How to Know when You are in Your Ego...and How to Get Out

I want to talk about a whole Mark of being in ego how do we know when we're in ego and it's a a little um pointer for us a little way to figure out am I in my ego here and it is essentially when we find ourselves in no win situations it's a really good indicator that I'm probably in my ego or in ego Consciousness so what do I mean by a no way situation well it's like you're usually faced with these two options and none of them look good in fact it looks as if no matter what you do you're stuck if we feel that stuckness we're probably in ego so an example might be I feel horrible with the way my body looks okay and um the way I'm eating and the way I'm living my life is not working so that's a no that's a no win but then on the other hand if I dieet I'm going to experience failure and disappointment all over again whichever one of those options you choose it's no win another example might be I'm in a relationship and it's not working and I don't feel happy in fact I feel terrible in this relationship it's no win however if I leave this relationship I'll be alone again and starting over in a new relationship that doesn't sound like a win either so you find yourself in this stuckness so the the way we get stuck in it and the way we stay in it is we stay in the ego and what we do is we try and solve the unsolvable and the question is there needs to be it's like we're trying to figure out which of these should I do both of them look bad so therefore we fail to make any choice at all if it stay in that stuckness or we just the status quo remains and it's this weighing up of options weighing up well um sort of analyzing sort of rehashing why this situation I'm in right now isn't working it's not working it's terrible but this is also really really hard this is really hard and we just keep recycling these thoughts over and over again and therefore we stay in ego so the idea is essentially there's a secret choice to be made when you you find yourself in an unwinable situation like that and essentially it's the decision to put the ego down it's a decision against the ego so firstly it will be an awareness of here I go I'm caught in my ego again you don't have to beat yourself up about that we all get caught in our ego and ego Consciousness but you certainly don't beat yourself up about it you just notice firstly this is ego okay okay and the choice is I want to put it down I want to have a different experience I want to see things differently with the awareness of how I'm currently seeing it does not work and can't it's set up to not work it's unsolvable and that's a choice essentially you could say it's also a choice to change your mind change the mindset you're in the mindset from which you are perceiving the current problem now of course Miracles says we only ever have one problem and it's not to do with my relationship status or my body type or any of that stuff or my financial State um statements my bank accounts for instance that's not the problem we actually have the real problem we have is the mindset that we occupy so and that ego is all about separation isolation it's me and my unique problems and I have to solve it alone the alternative to that is the higher self or the Holy Spirit the the of course Miracles refers to which is a unifying mindset which is grounded in acceptance love patience for yourself the ego will rush you all day long hurry up you need to figure this out the ego will tell you what you need to do what you should do what you have to do all the time incessantly it never stops with that it always finds grievances with the current situation you have in your life it will always find some grievance it doesn't matter what your lifestyle is like you know you could have a million dollars in your bank account and you could be living in a beautiful place and everything else the ego will find a grievance with the present moment as it sees it so we only have one problem according to a course of Miracles which is I need to choose again I need to change my mind or my mindset about how I see things and the ego will have me do it all by myself the Holy Spirit involves that mindset that higher level of Consciousness is about joining with something other than this egoic self-perception and that comes with a little bit of surrender because the ego doesn't want to surrender anything it wants to have control it wants to figure things out all the time so we're putting down control of it we're putting down our own tendency and desire to fix every Problem by ourselves instead of just saying I'm going to put that down I'm going around in circles with this I'm just going to put that down for now and I'm going to ask to join with a mindset that is more compassionate patient understanding loving from that place all problems look very different in fact they don't even look like problems anymore so this this it's a it's it's a very very um it's a very profound massive claim that the course of Miracles makes we only ever have one problem you know we might say well I've had six more problems this morning already never mind this week or this year but it says no all problems are the same when we're in that mindset that is not of the ego there are no grievances with the current moment there's a complete acceptance of the current moment and it's not judged as inadequate it's judged as perfectly fine for what it is in the moment and then there can be ways to express ourselves or to using compassion to grow which is a natural tendency for all human beings to do but when we're in that new mindset it's a lot easier to do that when we don't have these Grievances and these demands placed in ourselves and the tendency to control everything and so it's about letting go of the problems as we see them the problems in themselves are not the problem it's the it's the it's the way that we are perceiving the problems is the problem primarily it's our only problem according to the course so that's just a thought to keep in mind it's an invitation this is the cult action in this video if you've been debating back and forth between a problem that seems unsolvable to you realize that it's not a matter of finding the right answer or the correct answer or figuring it all out or controlling things more and tweaking things necessarily instead it's just about letting go of how you currently see the problem okay letting go of control and the need to figure it out and what you will notice if you can do that and you can invite in a different mindset in fact you'll if you put put down the ego you're automatically in the AO in the other mindset anyway but when you're in that place there will be some usually what happens is you'll find that nothing needs to change or something that is incredibly obvious that you are somehow well the ego was leading you to overlook it becomes very apparent very very easily when there's no guilt when there's no shame when there's no fear when there's no desire to be isolated and cut off these um so-called problems have a very funny way of resolving themselves very quickly so if it again if it is one of those issues that you've been struggling with and you've been debating back and forth and if I do this it won't work and if I do that it won't work realize okay deep breath this is in ego and my goal here is to just let go how I'm perceiving this problem and you may not get the answer or an Insight if there needs to to be one immediately but if you do that you will definitely get some new way of seeing it if you consciously deliberately say I want to put this down I want to stop how I'm seeing this you will get some sort of a new insightful way to perceive what you're what you're going through so that's how you know you're in your ego if you are in an unwinable situation and if it's a damned damned if I do damned if I don't that's e hope that's useful guys and I will talk with you guys in the next you take care byebye [Music]