MY HUSBAND LEFT ME PR3GNANT TO SUFFER WITH OUR KIDS 😭 THE STORY OF CATE

Happy New Year to everyone. My name is Kate. I'm a mother of six. I'm a single mum. I'm a very hardworking mum. I'm a businessperson. I'm a family person. My family always comes first. Today I'm with Ali. I feel Ali has been looking for me a lot because of my story. Happy New Year. Today I want to share about my life, how I've been living, my children, and being a single mother. As you all know, being a single mother is not easy. It's a challenge. I wasn't a single mother before. I was married to a man I met eight years ago. We started a relationship, and we were good together before. You told me you met in 2016. Yes, we met in 2016. We started a relationship and the relationship was promising. It was good. We had a good life. He was a very caring person. Loving. We didn't have issues. We never fought. Life was so good. We have kids. We have two kids with him. We adopted two kids. The other four are ours. During COVID, I got two kids in 2018. Now we are in 2023. We have two children. In 2022, I became pregnant again. Things started changing. I told him I was pregnant. I didn't even realize I was pregnant myself because I had been strictly following family planning. I'm a computer science person. In CS, you're given time to recover. In the meantime, I became pregnant and didn't realize I was ill. I was experiencing morning sickness, and I thought it was part of family planning. Around three months in, I was diagnosed with typhoid fever. The doctor suggested we take a pregnancy test. To my shock, I discovered I was pregnant. He was abroad at the time. I told him, but he didn't believe me. He came when I was about four months pregnant. He asked me if we were ready to have a baby. I told him there was nothing we could do since the baby was already four months along. I told him I was keeping the baby, but he didn't say anything. After six months, he came back. We were fine. After seven months, he came again. We were okay. After eight months, he left the country. That's when life began to change. After 8 months, how was his communication? Did he talk to you? After eight months, he stopped communicating with me. When he left the country, he didn't speak to me. I tried to reach out to him. If I text him today, he'll reply in 3–4 days. He was busy. We went on a Christmas holiday with my kids. During that time, we were on Christmas vacation, and he wasn't in touch with me. I wished him a Merry Christmas, but he didn't speak to me. That was in 2021? Yes. The year before last? Yes. In January, my children had a viral infection. They were experiencing diarrhea, vomiting, and all that comes with it. One of my children became infected while we were on vacation. On the 27th, we went straight to the hospital. For three days, my child was dehydrated. I texted him and told him my child is dehydrated, that he needs water, and that the doctor wants to examine him. He didn’t reply. He didn't reply? He didn't talk to me. I don't know whether someone sent him or not, but I received money for the bill. After I got home, my child became infected, and we went straight to the hospital. I told him, but he didn't speak to me. When I came back home, my other child got infected. I was in the hospital for three weeks. I was pregnant for 32 weeks. The depression was hitting me. I was stressed, and I didn't talk to anyone. I was pregnant and nearly due. My children were getting sick. I called my guy and told him I can't do this. I don't want to go beyond here. I can't be pregnant for 32 weeks. We have to do what we have to do because I feel like I'm losing myself. Also, I will lose my children. I felt that one kid can't be responsible for taking care of other kids just because I'm here. There are other lives that depend on me. I called my man and told him I can't go any further. He came, and I went for counseling for two days. He told me the risks of having a C.S. I told him I went to C.S. due to complications beforehand. The doctor said we couldn't keep the baby until she reached 36 to 37 weeks. But I felt like I couldn't go on. After counseling for two days, he told me it's okay. I felt like I'm sinking deeper into depression. We arranged the C.S. section. We started that evening. I called him. He didn't answer my calls. I even texted him that I'm going for C.S. Can you imagine? You tell someone you're going for C.S. It's not as if you're going to a theater. You can die there. You can bleed. Anything can happen. He didn't respond. I told him maybe he's busy. You know how it is. Even when you're in a relationship and someone is hitting you. You feel like it might be my fault. You apologize for things you didn't do. So we did the C.S. That was on Thursday. C.S. can obviously be painful. But I don't know why the painkillers weren't working on me. My body was not responding to painkillers. They were not working. So after two days I told him Let me just tell him. I'm going for C.S. and I'm out. Because obviously when someone tells you they are going to a theater You would expect that person to check in on you. Because you can die. But he didn't bother to check up on you. So after two days I told him. I'm out of C.S. And I became pregnant. So he sent me those. emojis Congratulations. Emojis? Congratulatory emojis. And that was it. He never communicated again. You see. So I stayed in the hospital for about three days, four days. I went home. And I'm telling you, I called him that day. I told him. That was the day. We were supposed to be discharged. And I'm telling you He told me, I don't know. I can't take you home. I'm busy. Mind you, he was in town. So he answered. I called him. That was the day he picked up the phone. I told him we are being discharged today. Can you come and take us home? He was like No, I'm busy. You can go with someone else. So I took an Uber. Because you know I couldn't drive myself. I was in pain. and I had a child. My mother was Pregnant. My sister came that day. But you see I was discharged earlier. Earlier than that. I'm telling you I was in pain. People who have been to C.S. can say when the painkillers aren't working on you So I arrived. I needed I used to buy things. from home to cook I got to a place, a supermarket around where I live My leg was swollen. I was in pain. The only person I had I was a taxi driver. We didn't even know each other. First it was Uber. And you know people at Uber I don't even want to hear the story. So the Uber driver was the one who picked me up. You see He picked me up and helped me get out. You see That's how I ended up at the supermarket. to buy things that I needed to buy. Like milk. You see that night When you do C.S., you need something hot. to do to buy those groceries even when I was in the supermarket People were looking at me. Because they could see I am in pain. Even those things weren't seen. You see even if you are in pain and you have removed those things They can still be seen. I was just walking slowly. I didn't know my life was going to turn into What I am going to do next with my life So I went to the supermarket and bought my things I was in pain. I went back to the taxi driver I thank That guy. He was in a great deal of pain. Why is that? I am leaving the hospital on my own, and I have no one with me. You see I haven't healed yet. It's a pain that I will never Heal. I don't know if I will heal. You know they say that time heals all wounds but I am still processing. So We went home that day. I got home. and I found that my children were ill. I was taking care of them. You see my house help had left He had Gone to the funeral of Pastor Ezekiel Yes. He had said that he had to leave. So I said that I don't have time to Beg anyone. But I just knew How he saw my child. That's what they do. I have a 2-year-old. I got home and my child told me to change her diaper You see I looked at what I am carrying. I looked at what I am carrying and the baby who was calling my diaper that's when I broke down Because I didn't know what to do next. You see. But at the same time, I want to thank God because now The baby was fine. She didn't go to the nursery. Okay. She was okay. I stayed for 4 days. The baby was fine. She didn't go to the nursery. So we went home. So after now changing I changed her diaper. I have a C.S. The house is empty. The housemaid I went to the nursery and I'm here. So the children slept alone. They tried calling the father. He didn't answer the phone. They even sent him a text message. We are alone. He didn't come. So that night I was making tea. I was crying. I was in pain. The children wanted me to feed them. I need to breastfeed the baby. The only person I called that day was my gyna. So you know, gyna now that is Even when you call her, how do you tell her? That's what I called her and told her. By the way, I'm alone in the house. What should I do? Now the gynecologist It was like, how can I help you now? You were still in pain? I was still in pain. I'm telling you, I was in pain. for approximately 6 weeks I couldn't heal the pain because the doctor was like what I was going through can cause the body to react with painkillers The body is prone to depression Absolutely. Because after I got home. I realized the baby had clubfoot She was healthy-wise okay, but she had clubfoot? Health-wise, the baby was fine. He was doing well. But you know now the baby It's tiny. We used to sit like this. But now when I got home I saw One leg was not okay. So I called my doctor. I told him. and they confirmed It was clubfoot. So I had to go back to the hospital. that week to take the baby to see an orthopedic and I called him. now the baby daddy and I showed him a picture I told him about the baby. had clubfoot He responded. That day. He said Take the baby to the hospital. to see a doctor So I went to the hospital. Let me tell you The thing that really broke me It was when I saw my baby Closing the plaster. She was so tiny. and I didn't have the clubfoot It really affected me. But when I got to the hospital They started closing the plaster. on her legs I googled what is clubfoot. that's when It hit me. that my baby might not be able to walk properly because they were like The baby might not be able to undergo the procedure. because the leg was slanted completely So that process She told me to take the baby to the hospital. I told her how it was. that depression Hit me three times, I think four times 5 times because now the plaster on her legs cannot be removed I have C.S. The baby has been closed. because The doctor told me The baby's legs should not turn blue. or the diaper should not be inserted The baby was living like this. I still had the Estimate of the neighbors never to see my baby again I know they don't want to see that I have a disabled baby So the baby was closed. so that no one would come to see the baby I was hiding her. I didn't want them to lift her because when they lift her They think her legs are too heavy. that week The baby stayed for about two weeks. I couldn't sleep. I was not sleeping. I was sometimes texting her. asking her what is happening I reached a place. I was just locking myself in the bedroom. You see, when you have a baby You need to eat, you need to feed I was not eating, I was not feeding Were you alone? My mom came. but Mum was trying to talk to me, my sister was but you see, when you're going through depression that is when you realize What is happening to you? and I would say that 2022 was the year where I went through a lot because even my own friends betrayed me like nobody was there when I was going through that Only one person and I appreciate so much, that was my neighbor She was there all along. She tried to Take me through everything. and After two weeks we had to go back to the hospital. so that the baby can be cut so that we can see if her legs are back and when she was cut I was crying. for 2 weeks She was not sleeping. She was crying. after 2 weeks We were told to go. to the hospital I will show you The hospital is in Nairobi. They are cutting her legs. Two fingers we call it I can't remember the name. The baby is sleeping 24/7. We are sitting under a blanket. So we can't take the baby out. easily The baby is uncomfortable. because the blankets are like this the whole night I was sleeping. When the baby was cut, it was stressful. because her legs were like that The baby was crying. throughout the night Then she got blisters. I am all alone. My CS wood is not healing I told them The Panadol tablets weren't working. No painkiller was working on me. so the doctor was like You could be taking the painkillers. but nothing So I talked to that Dude, now the baby daddy I was just telling him It reached a point where I could no longer tell him. because I was feeling It's not working. whenever something was happening I used to send him pictures. I went through a lot. to take the baby to the hospital to put those blisters alone It was not easy for me. and that's when I went into depression I couldn't talk to anyone. I was having trouble breastfeeding. so the baby I was expressing breast milk. with my mom so that period I used to rock myself in the bedroom throughout And the guy didn't show up. and I'm telling you the story is not even ending here there is a lot that What happened after that A lot happened. and I would say that me being a single mom has not been easy going through that I would never wish even my enemy even the devil himself to go through that because at the very least he could have explained it to me Why did he do all that? Why was he doing all that? and let me tell you I have never scolded him. not even a day I've never told him what you're doing or anything like that. what I did I didn't go. even for counseling I was the one Who got rid of me? I started Loving myself again I started eating. After now the pain was gone after approximately 6 weeks about 7 weeks and it should be gone after even 5 days Yeah So I started building myself with the help of my mum and my sister, my brother Just like my family members, they came for me. but no friends Nobody knew what I was going through even people today will hear this story and not believe because they see me on social media I'm happy, I'm the kind of person who is like that. Who is talkative? but I would say that you might see people out there laughing but people are suffering out there They are going through a lot. and I would never wish even my own enemy would have to go through that because My baby daddy still hasn't spoken. to this day He hasn't spoken. He hasn't even come to see the baby. He hasn't seen the baby. Yes Let me ask you a question. You know have you had his close relatives that you tried to tell them or is it only him I tried to talk to them. but you know, sometimes the other side They will not support. I don't know what's happening. Africans, like the other side of in-laws, they are not supportive while you're going through whatever you're going through so they were like We even call them They don't answer the phone. so they do not support at all and another thing, right now You said he still hasn't picked up the phone. Has he ever made any effort to communicate with you personally No, he doesn't communicate. sometimes when we are in need perhaps we are in need of Something, sometimes I can tell him like school tuition or something and send it I don't know the person who is sending it. You see that? The money has arrived. Maybe I'll text. but I'm not sure if he'll send it that money and right now You said I would like to know How is the baby? The baby is fine. The club's food was minor. It was hereditary. So it didn't last long. 3 to 4 months He had already taken the baby He is doing okay. Yes And another thing if someone is in need gets a chance to watch this video What would you like to tell him? What I can tell him Is that it? I'm fine, by the way. I'm doing well. now if he wants to come see the kids It's okay. As for me, I have moved on. and I don't think I want a relationship with him. any longer So he told you that he's busy. With work, he will return. right now There is no job that has surpassed a mother Who takes care of your children? not even me He might not even love me but these kids Their souls are here. I feel when you get a baby Every kid carries your heart. Do you understand? There is no job that has surpassed because those kids, they need him They want to see him, they want to talk to him but he doesn't talk to them for all those people They might be leaving right now. through what you went through you managed to Push yourself and you'll get out of it. What advice can you give to anyone? Who is going through that right now? Good advice because I healed myself but I would say that Once you sink into depression It's good to be with people. So close to you Who talks to you? and distract yourself from whatever is depressing you because in between I tried on my YouTube channel making videos on TikTok, Instagram You know That's what I did. because I came to realize I matter a lot; my kids need me. They are the only family I have right now. the kids believe that The beginning doesn't die So I have to be alive I have to stay alive no matter what I have to be strong no matter the fights the battles You know how the movie ends. I have to be the starter And I have to be strong in the end, after all. What is the name of your YouTube channel? What kind of videos do you produce? My channel is called Si Doneto Family It's about family vlogs about my children Please, guys Please support my channel I will upload more videos about What happened? By the way, for those who Know my channel They know my kids are YouTubers. We have not been consistent due to so many factors But now I am relaxed. I am healing. I am getting better day by day. through you support, the messages I know they will encourage me a lot so you Support my channel I will tell you the story. How are we doing in life? the kids, by the way You know It is a story I would love people to know. to learn from it and to know that at the end of the day You matter as a woman. You matter a lot. amazing Let me take a link in the comment section of her channel I have actually pinned it. So guys, go show some love, go show some support Subscribe to her channel She has shared such a painful story. I think this is one of the most painful stories. I have ever heard but I'm really happy that you got out of it. and you're still healing And I wish you all the best. So guys, go show some love, go show some support Subscribe to her channel She has said she will continue to tell the story. How it went, and also provide updates to the kids I really wish you all the best. And I hope everything is going to be all right. It is difficult. In life, but it will be okay. What would you like to tell? the people who supported you and supported you at that time I want to thank all that friend Who came for me? Imagine Just one I want to appreciate her so much I owe her a lot. She was there throughout. I owe her a lot. those are the kind of friends you don't want to leave also my mom She is the best thing that has ever happened to me. also my brother, my sister like my family came through for me Throughout, I want to express my appreciation them and I want to promise them that I will not let them down. I want to believe that I am still The starring, I am still The beautiful girl, I am still that. hardworking person I will not go back amazing apart from YouTube What is your profession? I am also a traveler and tour consultant That's mine professional job Where do you take people? we take people to I handle visa applications. for all the countries, that is Europe, Shenzhen countries US, UK Canada, we are doing a job search for people, so if you are interested in going to Canada I'm here for you You can come to my office. that is at 14th floor You'll get me there. any visa applications I will handle the processing for you. amazing Thank you so much for being brave enough to share your story and also for putting it out there so that it might also encourage Someone, thank you so much. What is the company called? the company is Seed Travel Agency We are at Ambank House. That is the 14th floor. Whenever you come to my office Just ask for Kate I will leave my details there You can call me anytime. Amazing, thank you so much for being brave enough to share your story and also putting it out there so that it may inspire someone I have been sharing my story with Kate. you have heard her story, and of course it's a very heartwarming story, subscribe to her channel support her to reach at least 1,000 subscribers She's around 600, right? She is around 400. so as to reach at least The least we can reach is 1000 so that she can continue Watch ours, thank you very much Once more I have been with my older brother behind the camera That is Director Joe. your entertainment Happy New Year whenever you want to celebrate I'll see you allperial video