How To Take Control Of Your Feelings (6 EASY STEPS)

everyone's renee from many fluency i hope you look good feel good and are ready to prosper because in this video i want to talk about how to take control over your feelings because i know a lot of us always struggle to take control over our feelings because we want more out of life or we are individuals that want to prevent our emotions get in the way and that's why we want to control our feelings so if that sounds like something you can relate to this video will definitely help you out and thus if you're someone that is new to this channel and would love to see more videos like this please consider hit the subscribe button and leave a thumbs up for the youtube algorithm anyways with that said let's jump into the video number one accept the reality so when it comes to all of us for some reason when it comes to controlling our feelings initially we want to completely get rid of the feelings because we think this is the best method but the truth is that most of us can't get rid of our feelings completely because at the end of the day we're all humans and we're emotional creatures and thus there's no point in trying to find some sort of magical way to get rid of your feelings and at the same time this can be very unhealthy too and that's why i'm mentioning that if you're someone that wants to have control over your feelings it's very important to accept the reality because taking control over your feelings doesn't necessarily mean that you completely eliminate your feelings so good understood well done so let's move to number two aim for regulation no repression all right so now we understand that controlling your feelings isn't always eliminating your feelings and thus there's no need to use any sort of professional method to get rid of your feelings better to aim for regulation over your feelings because this way you have more control over your feelings and you must understand that you can never have 100 control over your feelings and i know for some individuals that are control freaks this can be very hard to accept but that's the reality because if you're someone that wants to have control over your feelings you need to accept that and then also understand that you need to aim to regulate your feelings instead of having some sort of on and off button to instantly repress your feelings obviously that's not the way our feelings work if you're someone that feels sad on a day you can't say well let me turn it off all right now i feel happy again because our feelings can be very irrational sometimes and thus trying to get as much control over your feelings is something you should try to aim for by regulation rather than to repress your feeling and all right i hope you now understand the fundamentals when it comes to feelings and what the key elements are as to how to control your feeling and now i would like to move to the third point and that's to identify your feelings so we've covered what we can do and we can't do when it comes to our feelings but now it's finally time to identify our feelings try to understand how we're feeling and why we're feeling that way and for most individuals it's obviously very easy to identify how they're feeling so if you're feeling sad you're feeling very happy or you have any other sort of emotional situation most of us can easily identify that we're feeling a certain way because we've probably felt it before and we just generally know how our feelings work and as most of us think we already know how we're feeling and that's pretty much it but that's the dangerous thing when it comes to our feelings because sometimes we overlook that part sometimes we stop identifying as to what we're actually feeling because you might be thinking that you're feeling a little bit sad but sometimes it can be worse than that or sometimes you're too dramatic but you're not feeling that way and thus if you're someone that's identifying your feelings you can understand what you're actually feeling is the current feeling you've had worse than any other sort of feeling that you've previously had or is it something that isn't that big of a deal and you are making it a bigger deal ask yourself those questions and on top of that we've got another part why are you feeling this way try to identify your feelings from a rational perspective what happened on a particular day that made you feel this way did something out of the ordinary happen or was it a regular day or was it that you had certain things on your mind maybe you were very stressed out maybe you had some other issues going on and that has affected the way you're feeling maybe was it due to the action of someone else and if it was because of someone else are you making it a bigger deal than it actually should have been or do you have a very valid reason for it and those are some of the typical questions you can ask yourself and obviously there's tons and tons of more questions you can ask yourself but the main components that those questions are derived from are what are you feeling at the moment and why are you feeling this way ask yourself those two questions on a continuous basis and you'll notice that your self-reflection will only get better and better over time number four give yourself some space so once again i've already mentioned that you can't 100 have control over your feelings and thus it's very key that you give yourself some space because at the end of the day sometimes time is the thing that heals our feelings or emotions if we're someone that are going through a very rough time but with someone they just simply got out of a very rough situation and now we need to find our path again in that particular instance you need more time sometimes we simply have a very bad day and whatever you're gonna do on that particular day won't fix it and unfortunately we all have those days and in that particular instance you can try every little tip and trick in the book but it won't help you out you simply need more space you need more time for yourself to start to elaborate as to why you might be feeling this way and try to prevent in the future if you can't prevent it and i understand that a lot of individuals when i talk about giving yourself more space think about physical distance when it comes to a particular person that makes you feel a certain way that you don't want to be feeling and that's one of the interpretations but another one is to give yourself some mental distance instead of constantly focusing on your feelings you can try to distract yourself and this isn't to repress your feelings in any sort of way but sometimes your feelings can feel a little bit overwhelming and thus by distracting yourself this will make it a little bit easier for you number five accept your feelings did i say that you sometimes just simply need to accept your feelings is that something that a lot of people never talk about just accept your feelings except that you're not feeling very good on a particular day because at the end of the day think about it you're still living you're still doing your everyday things and thus there's no point of allowing your feelings to get in the way of viewing your dreams and goals and one way to actually accept your feelings rather than to just think i need to accept my feelings is to speak it out loudly this is what i've done previously and it has worked tremendously well i've seen all the individuals do this as well and that's just to speak it out if you're feeling like an emotional wreck speak it out i am a emotional wreck so what i'm still living i'm still human i can still conquer the girls i want and this way it just feels like you're lifting all of the weight off your shoulders and the same goes for individuals are very stressed out i've got lost assignments to make i've got a lot of things to do but so what the end of the day i'm still here i'm still grateful that i can breathe i'm still grateful that i'm living life even though i don't feel well and that's the mentality you should be having when it comes to accepting your feelings instead of just thinking that you're accepting your feeling try to speak it out loudly because a lot of times we put too much weight on our shoulders by holding ourselves back when it comes to our feelings while in most instances it's not even a big deal to all the individuals if you just simply verbally say that you're not feeling that well other individuals will have some empathy with you to understand you and both of you can continue with your day and at the same time if you're feeling less on a particular day all the individuals will take this into consideration and thus this will prevent a lot of drama or other emotional stuff happening because they know that if you end up being a little bit more rude it's due to you having a bad day and thus by accepting your feelings and expressing this both parties can understand each other and you end up having a better situation number six write it down so i've already talked about verbally expressing your feelings but what about writing it down so if you're someone that's feeling very emotional in a particular situation and honestly you can't always express everything with everyone you want you can always write it down on paper try to write the situation down try to analyze and think about how you're feeling at the moment and what is causing it and this will really help you out a ton of studies have been done when it comes to writing stuff down and those studies aren't talking about expressing your feelings but those studies are showing that individuals that write stuff down have a higher chance at succeeding in life the individuals that don't write stuff down because simply think about it i see this all the time and not to be rude or anything but i find it quite unfortunate and stupid that a lot of individuals that feel very stressed out or overwhelmed because they have a lot of things to do which i do have empathy for because all of us have a lot of things to do but the difference between a lot of people that can control their stress and individuals that can't control their stress is that individuals that can actually control their stress write stuff down so instead of having everything wandering through your head having to think about a b and z whatever you have to do on that particular day you can simply write it down and this way you have some sort of format the weight is lifted off your shoulders is now you don't have to constantly think about what you have to do in that particular day everything is on paper and you can simply follow the list and this way you'll be less stressed out and it will make your life easier and that's just talking about the feeling stress you can pretty much use it with any other sort of feeling if you're feeling very sad try to write down what happened on that particular day try to analyze what went wrong what you could have done or what the other person should have done and this way all of your thoughts are on the paper now you're lifting all of the weight off your shoulders and you end up feeling more relieved and that's how you control your feelings you try to control as much as you can but at the same time understand that you can't control your feelings 100 and then implement strategies to control your feelings by writing stuff down speaking out loudly or simply trying to identify your feelings and i generally hope that this video helps you out because i want you to succeed when it comes to having control over your feelings because this won't only help you to become a stronger person it will also help you out in a lot of other areas in your life and that's like jenny want the best for you and that pretty much sums it up for this video i really hope you appreciate this video and found informative if you did please leave a thumbs up for the youtube algorithm and if you'd like to see more videos like this please consider hitting the subscribe button and i'll be brother out anyways thank you so much for watching i genuinely appreciate your time and i hope to see on my next video bye bye [Music] you