What Narcissists Say and What They Really Mean

no one gave me this Playbook it's almost like it was woven into my existence shaping every thought an action I make I don't know why I am the way I am I'm just programmed this way psychologist say it's because I have narcissistic personality disorder characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance lack of empathy and a constant need for admiration and that narcissists read from this same manual even though nobody gives us that manual this means that the phrases I use and the way I navigate the world may be eerily familiar to other narcissists what compels me now is an unwavering desire to expose the cryptic language wielded by us narcissists those phrases that sew seeds of doubt and despair keep watching to uncover the hidden motives behind our words as I shine a light on the Shadows we cast whether you felt the sting of our manipulation or are questioning your own behavior this video is a Lifeline of understanding for you or someone you hold dear the Charmers web we use our charm to suck you into a cycle of manipulation and abuse that will leave you questioning the essence of your capabilities Step One is the flattery trap you'll hear us declare our our love for you it usually sounds like us telling you that you're my soulmate or you're the most amazing person we've ever met after only knowing you briefly we'll then shower you with empathy and you'll hear us utter these words often saying I understand exactly how you feel but be aware this is a manipulation technique Called Love bombing we're appealing to your soft side so that what we do next takes you off guard while while we charm you we ensure part of our Allure is our success and importance and you'll consistently hear us talk about how we're the best at anything we do the captive web only once we're confident that we've hooked you that you've fallen for us and our charms will we begin using our controlling tactics we'll make you question yourself on such a deep level that you will start questioning your sanity and decision making abilities we achieve this by saying you're imagining things that never happened a clear example of gaslighting we'll then shift the blame for anything that goes wrong onto others but mostly onto you you'll hear us say you made me do this we'll manipulate you to always think it's your fault and that we deserve your Forever sympathy when we repeatedly say you're the reason I'm unhappy we know how to keep you in this captive web by interweaving affection because we know you need to believe that the relationship is worth saving hey if you're finding this video helpful please hit the like button and subscribe for more this small action really helps our content reach those who need it too okay now back to the video the discarded web as narcissists we're highly insecure we have this inner critical voice that must be directed at putting down others because that's the only way we can feel okay that means that when the captive web has worn out our victims and they have nothing left to give to feed our constant need for praise and validation we move on to the next person who will this is when we will devalue you and the relationship we shared you'll hear us say things like you're lucky I even put up with you and before we leave we'll fill our egos by harming your self-esteem leaving the relationship by saying that you're worthless without us the healing cocoon it can feel impossible to leave a narcissist which is why caring for your well-being and sense of self is imperative and the best defense against a narcissist is leaving a narcissist but this is much easier said than done so please look to the resources listed in the description below for for the help you deserve and for questioning narcissists therapy can help you understand yourself with self-compassion and the kindness you didn't receive growing up chances are early in your life you were taught that it wasn't okay to just be you and that you had to be better than everyone else because if you weren't special you weren't okay but with therapy you can begin challenging these voices and these beliefs and seeing the collective humanity and equal importance of all human beings could you relate to these phrases if so please let us know below and if you found this video helpful you won't want to miss this one seven sign someone is secretly narcissistic until next time thank you so much for being here