"finding your style" isn't hard. i made a formula for you.

The what do I wear today question is an endless spiral that we seem to never be able to fix. No matter how many YouTube videos we watch about personal style, how many Pinterest boards we have with outfit inspiration, when we get to our closets in the morning our brain just goes blank. And so this formula is not only very detailed but is coming with a notes template that you can copy paste onto your notes app on your phone and resource to you when you're getting dressed in the morning. Copy paste the text on the description onto your notes and fill it as we go. Let's get to class kids. So the number one question we need to ask ourselves when building our dream closet or trying to figure out a personal style is what are we actually getting dressed for. Not like the event you go to twice a year, places that you spend the majority of your day-to-day mundane life in. So here are a bunch of examples and I want you to write down the three main activities you do. Pieces that you're thrifting or adding to your wish list might not be the pieces that you actually need in your day-to-day life and that's just going to make you more confused and feel like something is off. Maybe you have a corporate job where you need to be super formal. Maybe you have a very chill job where you just want to be comfortable. Personally the three activities that I'm getting dressed for every day are working from home which means I can stay in my pajamas unless I have a meeting but ideally I would like to feel cute every day when I'm working from home. Slash workout classes because I'm lazy so when I get dressed in the morning if I know I have a workout class in the afternoon I will want to put on something that is adequate for that workout class. So remote working slash workout classes, little intimate parties and then we've got work events. I work in fashion and video editing so sometimes you know cool networking stuff will appear and that's where you know I'll kind of step up a little bit in my style. Now once you've got those three occasions set and I'm sure you go to a lot more than three places but we just want like the main three things that you do in your day-to-day life. I want you to think about what goals you want to fulfill in those events. Do you want to be comfortable, warm, you want to be able to move around and be very flexible? How do you want others to perceive you? Do you want to be modest? Do you want to look approachable in your job or do you want to show authority? That is the power of fashion. For me I really want to look creative and fashion is just an outlet where I have a lot of fun and I want to continue having a lot of fun. I want to be comfortable because I'm working from home most of the time but I also want to be bold. I feel the most confident and cool when I'm wearing something that is a little bit... which brings us into step number two. Now we're getting into the categories of clothing. I grabbed so many examples but the options are infinite. We're going to be picking and I know this is hard but we're going to be picking three to five items from each category so that we build a little imaginative capsule wardrobe. For people who love fashion it's very easy, so easy to get lost in the more and more world, more trends, we want to drift more, we want more cool things but that is very overwhelming and it's much easier to think about what you really really really love and would wear like every day of the week than thinking about the bajillion of options you can have out there that maybe you're not even sure if you love but seem fun. So we're going to pick three to five bottoms from all these subcategories I'm going to be listing and we're going to be writing what they are in our notes app. Make sure that you're not picking two items that can serve the same function. So if you pick a pair of jeans that are low waist, maybe you're not going to pick another pair of jeans because the outfit you would wear with one type of jeans you can probably also wear with the other type of jeans and you want clothes that can't like replace each other in outfits. You'll also preferably want to think about things you already have in your closet or things that can easily be styled with things you have in your closet. Think about what color you want them to be, think about what fabric you want them to be, think about the silhouette. Be as picky as you possibly can. You've got many skirts right here, then we have some midi ones, and we have some maxi ones. Feel free to pause, take screenshots. Here's some athleisure models, pants, and finally here's jeans options. From all of these you can only pick three to five. Personally, I'm picking the barrel jeans. I'm picking a maxi flowy skirt because they're super comfortable, they don't get wrinkled so I don't need to iron them, and they're very versatile. And then I'm picking a pair of formal pants and a pair of patterned pants because I have a pants obsession. Now, step number three, we've got the tops. Same rules, three to five. Try not to pick things that can replace each other in outfits. Be super picky, take your time, think about what blouses in your closet are you always going back to, what is always in the laundry machine. Here's some sweater ideas. If you like more minimalist outfits, maybe you can go for a so that you don't need patterns or funky things to spice it up when the color speaks by itself. If you want to look a little bit more chic and sexy, go for an off-the-shoulder. If you want to just be comfy, maybe a balloon sweater. Love this flowy top because it's formal but also casual. It looks stylish, but it's not too extravagant. And again, it doesn't get wrinkled so I don't need to iron it. Here's some shirts ideas. Step number four, we've got- what is it? We've got the accessories. You want to pick a scarf, you want a chunky, tiny silk, you want to pick a necklace for two or three. You're not picking a specific item like an image from the slide, you're picking a style. Now, earrings. There are so many beautiful, cool earrings out there, but I'm very lazy with taking them off and sometimes my ears get infected. So lately, I just make sure that whatever ones I have, I really like. I just wear like a bunch of hoops because I love the hoopy style. If you're running around all day, maybe a pendant is not ideal because it's going to get stuck in your hair. You know, be thoughtful. And we got bracelets and watches. If it's very cold where you live, maybe bracelets aren't good choices because they're going to be covered by your jackets or your big sweaters. I made a whole video about a bunch of tricks and ideas and formulas to accessorizing, so if you want to see that, you can check that below. Then we got rings. Maybe if you work in the kitchen, rings is not the best idea. We've got glasses, which as I've said in previous videos, if you wear seeing glasses, I mean, people spend so much money in like bags and shoes. If you can, get yourself two or three pairs of glasses that are very distinctive and that you like and that you can maybe wear for different occasions. But also, we're talking sunglasses here. Then we've got hats. If you have an office job, for example, maybe a hat isn't the best because, you know, you're gonna have to bring it to work and then take it off and then your hair is all fuzzy. I'm gonna add a hat though because even though I work from home and I'm not wearing hats at home, I really love hats. And then I want you to think about layering and funky pieces. We all have pieces that are very us. It's almost like some of our pieces belong to our character uniform, like it's just very Maya. Maybe it's a sweater you have that has a ladybug on it. Maybe it's this vintage leather jacket that is very worn off but you really like the and you wear it like 90% of the nights you go out. Maybe it's a pair of shoes that has a funky color or a necklace you bought on a fair. And socks can be a part of this because socks make a big difference in our wardrobe. And then we move on to the bottom of the bottom. We've got shoes. I'd say a good rule of thumb would be to pick one sneaker, one heel depending on if you have freaking occasions to wear heels or not, and then one flat. So a loafer or a ballet flat or Birkenstock. I love shoes more than I should, so I'm completely aware that picking three to five shoes may not seem like a lot, but the thing is if you look at your shopping pattern, you'll probably notice you have a lot of similar. If you do have a lot of shoes, you're probably going to notice a pattern. Like I have a lot of black boots. Most of them are hand-me-downs from my mom and my grandma, so I'm not going to pick two black boots from these categories. I'm just going to pick one. I also love flats and I have a thing for colorful flats, so I'm not going to say a blue loafer. I'm just going to say a colorful flat. Try to be specific, but also name a category and not a specific item. And then we're going to do the same with bags. Bags is the category where I am less comfortable with at the stage of my life, or I have a lot of bags that I've thrifted very cheap, but I don't have bags that I really love. Do you wear little cross bags a lot because you don't need to carry a lot of things with you? Do you always carry your computer around so you need a bigger tote? Do you want your bag to be the spicing element of your outfit so it needs to be a very vibrant color, or do you want the model of it to be super funky? And now that we have our not-so-capsule capsule wardrobe, it's shopping time! Or not really, because I'm going to be telling you rules and you're going to get mad at me, but please trust me that this is the right way to do it. So I want you to go back to your however many items you picked, and I want you to bold the ones that you don't already have in your closet. And then I want you to go to your calendar on your phone, to your agenda, paper, planner, whatever you have, and I want you to add a little note on a month from today. So if today is the 5th of February, I want you to note down on the 5th of March to go back to that list and see what items here do you still really love and would wear every day for 10 days straight. Impulse purchasing can be one of the most frustrating things for someone that is trying to figure out their style because our brains are ever-evolving and there are things that our brains are going to be drawn towards. It's like, I don't really know how to explain it. I know this has happened to you, where you go to a store, you see something online, you really really love it, you buy it, and then one, two, three months later you don't really care about it anymore. That's not a product of social media and fast trend cycles and short attention spans. That's also because our taste sometimes can't be trusted. I learned that the hard way. Waiting a month before you buy something is one of the best and most powerful things I can tell you. Not just to save you money, but to actually make you trust yourself. Big tip here, if you're an online thrifter, that means you're not going to be saving on things onto your wish list during that month. You can only start shopping and thrifting for things after that month has passed because when you're thrifting online, you know that there's only going to be one of each. So if you really like something, you're going to be tempted to buy it straight away and that is not what we want. That is cheating. Also, another question I want you to ask is if that item was twice or three times the price it is, would you still buy it? And also, I know this is tricky and chances are you're going to want to pass this step ahead, but please when you're buying something, try to build like five outfits out of the top of your head with things you already own. And voila, now it is time for outfit formulating. I have a whole video about five, I think, of my favorite outfit formulas, but I want you to go onto your Pinterest boards, onto your outfit page, on your album, on your phone, I don't know, anywhere where you save fashion inspiration, and I want you to formulate those outfits. So if you take photos of your outfits, go to your favorite outfits that you've taken a photo of and make a formula out of it. So let's say it's white shirt or colorful button down with straight fit jeans and flap. Don't do super specific, use the categories that you picked from the three to five items. So if you picked lowest jeans on the pants category, you know, you want to pick outfits that have those categories in them. And I want you to write 10. This is a lot of homework, I know, this video is not like a watch it and go and goodbye. Please sit down, see the outfits, and write the formulas of those outfits. How, what are they made of, what accessories are in them, how is the hair, color of the socks, fit of the blouse, and the fact that you're naming that those things with the names of the categories you picked previously is gonna be the trick to ending your existential crisis. Because now when you're getting dressed in the morning, you have outfit formulas with things that you already loved paired with other things that you already love. And the best part is chances are you're gonna have the majority of it already in your closet. The goal here is not to pick new things that you don't have because even if a lot of your clothes are hand-me-downs, chances are there's a lot of things in your closet that you bought because you liked. And maybe now you think that you don't like them anymore, but maybe you also need to see them in a different light. There is a reason why you were drawn towards those clothes. Sometimes I do this exercise where I have a piece of clothing that I haven't worn for a long time, I'm struggling to style, and I think about my like favorite two to three fashion influencers on Instagram and I'm like, okay, if she would post a story wearing this shirt, would I like it? And I can tell if I like the shirt and I'm just struggling to style it or if I actually don't like it. I know this is kind of weird but sometimes putting clothes in other people's bodies or like picturing them in other people's closets can really do the trick. It's almost like if you had a friend come to your wardrobe and style you, they would probably pick a combination that you've never picked before and you're probably gonna like it because they're just not inside your brain. And now we're getting to step nine which is to daydream. I just recently started doing this and it really helps. When I was shopping for clothing I was usually either just broadly searching on online thrift shops or searching on shops that I already know of because when I was in Pinterest I would see all of these cool things but like Pinterest photos don't have a link to shop or most of times if they do it's going to be like very expensive cool designers. I created a board on my Pinterest called wishlist which I think you're gonna like roll your eyes like okay that's so basic. The thing is I see, and I bet I'm not the only one, I see so many cool things on Pinterest but because they're so unique I always think that it's out of reach for me to be able to find that somewhere. To find the shop that's selling that exact thing or to find a similar item on a thrift shop that I like because it's just so different and cool. But if I spend less money on cheap thrifted things that are almost like the model I like but not quite and I bought less things that I really really love it would be so much easier to get ready in the morning. So I want you to stop underestimating the cool things you see on Pinterest and thinking about the possibility that maybe you can get those things or maybe you can be more picky like allow yourself to be very picky. I've heard this somewhere and I really think they have a big point here documenting your style and what you like or documenting anything is the best way of getting to know what you want. Like just like journaling is the best way to understand your thought patterns and how to and feeling better and taking action. Taking photos of your outfits or of the things you like is also such a crucial and helpful step into learning about what you like. Also as time goes by you can unpin things that you don't like anymore so that the ones that are in the board are truly the ones that have stood the testament of time and that you like long term. That will give you such a great grasp on your brain. I've been trying to challenge myself for the past year to every time that I get out of the house put on an outfit I like even if it takes me like 15 minutes extra to get ready. I know that when we're in school those 15 minutes aren't really negotiable because maybe you need to catch a bus and you just can't be late but if you're not on like super tight schedules with struggling to wake up early or situations like that really try to make the point to not leave the house without an outfit you like. Even if I'm going to the supermarket I'm putting on a cute comfortable outfit that I like and that feels very neat. And last but not least every time I'm starting to feel less confident and good about myself I end up realizing a few weeks later that it's because I'm just tired of my hair. Experiment with haircuts. I was so afraid of doing bangs which is so stupid because I was never like someone who was very afraid to try things. For some reason bangs for me since I never tried bangs with my face till I was 20 I just thought it was so intimidating to try bangs. Mess around with your hair. Your hair is like one of the biggest accessories you can use and people forget about it. I think the subject of personal style is so interesting in today's era because we are being exposed to so much more style than we've ever been through fashion reels, through tv, through everything and I think that creates on one side a fake illusion of diversity where it seems like there's like a million different styles and to explore. No one is really like a style. No one has an aesthetic that has a name on Pinterest. We all have our own personal style and so the whole thing of like I don't know micro aesthetics or whatever people call it for me is just stupid because and I'm sorry but like even when ballerina core was a thing I don't think anyone was dressing up with ballerina core outfits every single day. People just bought ballet core items and they would incorporate them in their outfits with so like you don't have to belong to an aesthetic and I hear people say this all the time like oh but I have different styles and I have different aesthetics and I never know like how I can conciliate all of them. None of us belongs to an aesthetic or style. We're all going to like a lot of different things and also not everyone is going to be like equally passionate about clothing or maybe they're passionate about clothing but they're not passionate about being different and I think nowadays we criticize people for buying sambas in 2025 because they're not trendy anymore or everyone has them. What's the freaking problem of someone buying sambas if they like sambas? Like stop and I do this myself like stop criticizing people for buying things that a lot of people already have. Why do we I know that this is human brain nature but why do we stop loving something if we see everyone around us with it? I'd love to hear your tips if you have any on personal style. I'd love love to actually hear what items you chose from the categories. I'm really excited for this informative video where I kind of mathematized fashion. I didn't really think when I made the first one that I could do the same format with so many different topics and every time I do a video I'm like oh this video has too much topics inside of it so I'm gonna run out of things to say but then I find new things to talk about. So these formats of videos are really making me gain a new passion for YouTube. That is everything I have for today. I love you guys. My video editing course launched. 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