7 Tips To Deal With Rejection

the world of dating and relationships it's an emotional rollercoaster and sometimes they accept detour to the land of rejections and that's why in this video I want to talk about seven tips to deal with rejection and I know that you're feeling this physical pain this emotional pain but don't let it rejection stop you it's only a learning experience because you're about to become the best version of you you're about to upgrade yourself and be grateful that this happened to you because in this video I want to go over on how to deal with rejections and with that said let's get started number one it's not personal first and foremost let's embrace the truth I know a lot of people won't believe me but it's not personal it's not an attack on you where you get rejected it just means that the other person thinks there wasn't chemistry there wasn't a connection between you two and that's literally it don't let it brush your ego because if you truly believe that you are that guy if you truly believe that you're not punching that you're not thinking that you're shooting out of your league it shouldn't hurt you it's not personal because every single time when I get rejected I don't take it personal I actually think they lost out on me I generally think that that's their problem I actually think that in a year's time they will regret it and the only reason I've got this mindset is because I am that guy I work extremely hard for myself I work towards my goals and Ambitions and I want you to do the same if you're someone that's a similar mindset like this you won't take a personal because you truly know that you're actually giving the other person an opportunity Unity versus them giving you an opportunity and this is key in the way on how you deal with rejection number two maintain self-respect keep yourself respect intact and I know that it also sounds very easy to say this I know it sounds like this is the thing I am meant to tell you but it's the truth just because you got rejected doesn't mean that you're any less of a man than you were before you got rejected matter of fact I would argue that you're more of a man that you're a stronger man a man of more value than you were before you go rejected because now you're going through the pain now you're on a quest where you can give yourself the opportunity to grow into the better version of yourself and this is how you should look at it yourself always try to have this positive mindset even though if it feels like it's the worst thing in the world you can cry about it or you can make the best of it and to be able to make the best of it you need to maintain your self-respect because you are that guy remember that because just before you go rejected you knew you were this guy and now after you got rejected doesn't mean that you're not that guy it just simply means that it was the wrong time it simply means that it wasn't meant to be it simply means that you weren't compatible and all of those things are fine but you're being sorrow crying in your room and just thinking and overthinking about this person won't help you out you need to keep yourself composure keep yourself respect because the only thing you can control is yourself number three learn from the experience rejection is an opportunity for self-improvement the first time you get rejected it feels so painful the first time you get rejected if you're so personal but the more times this happens the less pain you will feel but it's a very good thing to understand where it might have gone wrong it's very important to understand and learn from your experiences think about whether there were some signs that you could have already read that she might have not been that interested so I'm not telling you to not go for that person but perhaps emotionally detach yourself from the result if you know that she wasn't that interested in you because were there any signs that you missed that both parties communicate effectively with each other use this experience to enhance your dating skills and use it as a learning curve to better understand what your preferences are because even though you thought that this person was perfect clearly after you got rejected you might have a little bit of bitterness against this individual so think about the things she actually didn't like about this person even though at the time it seemed perfect this is the perfect opportunity to learn from your experiences so definitely do it number four stay positive I've already mentioned this but positivity is magnetic focus on focus on the positive aspects of your life and your dating journey and I completely understand that at the moment you're really seeking attention and validation from this person but if you are someone that wants to see stay an attractive individual you need to be positive surround yourself with amazing positive friends have a positive amazing lifestyle because this in itself is very attractive and this will allow you to deal with rejection a lot better and will possibly also give you opportunities to move on and perhaps find an even better individual number five don't play the blame game it's easy to point fingers and blame yourself especially as a man because we like to take responsibility but sometimes there's external factors that are out of our control sometimes there were things we simply couldn't do that would make a difference but regardless you shouldn't blame yourself for things you have no control over obviously assess yourself look at yourself improve yourself become the best version of yourself see this as an opportunity to grow but also acknowledge that sometimes things are not meant to be sometimes you can't change some things because there's external factors that you have zero control over number six keep your options open a lot of times when we think we found the one a lot of times when we liked a particular person quite a lot all we want is that person even after getting rejected we don't want no one else we only want that person but this isn't good for your mental health it's not good for your results it's not good for your life you need to keep your options open you need to talk to other individuals I'm not telling you to meet 10 different girls I'm just saying that it's important to keep your options open but you need to have this abundance mindset where you know that you actually do have enough options if you really truly want to you can get someone else but you decide to be with this particular person this is a very crucial mindset that you need to have if you're someone that only attracted one girl and this is the only girl you've ever been able to attract your life you won't have this mindset this is the only person you have this is the only opportunity you have in your life and if you screw it up you're doomed and this gives you such a scarcity mindset you'll come across as needy you'll come across as an individual that isn't attractive because clearly it looks like you have no one else in your life and this is not attractive and number seven is communication is key talk to someone about it your friend family member it does not matter keeping these emotions to yourself won't help in the long term it's good to tell at least one person about how you're feeling I'm not telling you to completely cry I'm not telling you to completely open up to someone but you can simply say to one of your friends hey I don't feel that well because I got rejected by this girl I don't feel that well because I really like that person and people will have empathy for you A lot of people do care even though sometimes it feels like they don't when you are at the bottom and you're telling a person about how you feel they will show you that they do feel for you because we've all been there we've all felt the struggles and pain of being rejected but it's just a part of the journey look at it from a positive perspective even though it feels like this person was the one for you over time in the long term you will thank yourself this is the time for you to grow into the best version of you this is the time for you to look at it as an experience where you can overcome the Heralds you're feeling so much pain there's so much Agony in your life right now but if you truly want to showcase to yourself that you are that guy that even though you didn't get her was worthy of her and it's her loss you need to overcome this hurdle and start your glow up Journey because that's what I did I truly completely transformed myself into the person I am today an individual that can turn heads anywhere I go I can attract the best looking girls whenever I want and that's just a small part of it and if you are someone that wants to engage in this glow up Journey I've written a free book it's completely free all you have to do is to go to the description and this way you can download the free glow up Secrets book because I truly want to help you out currently you're feeling this pain and Agony and a good way to distract yourself from this is by self-growth is by becoming a better version of yourself is by becoming someone of value someone you can be proud of and it all starts today so definitely check it out if you're someone that's serious and that's pretty much the end of this video so thank you so much for watching I generally appreciate your time and hope till my next video bye bye