THIS Makes a Woman Feel Irreplaceable To Serious Men

Have you ever watched an ambitious man with a full life make time for a woman in a way he never had for anyone before her? And what's crazy is he didn't seem to struggle with the shift. It happened without any resistance or hesitation. There's an inner fire in him that's hard to miss. He calls when he said he would, he books the trip, he remembers what she said three weeks ago and actually does something about it. And she never once had to chase or guilt him into it. Now contrast that with something I see every day. A woman who is giving everything she has. She's thoughtful, she's warm, she's generous and he knows it but he forgets her birthday or maybe goes quiet for days. He keeps one foot slightly outside of the relationship door and she spends a lot of energy pretending not to notice. It's the same kind of guy and yet he shows completely different for both women. After 14 years of coaching I've asked myself what's actually happening inside a man when he prioritizes a woman as someone he never wants to leave without. And what I found had very little to do with how hard she was working for his attention. By the end of this video you'll understand what moves a man from interested to committed and why the women who inspire that are not working harder than you. They've just stopped auditioning and started living in a way that makes everything including love come easier. This is not a video about how you can contort yourself into a pretzel in such a way that men choose you and find you attractive. This is a video about how you can use your light and the way you show up in the world to massively enhance the quality of your life and as a byproduct of that also become incredibly attractive to a conscious man. Because the title of this video is what makes a woman feel irreplaceable to a serious man and by serious I mean a guy who's intentional about wanting a lifelong partnership, a guy who can show up for himself and for you and who's willing to open his heart and set the foundation through his actions not just his words to create safety in the connection. Now the entire frame of how a man will choose to prioritize you, to give time to the relationship, to make sure that he's investing energetically, he's being present with you, he's protecting you in the best way he can, is going to come down to one thing. When he understands at some level intellectually, consciously or unconsciously I can't afford to lose her and by that I mean that his fear of losing you is going to be greater than his fear of losing freedom. The more conscious the guy is the more he'll be willing to change his definition of freedom from I can do what I want with whom I want whenever I want which is a very shallow patriarchal selfish definition of freedom into I feel most free when I am loved, when I am seen, when I belong, when I can serve, when my life has more meaning. If you really want to understand how a man can prioritize a woman even if he's busy, even if he's ambitious, even if he has a full life he's going to start doing more of that when he acknowledges that he feels much more alive as a result of connecting with you so at some point he's going to realize he can have a full life but what you bring to the table overwhelmingly not by a small margin makes his life better. So the term that I want to use to describe depth of what it takes for you to be highly prioritized to a man has to do with something called erotic tension and erotic tension is not a sexual connotation. Erotic tension simply means the combination of a few different forces. First force is inner fire. The more intensely alive and radiant you are the higher your capacity to create that erotic tension. The next part of that which goes hand in hand without which it will not work is standards and boundaries. Standards are here's what I accept, boundaries are here's what I will do if my standards not met. The reason why I start with the inner fire is because you can have 30 standards and 500 boundaries but if the inner fire of you is not ignited no one is going to sign up and get a ticket to want to go through the hoops of your standards. The tension increases when you are an expressive radiant woman and also have standards then the guy has to be better to show up for you. He can't just get you because of his nice face because he's a charismatic dude because he has money no he needs to show up he needs to be emotionally open he needs to show respect and he will only do that even if you have high standards if he feels something compelling enough to want to go through the hoops for. The next element is going to be attraction the next component of this is anticipation and the last element is going to be safety. Imagine that the higher the tension between these two forces the higher likelihood that the guy will want to commit will want to show up will prioritize you in his life. On one end of the spectrum we have desire and on the other end of the spectrum we have inner peace slash safety. Women tend to think more of this side of the spectrum as safety men tend to think more of it as inner peace. If you want to create more desire in your life the first element that's within your grasp is going to be uniqueness. Your capacity to recognize that you're a different human being from any other person on this planet and to go all in on what makes you different and unique. To stop pretending that you're like everybody else in order to fit a mold and that you express your quirkness your weirdness your sensitivity the combination of those qualities that for the right person will feel like home and for the wrong person will feel repulsive. The more you express who you are from the beginning the quicker a guy will identify you from a distance and say I want her and the more quickly a guy who's not the right fit for you will self-disqualify. The next element is super simple it's gratitude. It takes no brains and no courage to be cynical in today's world to have a glass half empty type of mindset. The more you can cultivate with discipline and with courage this notion that there are so many lessons in your life and you can choose to step into them at any moment the more you choose to step into them instead of looking at the alternative which is always available the more you will feel magnetic and attractive to the right person who doesn't want to be around someone who's looking at what's available in life instead of what's not The third element is going to be an acceptance of your body. There's nothing sexier than a woman who is very comfortable with her own body and who's able to express herself in a way where she's not apologizing for who she's not. Women have had it way rougher than men in this area. The double standard between men and women is ridiculous. The indoctrination in terms of the images you've seen from the moment you were born till now in terms of what's acceptable and what's beautiful even though it's totally BS but men are attracted to women who feel happy and connected with their body. You don't need to lose 10, 20, 30 pounds. You don't need to get the next treatment in order to be the most radiant version of yourself. If you are right now today able to start falling in love with who you are that will translate greatly into his ability to see the same thing in you. And the last element within this increasing of desire is faith. Faith is a muscle. The more you step into faith the more you exercise it and the faith is not that you have all the answers. The faith is not that you know exactly what the end will look like. That faith is that you know that if you're stepping into this work of putting yourself out there of being conscious of saying no when you need to say no, saying yes when you need to say yes, that things will unfold for you in the best possible way. It's incredibly easy to get defeated and to feel like this is never going to happen for you. But the truth is with strategy and with conviction you can get what you want. And I'm not saying this is a result of reading an ebook or watching YouTube video. I've been blessed to guide women from all walks of life from never having this type of connection to creating the relationship they want. And something that I've done that I'd like to invite you to, if you're single and you're not aware of your attraction blind spot, I created a quiz you can take in 60 seconds that will reveal to you that answer. If you want to participate all you have to do is go to the first link in the description of this video. You're going to see a page that looks like this. You answer a few simple questions and within a minute or so you're going to have two things. The answer to the question what's your number one attraction blind spot and a custom report based on your unique blind spot that will share what's the number one thing you can do today to attract the relationship you want in months instead of years. Here's the first element of how to create more peace in your life is self-awareness. I will say this, many of the relationship challenges you will ever face have nothing to do with the other person, have everything to do with the way you perceive the world, with the way your triggers get ruffled, with the way you interpret life, with how you focus on what has been said and done. So the more aware you are when you connect with a of what's yours to own and what's his, the more likely it is that you will not create false problems that have nothing to do with the way the person is showing up. Now I'll be the first one to say the person showing up with this respect, if the guy is inconsistent, if the guy is cheating on you, you should never take that. I'll also be the first to share that sometimes what happens and what you feel happened are not the same thing. So when you work hard to understand what is the trauma that you bring to a relationship, you're less likely to create the illusion that the person's hurting you when they're really not. Terry Reill talks about this concept, there's only three stages in a relationship. The first one is harmony, which is what we all want. The next one is disharmony, which is what happens multiple times a day in any relationship. And the third one is repair. Now harmony doesn't take any genius to accept and understand, but it takes a lot to understand when the disharmony happens, recognize when it's you versus when it's him, and then say the right thing, do the right deed, so that you can close that gap and get back to harmony. The next vitally important skill to develop and to be aware of is self-regulation. The biggest challenges you're most likely to face in a relationship are going to be lack of regulation when there are either anxious or avoidant experiences happening. If you tend to be more anxiously attached, then certain triggers will make you feel abandoned and will cause you to act in ways that are not self-regulated. And without self-regulation, you will destroy the relationship. If you tend to be more of the avoidant type, then when you feel the person's coming close to you, if you don't regulate yourself, then you're going to run away and you're going to push the other person first to chase you, but then to leave you. And then you'll tell yourself, this is what happens instead of this is what I create when I connect with someone. So breathing, understanding how to calm your nervous system, taking walks, meditating, exercising, being incredibly conscious that when you are feeling dysregulated, it is not the responsibility of the person to change things. It's your responsibility to own it, to take a time out and come back and express yourself in a way that's more honorable of who you are and the relationship. The third skill for that inner piece is direct communication with vulnerability. Because there's going to be so many times where you are either going to talk too much and obliterate the other person and share 15 stories that are roundabout ways of saying what you really want, or you're going to push things down and not say what you really want, which is going to make you feel resentful. And then it's going to cause you to act passively aggressively to the other person. And then the other person is going to in turn be passive aggressive with you. And then it's going to be like two little kids throwing turds at each other versus saying it in the clearest, most specific and direct way you can with vulnerability. I am starting to feel afraid. I'm starting to feel rejected. Would you mind fill in the blank that will go a long way that will be so much better than pushing it down or acting upset and cold and distant without telling the person what's really going on. So here we go from creating that intentional fire on one side and that intentional lack of drama on the other side. That is a range worth exploring, learning, because creating a conscious relationship, creating that desire, helping yourself by showing up as the best version of you and allowing someone to step up and really give you what you need. It's not an accident. I hope this is helpful, insightful. If it is, it would mean the world to me if you click like and subscribe to my channel. It's the only way I can grow and reach more women. And if you want to continue learning how you can attract the relationship you want without the need for gimmicks, manipulation, games, or stupid techniques, make sure to go to the next video right here.