Debunking The 4 Biggest Lies Told To Women

Hey, what's going on, ladies and gentlemen, it's Pastor A. Today, we're going to talk about them four major lies. There are four major lies that are told to women. And trust me, they've been told so long, they have been told by men and they're told by women. So let's just get started with lie number four. And lie number four is when he gets with me, I can change him. Now, the conversation would start something like this, girl, when I get him, you know, I do what I do. Then I dress him up and then I feel this out and I can do this and I'll do that. I can change. Well, yeah, no, no, you can't. You can't change. And I'm pretty sure you tried and I'm pretty sure you failed in this department. And I'm sorry. But however, for some strange reason, some women are under this impression that when they get a man that they can miraculously just change him. I'll be the first to tell you, ladies, you're not God, you're not Jesus, nor are you the Holy Spirit, meaning that you can't transform his mind like Romans 12 and two. You can't lead him to a way of righteousness, you know, as in second Corinthians five, 21. Now he might try to change for you, but that only lasts for a minute. And the reason why that only lasts for a minute is because he's not necessarily changing because he's convicted by the Holy Spirit to change. Or is he changing to better himself for himself? No, he's changing for you and changing for you will only last for just a short while because the only way somebody can actually truly change is by the power of God through Jesus Christ and being filled with the Holy Spirit. That is the only way a man will be led to change. See, second Corinthians five, 17 says it this way. See, therefore, if anyone who's in Christ Jesus, he is a new creature and see the old is passed away and behold, the new has come. So you see, ladies, you can't change a man. You can't even change yourself, let alone how much you're going to change a man. Now you can try, but I'm pretty sure you tried already. I mean, you can let me know how much that has worked out for you. You know, you can put that in the comments, but let's just be honest. You can't change a man. So now with that said, lie number three, sex will keep a man at home. Yep. I said it. Sex will keep a man at home. Now ask the last woman who was cheated on. Will sex keep your man at home? You might think you the bomb.com and you can do all these tricks and you might hang from the chandelier, but I can promise you that won't keep him at home. And I'm sorry to tell you this, but what you got between your legs, probably like another 2 billion people on the planet with the same thing. That's one of the reasons you can't keep him at home. Now, wanting to be with you and only you. Now that will keep him at home. Now, if your man understood that his body no longer belongs to him, but it belongs to his wife. And yes, cause that's probably the only time you should be having sex. But if he understood that his body don't belong to him, but it belongs to his wife and giving it away means that he's stealing from his wife. Tell him to read 1 Corinthians 7. Or how about Proverbs 12, 22. That lying lips are an abomination. Or Matthew 5, 27 and 28. Just looking at a woman and lusting at her, lusting after her. He's already committed adultery. And then he might look at the situation just a little different. However, if you're not a wife, even in the case that you are, some women feel that sex can keep a man. But unfortunately ladies, it won't. Now I can tell you a little secret that will keep a man. Now, this is under lie number two. With that being said, let's go ahead to lie number two, which is the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. Now, I really don't know how that works, especially since some of y'all can't cook. And what I can tell you is just like sex, food will not keep a man at home. See, the way to a man's heart is affirmation. See, I want you to say this word with me real slow. Appreciation. That's right, ladies. Appreciation. Appreciation. See, that is what keeps a man at home. See, if a man doesn't feel respected, if he doesn't feel appreciated, if he doesn't feel wanted or needed, he's not going to stay at home. See, you can cook all the food you want, but that ain't going to bring him home. Not even if he's hungry. What's going to bring him home? I'm glad you asked. It's to know that he's encouraged. He's pushed. He's wanted. He's needed. He feels appreciated. He feels respected. He feels like the man of the house. He feels like a king. Now, these are the things that will keep him home, and this is the way to his heart. See, this is how women get left for women with 20 children, because see, the woman with 20 children knows how to make him feel needed. See, if a man does not feel needed, then he isn't. Then you don't have his heart. You can be Chef Boyardee all you want to, but what I can tell you is it's not going to work, because the Bible says it like this in Ephesians 5. Husband love your wives, but wives respect your husbands, because what I can really tell you about men is this. You don't have to like me. You don't even have to love me, but you will respect me. That you're going to do. Now, with that being said, let's move on to lie number one. Yes, lie number one. A happy wife equals a happy life. Now, this has to be the greatest lie ever told from the pits of hell. Happy wife, happy life. I say that, ladies, because I really want you to understand how much of your man's happiness is sacrificed in order to make you happy. Did you ever think of that? Last I checked, a positive plus a negative usually turns out to be a negative. See, nobody can make you happy, especially in turn, but God himself. See that yearning that you have deep down inside for happiness from men and women that are looking for that? Only God can give that to you. It can't be given to you by another person. Now, don't get me wrong. People can love you. Another person can make you feel good. They can even make you feel special, but that deep yearning of love, that deep yearning of joy, of peace, of true happiness, that only comes from Jesus Christ. It can only come from the father. See Ecclesiastes three and 13. If you don't have that, then how are you able to give happiness to someone else, especially if you don't have it? How can you give love, a joy, a peace if you don't have it? See, think about it this way. If you came to the table happy, and if he came to the table happy, then both of you are happy, and then y'all can come together, become one, and now y'all are happy, and then you'll be what we call love and happiness. Think about that. How about this? How about we change the narrative? Happy marriage is two happy people, because happy people equal a happy marriage, and a happy marriage will equal a happy life. This is Pastor A. I hope you enjoyed this. Please like, share, subscribe, tell somebody, share this with somebody, and all that good stuff. Definitely give us a thumb up so this can move into algorithms, so other people can partake. Until next time, Pastor's Q&A, we are out.