so many people from your past know a version of you that no longer exists anymore…never stop growing

[Music] the best gift you can give yourself is to find something that motivates you find something that motivates you turn that motivation into drive once you're driven you can then push yourself very far but the biggest gift you can give somebody is that they see your drive they see your passion to become better and then you can pass along that gift that you have giving yourself on to someone else to be better that's the best gift you can give somebody you can take your surroundings beyond order and and and move towards beauty and that's unbelievably useful because while beauty calls people to their higher being i would say and to make friends with beauty is to [Music] introduce yourself very carefully to one of the mysteries of life that make it worth living [Music] let me tell you in order to have something different you are going to have to do something different in order to have something more you have to do something you haven't done yet and when you look up and you don't have to have a magnificent change over 12 months have a small change over 30 days and then small change over 30 days your breakthrough comes will come in needlepoint moves and you'll look up in five years and not recognize your life so when i say you've gotta unwanted you've got to want it bad enough to fight through that period where you don't know if you're going to pull it off you're afraid that you're going to end up being a total loser and the people that go on to do just extraordinary things with their lives they're people that want this success so badly that they're willing to face the fact that they might prove themselves to be a loser which of course is an illusion and isn't actually how it plays out but that's they needed this huge desire to help them overcome the fear that they might be as big of a loser as they think they are and that everyone else is going to finally see what a loser they are [Applause] so you have to build the desire the greatest achievers who've ever walked among us know that they all came from the same intelligence and recognize and help people to find that within themselves the number one quality and characteristic of these people who live at the apex who are way beyond just taking care of their biological needs who are way up on beyond their social needs who are way beyond needing to be loved and so on these are people who came here with a purpose these are people who have a dharma these are people who won't let anyone else determine what it is they're going to be the number one quality of these people is that they are independent of the good opinion of other people they listen to an inner voice [Music] not weakness vulnerability that's that's a whole different thing to admit to that to admit to the fact that you're vulnerable that's a form of courage that's not a form of weakness but that leads you to take whatever steps are necessary to deal with that properly it isn't some facade that you're invulnerable no one is invulnerable by any stretch of the imagination and to stand up and face that is is the best route that you have the people that win in life don't necessarily have more vision than you see it's not a lack of vision always that means that you're going to lose it's a lack of a type of vision which is depth perception you think you're further away from the outcome and so you pace yourself like it and you jog all the time throughout your life that means consequently they get started earlier and they finish later because the second characteristic of self-actualizing people is that they are detached from outcome they don't do what they do because of what result is going to come to them what motivates self-actualizing people is this is my calling [Music] everything is the teaching the question isn't whether the teachers are there the question is how willing are you to pay attention how willing are you to listen to that inner voice that no one else can hear do what i do because of the passion i feel i'm not here for anything external to myself i am here because i have a passion within me [Music] build the desire and then recognize the truth about trying and failing and how information rich failure really is that this is a game that's meant to be played on a long timeline the thing that i've always said to myself that's given me tremendous courage to move forward i might not be very good at something yet i might be about to embarrass myself as i embark upon whatever this thing is but i'm willing to learn i'm willing to fail i'm willing to embarrass myself and because of that and because nothing teaches you faster than failure on a long enough timeline i can beat anyone at anything because everyone else will give up now maybe that's not true but because that's what i repeat in my head it makes me act as if it were true [Music] for you to decide [Music] here are some here's some dysfunction [Music] in my career my personal life and my surroundings and my friends i know better but i'm so used to doing wrong and being dysfunctional i know better but i don't want to do better i refuse to be aware of something i could be and should be doing better and purposely decide to not do it [Music] [Music] you