Why Narcissists want you to CHASE THEM after they DISCARD YOU

Once again, welcome back to the channel. If you guys are new here, do not forget to subscribe. Do not forget to come follow me on Instagram. The exact same username is here on YouTube. I'm going to break this down for you guys. Very simple, very, very clean breakdown. And I'm going to explain exactly why narcissists want you to chase them ever so desperately after the relationship ends. And you know, they make this stuff happen. They make this stuff happen, bro. You're going to start off with a wonderful, wonderful female. For example, it's going to be a wonderful little lady. You got going on there. It's going to be something very good for months for months. That's about it. And um, many months in, they start to change, they start to switch up and all of a sudden the controlling tactics start when you don't fall for their initial games, their initial controlling tactics, they get even crazier. They get even more desperate to try to control you. They get more desperate to just ruin your life. So it'll go so far to the very end of the relationship and this is all to get you to chase. Narcissists will, they'll make their best attempt to make you cry, to make you shed as many tears as possible, to break you down to the lowest because they want to have that power over your subconscious. They want to feel like they're being chased almost 24 seven. Because if you wrote the worst thing you can do to a narcissist is just have things like steadily being good. Like let's say you guys are in the relationship. Things are just like good. That's what they hate. They hate when things are going well because whatever happened to them in their past, in their childhood, things weren't going so well. Things weren't so well during those times. It was about chaos. It was about instability. So the fact that you can be so stable, and that's what you don't understand, right? Being a healthy human being, you don't understand how things can be so stable and so good. And all of a sudden your partner, your narcissistic partner is absolutely freaking out and they start to self sabotage the entire relationship you guys have. And this is because it makes them feel more safe. If they can break you down on your knees to make you want to chase after them, they always feel like the end is coming. They always feel like the end is coming. Even if you had a, I got to say this cause I've been in this situation. If you have a narcissistic partner and they're at your house, let's say, and you have to take them home, bro, everything is perfectly fine, but it's time for them to go home now. They are going to freak out, man. And I don't mean like in a bad way freaking out like at you or anything. They're freaking out internally. They might, I've seen cases where they're crying, bro. Cause they have to go home. They're crying because they're scared. They make never, they might never see you again. Things are going perfectly fine. There is no reason for something like that to happen. But internally they are freaking out. Things they've experienced in the past start to come up, bro. This is how things go so wrong with narcissistic individuals. There's no such thing as them pair bonding with you on a healthy level where things are just flushed. Things are just going well. You guys are connected in a healthy manner that doesn't exist. They cannot pair bond their pair bonding systems and their brain doesn't work. It's almost like an iPhone. Like it's almost like your AirPods not connecting to a Bluetooth. It just doesn't connect. It just doesn't work. So as much as you try to resonate with them, as much as you try to get things to be cool, you can't, it doesn't work. For whatever reason, it doesn't work. They're going to panic. They're going to cry. They're going to do some crazy stuff. You're just like, geez, like you can't even believe what's going on. It's like, man, this is just not normal. And this is only between you and the narcissist. Let me, let me make something very clear. If somebody was to walk in the house, you guys want to know what they would do. They would stop like this and act normal in a flick of a finger because they know how crazy that is and they know other people can't see them like that, but they get comfortable with you enough that you can see them like that. If somebody else was to walk in the house, I shit you not, they would stop their moaning and groaning instantly, instantly and act like, Oh, they didn't even do that, bro. I, I, bro, I have seen something crazy in the year of 2020 where a girl was at my house. This was a while ago, man. Like this is at my apartment. Actually a girl was at my place and she was crying alligator tears right in my face and her friend dropped her off at my place and she was coming back later. And she, when she was coming back, she didn't text that she was coming back. She just started coming back cause she went to see some other guys. She dropped this girl off at my place when she came back and opened the door to my house. This girl, before she knew her friend was back at my house to pick her up and open the door to come in. This girl was in front of me, bro. Crying. I don't even remember what it was about. It was about nothing. Alligator tears coming down. As soon as her friend opened the door and came in, she instantly stopped and acted like nothing was even happening. Ha ha. Bro, I swear to God it was a fakest thing I've ever seen in my life. I have never seen something so fake in my entire life. And the reason they do that is because they know how messed up it is. But something between you and a narcissist is very special, right? It's a very special bond that you share with a narcissist. It's not a good bond and it's not a good pair bonding bond, but it's a very special bond that you guys share together where they're unloading their BS on you. They do crazy stuff to you. Cuckoo type shit that they would never let no one else see that they're doing to you. They would never let anybody else see it. And if you were to tell on them to anyone else, they'd say that you're crazy. They never did that. Huh? No, I never did that. That's how up there, man. They are very dangerous people, very dangerous individuals. And if you guys ever encounter one or you know, you brought, you guys probably have watched this video right now, but if you ever encounter one again, you have to cut them off instantly. I mean run for your life, like run. It's not safe. And I had to go through something pretty bad kind of recently, kind of going on half a year now, close to it. So there's a bit of time, but that, uh, it showed me how serious red flags are and no exceptions. None. Doesn't matter how much you love the person because that's what kept me there, bro was love. It does not matter how much you love the person. Doesn't matter how much you care for the person. It doesn't matter how much like you want to help them and you want to save them and you think you can, bro, do yourself a favor, man. Just leave, just leave because the damages are going to continue to accumulate over time and it's going to end up burning you so bad. You don't even know what's coming, bro. You don't even know like you don't, it gets bad, man. The longer you stay, the worse it gets. And, um, the thing that also keeps you there is the trauma bond. Cause you know, it's going to sting when you cut this off, which that's the biggest thing that keeps you right there, man. Cause you know, if this is to be cut off completely, yeah, it's going to sting. It's, it's, it's gonna sting. That's the unfortunate thing and reality of these narcs, bro. They come in, they love bombers and they burn us ever so badly as time keeps going on. But the sooner you get out, the better it's going to be. The longer you're in this kind of stuff, the worse it's going to be. The more you're going to want to stay. But man, it's a very dangerous situation of being guys. You don't want to be in it. You want to do your best to avoid that kind of stuff. And like I said, if you ever encounter something like this and you're watching this video right now, think back to this, do yourself a favor and get out. Do never make an exception. Don't ever do that. Don't ever think, Oh, this is different. It might not be that bad. Maybe I can help them. Maybe I can save them. You can't. Red flags are very serious. If you see them, you have to get gone. You have to get going. You have to get gone because they're going to send you to the shadow realm and that's a dark place and you don't want to be there. So like I said, guys, the reason why they do all this stuff, they do all the antics, all the crazy behavior that you're going to see. It's all out of insecurities. They can't form a bond and an attachment. Things get really messy. Things get extremely chaotic, bro. With a narcissist, with a borderline, especially things get really, really, really chaotic. These people, I'm telling you guys right now, bro, these people fare off so much better without having close bonds, close connections, relationships. These people fare out so much better because they can actually be like kind of half normal outside of those. As soon as they start to grow lots of feelings towards somebody like yourself, this is what I just experienced, bro. Love starts to make them do some crazy, crazy stuff, man. Because when you have a bond, it all becomes about you and your partner. It's not just about you no more. It's about you and your partner. What you do is going to affect them for the good or the bad. What they do is going to affect you for the good or the bad. So this bond you have with this person, if they are off, right? If they are off, if this person you're bonded with is off, which they are, a narcissist is very off. They're going to start to cause you problems. So when they cause problems, you're going to have a problem with the problems that they're causing, right? Now you're going to say things to them. You're going to hold them accountable. Now this causes even more problems and more turmoil. And now that there's problems, they start to panic. They start to fear abandonment. They start to freak out. Things absolutely go haywire. This is why when people have red flags, folks, you have to get out. It might not seem so serious at first. Okay, well they have a few issues with this and that. And okay, let time keep going, man. Let time keep going. Cause they'll all a whole bunch of stuff is going to build up. Things are going to get out of hand. You're going to see some crazy stuff go down and you learn. You learn a lot from a man. You have to get hit so hard sometimes, man, to realize how serious red flags actually are. And you'll know for the rest of your life, you will never want to experience that kind of pain again. A traumatized, broken human being, bro. That and they got to put all that onto you. They're going to cause so many problems. You're not going to understand it. They're causing problems because firstly, they're in love with you and things happen. Things happen. Things escalate, things happen, and then things escalate. Things happen and then things escalate and you get fed up yourself. You started to get fed up with all the problems are causing. You can't understand why things just can't be stable. And that's where I was at. Like, I'm just like, can we just get through a day? Like, can you just not do this stuff? Like, what are you doing? Like you can't understand it, but they're broke. Things are much worse than I'm even explaining right now. They do absolutely unhinged things, unacceptable things like earth shattering craziness, bro. But I can't even say they do some bad things, man. Things get out of hand. Things get really chaotic. So it teaches you how serious red flags are. And through all these insecurities they have through all the stuff they started to cause, it starts to make the relationship fail. It starts to piss you off. You start to get mad at them. They get mad at you. They get even more mad at you for getting mad at them. And things just spiral, bro. Just downward spiral. It just spirals and then goes downhill. Just like the stock market right now. It's like every time Donald Trump speaks about something, the markets just crash. Just like a narcissist. Every time they do some shit, bro, things just spiral and go downhill. And you're just trying to get them to just not even do anything. It's like, can you just not? But they can't help it. And the more problems they cause, the worse things get. The worse the relationship gets, the more insecure they feel, the more fear they feel. And all of a sudden they're playing these next level games where they're going to end the relationship because they don't even feel safe themselves no more. They don't feel safe because they feel like you're going to end the relationship. And Oh my God, they, they can't feel this way. They have to end it right now. They start to panic. They break up with you for problems that they have caused. And the whole time you put up with all their bullshit, you put up with all their stuff and they come and break up with you because of all the problems they cause. They sketch themselves out so bad they don't even notice it, bro. And they blame you for all the problems they cause. This is how backwards and damaged and mentally ill these narcissists are. It's twisted. It's sick, but they're sick guys. They are sick. And that's why I'm saying this is how serious red flags are. You guys don't want to be involved in something like this, man. You guys don't want to be involved with something like this. You don't. I don't ever want to do that shit again, man. It's painful. It hurts. So what they do is they discard you and they start to do things now. They don't just discard you and right off into the sunset. Very few do, but they're going to play games, bro. They're going to play games on the internet. They're going to play games. They're going to try to make you jealous some way, somehow they're going to try their best. They want you to chase them after they discard you. Cause that continues to, that continues to validate their existence. They want to feel like you care about them. They want to feel those feelings, but they, you know, it's about power and control for a narcissist. They have to feel like they're in power and control. They can't healthily pair bond with you where you're in a healthy relationship. No one's controlling nobody. I got you. I am here for you. Okay. And they think the exact same way. I got you. I'm here for you. Okay. It's not like that guys. That's what a healthy relationship is. That's not how a narcissist is. They need power. They need to control you. They need to cause chaos. They need to do these scheming little things and this causes lots of turmoil to yourself. And it's exactly why you guys cannot deal with it, bro. You can't, I don't care who it is. There are some beautiful people in the world, bro, that had a bad deck of cards that got dealt to them and it messed them up and it's unfortunate. It's very, very unfortunate. But, uh, it is what it is, man. We have to love those people and let them go and just continue all their life. And, um, that's the way it has to be. There's no other way. You can't stay, you can't chase. You just have to keep going and it's all you can do. Anything else is going to ruin you, bro. Anything else, any other choice, any other decision you make is going to ruin you. This is the power of walking away from a narcissist and it only gets better with time. It only gets better with time. So do not forget it guys. Don't forget to subscribe to the channel. Like I said, come follow me on Instagram, the exact same username is here on YouTube. And with that being said, that is it for this one, guys. I will see you in the next God willing. God bless. And we'll see y'all at the top.