The only hinge dating advice you will ever need Episode 1

The dating pool does not have piss in it. You're just doing it the wrong way. I'm going to tell you one thing I've implemented that has absolutely changed my experience dating so I can actually have fun and make real progress. Okay, first things first. If you're someone that still is unsure about dating apps, let me demystify the whole concept and what people might be telling you dating apps in 2025 2026 and so on and so forth in this world of social media where everybody is online and on the internet. It's just another place to meet people. And in my opinion, I think it makes life a lot simpler because like these are people that you know for a fact are single when you go out. Sometimes you got to ask that question. You don't really know. You don't know. Maybe maybe it's girls at home. You don't want to be stepping on any toes, but it's a lot easier on a dating app. I prefer hinge do whatever you want on any platform, but I have found that hinge with the prompts and the way that they allow people to build out a profile allows me to get a really good idea of who I'm going to be talking to and whether or not I want to talk to them. Okay, so I'm on hinge everything. I'm going to explain to you is going to be like me utilizing hinge as my base, you know as my where this is where I'm grabbing my individuals and I'm going to show you the process I go through before I tell you what I do now. Let me tell you what I used to do what you might be doing right now. So you match with someone on hinge and you're texting in the app, right? You're going back and forth getting to know each other. Maybe eventually you exchange numbers and this is still all through text and then eventually you actually go out on a date right now. This happened to me before I was texting this one guy on hinge and I'm like, wow, what a great fella. I have here funny cool seems chill based on these messages. I meet him in person. I go on to have what maybe the worst date of my life. Okay, I'm like do I have goofy written on my forehead? How did I get so far in the process and not realize I was dealing with the loser until it was too late and he's already I'd already invested my time into an in-person date. That's the problem with texting. Texting allows people to get by for a while, you know, you miss out on a lot of good a lot of things that are essential to communication whenever you're only texting. I'm talking tone. Okay, a little bit of body language inflection. All right things that would actually help you better understand if you can even have a real conversation with this person. Okay. So after my first set of terrible dates based on text message, I said, okay, that's done. No more texting anyone that wants to talk to me is going to have to talk to me. Okay, we're going to get on the cellular device not to get on the phone. And what I realize is that whenever you eliminate text messages as the main source of communication the main form of communication, it allows you to really see who you're dealing with. Okay, so I'm going to break down what I do to eliminate the losers early and ******* closer to my man. I'm gonna give you some real stories of people. I've talked to I might insert a couple of clips of conversations I've had because as a content creator, I have a little bit of documentation. I've documented a couple things so I can speak on this in a different way. So here's the structure. Here's the play. This is the play. You match with someone on hand right at so I do this also in like one week all of the things I'm going to break down to you can happen within like one to two weeks. So that way at least once a month you're getting through like your first batch. I like consider that consider like batching like you're batching this like I want dating to be like something I guess it's important to me. However, it's not like my number one priority in life. I have a lot of other things going for me that are important that are already working for training Jackson right now. I would love a great partner trust and it's important, but it's not priority number one. So I batch this and I probably I was, you know, when I'm I'm gonna tell you where I'm at right now because through doing this process about three times. I got going on my hands. I am I am cooking with grease right now. I had to develop this but when I do this I batch it so you should be able to get through this entire process in two weeks max if you're really being effective and efficient without being eternal and it's going to take a little bit of courage on your side ladies like you get it's gonna take a little bit of courage on your end, especially if it's a little bit new to you by guarantee you the time it saves you're gonna I'm having so much fun dating right now that I can't I can't imagine what I used to do what I used to do wasn't working. So this is what works you go through and I don't send out likes one hinge. I know I don't do whatever you want that information. I don't care that people do but I said dating is not my top priority. So I mainly just wait till the people come to me the men come to me and then I make decisions from there. So I don't really send out likes one hinge because that would require me to sit on hinge and make decisions. I have to wait for him to hit me back. When in reality, I want a man to leave. Okay, I want a leader. I want him to find me and I can make decisions from there. So I make my hinge profile whenever I reactivate there's a timing period where I would be on hinge off hinge on hinge off hinge or I have my profile on there. I reactivate it. I was waiting for the likes to come in after you get like a certain amount of likes and you have time you're perfect. I sit down with a little glass of wine and I'm just gonna go through it. I'm gonna make decisions. Now what I'm looking for is different than what everybody else is looking for. You have to really know like you have to really be able to gauge and I feel like it's hard sometimes like of course, I'm not gonna tell you what to me. I'm gonna tell you I'm looking for but there are certain things that I look for in a profile that determine if this is even going to be someone I speak to not to get into a lot of them, but let's just say any prompts that are you can actually just let me I'm not gonna get into what I look for in a profile. You will know what you're looking for which why by the way before you get into the dating process know what you're looking for. I'm very direct. I know what it looks like when I'm experiencing it. I know the kind of man I'm like so it doesn't it allows me to be very quick whenever I am going through the process which is why it doesn't take me forever and I've been able to get where I am right now. So I go through the profile and out of everyone. I'm looking through I'll find the men that I'm matching with boom. I'm sending out my matches and see my matches. I'm like boom. I like this guy like this guy like this guy as soon as I match with the individuals. I match with this is step two. This is step two. I send them a voice message. I send them a voice message, right? Because I said it's going to take a little bit of being bold on your part being the one to initiate it like you're going to have to initiate the level of conversation that you're looking for and it also will weed out a lot of people. So let's say you have 50 plus people that have looked like your profile you match with maybe 20 and you send them the message. Hey James Carl Eric Lamar Steve. I don't really get on the hinge that much and I'm not a big texter, but I'm going to give you my number. And hit me over there. We can set up a FaceTime and get to know each other. Boom. That's the voice that it takes like it's like a 16 second message every time I was doing it. It's like a 16 second message gets them to know a little bit about like like the kind of like this is what I'm looking for. I'm not here to waste my time. Okay, I'm gonna send you a voice message. They will hit me back either hit me back on hinge. Here's the options. They're going to hit you back on hinge. They bet they're going to text you and say hey, this is so-and-so from hinge. We're not going to say anything because they're like that's not their style and that's okay. Because we have to eliminate people that are not in alignment with what we're looking for. I have to we have to focus on the elimination of individuals that are not right. We're looking for one. Okay, so 50 people liked you match with 20 right of the 20 that you send the voice message to saying hey text me 15 10 to 15 are actually going to text you. They text you hello. This is so-and-so from hinge. Great glad we can follow instructions. Okay, once they text me. I'm gonna set a time. Okay, perfect. Are you free to talk tonight? I only as I said as someone who wants it's it's important. It's not urgent. This is not top priority, right? And then when you approach it like this date doesn't feel like this big I have to do this right now and this is everything dating is chill for me right now and I have more fun when it doesn't feel like the most pressing matter on my plate because it isn't. I only set up these FaceTime calls after my day is done. It's kind of like instead of winding down with a good show a good book and a glass of wine. I'm just gonna wind down with some new conversations and meet new people. I'm in no rush and the thing is when they say hey, this is so-and-so from hinge. Hey, this is so-and-so from hinge. I don't go back and look at the profile and even try to remember who I'm talking to. I just surprised myself with the FaceTime call. I'm like, I'm just gonna see who it is whenever they answer the phone. So I asked them. Hey, are you free to perfect? Are you free to talk like tonight or tomorrow around this time? Yeah, but I will write in my planner. I write in my planner their name Josh 615 now. Here's how that here's the structure of the FaceTime call now. I know and let me just let's go back because a lot of you may be hearing FaceTime right now and you're already like what huh? It's going to take some courage. I consider this to be the best decision I made in my dating life because it feels like a predate. You are going to get better at it because most men aren't doing it with other women and you're also going to stand out for that reason. Whenever I say let's FaceTime like I'm straight. I'm with it. Like let's FaceTime first throw it up. Okay, what let in so in you'll be not many women are doing it. So you will stand out and you also hold the cards of that moment trust. That's why it also feels like it's not really stressful for me. They're the ones that are like, okay, I'm going to be on this place FaceTime. I'm the one to set it up. So they're like, well, she's right for the yeah, I'm always FaceTime ready. Always. I love a good conversation, right? So I have found that the best time to a lot for these calls is about 15 to 30 minutes. All right, some people only get 15 minutes and that's where I'm going to cut it off. Some people would get 30 and then we move to the next one. Now, you're probably like training. What do I get? What am I going to say on this FaceTime? Relax. Okay, calm down. You're good. You're safe. I want to say like ladies, you're safe. You are holding the cards here. You set up the call. This can go wherever you want it to go point blank period and when you want to be done and you decide you don't want to talk anymore. You can wrap it up. Trust me. You are in position. This like has put me in the best position and it just is a great way to kick things off. So on the FaceTime, of course you up and up and you have to come I believe that like you should initiate the energy. Hey, hi. Nice to meet you. How was your day? Enthusiasm is contagious. And for one and for two, they might be nervous. Very true. I respect that. It might be nerve-wracking to get on a call with someone and you know, it's like you don't know what's going to happen. I can understand that. It's nerve-wracking. So I do my best to set the tone and be like I will let you know that I'm cool. I'm cool. I'm your this is a good conversation. I'm not here to like be weird and awkward on the phone, right? And here's the thing. I gauge energy based on how like if they don't reciprocate the energy that I give out. That I'm also not leaning towards this individual. That's one way to weed them out. I got on a call one time with Josh name dropping because who cares is a very common name and you will not know him and I literally took notes and this is why it's important for me to take notes because I consider documentation to be like my bread and butter, especially since the first guy funny story. The first guy I matched with we had matched before and he hit me whenever we opened up. He's like, oh, I like we matched again. I was like we matched again. I said what happened last time? I said, do you remember like did we talk last time? Like what happened last time? Because I don't remember he was actually my first call as soon as I got on the call. I was like, oh maybe this is why this didn't go far last time. This is why I and then that's why I started taking notes. So I wouldn't have the same people coming back through and I'm like, wait, I remember you. I remember you and I remember you got a 2 out of 10, right? This is back when I had my rating system. So Josh, I got on the call with Josh. I told him I was going to call my six. I called my six. Hey, Josh. How are you? How was your day? It's nice to meet you. Am I okay? Did I catch you at a bad time? I told you I was going to call at six. You're not acting like you were expecting a call at six. Okay, Josh. It was nice meeting you. Hang up three minutes. Josh is the only call I ever had. I was three minutes. He thought I was joking called me back. He called me back. I said, what's up? I answered. I said, what's up? He said like, what's going on? Like, did you like what I said, Josh, you're not really I said Josh so far. This isn't giving what I'm looking for. It was nice meeting you. Have a good day. This probably won't go very far. Thank you. Wrap that saved me. And imagine because texting Josh like I would have never imagined. I saw his profile. He looked really cool. I'm a very upbeat person. I talk a lot. I like to talk. I enjoyed conversation. So it would be wrong of me to try to make it seem like that would be okay for me. That's not okay. This first impressions are everything. So some people will treat you're judging them too fast. You're judging them too fast. Whatever. I don't care. It's the first. This is my first impression of you. Not really here for it. I this is I gave you a good first impression of me. You couldn't even care. This is my first. This is your this is my first impression of you and this is what you're giving me. No, no. Imagine if I wouldn't want a date with Josh if I would just text to Josh and Josh and I go on a date. I'm like, bro, how boring he's got. He has no energy low energy is what I wrote low energy and actually in the three minutes that I met him. I learned he had been in Houston for six years. He did help stay at sales and he wanted to be an entrepreneur. He's the only person ever get to zero on my rating. No, Josh, you'll never hear from me again now. Since first impressions are everything the people that do get on the phone and they flow into conversation. You will immediately be like, okay, that's when you get on your first call in the conversation flows. You'll be like it was worth it. It was worth it because I did about 10 calls on this day, right? I did about 10 calls on this day and as I'm going through the calls like I let them flow to the best of their ability like, you know, how was your day to the job? I'm always going to be a follow-up question type of person, you know, like if you have nothing else to ask just ask a question about something else they mentioned, right? They say they do. Oh, what do you do for work? Oh, well, I am in construction. Oh, really? How did you get into that? How long have you been doing it? You can ask a question off of an answer just like be loose with it. Just get just so you're getting to know them. You want to get to know a couple things about them like things that I want to walk away understanding is like where are you from? I'm from Houston or not. What do you do for work? And what is your experience been like on him? That's always my wrap-up question. This is how I wrap up the call and I let them know my okay perfect like and I will it depends on how you want to go about it. Everybody has you're gonna feel like figure out your own flow, you know, everybody's different is going to be very much aligned to your personality. But what I found to be a really great way to end the call out after having it is a really good conversation. Well, how was your how was your dating experience been on him? It's like, oh, well, I haven't really been on like I haven't even on a date yet or and did I did? I will so far. It's been cool. Like, you know, I met some really nice people, you know, I said, well look Eric James Carl Steven. This has been this has been great. This is a great call. I would love to talk to you again and typically like I have had some really good calls if I won't lie and say I won't talk to you again. If I don't want to that's another thing you hold like you have to remember you hold the cards in this if you didn't enjoy the conversation. You can very calmly say, oh, well, it's nice to meet you Josh. I don't think we're very compatible, but I do wish you the best in your journey. And in this in maybe they told you to do that. Wish you the best in your career. I wish you the best in your dating process. I wish you the best in the city. If they just moved to Houston, like just wishing the best when they're going on and I hope you have a good night rapid. You don't owe this person anything you actually if anything save them time and save you time. That's the thing like because you are if I'm not their type either that's the thing. I don't feel bad for Josh because I'm not Josh's type Josh wouldn't have liked me either. I don't think Josh would like the kind of woman that I am. That's okay. I know I have there are certain things that are just just me. I'm just me is how I am. I can't help it, right? I need a certain kind of man. So like I'm looking for the certain kind of man. That's okay. So you're saving them time as well that you're saving yourself time and them so it's okay to say I don't think we're very compatible, you know, but it was nice to meet you and imagine being able to figure that out in 15 minutes instead of having to text someone for two days and going out on a date you I'm telling you. Okay, so I did 10 calls my first round of doing this 10 calls the best call I had was the very last one and they I'm telling you whenever you get on your first call where they flow and they're funny and they're nice and they ask questions about you and it's like wow. This was it's going to be worth it and you also will get better at doing the FaceTime. It's worth it. So Trey was my very first call that I was like, no, this was great. I actually ended up keeping it with Trey for an hour. I and those are the you're not hearing me those hour-long calls and I've had four or five FaceTimes go from like, okay, I'm gonna give him 10 minutes. Okay, I'm gonna give him 15 more minutes. Okay, I'm gonna give him 30 like we were on the phone for an hour and we only got the phone because we had to go to bed. That's it. That's the only reason we stopped talking. That's it. And those calls are and you and now you have someone you've gone through the list, right? You had 50 people that liked your profile. 20 that you actually matched with 15 that actually text you 10 that you set up a call with two that had amazing first calls and that you would go on a date with took that should take that that can all happen in it. That don't happen in 48 hours. Only reason I'm if they if they're able to get on the call tonight at the night. I match them. I'm getting on the call tonight. I match them. If you're not free tonight, I free tomorrow. Only other thing we only need to push this back is like when can we schedule the call? That's it. So you did all that and now you have two actual candidates two people you would actually you would all you already talked to them. I would actually talk to them. I literally like conversing with them. We flow naturally. We have a lot of things in common. I find him funny. I find him interesting. He's smart. Whatever you're looking for you get closer to finding it. So Trey was the first one I found. I'm like, oh. Okay, try. Okay, so you go through the FaceTime now. Here's what you're down. Now. Here's the thing. Here's a rule. I had to implement based on the kind of man. I'm looking for based on what you're looking for. You can decide. However, I value leadership and I want a man that's going to make the step the decision I lead with the FaceTime because if a man hit me on him, it was like, oh, I'm not going to text just FaceTime me. I'm like, how about take two of these and call me in the morning? You're not going to tell me what to do. But that's why women have to set up a call. So like because if a man just told you out of nowhere to FaceTime me only FaceTime only FaceTime it would seem like why like I don't know but since I set it up, I said the first call just let him know that this is how I like to communicate. I love a phone call even me sending the voice message is setting the standard of like I don't do a lot of texting which is true. My family even knows if you want. I don't see texting as a very like effective form of communication. I'm not going to text anyone all day. I'm I'm busy. As I said, this is important. Not top priority. I have other things that make me money that are top priority and I have fun doing right. I have hobbies of my own. I have a life of my own right now. So for me to justify taking on a big chunk to invest into dating. I'm like, I'll take out. I will invest time in a dating but just I'm you have to get to a point where just going out for a free meal is not enough to justify giving someone your time and that's where I am. I'm not just going to go on a second. At least I get a free meal. I got food at home. I have food at home. I don't need it. I don't need a free meal at anyone. That's not enough for me to be like, okay, I'm going to go on a date with you. I go on qualified dates with people that it makes sense to be seen with or that it makes sense with in my life. Don't just go. We don't just go on. We got us. You guys don't go on a date just because you need dinner. If that's the case pause dating lock in elsewhere and then return later, but we're not going to get into that. I set the first FaceTime call. I do not make sure this thing is on. I do not set up the second FaceTime. I thought that if I think the call was good and he thinks the call was good. He would contact me the next day to talk to me. Well tree. What if he doesn't say anything or maybe I should text him or what if he did it? That he men are not confused. Okay. In the quicker you demystify yourself from thinking that he doesn't know and what if he's not sure and he knows he's not he's not confused. He understands. I like the call. He liked the call. I'm not going to what I'm not going to set up every single FaceTime take initiative. I want a man that takes initiative. If you want to talk to me if he wanted to talk to you, he would if you wanted to he would period so I set the first thing time. I don't set up the second one, right? So trade in set up the third set trade in set up the second FaceTime. That's okay. Try won't be hearing from me. Now. Let me tell you about been Dylan and Samir. These are all people. I talked to on my second batch right my second batch on the second batch each of those been Dylan Samir. I ended up talking to for an hour. I thought Ben was so sweet. I thought Dylan was really cool chill and Samir might have been the funniest person I've spoken to in years. So I like them all for different reasons and they were cool. All of them. We had our long first thing called first phone call went well and each of them contacted me the next day on their own. I didn't text him. Hey, do you want another FaceTime tonight? Let them start let them do something. Right? Let them do something. Okay. So each of them went from that amazing our first phone call to being like no because like the way I think about it. They should be thinking about me the next day. Dang cuz you're gonna stand out cuz most women are not setting up FaceTime first and then if you have a great calls like damn, who is this like, okay, maybe I should maybe I should let's talk again. Each of these three went from first FaceTime to actually setting up a date. Okay, so the next FaceTime days they hit they had called me. Hey, can you talk again? Yeah, I talk again. Let's talk now. They're in phase two and on phase two there. Yeah, like would you want to go on a date? Like what are you next free? Which is like phase two? There's only so much FaceTime it right you get to FaceTime call. That's my limit right now. I'm not gonna call. I'm not gonna keep calling you. I'm not gonna we're not gonna keep talking on the phone. I'm grown. What are we doing? What's going on? Where's this going? They're not confused. Stop thinking that men are confused. They're not confused. If you wanted to he would and the thing is I had been through a lot and these three wanted to so they did so I went on these three different dates in three different individuals, right? And it's crazy because the dates were cool. But the dates actually show me what you do on the date is up to you. Like how you how you go about the date is on you. I'm not gonna say what I had out of these three dates. One of them was supremely better than the other two. That's I once again, it's a numbers thing. So this was my second batch. We get to our top three. One of these three perform better than the others. Right and that's how you make a little bit of progress. That's how you start to get closer to people that you actually want to be aligned with now. Even though one that I was like that the date was better as we met in person and talked more. I'm like, you know what? Not as compatible as I would like either. You have to as I said, you have to be very clear and very sure of what you want and what you like. I know what I like. I know what I want. So even though he was great in some ways, there are other ways that I did the things I'm like, these are also still non-negotiable. You can hit on a couple things like there are still things that are non-negotiable, you know, so I was like, you know what we need another batch and that led me to my most recent batch, right? Most recent batch and where I am now another. Once again, I said only do is like one summer. I'm just not my entire life, but when I do it, I focus cool get two days to three days out of it. And then we're just focusing on making progress. I get better at it. I get more refined because the best thing about it is that as you meet more men, you talk to more men. You also get more clear on what you do and don't like. So one of the days I went on was not a gentleman. He was great in a lot of other ways, not a gentleman, not a single door open. Not a single chair pulled out. He was I did not see him as a good leader. He didn't plan the date. Well, it was like, oh, well, let's just oh, what do you want to do? Okay. Well, let's just go through this and oh dang, where should we go and I'm going I want to go on a date and turn my brain off and do whatever you said. So that was an alignment for me and it's crazy because I I had never been on a date where I'm not a single door was open and before that you would ask me. Hey tree. Is this super important? I'm like, yeah, it's important. I guess but not a big deal after experiencing it. I'm like, yeah, that's a deal breaker for me. Not here for it. The other one. Invited me to his home at the end of the day. No. And that those are the things. So as you get closer as you do this more and more often from the FaceTime to the dates, you will be closer and closer to figuring out. Okay. This is why this is okay. This is important. No, I don't that's not okay. I can take or leave that like for me being funny. You should be something about oh my god. You have absolutely absolutely and being funny is important. However, I you can't let the funny guys get through just because they're funny. They still have to cross their t's and dot their eyes in other ways. That's where I was like, okay, this is important. But with this allow me to ignore all this. No, so you will get better and you will refine your process and you'll become more clear to you what you're actually looking for. So that's why this last batch has felt the best the clearest because I have more clarity and I now I'm just better at it. So I had to one hour FaceTimes one of the at one hour FaceTimes he completely dominated the conversation. I've never met a man that loved to talk love to hear himself talk so much. He wouldn't even be making eye contact at the camera. He'll be doing this. Yeah, and there was a moment. There was literally a moment where he had to be finished telling a story and he had he was like, yeah, well and I guess how I got to Houston was and he completely so he went from telling one story to completely telling another at no point. Did he ask me questions about myself? Yeah, that's it. And so it was an hour-long conversation and I was like, wow, he loves to hear himself talk. He won't be hearing from you again, right? Now this last one asked me questions based on the things that I was saying to show that he was actively listening to me. Called me the next day had another great conversation set up a date. Pick me up in the uber because it was raining. Open every door pulled out. My chair was the first. I'm at 25 years old never had a man pull my chair out slide me in at every moment pay for everything. We had great conversation laughed had a six-hour date a six-hour date called me the next day. Hung out again the other day based on what he had been listening to and the things I had shared with him. He brought a pickle shaped dog toy for my son Koda because I hate pickles so I get to watch Koda tear up a pickle. He bought brought me my very favorite cookie that I mentioned one time. It's like thoughtfulness is important to me. That's something I prioritize and I know what it looks like and everything about the things that he brought me were very thoughtful because I feel like sometimes it's when it comes to just flowers, which is still great. I do love flowers. And but everybody does like flowers. You can get flowers anyone now be good enough. But when you're thoughtful and you're listening and you're paying attention you get things for people based on what you think they would like and in particular getting Koda the toy was like no one's ever brought my dog anything. So that was a lot and that was lit. I love that cookie in the cherry on top. Was that he brought me a plant in a yellow pot. I love all my plants. Yellow is my favorite color and it's also in the kind of pot. It's called an easy plant. So you just have to put water in the bottom and it will stay healthy. He said it's supposed to be bringing me said it's supposed to bring good luck. He knows what's important. He didn't encourage me in the business. I mean like you like that it is so crazy. So it's been like that's why I say it's important to know what you want. So at no point you start to waiver on this is this kind of man actually exist. And as soon when he brought me those I could have cried so happy. I was like, this is the these gifts are for Trini Jackson. Not just for any girl that would like them and anyone that would be interested. These gifts were for Trini Jackson and the pot is so beautiful. I literally stared at it. I hugged it. I said this is the most I just could it's my favorite shade of yellow. And I was trying to remember like it was to the point where I was trying to remember when I even told him that I don't even know. We never even had a moment. We'll just this is my favorite. I don't I just like I don't recall that. That's what I think. Well, that's what I look for when I think of thoughtfulness. So that's who I'm talking to right now. And as of right now, I'm off hinge until until I have a reason to get back along. But this is a lie reasonably with him would spend more time with and see where this goes and it just doesn't end up going away. That's fine. And I'll read begin my face, but it took me going through the process of not wasting my time with anyone who was not the kind of man I want to talk to being very clear on the conversation that I enjoy and the kind of person I am the kind of energy I bring and not and then just like just not getting discouraged. Also, this has been fun. Like I said, whenever you feel like you're holding more of the cards like through setting up the first face on it feels like less pressures on you and it's more fun to me. I've been having fun. Kim, I mean, I'm just speaking for myself and yeah, now I'm here and I am actually really happy with who I'm even talking to right now. We haven't said anything on stone yet. We're just cooking. Yeah, we're cooking them. We're cooking and if I would have had to wait to text it would have been once and honestly, I would have been discouraged. So in the past I would be setting up dates with unqualified men that I didn't even know if I had a conversation with a connection with and then I'll be going on dates and I'll be like then you get to the point where there's piss in the dating pool. This isn't going to work and I don't want to do this but you have to do it the right way and do it intentionally so you can get the results you're looking for another example of a date. I went on of a guy who was cool on the phone where we had conversation. We went on a date. He brought me flowers. I love I did a little flowers. They were they were beautiful flowers and then on the date. I felt he was just boring. The date was exactly an hour at exactly an hour. We go home. That's it hug. Goodbye. And then the dates that I love are the ones where it's like, I don't want to stop hanging out with you. Can we go do something else? That's why that date was six hours and that was a good sign to me. So I hope this helps you on your intentional dating journey. Don't get discouraged. I encourage you to just try something different because insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. So sometimes you got to put yourself out there. You got to be courageous. Hope this helps. If you have any questions, drop them in the comment section below. And if you have any dating tips of your own, definitely drop them in the comment section below. I'd be more than happy to hear and see what everybody else does and gets into. Make sure you subscribe if you want more. Bye.