K. Michelle on Dating Idris Elba： “That’s a hood n＊gga. I don’t care how Denzel y’all make him.”

Spoke about having a relationship with Idris Elba. Oh yeah. Do people believe you? Um, yeah. And I think they were disappointed. Why? To hear Charlemagne the God say, when y'all found out that Idris Lil' K. Michelle, it was like turning, it was like turning wine into Arbor Mist. That's hilarious. Go ahead and laugh. No, it was hilarious, but you got to understand for a young black girl, for y'all to do this, that man have never denied me. My biggest selling album to this day, that still charts is about me and him. He doesn't, we don't play them games. He doesn't, Idris was amazing. He was an amazing man. But it made it seem like, in other words, he made it seem like you were not worthy to be with Idris Elba. It's like, what would Idris want with her? We can have anybody. I am so sick of y'all because Idris put on a suit. Yeah. This, Idris would do fine in Memphis. Idris would do accent and all. You talking about a DJ that was in the streets and, you know, in Hackney, but he's still like, we don't have no hate. That man is married, him and his wife. I think she's gorgeous. I think, you know what I'm saying? I want that. But my album, I never, I never exposed that. We did everything together, but people thought that I was not good enough. So every time you would see me and Idris, you never would even put that. You thought they were just, they probably thought you were just hanging out. Y'all were just friends, huh? Oh, cause we did. I took a musical. I redid my album before and he produced it. We did all of that, but I have nothing bad to say about Idris. We went through what we went through. I sent my album first. I sent my album to him first. And he did say, this is a, this is a masterpiece. I hate we've gone through this. Um, but that is a, that is a hood nigga. Like, we're going to stop. We're going to, that is a hood. That is a hood nigga. I don't care how fine, how dinsey y'all want him to be. That is, that is a street Hackney. That still is a street dude. Don't do that. Do you regret having sex with men you worked in with this industry? Absolutely not. You think you'd have got father or did it hinder you? Did it help? What did it do? That was going to do it regardless. They were going to try to take me from me regardless. But you, you do realize that, you know, you're not the people I'm around is the people I'm working around, but that's okay. You can just cause I wouldn't, let's just say for the sake of argument, I worked for a company, they got 20,000 employees. Okay. So you mean to tell me I'm not going to go outside of that building. You mean to tell me I can't find nobody outside of the building? You shouldn't. Why? You should deal with the people with something to lose. True. You should deal with the people who could lose their job. Just like you. But here's the thing though, but you will lose. You, you stood more to lose than them. Um, now I see that. But at that time, did who, who stood more to lose when I still have remained successful, I haven't had to go out here and be chopped up in a box or put up on crime files. These men, we know who they are. We know how to contact them. We know what they bring to the table. That's a better thing for me. I'm sorry. It's just still is when it comes to work and comes to living and being what it is. I don't want to date nobody. Um, that doesn't understand what I'm saying. I don't want to do it. I don't want to go meet a man at a bar. I just don't, I don't want that. You don't understand my life. You don't understand what I've gone through. I want somebody that does business and understand my business. Well, congratulations on getting married last year. How has marriage changed Kate? Oh my God. It's like, you're supposed to sleep with like the same sausage forever. Like I started getting a whole nother respect. Like, it's one thing to be like, I want to be married, but after the ceremony or whatever, what happens? So thank God my husband is my, like, he's really my best friend. So, so what's it like? Because everybody has this, look, marriage is the ceremony. Yeah. Okay. Once the ceremony is over, all the friends are like, Oh, we're so happy for you. Congratulations. And you dance and you eat the cake and you go to go on the honeymoon when you bring your ass back home and y'all just, but we've been doing this for so long. Like that's the thing. Like we have been close since high school. You get that? Yes. Like you'd be around this person since high school, this and that. So marriage for me, like, you know, how I got married, people are on a whole debate right now about it. Um, it's the whole thing I'm dealing in, but me and that man, like, I didn't get a honeymoon phase. He should have been married me. You can, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. You left. Ain't no honeymoon phase. You didn't give him no, you ain't give him the time of day. He wanted to. Yeah. When we started dating since then, when I'm saying we've known each other, it's not that that 11, 13 years has nothing to do with the high school. This was that, Oh, this has nothing to do with it for 13 years before you got married. Yes. He wouldn't marry me because when I got into it, I said, I never wanted to be married, but then when he didn't do it, he tried to say, let's go to Vegas and get married. I was like, no. And then once he never tried to come back around and people's like, why aren't I married? I'm looking at him like you said you didn't want to. Yeah. But why wouldn't you? No, see, no, see, see, there you go. Why wouldn't you try you? He tried and you said no, but why wouldn't you just try to see that you go? See, that's what women do. So you see how y'all do that? Women, you see what I'm talking about? The man said, I want to marry you, but why not try if you love somebody? And when I said to him, why wouldn't you try? He said, because you don't want to be married, girl. Thank you. This is your control. This is something that this is his power. This marriage proposal was his. Yeah. So I had to do what I had to do. Give me the difference. All men, a regular guy dating a regular guy, dating an athlete, dating a musician, dating an actor. Okay. I would say that everybody in entertainment is entertained. Okay. And you know, it's like finding out Santa Claus is not real. Like, you know, all your friends like, I can meet him. Then you found out he's just a regular guy who didn't take care of his child support. Like he's just a regular guy dating an actor. He's acting. He makes a living off of fake. You know, can you tell what he's acting or what he's being? Absolutely. It's always on. It's always on dating the athlete. You like them the best though. I can tell. Athletes. Yeah. Athletes are, they can be grounded. They can't be that because they have to work hard and they, you know, they have to go really in, like they have to, like you, like me, you're talking like you have to be healthy. You can't do this, this and that. It's a lot of dedication. So that type of dedication connects, you know, with someone like me, but athletes, baby, if you're not prepared for those flights, those running up, that, that, will you date after that? They read, uh, his, uh, side piece ran up on you. Oh, always. Like I'm, I was always the Dylan and that I would never, you would never run up on a, Oh, absolutely. You have, I ran up on a lot. Like I have ran up. How you run up on somebody? Yeah, but I feel like that was my boyfriend. And what were they disrespecting you? Yeah. Disrespecting me, like saying things I'll have to write songs and all of that. That was like twenties, like, like, like top of thirties. That's nowhere in me. But I will say for the women who date athletes, that is a life that doesn't leave much room for your own. Yeah. I believe that. Yeah. I, yeah. Cause they kind of like, they kind of want the woman available when they want her available. And so it's kind of hard for you to have a real full-time job because when he needs you to pick up and go somewhere, you know, you got a job. It's about his health. It's about how he moves. That's your whole family structure. Yes. Nothing's wrong with that. Right. But if you want something else for yourself, that's when it gets very difficult. I can say that. Want to join club Shay Shay? Become an official member by hitting that subscribe button where you never know who's going to be joining us for drinks and conversation. Don't be late to the party because you know, we like to do something before two something.