This Is Why You’re Avoiding Your Finances (It’s Not What You Think)

Hey there everyone. This is Edna White and welcome to tonight's Real Talk. If you ever avoided checking your bank account, putting off opening bills, or pushing money conversations away, this is for you. You're not lazy. You're not hiding anything. You're not irresponsible. You're likely in trauma. I used to keep my bank app in a folder on my phone and it would be called later, you know, or I would not even look at it. I'd put it at the last end of all my apps on my phone. So, I would I would avoid it and forget about it. I thought it was just because I was bad with money, but really I was emotionally frozen. frozen in the time when I as a young child saw my mother's struggle and saw what soon as she got money it was flow it flew out of her hands to pay a bill or she worked very hard and she had no time for us because she was sleeping because she was tired that emotionally weighed on me and as a child I literally was working and making great money as a little kid you you know, and I would wash all my money and put it under my mattress. Maybe a year later, I had almost $1,200. So, you see, it's not lazy. It's frozen. So, I'm frozen in that time, in that era where I hear that money is bad for me. That money, if I have money, I wouldn't know what to do with it. If I had it, it was dirty, filthy, and I could not control it. That was my nervous system trying to protect me. And now remember, everything that goes on in your body, fight, flight, frozen, fawning, it all has to do with your nervous system. Remember that. When you've experienced instability, especially around money, your brain associates financial tasks with stress or shame. For instance, if you for your own small business or maybe your your little side hustle, you work 9 to5 and then when it comes to do your business, you kind of get a little bit lazy. Oh, I'll get to it. I'll get to it. It's only making 600 anyway. That's fright. The fright of being successful. And that trauma and that nervous system response shows up on how you do your business. Avoidance becomes a coping mechanism. But here's the shift. Once you name it, you can start reclaiming your power. Naming and reclaiming, not claiming, but naming and reclaiming something that's new. Start with one small win. Log in. Breathe. No judgment. Healing your money story doesn't happen overnight, but it starts with awareness. If you want to help turn your financial avoidance into confidence, I go live every night right here. Follow me for more. Or check out my YouTube at keeping it real on purpose. And if you're ready to rewrite your money story, DM me with the word reset so we can get started.