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if you are in a dark place and you hear change is real change is possible doesn't that lift your mood don't you want that to be true and once you allow it because you have to allow it once you allow that to lift your mood you're like i feel better just by thinking i can change that was huge for me that was like moment one was when i realized i actually can change so this thing that feels like a death threat this like smothering cloud of just like despair it can clear away and it immediately and it's not like oh it went from gray skies to blue skies it wasn't that immediate but it was it literally immediately a lighter load just because i realized i can change and people are always looking for how do i have the energy i'm depressed down on myself how do i get the energy to push through man you've got to find a way to find energy in that you can change so whatever position you're in right now you can change no matter what it is no matter how horrific no matter what you've been through no matter what you've done like there is a way out from under it but part of it is allowing that sense of lightness to be there this one fact would change their life forever you don't get skills because it looks good on the resume you get skills because it lets you do the thing you want to do stronger the emotion you feel from some outer experience in your life the more altered you feel the more the brain freezes the frame and takes a snapshot well now you're freezing a frame in the outer environment but if you're truly in the present moment and you know exactly what you want when the heart moves into this kind of rhythm when you're feeling frustration when you're feeling impatient when you're feeling resentment you are stepping on the gas pedal the heart is pumping against the closed system and it causes an erratic beat it becomes incoherent and energy literally leaves the heart now you no longer believe in your future you can't put your heart into your future you can't trust the outcome because there's no energy there it's it's being used and consumed somewhere else so energy is leaving the brain as well but once energy starts to move into the heart the heart begins to create a wave of energy right to the brain and all of a sudden you see this wave and the person starts to get a very clear idea they see their future very clearly which is the state of creation this is when you no longer hear the voice in your head that's talking to you that you listen to and believe is the truth it suppresses the default mode network and the next thing you know you start seeing in pictures and images you start dreaming and that's the imagination that's the creative state so now you start naturally imagining the heart is the creative center i think one of the biggest challenges with change is too much pressure especially when someone has other challenges that affect the challenge of distraction and i would look at small incremental changes small changes but a big priority in their life the challenge i find is that too many of us are trying to change too many things all at the same time small step big priority try and change one small thing but make it the biggest priority of the week what we do we try and make big steps and make them all small priorities so we want to shift that right shift it the other way around to help that person find a small little baby step that they can take the children have moments in their life where certain things start evolving for them that's how we're built that's how we're wired so allowing that to happen continuously even when we grow older makes it easier for that person as well we all get to decide what our values are what our belief system is what our rules in life are the code of ethics that we live by those are all decisions that people mistake for empirical truth but if you want to know how just unempirically true it is look across all societies they don't share it the reality is that we're all constructing this belief system value system honor code all of it and it's going to determine what we do and how we do it [Music] about i not how about you not wait to get it right you look at you figure out how does it look doing it wrong what are you waiting on are you willing to do it afraid are you willing to do it knowing that you got so much work to do to get it better to get it more perfect but are you willing to do it inside your imperfection do you realize that in your imperfection you're perfect for the job here's another great fact you can change your thoughts anytime you like and if you change your thinking it changes your entire life [Music] you have a sophisticated sense of of the world you find for example that doing things for other people is actually more rewarding than virtually anything else you can do you know when you hear you should be of service to other people well if you actually watch yourself you pay attention to yourself and you do something that helps someone else and it genuinely helps them i defy you to find another experience that is that satisfying it's actually quite stunning how satisfying that is and so that's a very useful thing to realize is when you are talking to yourself who is talking and who is listening it's only one of you but we act like there's two so the one who's talking that saying you're inadequate never going to amount to anything you're not perfect you need to wait it's not the right time causes resistance it's profound it's deep it you know we all the problems come from resistance but who is that voice talking to it's talking to a voice that wants to be trusted it's talking to a voice that once said something creative once did something that was funny once made something better all of us have done it at least once and then along the way resistance in that voice persuaded us not to trust that self and [Music] if we turn off social media the only person left to talk to is the self and if we can adopt a practice and give this self room it will surprise us it won't always be right it won't always be successful but it will always be better than your hustling hacking way of just playing with the system [Music] the way you feel about everything is down to two things the pictures you make in your head and the words the way you feel about everything every minute of every day is only down to two things the pictures you make in your head and the words you say [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] so [Music] you