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Ancient wisdom greets you warmly dear visitors and friends Today I want to discuss with you a profoundly essential radically transformative topic—one that even touches upon the very fabric of destiny This topic is perhaps the greatest taboo that countless people are prone to violate Whether you're homeschooling your children or managing subordinates in a company It is precisely this forbidden thing that drains your energy and wears you down Pouring out every ounce of effort only to achieve nothing while also depleting your vital energy and blood severely weakening your fundamental vitality Even in old age illness clings to the body Thus today's video can truly be said to align with divine timing touching the deepest wounds within the human soul We must close off the environment gather the energy field in order to truly convey this truth so that it truly reaches people's ears and sinks deep into their very bones Our nation particularly values heartfelt emotions and is especially passionate e education we receive whether from teachers at school or from our grandparents at home They all teach us to be passionate to speak honestly and fully without holding back Everyone has heard this saying: if you know something you should speak up without holding back Yet how has this notion transformed in today's social climate Turn on the TV to watch debate shows or open your phone to scroll through social media—everywhere you look there's argument everywhere you turn there's debate The current trend is to absolutely make an impact to influence others It seems that if you don't express yourself clearly if you don't leave your opponent speechless en you fail to demonstrate your true strength Especially many adults in their 40s 50s and beyond with rich life experience and having seen much in life When you see your own children or notice the young people around you even observing junior colleagues in the company taking the long way around Doing things so clearly wrong that anyone can see them at a glance yet feeling anxious as if ants were crawling on a hot pan I understand that feeling all too well Truly I'd hate to be able to cut off my own head and place it on someone else's neck I wish I could instantly pass on decades of my experience to them You' d risk everything to teach a lesson risk everything to give an example Risking everything to change the other's mindset determined to pull them back from the brink But what about the outcome Ask your own conscience during those quiet lonely nights What is the usual result Saying until lips are torn and tongue parched let alone to the point of elevated blood pressure and drained vitality But did the other party actually listen Did they truly change because of your sincere advice No They simply aren't listening Not only do they fail to feel that you're doing it for them but they even see you as an enemy like a nagging voice a constant distraction That's precisely why today's youth instinctively want to stay away from you You're as toxic to me as air pollution I remember a few days ago an elderly woman over 60 came looking for me That day she was dressed in such shabby clothes yet her face was filled with sorrow and as soon as she stepped through the door a wave of humiliation washed over her He clutched his chest furrowed his brow tears welling up in his eyes She told me she truly didn't understand Clearly he's thinking only of his son He's starting a business That project is clearly a trap She carefully unpacked every bit of her past experience sharing it with him urging him not to invest and warning him to proceed with caution But why isn't it grateful The more she devoted herself to teaching it the clearer she made her principles the more it resisted Even before leaving the house she shouted right in her face saying the old woman was completely mistaken that she didn’t understand the world today Could it be that in a past life she owed him something That's why in this life she has to endure such humiliation Looking at her I truly feel heartbroken I told her to sit down Do you know what I sensed People who are full of resentment often like to lecture others like that The pulse commonly detected is usually a large favorable pulse with qi flowing superficially lacking a solid foundation or it may be a fine weak pulse Striking quickly but deeply results in emptiness From the perspective of the eyebrow tip this is the outward dispersion of yang energy during the day flowing freely and uncontrollably At night the yin energy quietly dissipates Because you're anxious you can't sleep I spoke frankly to her I told her Mother you're wrong You're completely wrong You've turned your good intentions into something toxic that makes others resentful Transforming the wisdom accumulated over the years into cheap worthless trash—this is defying the very laws of nature In the eyes of the Daoist master even at the higher levels of wisdom actively seeking to persuade others to regard oneself as a teacher Chasing after others just to ram in moral lessons isn't truly compassion nor is it genuine concern but it is a terrifying form of deformity a calamity upon the body Therefore today I will employ the foundational principles of the Huangdi Neijing combined with the deepest wisdom of the Mountain-Water Meng hexagram the Book of Changes to perform a profound surgical examination of teaching and the mind We need to clear the name of education which has long been misunderstood by secular society This lesson is not about teaching you become detached—not to teach you to be selfish and only think of yourself but to help you navigate this confusing world Learn to hold your words in silence learn to wait for the right moment learn to achieve what you want without saying a word Did you all hear that clearly Raise your hand calm your mind This is the supreme art worth a thousand golds yet impossible to buy the hidden code elp you escape the sea of suffering caused by relationships Before discussing the profound and mysterious principles of the I Ching we must begin by addressing the root of the issue from a medical standpoint to perform a detailed surgery on the illness one must first be willing to become a teacher to others we must clearly understand that when you go out to teach others What terrifying changes are actually taking place inside your body People often think that teaching others is merely talking that it's a good deed accumulating virtue doing something kind But in my eyes In traditional Chinese medicine any excessive exertion or forced effort that goes against the natural order is considered to be depleting and harm themselves in the process The ancient sages in the book Mencius once said a phrase The great fire within a person lies in the fact that wants to teach others Don't think this is merely a moral warning telling you not to be arrogant or to stop believing you're superior In essence it is a powerful physical warning the highest level of protection our ancestors provided for our health Why is it called major fire From a medical perspective the habit of being overly preachy brings about three very specific physiological harms The first point is called excessive talking depletes vital energy and harms the lung network Dong Mei said the lungs govern qi enabling smooth respiration through all the meridians The lungs are the sovereign of the body responsible for overseeing all aspects of qi What is qi Qi is the essence of blood Qi is the driver of blood and when qi moves blood moves All vital activities of the human body depend on this single breath of qi to sustain them When you never stop speaking never cease expressing yourself—especially when you provoke debate stir up preaching— your vital energy continuously dissipates It was leaked externally People can easily sense it—after delivering a lengthy lecture in the afternoon or following a heated argument with someone don’t you feel it Are you especially tired That kind of fatigue isn't the soreness from physical exertion but rather a feeling of profound weakness It came from deep within the bones Even at times I didn't feel like eating just wanted to lie down That's exactly what leukorrhea is The more you talk The energy disperses with the sound Once the energy has scattered what can possibly be held onto Blood will follow suit Yet they're either exhausted or emotionally drained That's why you see people who love traveling everywhere to teach others often appearing pale and drained No visible redness This is the manifestation of deficient qi Or an unhealthy flush with a face reddened as if painted with rouge But that's not a good complexion —it's merely a superficial flush The reason is that your lower kidney water has become cold causing your slight fire to rise upward toward the head Even more frightening is that to convince others you must not only speak with your mouth but also summon your entire mind You must focus intently on observing your opponent's reactions think hard about how to counter them and carefully organize your arguments Because of their disobedience and stubbornness they became anxious and irritable This is known as mental overexertion The mind is the supreme ruler of the body the divine emperor of intellect governing the entire spirit When this emperor fell into a coma powerless he could no longer sustain control over the five viscera and six bowels below Internal affairs immediately sparked a series of events That's why I often say those who talk too much find it hard to live a long life because they are exhausting their own divine energy The second point is called lust anger and sorrow consume anger ignites metal When you proactively teach others you secretly harbor an expectation within yourself You teach them because you want to change them hoping they'll listen to you follow your words and become better But you must understand human nature is deeply stubborn mountains and rivers may change but one's true character is hard to alter Most of the time Others won't listen to you especially when they themselves haven't recognized the issue What will you do then When reality doesn't meet your expectations you'll feel angry disappointed and frustrated at being unable to turn iron into steel This feeling in the body is known as "unfulfilled longing " causing the vital energy of the lower abdomen to become constricted The liver governs the initial secretion and regulation of qi If frustrated just let it out You want them to change but they don't change always having that thought blocked Where should it be blocked Right at the kinh can point The stagnating energy in the body will then swirl and turn into fire This flame of ignorance will rise upward scorching your head and causing dizziness potentially leading to high blood pressure Sudden ghostly appearance It can also cause lateral movement counteracting the earth element where wood overpowers earth leading to stomach pain poor appetite and bloating Even more it can eliminate tangible bodily waste such as breast and uterine fibroids in women yroid nodules in men Many cases are actually due to qi stagnation that manifests in this way I once treated a man a retired schoolteacher He greatly enjoyed teaching life lessons After retiring he still disciplined his grandson strictly correcting any slight misbehavior immediately Reasoning with him for half a day You wouldn't listen he got so furious he was nearly dying Later he developed severe liver cancer and ascites I told him that This illness isn't caused by diet but by excessive worry The oppressive energy he's long suppressed in his belly has finally taken its toll He had severely damaged his liver That is precisely the price paid for anger harming the liver The third point is known as qi depletion damaging the kidneys It fundamentally shakes the foundation This is the most serious matter Education is a matter that must be considered in terms of energy levels and flow In the I Ching The Măng hexagram speaks of correspondence and the pursuit of learning Seeking oneself is not seeking others It means one is only truly sought when the other party comes to seek you When they are in a lower position and you are in a higher one your energy can naturally flow downward just like a waterfall That energy is nurturing it flows freely If you do the opposite they won't seek you out instead you' ll be the one seeking them chasing after them to teach them That is an inverted action—working in a posture that defies the natural order From the perspective of qi circulation in Traditional Chinese Medicine you are activating your kidney meridian to reach your innate constitutional foundation o force a stone that cannot be moved The heart believes it is the body 's energy source When you try to change someone who doesn't want to change you are forced to expend energy An enormous amount of energy to counteract their karma This is known as consuming one's life force Thus you'll notice people who particularly enjoy teaching children especially imparting big life lessons to others often age very quickly Their hair turns white early their teeth fall out early their back aches and their limbs grow weary their vitality declines Why Because teeth are bone The kidneys govern the bones The vitality of the kidneys manifests in the hair The kidney meridian has been harmed by an insatiable mouth And the heart that constantly seeks to change others inevitably runs dry Therefore the first rule I want to share with you—also a piece of advice for staying safe from a physiological perspective—is this: unless someone else truly means it Kneel and beg you unless someone else is crying out and asking you what to do otherwise absolutely don't go out of your way to offer advice Never under any circumstances deliberately take on the role of someone else's teacher Your wisdom is your own inner deity your personal treasury of knowledge They are the jewels you earn through half a lifetime of experience and hardship How can you shove something as rigid as a roadside flyer into someone else's hands The harder you push the more they'll see it as an imposition Trash casually tossed aside Others not valuing it is natural since it was obtained too easily But the danger lies More than anything you risked your very life and drained your spirit and vitality—now that’ s truly the worst loss of all Having finished discussing physiology we will now turn to the profound far-reaching and seemingly unpredictable yet incredibly practical wisdom of the I Ching In this video we must truly eat our way through one hexagram which is the hexagram Mèng Misty mountains and flowing waters Try picturing this image in your mind The I Ching contains eight trigrams and sixty-four hexagrams Each hexagram is a miniature model of the universe and human life The hexagram Mèng has a mountain above It is the Mountain Trigram symbolizing forests and lofty mountains Below is water the Water Trigram representing For wisdom for the flow Mountain above water below that is the buttocks Try to imagine when you step into a deep mountain forest above towering peaks blocking the view leaving you uncertain where the path ahead leads That's called a ridge But down at the foot of the mountain you can clearly hear the sound of a rushing stream You know there's water there Intelligent and full of vitality yet you cannot see it for the water is weighed down by the dense heavy mountain and concealed beneath thick vegetation That is precisely the state of 茫然 When a person is born or when we face a new field a completely unfamiliar environment That is precisely the state of affairs Deep within us there is a subtle intuition like an underground stream It is life it possesses potential yet it is obscured by external ignorance veiled by habitual tendencies hidden beneath that very mountain Cannot overflow At this moment the one in a state of confusion needs what They need to be awakened they need someone to help them scale that distant peak or help them find a way for the stream to flow so wisdom may pour forth But the greatest and most wondrous thing is The essence of the I Ching lies right here It doesn't simply instruct us to go forth and open others It states that opening requires conditions There is a strict rule a rigorous procedure If you do not follow this procedure unlocking will turn into disaster Quẹ Mông's words were crystal clear Just a few brief words each one as precious as Jade Pearl Falling flat on the buttocks Fall down the buttocks This is the phrase spoken by all those who serve as teachers parents and anyone who aspires to be a noble person They must be etched into your bones even written down and placed by your bedside Being unrighteous is not the same as being wrong It's not about being a teacher The child longs to go to school not because someone else pushes it but because the child itself begins the desire feels confusion and yearns to learn Then proactively went to seek the teacher to instruct them Could it be that ancient people didn't understand the concept of zǐbī Absolutely not This is related to A fundamental issue concerning autonomy deeper still the law of the spirit and the transmission of energy If it were me asking you to study like in today's society many parents would be worried—truly the universal concern of parents everywhere Every day you chase after your child to feed them fearing they'll go hungry Every day you chase after your child to their extra classes Fearful of falling behind the teacher stood on the podium pleading with students to listen Even going to great lengths to get them to study ad to come up with all sorts of tricks to win their favor What was the result The result was that Chuah wasn't thirsty at all yet kept being forced to drink You press the little water beetle's head underwater Does the beetle thank you No it will hate you until death It won't even drink and could even kick you in the back with its hoof Or even suck you in with its horns That's exactly why Why is today's education system failing so badly Why are parent-child relationships so strained Why are children experiencing depression It's gotten so rebellious again Because we've completely reversed course We've gone too far Please forgive me Using a slightly awkward word— yet only this one truly captures that state—our intellect has become dangerously undervalued We turn a lifetime of experience into a heavenly aid fearing others won't know fearing they won't learn Immediately forced them in The I Ching tells us that wisdom is a precious thing and precious things are One must follow the noble path of supplication Just as when you visit a temple to pray to Buddha do you wash and change your clothes Don 't you kneel and offer incense If a bodhisattva naturally came running to your house saying "Come on I'll protect you " would you believe it You might even think otherwise He's a fraud You must make the other party feel different This sense of difference is extremely important Only when they feel different does it matter so thirsty they were on the verge of burning up feeling they would die without water That was when they began searching everywhere for water At that point all you need to do is Gently show them a path Say there's water there and they'll rush toward it like madmen drinking deeply Even if it's mixed with mud and sand they still recognize it as a golden orange and will respect you for life regarding you as their lifesaver On the other hand if they're not even thirsty —especially with their stomachs already full of cola and soft drinks—how can you expect them to drink from a juice tube Premium purified mineral water they will surely feel you're plotting against them They may choke on water push you away and even harbor resentment toward you for life Therefore I am here to earnestly advise everyone Reclaim your kindness Shut your mouth Be someone like a towering mountain That is the symbol of the Kǎn trigram Firmly seated silent motionless as still as a mountain Yet within you there must be order and discipline It is the water of the Kan trigram You must truly possess wisdom and genuine resolve to manifest this through your actions Through your aura you make others perceive your strength and wisdom Let them naturally grow curious naturally feel awe wondering in their hearts how calmly this person can be There must be a way Let them come forward on their own respectfully asking you Master how should this matter ultimately be handled Please guide me Teacher At that moment say just two sentences Remember only two sentences This is called a moment of insight Those two sentences are worth a thousand pieces of gold They could instantly clear their blocked meridians That is true education in harmony with the natural order That is the genuine meaning of the Mountain-Water Mung hexagram Let us delve deeper into the essence of the Mông hexagram Inner wisdom only deepens one's intuitive understanding This hexagram offers a remarkably clear analysis different stages different objects of education First look at Hao Sulu who said that Famen exploited the mannequin used the cup theory and revived the past command This sentence carries great weight especially for parents with children at the age of adolescence or for leaders managing such situations A rebellious subordinate group What is exploiting the avatar It means during the initial phase of opening up in the era of Awakening For teenagers who are still naive or newcomers to the company who don't yet understand the value of experience disciplinary measures may even be necessary Apply strict measures Because when people are still ignorant their minds are confused and unclear Unable to distinguish right from wrong black from white behavior becomes careless and impulsive driven by instinct At this point no matter how much you speak of lofty principles Speaking in terms of moral principle they won't listen You must help them build their inner strength help them break through the hard shell of ignorance just as a chick pecks its way out of the eggshell to emerge It can't emerge without breaking its shell but the process of breaking through is incredibly painful and extremely dangerous Therefore as a teacher one who opens the mind you must act with the sudden force of thunder and lightning making it clear to others where they stand Today many educational perspectives emphasize happiness in education encouragement-based learning and building friendships with children I'm telling you a great many of them are either false or have been misunderstood Without suffering how can there be enlightenment without discipline how can there be order You must help them understand that Putting your hand into the fire will get you burned if you make a mistake you must pay the price That pain is actually the best way to protect them But here there's a very large pit something everyone must pay close attention to Absolutely never fall into that Those are the final three words of the past decree Decree means deadlock means humiliation There is no way forward This statement means tha f you keep relying on force if you keep pushing forward aggressively if you keep exerting control if you keep lashing out from behind In the end it was simply an order What does that signify It shows that tension is just as much a tactic as punishment— everything is merely strategy Moreover it was an unavoidable tactic You can't punish just because you can punish You can't discipline merely because you can discipline Much less can you turn it into a tool to vent your own emotions The true intention is to liberate oneself through teaching Here the word "teach " means to release to help the other person remove the chains束缚 on their body free themselves from the constriction of nasal obstruction to achieve spiritual freedom if the opponent does not accept it If the other party develops resistance do not continue your efforts cease further instruction and stop reproaching them Because at that moment scolding them is only deepening the grudge You'll find that the more you try to control them the stronger their resistance becomes In the end you become so angry that you fall ill your breast tissue proliferates and they treat you like a ghost for life Even when you're old they won' t want to see you Therefore the true message of the book of songs is actually telling us tha Education carries risks openness demands vigilance only the balanced integration of strength and gentleness achieves true mastery If you don't have a diamond drill don't take on the job of drilling through that material If you see the opponent isn't the right match for that kind of material or if the timing is wrong immediately remain silent and withdraw Do not force your point just to prove you're right for fear of cornering the other party At the same time they also put themselves in a difficult position Next let's examine the ninth and second hexagrams This is the most favorable outcome in the Mèng hexagram and also the highest ideal that teachers and parents strive to achieve Belly full husband exhausted death harms the family What is meant by "bao mông" "Bao" means tolerance means capacity to hold It is like the thick earth that supports all things A great teacher a truly wise parent their hearts as vast as the ocean They can tolerate the other's ignorance forgive their mistakes accept their slowness and even endure offensive behaviors They don't get angry because the other person doesn't understand nor do they erupt over mistakes made for they know tha s a state of innocence a natural condition an inevitable path toward growth Just as a sapling grows into a towering tree There will surely be times when it grows crooked and inevitably times when it gets bitten by pests In life why are we so easily angered so quick to lose control and so eager to convince others The root of the problem lies in our limited capacity—our hearts are too small to hold another's ignorance too small to hold another's mistakes Deep down we always wonder how can you not understand such a simple principle How can you be so foolish I' ve told you already eight hundred times Why can't you remember Arrogance irritability that sense of superiority—those are the fire Fire overcomes metal thus harming the lungs Excessive heat harms the kidneys The one who carries the buttocks is either water or mountain A mountain can absorb space The water that nourishes all things without contention They see you as thick-skinned and foolish seeing you make mistakes Seeing you headfirst into the wall they simply stand beside you giving you time giving you space allowing you to make mistakes How strong was that resolve Wait until you've built up enough resilience then you'll feel the pain yourself Headbutting the wall until exhaustion bled from sheer weariness you turn back to find them—smiling welcoming you home Not only did they not mock you but they comforted you first then gently pointed out your mistakes This is known as bearing a spouse's temperament—just as in ancient times when marrying a wife required tolerance of her character and disposition Then the family became harmonious Here is the metaphor for reception That is known as the teacher's enduring grace Your children your students with such tolerance and understanding Under such timely guidance they were finally able to mature and take on the responsibilities of family life bringing prosperity to the family's legacy A responsible family member is not merely polite within the household but someone who can take on and manage household duties effectively can take the form of ancestral lineage Therefore the second ironclad rule I want to pass on to you is genuine education True education is not about persuasion but about tolerance and patience You must cultivate a certain inner stillness See through people without exposing them understand them without judging Seeing them take the long way that too is a form of compassion for it is the karmic lesson they must endure the lifelong lesson of this lifetime They have to complete it themselves You raise them for them and they'll never truly grow up forever remaining just a big child Can you resist speaking Can you resist putting your hands in These are the ten checkpoints testing your moral integrity Silence often requires more wisdom and courage than speaking up We've just finished discussing the physiological reasons why speaking too much should be avoided—it's very easy to harm one's intelligence but that was merely the first step in a long journey The following content truly tests everyone's moral integrity because we are about to reach the most delicate and elusive mechanism in human nature Within the Mông hexagram lies an extremely iconic line even bordering on cold detachment which states: The initial inquiry warns repeated indulgence leads to great harm Reader silent This sentence nearly lays bare the profound truth between people Literally When diviners first cast the oracle the initial response from the divine spirit reveals whether the outcome is auspicious or inauspicious known as the preliminary inquiry But if you're not satisfied with that result or don't believe it keep asking again and again over and over without end That is called solitary In the I Ching such behavior is seen as disrespectful meaning you are showing contempt toward the divine Dismissing intelligence dismissing the very process of serious inquiry itself The reader having lost respect is already contemptible once that happens there's no point in saying more Having lost faith wisdom is gone I won't tell you either I'll stay silent Even if I know there's a cliff ahead I won't say another word Listen to this isn't it terribly harsh Isn't it utterly callous I'm telling you this isn't cruelty but compassion even more it's the most sophisticated psychological strategy s also the universe's immutable law of energy conservation Each person should reflect quietly for human nature has a major flaw that we often undervalue what comes easily you'll never learn to appreciate it If the same thing is given to you for free even forced into your hands you'll say thank you out of politeness but deep down they really don 't value it even finding it cheap and unworthy If you meet all your child's demands It answers every question you ask right away sometimes even before you ask it rushes after your back giving directions on how to do this or that What would it think then It will feel like your words are worth nothing as ordinary as air It will think with parents taking care of everything already And so it stopped thinking stopped growing Only when you learn to say no to it only when you apply healthy boundaries will it panic will it wake up It will think Why don’t my parents pay any attention to me this time—did I do something wrong That sense of confusion and emptiness will compel it to reflect inward and seek answers on its own After enduring countless hardships and struggles it finally understood your intention then turned back to ask恳求 She now truly feels your guidance is immeasurably precious worth more than a thousand gold coins In traditional Chinese medicine there is a profound principle known as guiding fire back to its origin Today's youth have excessively strong heart fire They're so impatient always wanting to leap to the top in a single bound If you try to lecture them it's like pouring oil on a fire You have to douse them with a bucket of cold water to calm them down so that this wild flame can subside and return easily to its original source Only when their minds have calmed and settled will your words take root in them like seeds Only then can it take root easily sprout bloom and bear fruit Therefore learn how to say no learn how to stay silent It's not just about self-protection but also an advanced teaching method don't be a useless busybody Called you come asked you answer Be the one who appears only after a thousand calls like a stream that flickers in and out of sight Later when others ask you especially those who only know how to leave without a word asking a question and replying with only half a sentence leaving the rest for them to figure out on their own Self-realization is what truly nourishes them everything else you force upon them is just rubbish likely to cause indigestion Having said this Surely someone will wonder and ask me: I understand the principle perfectly but I'm just too soft-hearted myself Especially when seeing my own child or close friends rushing into the fire How could I possibly stay silent How do I know when to speak and when not to Should I just sit by and watch them harm themselves That's a very insightful question This relates to the issue of timing In traditional Chinese medicine treatment emphasizes observation listening inquiry and pulse-taking When navigating relationships and deciding whether to speak up we must also learn to observe the atmosphere Look at their expression observe their aura if their eyes are unfocused and wandering unsettled or with an air of disdain and arrogance you fall silent immediately At this moment every word you speak is pointless even bringing upon themselves disgrace They are utterly unprepared to receive your intellect your innovation And they are off balance If their eyes were fixed with longing even glistening with tears filled with bewilderment and despair At this moment their hearts are open You may speak but only enough to convey your message Do not go on and on endlessly Don't bring up all your old grievances In the Dao De Jing Laozi says Those who know do not speak much Those who talk much often don't truly know Those who deeply understand the way prefer not to speak much because they recognize the limits of language Those who talk excessively usually grasp only half the truth Then go around boasting You must learn to observe the circumstances of the other person If the timing isn't right it's fate their karma hasn't yet been resolved You cannot force it She's here now just tap once and it's done Especially within the family with children or a partner I give everyone these eight words: Speak less act more teach by example You want your child to be diligent then you must be diligent yourself first Don't just lie on the couch scrolling through your phone You want your child to be filial Then yourself show filial piety toward your parents—wash their feet so your child can see The power of silent education is limitless Like spring rain soaking the earth it seeps in silently Children grow up from your back not from your complaints And those who constantly talk about principles all day are mostly people who can't do it themselves yet expect others to do it for them That is a lack of virtue a wasting of blessings Friends by now we've thoroughly analyzed the pathological mechanism behind excessive talking as well as the profound insight of the Mèng hexagram in the I Ching as well as why actively choosing deceit only harms oneself I believe people's minds have finally begun to clear that burning desire to lecture others has cooled somewhat and inner passion has diminished as well But I know habits are very hard to change When you encounter someone who makes you angry rage will still flare up So this is just about breaking conventions We can't merely say what not to do we must also know what to do instead How to conceal your intelligence transforming it into an energy field that protects you How to navigate relationships In a complex society you might use apparent foolishness to counter the scheming of petty people especially when dealing with bad individuals and harmful situations And what must we face Are there specific mental techniques to guard the mouth and resolve conflicts Next I will reveal these secret methods Take out the hidden scroll from the chest and pass it on to your companions The three-dimensional mental cultivation technique has been lost for a long time These three evenings are not about enduring委屈 or忍耐 but about teaching you how to go with the flow and redirect the energy that's eager to burst outward Mold it into a golden elixir nurturing life within the body This is both the way of worldly cultivation and the great path of nourishing life Did you hear that clearly Raise your hand now Calm down This is a priceless secret for nurturing health and vitality in old age—worth more than gold The first technique is fundamental and also the most immediately effective known as "sealing the mouth like a jar " The name sounds very simple But achieving that requires real effort Why can't you control your urge to speak Because your energy is scattered Your spirit is burning water cannot extinguish the fire of the heart When you're about to speak words of advice to others pay attention to your own physical state Your upper body definitely leans forward neck stiffens eyes widen breath comes quick and shallow In the inner sanctum it is called the supreme qi of vitality the divine spirit does not reside there At this moment all energy is focused entirely in the throat and tongue ready to fire a bullet like a fully loaded gun Just waiting for the grass to grow How do I tame it How do I put this gun away I'll teach you a very simple move yet with immense power Whenever you feel like opening your mouth to lecture someone or correct another person especially in the moment the fire first flares up that overwhelming sensation you simply can't put into words your very first instinc It's performing a motion known as the tongue button Press your lips tightly together then move your tongue inside your mouth swirling it between your teeth and the roof of your throat Turn clockwise 36 times then counterclockwise 36 times continuing until saliva fills your mouth In the capital city that saliva is known as "new jade nectar " also referred to as "divine dew " Then divide this precious saliva into three slow deliberate swallows gently letting it go down glug As the knot arises visualize channeling the fiery energy that wants to burst forth—transform that urge to scold into something constructive Guided down the esophagus pressing through the chest then the stomach and finally descending straight to the lower dantian The Guanyuan point located about three inches below the navel In traditional Chinese medicine this is known as "guiding fire back to its origin " Also known as heart-kidney interaction You originally intended to spit fire hurting others and ultimately harming yourself burning away your vital energy Take that flame back and use it to repair the water furnace of your body harmonizing fire and water That is known as transforming qi into fiery jade Not only does it not deplete vital energy but it also strengthens the kidneys and nourishes the five viscera and six bowels At the same time as you swallow saliva within your mouth silently recite this mantra Words cannot convey it fully even immortals would find it hard to save When words are spoken fate takes its course Remind yourself constantly that heavenly secrets must never be revealed lightly Everyone's fate is predetermined If you speak of it before it' s allowed you will have broken the rules of the celestial realm Heaven will punish you diminishing your fortune and longevity Keeping your mouth closed is not merely about secrecy but also preserving your vital energy sustaining your life Look at a vase If the mouth of the vase is wide open The liquid or gas inside will quickly evaporate and change state if the container is sealed the gas will be trapped inside Eventually becoming fine aged wine You are that bottle yourself You must be the one who seals the bottle the one nurturing the precious wine of your own life The second strategy is an advanced mental technique the essence of the Mèng hexagram in the I Ching known as advancing by retreating As we mentioned earlier it's not us seeking students but students seeking us Many people don't understand how to apply it properly Then she asked me "Am I just supposed to sit here pretending to play waiting for someone to beg me to join What if they never come at all " That's not correct Pretending to retreat is negative it's a desperate maneuver Withdrawing to advance is truly penetrating deep into the enemy's territory it's summoning reinforcements to counterattack You must be like Jiang Ziya fishing with a straight hook—let whoever wants to be caught do so You must have bait When you wish to teach someone Don't give them the answer straight away That's a last resort For example you're a seasoned veteran of the business world Seeing his son making a disastrous business decision You know that option is definitely utterly doomed Don't jump to speak right away— this won't do it's too immature — you must listen to me I'm saying this to prove I've grown up Out of pride it will recklessly carry out that wrong decision just to oppose you So what should you do Just say one sentence—uh honey this idea is interesting too quite creative When you say those two words— But then the voice should be slightly slower the gaze a bit deeper and immediately fall silent—no more words Walk away to make tea or read the newspaper Now the uncertainty hangs in the air it will linger in your heart making you restless and eager to chase after answers But what is it huh Is something wrong Just tell me You didn’t say anything back then either Stay calm gaze at it with quiet depth speak as if not speaking then slowly explain This matter runs deep There are plenty of tricks involved Think about it yourself give it a try in the market When you truly can't figure it out or get stuck with an unresolved problem just go back and ask her This is known as leaving the taste hanging In Traditional Chinese Medicine it's known as fixed blood stasis You spark its curiosity instantly capturing its full attention Its mind will fixate on this It will dwell on what lies behind you Work must be taken more seriously Only when it truly fails to come up with ideas truly stumbles in the marketplace hits a brick wall will it be in what state She’ll recall your hesitant half-uttered words that day then rush back to carefully pour you a cup of tea Even while rubbing your back I say Mom ginger's still spicier than ever I'm truly out of ideas just show me the way forward That was the perfect moment At that time it was broken you were real it was soft you were firm its cup was empty Only when your water flows into it can it be filled Then the words you speak will be nectar falling onto the parched field within its heart It will be remembered forever and cherished like a precious treasure But if from the very beginning you let it all out it's like a flood released in full force The flood will drown the young sapling yet it still blames you for meddling for speaking up So friends learn to be patient hold back from giving answers hold back from playing savior Being cautious doesn't make you a hero Be a gatekeeper letting the other person step willingly into the world of your wisdom—that is precisely what the I Ching teaches A noble person keeps their strength hidden within waiting for the right moment to act That moment is precisely when the other party comes seeking them Before that instant You're just an ordinary old man or woman somewhat forgetful at times In reality we've encountered another situation as well The opponent isn't just foolish but also malicious stubbornly refusing to change and even petty What should I do now The hexagram Mèng provides us with very clear guidance through two lines One is the topmost line the ninth in the upper trigram Talking about spanking "Kích" means to strike to punish For those who repeatedly fail to improve even harboring deceitful intentions you can no longer afford to remain forgiving— you must learn to employ strategic scrutiny urting him making him pay the price But there's a crucial precondition Adversity is an advantage meaning the punishment you inflict Not to vent personal anger for then you would become a tyrant but to defend yourself against the corrupt influence he exerts called desire's snare Meaning a warning to cut losses to prevent him from further harming others and himself but to prove you're stronger than him Hai represents the yang line in the sixth position of the lower trigram symbolizing a favorable and auspicious state—the most favorable condition of the Mông hexagram Like a child innocent and humble the people naturally follow For such a person even if slower or slightly less wise You should still be forgiving as we've discussed like the mother earth that supports and guides them Therefore the third rule I want to share with you is to look at the person before acting Not everyone deserves to hear your precious words Those who can teach should be rewarded those who cannot should be kept at a distance Those who stubbornly refuse correction must be repelled Clarity in distinction is essential Don't be a well-intentioned fool For someone you stubbornly try to teach despite being unable to connect with them that's like trying to teach a bull with broken ears—simply a fool's errand For those who stubbornly refuse to change and whom you continue tolerate without standing firm that is enabling evil and it makes you reckless You create your own karma Wisdom is not just about saying the right thing but saying it to the right person The third technique is the highest-level mind method known as inner contemplation to nourish the spirit Many people dare not stay silent for fear of feeling cold of being forgotten of doubting their own existence of believing they don’t matter if they don’t speak Then everyone will forget themselves But the true sense of existence doesn't come from a voice shouting out but from the inner aura that sustains Buddhist teachings speak of the power of absorption When a revered elder sits there saying not a single word even with eyes closed Those around naturally fall silent overcome with emotion even moved to tears wanting to pay their respects Why His magnetic field was so powerful it directly overwhelmed yours He didn't need to speak—simply being near him was a form of teaching What is the nature of such a mindset It stems from long-term accumulation When you keep your wisdom hidden within not displaying it outwardly Your energy will ferment within your body evaporating from within The more you speak the more your vital essence dissipates the less you speak the more your essence fills you When the spirit is full the energy is strong when the energy is strong the mind is clear I'll teach you a very simple practice method Spend half an hour each day alone turn off your phone turn off the TV Find a comfortable sitting position close your eyes and place the tip of your tongue against the roof of your mouth Don't think about teaching anyone don't think about who might have wronged you Don't think about tomorrow's stock just focus on your own breath Breathe in deeply exhale slowly Imagine your body Like a deep vast and silent valley this is the mountain of the Măng hexagram The sound outside is the wind blowing through without leaving a trace Within you lies the still deep water of a pond the water of the Mèng hexagram Deep and unseen still and undisturbed clear enough to see the bottom When you cultivate such a calm and composed demeanor stepping into a crowd you don't need to争辩 nor argue until your face turns red You simply need to sit there with a compassionate gaze profound understanding and a gentle smile directed at everyone While others argue you quietly smile silently observing them like children playing when others boast You nod silently acknowledging that you now understand Wait until everyone is exhausted with no way left to uncover the truth You're the calmest presence of all Everyone 's gaze will naturally be drawn to you Now speak slowly and calmly your voice neither loud nor weak but steady and firm clearly stating the one crucial point that serves as the focal point In that moment you were the unshakable anchor of the entire scene That’s what it means—silent until you speak and when you do it’ s utterly staggering With this mind cultivation practice keep your mouth sealed like a tightly closed jar retreat one step to advance two nurture your spirit through inner reflection if applied to family education It's truly miraculous Many parents especially mothers are highly prone to nagging Every day feels like a machine constantly churning out complaints Go do your homework already stop playing with your phone put on another jacket and eat more vegetables From a Traditional Chinese medicine perspective Smoke is merely ash not a great fire it doesn't burn people to death but rather feels like a buzzing mosquito rowing the heart into turmoil extremely harmful to blood health Growing up over time in an environment filled with constant criticism will lead to two possible outcomes One is that no matter what you say it will simply pass by their ears like a breeze Your words are utterly worthless no matter how loudly you shout they won 't even bother to listen Secondly the weapon's energy is being compressed erupted turned extreme defiant ran away from home even committed acts of extremism Thus wise parents all learn the art of silence as the I Ching's hexagram Meng makes perfectly clear—first they speak then they remain quiet After saying it over and over there's no need to say it again Never repeating more than three times is an iron rule: one reminder is enough two is excessive three or more means you're already overdoing it To undermine the dignity of education is to insult the child's intelligence What if the child refuses to listen Many parents fear their children will be at a disadvantage I'm telling you let it suffer early let it hurt it's not wearing a shirt You told it once and it didn't listen So let it get cold once that'll teach it a cold Feverish now hot now uncomfortable now next time it'll learn to put on a coat on its own That's called bodily memory It doesn't do homework so it gets punished by the teacher once once humiliated She won't eat properly so take the bowl away and let her go hungry for a meal That's called natural consequence It's about exploiting the punishment within the Mèng hexagram But be careful when it's punished when it's in pain Absolutely don't pour gasoline on the fire by saying things like "See If you'd just listened to your parents none of this would' ve happened—you deserved it for not listening " That's disgusting—like a knife to the heart utterly ineffective What should you do Just cover your butt Silently you pour it a cup of warm water and prepare cold medicine Or when it's too hungry Then cook it a bowl of noodles and say nothing at all No scolding no reproach Let your actions speak the love your parents have for you But the path is yours to walk the suffering is yours to bear and the responsibility is yours to carry At this moment the child will feel deep shame and immense gratitude thinking how truly remarkable its parents are They knew the outcome early on yet still respected me allowing me to learn from my mistakes Moreover even when I was hurt they loved me unconditionally Such education truly penetrates to the core nurturing children who are both responsible and intelligent You the in-depth conte About unspoken words a mark of the mind to safeguard life today I have poured out my heart and soul to share with you Regarding the ailments of the body At the heart of the I Ching lies the journey from cultivating the mind's inner art to applying it in daily life We must understand that wisdom is a weapon It's a lucky blade What are the weapons used for For self-protection to eliminate evil and uphold righteousness —not to show off in the marketplace nor to flaunt recklessly Harming others The Dao De Jing says The sharp weapons of a state are not for display before the people You daily hang wisdom on your lips Traveling everywhere to persuade others is no different than holding a legendary sword of unmatched power in your hands Everyone I meet asks if my sword is fast—let me slice an apple for you What’s the outcome Others see you merely as a shell-shopper peddling art and worse they may even try to steal your earnings or secretly harm you when you're not paying attention A true warrior doesn't need to draw his sword to prove he has one— everyone knows he carries it and no one dares to underestimate him The cold emanating from the sword qi was enough to chill the bones As for those in their twilight years the greatest cultivation lies in guarding one's mouth and preserving one's mind You become a mountain The trigram Gen solid and heavy inspires trust allowing wisdom to flow like a spring at the mountain's base The Mound trigram flows pure and unbroken gently permeating all things without overflow Only in this way can you preserve your true vital energy only then can one truly live with dignity and health in this complex world may each of you sitting here today Everyone could comprehend this wordless scripture learning how to be silent learning how to wait learning how to wield the power of a calm demeanor To conquer the world to fulfill your own life Alright we'll wrap up today's video here I hope everyone after returning home speaks less swallows their words more and takes better care of their spirit Wishing everyone blessings and wisdom in tandem swift attainment of enlightenment and peace throughout life If you haven't subscribed to the channel yet please click the subscribe button on the right To connect with us more deeply Kindly share and spread wholesome knowledge accruing boundless merit