How to Dance if you have Dance Floor ANXIETY [best tips]

This is exactly what I want you to do if you're scared of the dance floor. Some of the tips I'll be sharing today help my clients go from avoiding the dance floor, feeling uncomfortable, to being able to dance at every party they go to. So I'm sure those will help you a lot. And if you're interested in a transformation like that, if you want to become confident dancing at any party, I invite you to book a free consultation with me. I'll include a link below if you're interested. Alright, tip number one. Don't ever try and copy other people on the dance floor. So the reason we want to follow somebody else's steps or movements is because they look so good on them. But the reason that the movements look good on people who are doing them is because they do them at every single party they go to. So just like I'm sure if you have a few go-to moves that you do at every party, and I'm sure one of them is probably a two-step if you're a beginner, right? We all been there. The movements that you're doing will look comfortable on you because you've done them many times, right? So movements that you practice at home, those are the easier for you to do than the moves that you see for the first time ever, okay? So we want to do that. We want to copy others because maybe we don't know what movements to do. But that's a trap. Don't do that. It's best to do the movements that you prepared. Totally okay to practice ahead of time, learn the movements, to work on them. Those movements will look better than the moves you see for the first time, okay? That leads me to tip number two, which is stick to what you know. Start with the basics. And of course if you don't know any steps, I will show you in a moment what to do. This will look so much better and so much more comfortable. It's the movements that you've done for a while, okay? It's like I'm telling students in my program all the time, it's not about the new moves and how many moves you're that will make you good. Actually, the more new movements that your body is unfamiliar with, that you include in one song, the worse your freestyle, your dancing will look. Because we always look stiffer and more uncomfortable doing the movements that are not familiar to us, right? Myself included. It applies to everyone. So stick to what you know. I'm going to show you a couple of options. If you have, let's say, a party coming up, but you've never learned any steps before, this is what I want you to start with. A good old two-step. You cannot go wrong with this one. Everyone knows it. Everyone does it on the dance floor in one form or the other. So you can comfortably blend in with other people, right? So all you're doing here is you're going to open the feet and then close. Doesn't matter really what beat you're following. You go one, two, one, two. But this is what I want you to pay attention to, right? This is your comfort zone. This is pretty simple. It's not a complex move, but understand that there is a difference between doing this and looking like you don't want to be on the dance floor and doing this. Same move, it looks different. And the reason I made it look different in like a split second, right? And how we do it is by putting effort into what we're doing. You can apply it to any steps, but I feel like with the two-step, that's a perfect example. How did I make it look better? Let's see. First of all, more energy. What that means is you're looking not like you want to disappear on the dance floor, but make the movements bigger, more energetic, with purpose. That's important. Make the movements with purpose, with move on purpose, not just move to move, just to kind of disappear, right? In the crowd. Another thing that helps is smiling. Any movement that you're doing, it doesn't mean that I want you to be like cheesing the entire time looking at people. That's creepy. Don't do that. But even if you just smile to yourself, even if you look down from time to time and smile, the energy is just different than you looking lost and looking at other people and having that like facial expression that's like dead. I used to do that all the time. When I was a dancer, my teachers were always telling me that I have to like do more with my face. So the only thing I really were doing is smiling and it kind of stuck. Every time I dance, I smile. I'm sure you've noticed if you watch my videos. But it helps so much. Even if you don't know how to dance, you can kind of fake the confidence by just smiling, by just looking like you're enjoying yourself. Everyone is in charge of making the movement better. And you can do it with zero dance experience because you don't need to have experience to smile, to make the movements bigger, to fake it a little bit. Maybe you're not enjoying the song. Show that you are. That's what professional dancers do all the time. Put effort into the movement. It will make it look so much better. All right, next thing. Pay attention to the arms. Arms have the power to make or break any movement that you're doing. So pay attention to the position of the arms. You don't have to do crazy moves. You don't have to do anything specific with the arms. Even if you just keep the arms bent, loosely bent by your sides and letting them move with the body, swaying. If they want to bounce, let them bounce. It will look so much better than this. Just arms awkwardly hanging there. It automatically makes the movement look more kind of timid. You know, like, of course, it shows that you don't know what to do with the arms. So this is a little bit better. And we can take it a step further. My number one trick for the arms, for awkward arms. Hold the drink. You're dancing at a party. Doesn't have to be an alcoholic beverage, but anything, a bottle or a glass, right? And then you don't have to worry about the arms. You can focus on just doing the step, having fun, talking, whatever you're doing on the dance floor. All right, next step. If you feel not confident, not prepared for the dance floor, and you have like a big event coming up, let's say it's your wedding and you know you will be in the center of attention, you will have to dance there. I would suggest to go to a couple, at least a couple or a few different parties before then. Because what happens with confidence for dancing in front of other people is just like with anything else. It improves over time, right? I don't want you to be so much pressure on yourself to, okay, I have to be confident. I have to dance at that wedding. I have to, I have to, I have to, because then of course it's going to be even more uncomfortable. When you go out to those, like maybe like a bar or party, notice what is easier for you. Because some people, they say that it's easier to dance in front of people they've never seen before. They don't know. And then some people say that it's more pressure to look good dancing in front of family and friends. So see where you are. Whichever is easier. Go either with like your good friends. Maybe they also don't feel that confident on the dance floor. You can support each other. Or go even by yourself or with someone who you don't know that well to a party, dance. And this will help you build confidence. It's not enough to know the movements. It's not enough to know the skills. The confidence is not going to just appear out of nowhere, right? We have to build it. So this is a great tip for if you have like a big party coming up. And my next tip will also be very helpful. When you're on the dance floor and you're, you know, getting used to dancing in public, try to go to the middle of the dance floor. Don't hang out around like the edge of the dance floor where people who are, let's say at the bar, they can see you. But see if you can blend in with people a little bit better. So usually if the dance floor is crowded and then you're just dancing in the middle, you're not going to be that visible. Maybe your shoulders, arms, torso will be noticeable. Not really your feet, your knees, the hips. So it will be kind of like less pressure to dance. You're still dancing with others and in front of others, but you're not on display. Okay? If you want to not only survive the dance floor, but actually enjoy dancing in front of others and with others, I invite you to apply to my online program, Confidence Through Dance. I'm now accepting new clients and I work with adults who want to feel comfortable. Every time they go out, whether it's a wedding, a work event, a party, they usually stay away of the dance floor. They don't feel comfortable and they want to change their social lives. They want to be able to enjoy themselves and have fun dancing. So I will include a link to a free consultation below. Book it and let's chat. Let's see if we can get you dancing. And if you want more tips on how to be confident dancing in front of others, I will post a video or include the video on the screen and in the description. Definitely watch it. I included some of my best tips there as well. I'll see you in my next video. Bye.