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well as they say out here if life they show you Peppa my guy make Peppa suit my dad used to tell me and my brother Craig no one can make you feel bad if you feel good about yourself and let me tell you it's a lesson I've carried with me every single day because no matter where you are on your journey there are going to be folks out there who want to make you feel small and othered but let me remind you that so often what you perceive as your differences are actually your strengths and in many ways they are the source code to your successes so love who you are embrace it your unique experiences and perspectives gives you a voice that the world needs to hear this is just one of the lessons that I share in my new workbook overcoming every seed that you planted in 2024 that there will be a harvest in 2025 the greater the height the more responsibility Luke 12 says it like this to whom much is given much is required when you recognize that God has giv you a wisdom an Insight a creativity ability a vision you want other people to be as passionate about something that God gave you but God says if they were passionate about it I would have gave it to them I gave it to you because I got a height that only you can go to so I put the weight of it on you because I know that you'll take that weight you'll lay it at my feet and me and you together can take that thing to another level is that there is a loneliness epidemic there is a loneliness epidemic in this country in spite of everybody being on their phones all the time one of the lines he he shared with us today was that people have so many contacts but no confidence so I thought that was really powerful you have a lot of contacts but not a lot of confidence so not a lot of people you can can actually confide in and the thing that I walked away with is something that wasn't even an aha cuz I already know this that if you want to feel less isolated and less alone you've got to be able to take the step to reach out to somebody who feels even worse than you do so no matter how alone you feel there's somebody else out there who's feeling the same or feeling worse so finding out how you can extend yourself in Grace and kindness ends your own isolation and makes you feel more connected which is what we're all looking for connection happy New Year but before we pop more comfor te let's pause for a moment remember success Remains the goal so let's break down the key ingredients for thriving in every area of life and plan pray or play all you want but here's the heart truth if you don't position yourself in the right way at the right pace and in the right place your life will still feel like a chaotic puzzle missing pieces okay don't just come along for the ride stick around subscribe and let's figure out how the secret source source to success is going to work you need to smash the art of learning and the Art of growth learning is essential it's the secret source of life but how do you really learn it's not just about soaking up knowledge it's about putting it into practice learning means taking the lessons from your failures and successes and using them to grow not just for yourself but for those around you but here's the ker learning is also about adapting it's about shifting your priorities as life evolves because spoiler alerts life us stand still and it's about prioritizing what matters at the right time think about raising a child at Birth your top priority is keeping that baby fed and healthy fast forward a few years and suddenly your focus shifts from feeding them to teaching them how to feed themselves parenting evolves with every phase and so should you approach to life as kids grow into teenagers the priority becomes teaching them life skills like thinking about the future by the time they hit A10 it's about empowering them to stand on their own two feet and earn a living the same applies to every area of Life priorities will look different at every stage but the principle remains learning means adapting to change the only constant in life is change and sometimes in life we reach some Bridges bridges are mean to be built and used not live done when you conquer a challenge build a bridge celebrate but don't cling to it but here's the thing some folks have mistaken bridges for permanent residences they've pitched tents on the metaphorical Bridge of Life refusing to move forward what's the problem with that living on the bridge means you're stuck you're haling your journey and let's face it blocking traffic for others too life isn't meant to be a parking lot it's a highway so here's the big question will you settle on the bridge you built or will you cross it allowing others to follow in your footsteps let's figure it out together step by step stay with me and let's make this year your Masterpiece let others benefit from your work and keep moving forward on your journey because the river under your Bridge could overflow tomorrow and if you still camped out you're in for a soy disaster like Joe public sang you've got to leave and learn you got to leave and learn before your bridges burn you've got to live and learn don't forget life is a moving train and learning is your ticket to stay on board you can't cling to yesterday's priorities when today demand something new Embrace change adjust your focus and keep evolving that's how you keep growing and how you help others grow too so next is communication you need to smash the art of communication so when we say live and learn another thing is that is important is to remember the role of communication wherever you are in life you cannot do without people successful living isn't just about personal growth it's about mastering the art of communication after all life is a team sport and you can't win without people and where there are people there's communication whether it's spoken unspoken or somewhere in between take a baby for instance the communication between a baby and their mom is really verbal it's all about actions gestures and cues that's the foundation that helps the baby grow until they're ready to grasp the meaning of words life works the same way when you first meet someone think of it as the baby stage of your relationship at this point communication is mostly trial and error just like when you're trying to sue the baby's cries this is the forming stage figuring out how to connect and understand one another as the relationship matures so does your communication you move from simple surface level exchanges to Deep more nuanced conversations growth whether in relationship or life is all about learning to communicate better at every stage the bottom line communication is the bridge that connects us to others whether you're just forming a bond or strengthening an existing one remember this every stage of Life calls for a different style of connection learn to adapt grow and speak the right language for when you are and who you're with that's how you truly live and learn don't forget to learn to feel forward life is an art and smashing it doesn't mean Perfection it means mastering how to feel really smash the art of living is about perspective choices and knowing what to keep and what to let go of when life throws you challenges good or bad it's your choice way to focus focus is your superpower is your cup half full or half empty success is about learning and choosing your perspective if someone critics your efforts don't crumble instead ask yourself can I recycle this trash into treasure can someone else find Value in what I no longer need for example if you've invested time in people who don't value it maybe it's time to refocus redirect that time and energy to those who see you as treasure not trash ever heard the saying don't throw the baby out with a bath water it's a classic reminder when cleaning up Life's messes don't lose what's precious in the process yes the baby pooped yes the birth water is dirty but the baby that's your treasure be careful not to throw away valuable relationships ideas or opportunities just because they are wrapped in temporary messes words are like eggs you need to handle them with care in Europe they say another one says meaning words are like eggs once they break you can't put them back together so before you speak or act in frustration pause think words like relationships can crack under pressure and not every crack is reparable failure isn't the end it's an opportunity broken eggs can't be whole again but they can become an omelet the question is what will you do with the broken pieces of your life will you leave them to rot and poison your growth or will you use them while they are still fresh to create something nourishing relationship ship are precious don't treat people like trash even in difficult moments remember that relationships are delicate and require care if you communicate do it with patience and kindness if something breaks decide whether to M it or move on but don't let it fter so you smash failure Don't Let It smash you we've all been hurt we've all been faced by broken relationships dreams and plans the real art lies in how we move forward will you clim to Bess or will you let go learn and grow this year justo to smash really by embracing life's blesses without losing sight of its Treasures remember success isn't about avoiding failure it's about turning every stumble into a step forward so go out there Smash It repurpose refocus and here's a truth B not all communication is beneficial the saying evil communication corrupt good manners exists for a reason when evaluating relationships or conversations ask yourself is this helping me become a better person is it adding value to my life or pulling me off track if the answer is no then what you're engaging with might be more toxic than it appears think of it this way even good food can turn poisonous if left in the wrong environment the 5 day egg tests let's use a simple analogy if you drop food on the floor you might pick it up within 5 seconds and be fine but imagine eating a boiled egg that's been sitting on the floor for 5 days that same egg once nourishing has now turned into a health husband gross right this is how relationships work to without proper care and boundaries even something good can spoil that's that's why you need to compartmentalize your connections compartmentalization the secret to healthy relationships think of a relationships like groceries some belong in the fridge they need consistent care and cooling off at times some need freezing occasional long-term preservation works best some are find in the cupboard casual yet dependable and some deserve to be on display these are the ones you celebrate and cherish openly but mix them up say put milk on the Shelf on your finest China in the freezer and K Andes the same applies to people misplacing them can lead to harm balance is everything it's not just about praying playing or planning it's about doing the right things and placing people on priorities where they belong without balance you'll misstep mishandle and ultimately miss out so here's the challenge pause and assess are your relationships enriching you or poisoning you are you preserving them correctly or letting them spoil get this right and you'll unlock a healthier more fulfilling life let's keep it balanced and of course choose God the ultimate Visionary and your guide to purpose here's the thing people often treat God like he's just here casually existing forgetting one key fact God is a shrewd businessman he is the creator sure but he doesn't do his full projects think about it would he spend countless y crafting Life as we know it just to see it flop absolutely not just God doesn't waste resources if he made you then you're here for a reason whether you've acknowledged it or not that purpose it's the secret Source behind true fulfillment or the lack of it without it you're like a car built without an engine it looks good on the outside but w't go anywhere just like building a car requires the right parts thriving in life requires certain Essentials fulfillment isn't an accident it's a result of understanding and leaving out your purpose so here's my question to you why do we all or should we all come to Jesus let's face it as humans we often have the best intentions but somehow end up doing the exact oppos of what we planned Jesus knew this about us that's why he said without me you can do nothing and he wasn't wrong some people feel like they don't need God they're like Jewels polished shiny seemingly unbreakable but most of us we're jewels in the making flawed fragile and still under construction even at our strongest we're like Jacob not Isaac not Esau we stumble we falter and we fall short of God Glory Paul put it best all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God no exceptions yet for those of us who desire more than healthly success who long to build Treasures that last into eternity we know we need help we need God for us the sky is not just a pit stop our real destination is heaven we're not just aiming for success in the here and now but striving for something Eternal something that Outlast last time itself and to hit that Mark we recognize the simple truth all our righteousness on its own it's like filthy rags in the presence of a holy God Jesus the only perfect one paid the price for us and left us with the model to follow Paul echoed this when he said follow me as I follow Christ our goal then is not Perfection but continuous Improvement to live a life that brings Heaven to Earth heaven on Earth starts with thankfulness gratitude is the key to transformation when we choose to praise God even Aid life's chaos we invite Heaven into our circumstances after all God said when I am lifted up I'll draw all men to me thankfulness shifts our perspective it allows us to see the glass not just as aful but as briming with potential teaches us to improve incrementally to live with hope and to strive for greatness while staying humble so in the end life isn't about being perfect it's about continuous Improvement let's keep aiming for the skies and Beyond if reaching the skies is just the beginning and Heaven is the ultimate destination let's revisit some wise words from Jesus if your eye causes you to stumble gouge it out if your hand causes you to stumble cut it off now relax this isn't an invitation to self mutilation it's about making bold uncompromised missing decisions to stay on the right path and here's the suspenseful twist who are you hanging around are the people in your circle bringing out the best in you or the beasts it's a crucial question one only you can answer because if someone's pulling you away from your goal no matter how close they are it might be time to let them go harsh maybe necessary absolutely so as you step in to this new year do everything you can to maintain a clear conscience and keep your eyes on the prize remember Heaven is the goal and if you need to trim some branches to S higher so be it in a nutshell here are seven basic ingredients for success in the New Year Clarity of goals keep your eyes on the prize know your ultimate goal and let it guide your decisions the goal remains the goal right positioning being the right place at the right time and at the right Pace success often comes down to aligning your actions with opportunities build don't settle challenges are bridges not homes build them cross them and keep moving forward don't let temporary victories become permanent stops choose your circle wisely surround yourself with people who bring out the best not the beast in you let go of a relationships that hold you back or derail your journey adapt to change life is is in constant motion be ready for the unexpected and flexible enough to Pivot when needed stay conscientious maintain a clear conscience and unwavering focus on what really matters make decisions that align with your values and ultimate destination take bold action sometimes tough decisions are necessary to stay on track be willing to cut off what no longer serves you the ingredients of success as are you ready to tap into your purpose make the right choice and drive your life forward with these ingredients be equipped to not just survive the year but thrive in every aspect of life here to a smashing year or B choices better Beginnings happy New Year here are some prayers to guide us through the year it's the A to Z for prayer for success in the New Year anointing for abundance Heavenly Father we come before you in awe and gratitude you can say it after me or say it for yourself or say Amen afterwards I come before you in all and gratitude for your promises of abundance never fail I declare that as I step into this new year your anointing for abundance rests upon me your word says in Isaiah 55 10 to1 for as the rain comes down and the snow from heaven and do not return there but water the Earth and make it bring forth and B that it may give seed to the S and bread to the eater so shall my word be that goes forth from my mouth it shall not return to me void but it shall accomplish what I please and it shall prosper in the thing for which I sent it Lord let your word Prosper in our lives leading us into prosperity and success let every baren area of Our Lives be watered by your grace and abundant mercy blessings of breakthrough father we thank you that you are the god of breakthroughs your word says in Micah 2:13 the breaker is gone up before them they have broken up and have passed through the gate and are gone out by it and their kings shall pass before them and the Lord on the head of them I declare breakthrough over every area of Our Lives no obstacle or hindrance shall stand before us we break free from limitations and walk in the fullness of the blessings you have for us in this year courage and confidence Lord give us the courage to step into every new opportunity with boldness Joshua 1:9 says have I not commanded you be strong and of good courage do not be afraid nor be dismayed for the Lord your God is with you everywhere you go I am not afraid of the challenges that lie ahead because I know that you are with us I we will face every obstacle with unwavering confidence knowing that you go before us D for divine Direction and discernment father I seek your direction in all my ways your word in Proverbs 3 5-6 reminds me trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding in all your ways acknowledge Him and He Shall direct your paths I trust that you will guide our every step leading us on the path of righteousness give us discernment to make wise decisions and help us to walk in your perfect will for our lives excellence in everything Lord I declare that this year I'll pursue excellence in all that I do your word in Philippians 4:8 encourages me to focus on whatever is true Noble just pure lovely and admirable I strive for excellence in my work relationships and spiritual walk with you let my actions bring glory to your name and let me be an example of integrity and excellence in everything I do for favor in the eyes of father I ask for your favor to surround me as the shield your word says in Proverbs 33 3:4 let not Mery and Truth forsake you bind them around your neck write them on the tablet of your heart and so find fa and high esteem in the sight of God and man I declare that your favor will open doors and that no one can short I will find favor in the eyes of those who matter and will be elevated to new levels of influence and success G for gratitude and growth Lord I Thank you for every blessing in my life I'm grateful for the opportunity to grow learn and become all that you have called me to be Philippians 46 tells me to be anxious for nothing but to pray with Thanksgiving I approach this life this year with a heart full of gratitude for what you've already done and what you're about to do let me grow in wisdom and in Grace and in favor H for healing and health father I pray for good health and healing in this year your word in 3rd John 1:2 says beloved I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health just as your soul prospers I decar that I walk in Divine Health any sickness or disease that tries to attach itself to me is healed by the stripes of Jesus I declare Health vitality and strength Over My Body Mind and Spirit I for increased influence and impact Lord I pray that you will increase my influence and impact in the life of others Matthew 5:116 says let your light so shine before men that they may see your good works and glorify your father in Heaven may my life reflect your light in every way and may my influence cause others to come closer to you increase my sphere of influence and let me my impact be felt in every area I touch J joy and Jubilee father I declare that this year will be filled with joy nemiah 8:10 says do not sorrow for the joy of the Lord is your strength I claim the joy that comes from knowing you Lord despite the challenges I may face I will choose Joy no knowing that you with me let this year be a Year of Jubilee a time of Celebration freedom and Restoration in every area of my life k for Kingdom mindset and knowledge Lord help me to always seek your kingdom First Matthew 6:33 tells me to seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things shall be added to you I will pursue your kingdom and your righteousness above all else give me the knowledge and understanding to align my heart and actions with your will help me to build my life upon your word for it is the foundation of success L for leadership and Legacy father help me to grow in leadership and leave a lasting Legacy Proverbs 4:7 says wisdom is the principle thing therefore get wisdom and in all your get and get understanding grant me the wisdom to lead with Integrity compassion and vision may my leadership Inspire others to Greatness and may my legacy be one that points to your faithfulness and goodness am for miracles and manifestations Lord I pray for miraculous breakthroughs in this year your word says in Mark 9:23 Jesus said to him if you believe all things are possible to him who believes I declare that this year will be marked by signs wonders and miracles I believe that what seems impossible impossible will become possible through your power I trust that you will manifest your glory in my life and your Miracles will testify to your greatness n end for nurturing and New Beginnings father I pray for New Beginnings this year 2 Corinthians 5:17 says therefore if anyone is in Christ is a new creation all things have passed away behold all things have become new help me to embrace the new things you are doing in my life may I nurture my relationships my goals and my spirit to reflect the new season you bringing me into oh for opportunities and overcoming obstacles Lord open those of opportunity that no man can shut Revelations 3:8 says I know your work see I have said before you an open door and no one can shut it I declare that this year will be filled with Divine opportunities I will overcome every obstacle in my path and walk through the doors you have set before me PE for purpose and prosperity father I seek to fulfill the purpose you have for my life Jeremiah 29:11 assures me for I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord plans for welfare and not for evil to give you a future and a hope I declare that my steps are ordered according to your will may this year be a year of purpose-driven prosperity as I align my actions with your divine plan C quietude and quality relationships Lord help me to find peace and quietude in you Psalm 46:10 says be still and know that I am God I will not be overwhelmed by the noise of Life grant me the peace that comes from trusting you also help me to build quality relationships that are rooted in your love and grace surround me with people who will encourage and support me in fulfilling your will our for restoration and Reconciliation father I pray for rec Restoration in every area of my life Joel 225 declar years I will restore to you the years that the Locust has eaten I believe that you will restore everything I have lost and bring reconciliation where there has been division bring healing to broken relationships and restore my soul my mind and my spirit for strength and success Lord I pray for the strength to endure and succeed Isaiah 40:31 says but those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength they shall Mount up with wings like e goals they shall run and not be weary they shall walk and not faint I receive your strength to overcome every Challenge and Achieve success in every area of my life let your power sustain me T for transformation and Triumph father I pray for transformation this year Romans 12:2 says and do not be conformed to this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind that you may prove what is good and acceptable and perfect will of God I declare that this year will be one of Total Transformation I will triumph over every trial and emerge victorious in every circumstance you for Unity and unshakable Faith Lord I pray for Unity in my family church and Community Psalm 133: 1 says behold how good and how pleasant it is for Brethren to dwell together in unity I pray that we will be United in purpose and Faith with hearts fixed on you strengthen our faith make it unshakeable so we can face any trial with unwavering trust in your purposes V for victory and Valor father I claim victory over every battle I face 1 Corinthians 15:57 says but thanks be to God who gives us Victory through our Lord Jesus Christ I declare that I am more than a conqueror through Jesus Christ and that victory is mine in every area of life let Valor and courage fill my heart as I press forward into this year knowing that with you all things are possible W for wisdom and wealth Lord I ask for wisdom and understanding to guide me in every decision Proverbs 3:13-14 says happy is the man who finds wisdom and the man who gains understanding for her proceeds are better than the profits of silver and her gain than fine gold run me wisdom to navigate the year and wealth that is aligned with your purpose for my life X for excellence in Christ Lord help me to excel in every area through your strength Philippians 4:13 says I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me this year I will excel not by my own strength but by your power let my life be a testimony of your greatness and let me excel in all that you've called me to do wife for year of yielding and yields father I yield my dreams and desires to you Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds me to trust in you fully and you will direct my paths I pray that this year will be a year of yielding to your will and I trust that as I yield I will receive the Abundant yeld of your blessings in my life there Zeal and zest for Life Lord fill me with Zeal and zest for Life Romans 12:11 encourages us not to be slothful in business fervent in spirit serving the lord I declare that I will approach this year with passion and favor chasing after your will with Zeal may my enthusiasm for life be contagious and bring glory to your name father I thank you for this prayer and for the promise of your presence and provision in this new year I know that with you nothing is impossible and I declare that I will experience success in every area of my life in Jesus mighty name amen as a day walking at the king's High King sway they'll be singing with she go walking the C High my way we shall see the desert as the rose walking in the King's Highway they'll be singing where salvation goes walking in the King's Highway p a high way there and away where srow shall flee away in the light shines bright as the day walking in the king's side way we shall see the glory of the Lord walking in the King's Highway and behold the beauty of his word walking in the King's Highway there's a highway 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shadow or when in the sunshine if he goes with me I shall not complain Jesus will walk with me he will talk with me will walk with me enjoy in sorrow today or tomorrow I know he will walk with me Jesus will walk with me when I am tempted giving me strength as my need May demand when in Affliction his presence is near me I am upheld by his Almighty hand Jesus Will walk with me he will talk with me he will walk with me enjoy in sorrow today and tomorrow I know he will with me just to walk with me when I am tempted giving me strength as my need May demand when in Affliction his presence is near me I am upheld by his Almighty hand Jesus will walk with me he will talk with me he will walk with me enjoy you in sorrow today and tomorrow I know he will walk with me Jesus will walk with me guarding me ever giving me Victory through storm and Thrive he is my comfort to Cel all leader over the onion journey of Life Jesus will walk with me he will talk with me he will walk with me enjoy your enti 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of God when we are Heaven all of rejoicing God when we all see Jesus was sing sh thank you very much this year and always this be have Lord and of was blown away at how simple you make the process of not trying to control everything that everybody else is doing it's as simple as let them let them when you let other people live their lives your life gets better when you let people be who they are your relationships get better that's right cuz that's what we're here to do to accept people for exactly who they are yes and not trying to change them yes and to stop wasting your time and energy trying to control things that you can't control like other people's moods what they think what they do because you need that time and energy to do things to make your life better so let them let them and then the other most important part of the theory is let me yes yes let me remind myself that I am always in control yeah because I have power over what I think what I do and how I process my emotions