I Moved Across The Country For My Girlfriend (Then She Dumped Me)

[Music] brought to you by the Every Dollar app. Start budgeting for free today. I am in about $19,000 worth of debt. I have about $25,000 uh invested in a mutual fund. I recently moved out to Knoxville from Albuquerque and I'm just trying to get some clarity on what I should do next. Uh I'm only making about $3,000 a month out here in Knoxville. I'm a personal trainer at a gym and I me and my girlfriend that I came out here to support were going through a breakup right now and just trying to figure some things out. So, you moved all the way to Knoxville. You're doing the personal training thing, not making too too much, but what's your point of staying there if if did you go just for the relationship or is there any other reason you're there? Yeah, pretty much just for the relationship. Her and I are still living together. Uh trying to work things out, but it's not super clear on if that's going to happen, but I'm just trying to do some growth as a man right now. So, um I told everybody I'm going to be out here for a year. I'm going to help her get through PA school and I'm still trying to stick to that even though and I'm not like like a stalker or anything like staying out. No, that's that's bull. Hey, George here with a quick interruption. If something were to happen to you tomorrow, would your family know where to find your life insurance policy, your will, even your Netflix password? Well, Knockbox solves that. It's a kit that organizes your financial accounts, estate plans, and everything your family would need, all in one place. That way, they don't have to hack into your laptop or locate some long-lost thumb drive. So, leave them a legacy, not a scavenger hunt with Knockbox. Ramsey fans get the best discount available at knockbox.com/ramsey. That's knockbox.com/ramsey. No, that's that's bull. You absolutely do not need to help somebody get through PA school that you broke up with. And you don't need to be living in the same house with somebody you broke up with. Yeah. What's that mean? Help her get through PA school. Are you paying for it? You don't do that unless you're married. Um, emotionally, uh, making sure all the things around the house are done. Just interesting. All those things. Yeah. And we broke up maybe a month and a half, two months ago. But you still live there. Yeah. I We Dude, you know how weird that sounds. It's weird. Yeah, you wouldn't that. It's weird. All of it. Yeah. I would move out immediately basically if you can like get out of there. You guys need to separate your living situation. Oh, wait a minute. Let me let me I'm so confused cuz I I it's I'm old so I don't understand this stuff. But um like I've been married 43 years, so I don't know how to do what you're doing. But um uh so I don't know how you go through it. You either are together or you're broken up. I don't know how you kind of stand in the middle with one foot on the boat and one on the dock and the boat's leaving. I think you're just going to get wet. So, um I am Am I missing? I mean, so I I think it's probably healthy for you to make a call. Are you done with this relationship, Christopher? I don't want to be, but I didn't ask that. I said, are you done with this relationship? No, sir. Okay. Is she? No, sir. Then why are you telling me you're broke up? Because we are not technically boyfriend and girlfriend anymore. But here's Do you That's kind of like being done with a relationship, dude. And here's the problem. You've created all of these high stakes that are that are causing you to make decisions you might not otherwise make. If you were just dating somebody and you lived in your house and she lived in hers and you lived in the state that you wanted to and you didn't follow her somewhere, the things that happened in the relationship, you could very clearly filter them as what they are. But now the stakes are high. You've moved all the way out here. You're sharing a residence. So, it's not as easy to look at a situation and go, "That's not for me. I'm going to hightail it out of here." Now, you have to think about where you're going to live. Are you going to stay in this state? What about rent? What about this? Do you see how it makes something that should have been so simple very very complex with a lot of weighted stakes? Yeah. So, I think you're going back to Albuquerque. I do too. Okay. I appreciate you guys. Thanks for the call. Sorry, man. I I don't I don't I don't know what he's doing, but I think he should do that. I don't know what he's going to do. I can't tell anything about it. So, yeah, he should go back. He should not go back home. Just go back to Albuquerque. That is home, but Well, not home. Home home, but Gotcha. Yeah. Not to mama's house is what I'm saying. Yeah. Do do the man thing. Have your own place. Pay your own bills. Work like a person. All that kind of stuff. That do do the man thing and stand alone. And then you'll like you better and the next time you go into a relationship, you'll be a different person. Yep. Rather than mistakes are research. They're good. They're a good way to learn what not to do, what works. I figured out that leaves a mark. Yeah. Ouch. Create your free every dollar budget today.