I'm 62 And My Boyfriend Mooches Off Of Me

Brought to you by the EveryDollar app. Start budgeting for free today. I'm wondering if you can settle a long debate between my boyfriend and I. Yes, yes, I love these. We both own our separate homes, and we have our separate home expenses, but he stays at my house about four nights a week, and our debate is like, should he contribute to rent or some household expenses, and he feels that he shouldn't. How old are you two? I'm 62, and he's 51. Why are you not married? No. Why? Because we've both been married before, and he doesn't want to get married. And he doesn't want to pay any expenses. No. But he wants to sleep there. Yes, yes. He believes he takes me out to dinner like once a week. No, I mean, yeah, you missed the point, I guess. No, I get it. I get it. Yes. Why are you settling for this? Because it works for me, I guess. It doesn't. That's why you're calling. Well, we've fought over it for years. Yeah, you should stop that. Yeah. The fighting part. You should decide and end it. End the relationship or end the fight? No, I'm just saying end the fight. I don't fight over something for years. I just either get in or I get out of the fight, and I'm not going to. I'll lose the fight or win the fight or something, but I'm not going to. We're done. We're done talking about this. Years? What's your pet hobby? How long have you been dating? About six years. Oh, good grief. Okay, so the truth is the way I answer questions on the show is I try to think about what I would do if I were in your situation. And I can't put myself there because I wouldn't be in your situation. I would get married if I were you guys, or I wouldn't move on. I'd break up with somebody who disrespects me so much. Yeah, that they want to sleep with me, but they don't want to marry me. So yeah, I'm having trouble honestly answering your question. I'm not trying to make a judgment on you. I'm just trying to say I can't put myself in your shoes. I can't make that work. Can I throw something in here, Dave? I think he has his expenses. You have your expenses. And I think you lose the argument. Then you decide if you want him to sleep there or not. But you have your house. He has his house. You could be over at his house, or you could be at your house. We can't be at his house. Why? Because he lives twice as far from our jobs. And I have dogs, and he doesn't want dogs in his house. And obviously, I can't leave them here. Okay, that actually brings me closer to a question I have. I think I'm right on something. I think you're asking him to spend money on expenses. That is your workaround to more emotional connection with this guy. You know those free samples at the store that are up for grabs for anyone? Well, that's basically what's happening with your personal information online. Data broker sites collect stuff like your address, phone number, email, even your family's information, and just post it online for anyone to grab. That's why I use Delete.me. They remove your personal info from hundreds of data broker websites and keep it gone. So stop letting random websites treat your data like it's free samples. Get 20% off your annual plan at joindelete.me.com slash Ramsey. That is your workaround to more emotional connection with this guy. I don't think this is about dollars and cents. I think this is about are we doing this thing together or not? And he is being very clear. We are not doing this together. I don't do dogs, and I don't do marriage, and I don't pay your expenses. I take you out to dinner. There's a lot of things he doesn't do. Yeah, I think, Dave, this is less about money, and this is more about like he won't do my dogs. He won't marry me. He won't make a long-term commitment. So I'm going to go around this way and see if I can squeeze some emotional connection by you're participating in the bills. You're participating in the rhythm of the house. Some sign of commitment. It's some sign that we're doing this thing together, and he's super clear. Behavior is a language. We are not together. I sleep with you when I'm at your house. I get what I want. I didn't go and do my life by myself privately in my own way. That's a huge. I mean, there's red flags. And you're okay with that arrangement, and that's your decision. Yes. Be a grown-up and stop fighting about it. Just say this is the way this is going to be, and I'm accepting it, and I'm going to move on. I'm not going to choose to be miserable. If you're going to stay in this relationship, I think he wins the argument. Yes. I agree. I think you have your expenses. He has his expenses, and I'm not going to charge him for a booty call. And then you get to decide whether you want to continue in this expense arrangement. Yeah. Create your free every dollar budget today. The simplest way to budget for your life.