first John four, eight,
then nothing he says or does can be hateful or bigoted. He goes on to say more interesting things
about hell because of how America treats LGBTQ people. Apparently America is how he says here
self-life. Who in the world had the nerve to tell us that hell is actually real.
It is not a real place. It is not in the Bible. It is not of God. It is not a real place,
except for the literal reality being enacted in 2026 against all number of people who don't
fall into the right category. A literal hell of flames is 100% completely absurd,
more absurd than the dumb pet rock joke I just made. So who had the nerve to tell any of you
that you're too queer, that you're too masculine, too gay, too feminine, or simply too much?
Don't they know, look at your bulletin cover, queer is God's design. It's so interesting to me
that the people who are attending that church and all of these churches, like James Tallarico's
church down in Austin, that they're old. Sorry, not anything against older people,
but I just think it's strange. We see progressivism as something that is younger,
but they're always very sparse elderly crowds in these mainline progressive churches. I just
find that, yeah, see, you can see right there. I just find that so strange.
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who in the world had the nerve to tell us that hell is actually real? It is not a real place.
It is not in the Bible. It is not of God. Okay. Again, his problem here is with Jesus. Hell is
of God because it is his judgment. Now it's not of God in that it's good and wonderful. And it's
not that. It is that it is a place that exists because of his justice and because of his judgment
and because of his wrath. Matthew 25, 41. Depart from me, you cursed, into the eternal fire,
prepared for the devil and his angels. That's Jesus. Second Thessalonians 1, 6-8. Indeed,
God considers it just to repay with affliction those who afflict you, Christians, and to grant
relief to you who are afflicted as well as to us. When the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven and
his mighty angels in flaming fire, inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on
those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus. And for those who are like, gosh, this
just seems so terrible. I want you to think about all of the horrible things that go on in the
world. All of the injustices, the crimes that happen against children. I want you to think
of the sweet Christians, their babies, their children who are being beheaded, who are being
dismembered in places like the Sudan and Nigeria. I want you to think about horrors of things like
the Holocaust, all of the terrible things that go on. And I want you to listen to that feeling that
you have inside of you that wants things to be made right, that wants the bad guy to be exposed,
to be caught, and to get his comeuppance. That is natural. We feel that when we're reading a book,
we feel that when we're watching a movie, we feel that when we turn on the news. When will the
evildoer get his recompense? I think that is natural in all of us because it is a longing
for something that will manifest itself in eternity, that one day everything will be made
right. That the enemy, that those who wage evil, those who hurt the vulnerable, those who are
exploiting, those who can't help themselves, that one day they will be punished. If not for the
grace and the coverage that is given to them by Jesus, they will be punished. Satan, his minions,
all of those who practice those works of darkness that have caused so much bloodshed
and oppression for years and years and years, God will do away with it. All of us want that.
You want that. You want the bad guy to lose, and you want goodness to win. Now,
progressive, conservative, you could disagree on who that is. Ultimately, it's not up to us.
It's not about our political enemies or our politics at all. It's about who God calls
unrighteous. And so if at all you feel like a struggle with that, think about the worst things
that go on in the world. Don't you want those people to pay? You want them to repent? Yes.
But if not that, you want them to pay. Evil is not going to be tolerated forever. And that's
actually really good news. That's hope that we have. Hebrews 12, 28 through 29. Therefore,
let us be grateful for receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken. And thus let us offer to God
acceptable worship with reverence and awe for our God is a consuming fire. And that's just to say,
that's not saying that in that case, we're talking about hell, but we are talking about
fear of God. We are talking about a God who doesn't tolerate unrighteousness,
who won't tolerate evil forever. Romans 5, 5. But because of your heart and impenitent heart,
you are storing up wrath for yourself on the day of wrath when God's righteous judgment will be
revealed. God is holy. God is just. God is righteous. He is a doler of punishment in the
most just way possible. And that is why the gospel is such good news that he has sent us a
way to escape the judgment that we deserve by sending his son, Jesus to die on the cross for
our sin to pay the price of our sin that whoever believes in him by grace through faith will not
perish, but have everlasting life. Then he goes on to make a very strange claim. This preacher,
America is hell. Hell is not a real place except for the literal reality being enacted in 2026
against all number of people who don't fall into the right category. The truth is America is the
one of the most prosperous, free, and legally protective societies in history. Is America
perfect? By no means. Unfortunately, we still have babies inside the womb who are not legally
protected. And so there are all kinds of things that we as Christians want to work toward more
justice, a better future for vulnerable people like babies inside the womb. I have a feeling
that this pastor is not including those babies who don't have equal rights under the law,
but legally can still be murdered in the United States. I have a feeling that he's talking about
something very abstract. He's talking about how America is such a horrible place for so-called
queer people, for immigrants. And yet those people never move. They never move. In fact,
you've got people migrating here by the millions every year because there's nowhere else to go.
America is one of the most prosperous, the greatest country in the world. No matter what
your background is, there's no better place. No better place for you. We have all kinds of
federal laws that prohibit different kinds of discrimination that have been written into law
for decades. Millions of people, that is part of why millions of people every year block here.
And so this idea that we are some bastion of evil or hate or bigotry,
it's just not mirrored in reality. Then he makes this horrific claim.
Queer is God's design. He said, who had the nerve to tell any of you that you're too queer,
that you're too masculine, too gay, too feminine, or simply too much? Don't they know? Look at your
bulletin cover. Queer is God's design. I think it's telling that he has to point to the bulletin
cover and can't actually point to the Bible. God's design from the beginning was marriage as
a union between a man and a woman. And we read this earlier. We paraphrased this earlier. We
were talking about Jesus and how he defines marriage, but he is answering questions about
divorce. And he goes all the way back to the beginning and decides to define marriage according
to the creation account. Jesus says, have you not read? Have you not read? That's how you answer
progressive, by the way. Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them
male and female and said, therefore, a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to
his wife and the two shall become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What
therefore God has joined together, let not man separate. And I just want to point out something
because I do meet people who profess to be Christians who really discount the importance
of scripture, of memorizing scripture. That's why I'm so thankful for my evangelical upbringing.
From a very early age, you are learning scripture, scripture, scripture,
scripture, memorization, memorizing the books of the Bible, memorizing John 3, 16,
memorizing Genesis 1, 1, Genesis 1, 27. So many pieces of scripture. You guys ask me all the time,
how do you recount so quickly and recall these Bible verses? It's because I went to Christian
school. It's because I went to church multiple times a week. Of course, I had Christian parents
too, but Bible memorization in the evangelical world is emphasized from such an early age.
And I see people, especially from other traditions, kind of discounting that. It's
not really important, but do you read the words of Jesus? If you read the words of Jesus, you will
see so many times, have you not read? Have you not read? And how does he rebut Satan? When Satan
tries to twist God's word, the way that this pastor does, he cites God's word. He cites the
word of God. Jesus cites the word of God back to Satan to declare God's authority.
Jesus knew the word not only because he was the word himself, but because he had also
in his human form studied the word. And that's a model to us. The way you know how to rebut,
the way you know, just intuitively how to get to the answer to these very strange statements
that progressives make, some are, which are a lot trickier than this, is have you not read?
You read the word of God. You know the word of God. There's no other way to do it.
Homosexuality is by definition against God's design. Scripture describes it as an abomination,
unnatural, explains the penalty for persisting in this sin, just as persisting in other sins,
in rebellion to God is hell. That is the result. Of course, the Old Testament says this. It was
so forbidden that it was called an abomination in Leviticus 18, 22. And then we see, of course,
in the story of Sodom and Gomorrah that they were destroyed because of this sin, not the sin
of a lack of hospitality, but because of this sin, because of this form of sexual immorality. Jude
7 emphasizes that just as Sodom and Gomorrah and the surrounding cities, which likewise indulged
in sexual immorality and pursued unnatural desire, that's also what homosexuality is
referred to in Romans 1, serve as an example by undergoing a punishment of eternal fire.
Romans 1, 26-27, God through Paul makes clear that homosexuality is actually against
God's order. 1 Corinthians 6, 9-10 emphasizes that the unrighteous, which includes all manner
of sin, the sexually immoral, idolaters, adulterers, men who practice homosexuality,
thieves, greedy, drunkards, revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God.
And so God takes very seriously sin. He takes very seriously sexual sin because it's a sin
against your own self. It is a sin against the body that God created for you. And it is a
distortion of God's created order. And in that way is unnatural. Even if someone feels that
they were born this way, even if someone feels it is innate and intuitive, it is still unnatural
and it is against God's order. People will say, Oh, you act like it's so much worse than
everything else. Or they'll say, what makes you, what, why does this make you an awful person?
I had this kind of confrontation when I was on Jubilee. It's no, no, no, it's not that
it's that we are all awful people apart from Christ. Like no matter what you've done, whether
you've only told one white lie in your sin, that sin is big enough to separate you from God.
Now, I'm not going to say that this kind of sexual sin is the exact same as every other
sin, because it is a sin against your own body. It has different, bigger consequences
than some of the other sins, but spiritually every single sin separates you from God.
It's not to say that people who are same sex attracted can't also have other wonderful
characteristics that we admire in them. It's not that it's that it is a sin. All sin separates us
from God. We are all called to deny ourselves. We are all called to deny the sins that we
struggle with, pick up our cross and follow Christ. And God gives us the grace to do that.
So you actually have to hate someone. You have to hate someone to be a Christian and not tell
them this truth. If you know that God is love and you know that God is the authority, the most
loving thing that we can do is agree with God. This pastor doesn't agree with God.
This pastor is guilty of self-idolatry and is leading himself and others to hell.
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You know, I think it's interesting to also just to look at what other people think about hell,
what people who profess to be Christians think about hell. Lifeway did a 2025 state of theology
study. Many Americans believe hell exists, but far fewer have an orthodox idea of what
sends people to hell. 62% of Americans believe there will come a day 62%. That's actually higher
than I would have thought when Jesus returns to judge everyone who has ever lived in 50% believe
hell is a real place where a certain people will be punished forever.
Again, more than I would have thought. This is down quite a bit from a few decades ago.
Barna's 2003 study on the subject show that 71% of Americans believed in hell.
Belief in a literal hell is especially common among black Protestants and evangelical Protestants
compared with Catholics. Only 64% of professing Catholics believe that there is hell
and mainline Protestants, 59%, not surprising at all. Mainline Protestants, very liberal,
most Catholics, sorry, but very liberal. Um, at the same time, relatively few Americans believe
that all people deserve hell because of even the smallest sin. Only 23% agree that even a minor
sin merits eternal condemnation. That does not surprise me. We have been told that we are innately
good, that we are all born good, um, that we have to learn bad things. Of course, that's not true.
If you have been around children, you can see that there is, you don't have to teach anyone
to lie. You don't have to teach someone to be selfish. You don't have to teach someone to try
to get their own way before they, uh, you know, put the needs of others before themselves. You
have to teach someone those things. You have to teach them virtue. If you have to cultivate
selflessness, um, and then, and so we've been taught the opposite. However, and so only 23%
believe that a minor sin merits eternal condemnation. 71% disagree. Even among Christians,
that doctrine is held by a minority. Only 38% of evangelical Protestants. Oh my gosh.
We have a doctrine and discipleship crisis in the church. 34% of black Protestants and 19%
of mainline Protestants and Catholics affirmed this idea that sin merits hell. Wow. The Bible
is clear. Even since that we may think are minor, um, are enough to keep us out of heaven because,
because God is perfectly Holy. So we can't tolerate sin. James writes for whoever keeps
the whole law, but fails in one point has become guilty of all of it. James two 10.
Similarly, Paul writes to the Romans for all have sin and fall short of the glory of God. Romans 3
23. But the good news is that we can be forgiven of our sin in Christ. That is the only way to
escape hell. Romans 6 23 says for the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in
Jesus our Lord. So that is the very, very good news. All right, now we just have time for some
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about reading other churches or religions, books of scripture, like the Koran or book of Mormon,
specifically. So I can maybe talk to my friends with other faiths and like understand their
perspective better because sometimes I feel like we use the same words, but maybe they mean
different things to, you know, to people in different faiths. So is that okay? Yeah. Just
wondering your thoughts. Thanks. I don't think it's wrong to read the Koran or the book of Mormon
as a Christian to try to really understand like a primary source for what these people believe.
I wouldn't do it alone and I wouldn't do it without your Bible. I wouldn't do it without
supplemental resources from Christians who really have studied and understood these texts,
because I think it would be easy in the book of Mormon to be like, Oh yeah, well, you know,
that kind of makes sense, but we have to be reading it as a brand. We have to be comparing
it to the word of God to make sure that everything totally aligns. We know the word of God is our
standard. And so again, I don't think it's wrong to read those texts to understand where they are
coming from, but a lot of scholars have done a lot of work, understand the historical context,
have cross-referenced these texts and that they would probably be better equipped than you or I
to be able to explain the meaning of these books and how they align with scripture. So
I don't know necessarily that you have to go to the primary source to understand
their perspective and again, do so in community, do so with the leadership and mentorship of other
mature Christians, do so alongside your Bible. I think if you do all of those things prayerfully,
then it can be okay. I also don't think it's necessary though, to evangelize to those people
in your life. Okay, let's do voicemail number two. Hi, Allie. I'm a first time mom and I
absolutely love being a mom, but I am currently staying at home. That's not the plan forever. I
am going to find a job, hopefully work from home job to be with my baby, but my husband is working.
And so because I'm nursing, I'm the one getting up with him at night to feed him. And the nights
are just really hard, but I'm the only adult awake in the house. I'm just kind of struggling
through it. And you know, I spend time reading my Bible and I have shows that I watch and things to
listen to. But I was just wondering if you had any advice for how to get through the night because
they're just a little bit hard as a first time mom to be the only grownup. Thanks. Yeah, it is
really hard. And just sleeplessness is really difficult in general. But certainly when you're
up at night and you feel lonely, you don't want to waste your time or fry your brain just scrolling
on your phone. You want something that's redemptive and good. Obviously, podcasts and sermons and all
of those things listening to the Bible can be really helpful. I think watching TV is fine.
Although that could keep you awake, that can keep your baby awake. It's probably not actually the
best thing for you to have that blue light coming into your eyes. Prayer, all of that. If there's a
can y'all send each other encouragement? Those are just some practical tips I would give you.
But then I would go beyond that and maybe tell you something that's slightly controversial,
which would be at a certain point when you are comfortable to try to establish some kind of
routine so that your baby will start sleeping through the night. I know some people are super
anti-sleep training. They think it's cruel. They think the only thing that sleep training is,
making your baby or allowing your baby to cry for hours without comfort. That is so not the kind of
sleep training we did in our house, but we did try to establish independence. We did put in place
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but it doesn't have to be like that forever. We actually waited too long with our third to
start establishing those routines. I was waking up four to five times a night by myself feeding
her because I was nursing and it was miserable. I was sick all the time. I felt awful. I was
mentally foggy. It wasn't good for me as a mom of three kids. It wasn't good just in general for my
like relationships and friendships and my ability to do this podcast. And it was really me just not
wanting to do the discipline of like of doing the proper sleep training. So when it comes time for
that, I don't know how old your baby is. I would just really, really encourage you to do that.
It is really important for you to sleep through the night as much as you possibly can. I am so
not about the co-sleeping until your kid is five. Like I know that in some crunchy circles, like
they, people think that's beautiful and awesome and great. I don't, I don't, I don't think it's
good. I don't think it's good for you. I don't think it's good for your marriage. And so just
as soon as you can start to establish those practices, disciplines, and routines to try
to get your baby to sleep through the night. Um, if your kid is chunky, by the way, if your baby
is chunky, my babies have been chunky. They're fine. They're fine. They don't need to feed,
you know, like three to four times a night. They just don't, they'll be okay until the morning.
I promise. Um, okay, let's go with voicemail number three. Hi Allie. I am calling from a small
town in South Georgia where my three kids attend the most precious little preschool we have here.
My older two daughters have graduated and they're no longer an issue here, but my son still has two
more years at this precious preschool. However, it's at a Methodist church and the Methodist
church just hired a new pastor who is a woman. I am feeling conflicted about what to do and the
message I'm sending to my son to a school where the preschool sometime affiliate, sometimes
affiliates with the pastor of the church. Please help. Thanks. It's a no from me, dog. Like,
I'd be saying no. I wouldn't, I wouldn't be sending my kid to, um, a Christian preschool
that has a woman pastor because that typically has a trickle down effect on everything else they
teach. And I just care about those doctrines, at least that are underneath the doctrines that
they're teaching my kids. I highly doubt that they'll be teaching kids about like female pastors,
about LGBTQ stuff and all of that. It probably is a precious preschool. And I also understand
just wanting to stay there for another year. I really do understand that we have had a Christian
church preschool that we had absolutely loved. We have absolutely loved for years. And I just
will always hold those teachers. So like closely in my heart. So I do understand the emotional and
even spiritual attachment that you have to the institutions that have loved your children.
However, if that church hired a female pastor, we'd be like raising a respectful ruckus for a
lot of different reasons. Um, but it just wouldn't, it wouldn't align anymore. It just, it wouldn't
align. And so I'm, I'm going to say, I'm going to say, no, I'm going to say there's probably a
Baptist, a sweet Baptist preschool in your area that is just as precious and would be just as
good for your child's socialization and education. Um, and does it have that issue of compromising
on a significant doctrine? So that's my belief in that my other controversial like opinion,
I guess, advice that I give some parents is that I think that Christian preschool is great.
Some people are anti preschool altogether. This is just an aside, by the way, obviously this caller
agrees with me on this, but I think that Christian preschool is awesome. I think it's great for your
kids. Every individual kid is different. Maybe your kid doesn't go to school until kindergarten.
They're perfectly fine. That's great. It has been so good for my kids and forming friendships and
like routines and all different kinds of things. And I love to teach them at home, but they learned
a lot there too. And so like, I just think it's really important to find teachers and schools
that align with your values, that will love your kids and shape your kids and help your kids grow.
I'm a big fan. I'm a big fan of sweet Christian church preschools, but not one with a female
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