How To HEAL TRAUMAS. Plus The Origins Of Many Types Of Persistent Negative Emotions.

Greetings my dears in love and light. I'm Nikki Sutton. How to heal traumas. Now what do I mean by traumas? A trauma can be an event or a series of events or circumstances in your life that have caused you pain. The pain can radiate through time and repeat on you today in the form of emotions that seem to involuntarily come up from the subconscious mind and make you feel a certain way today. Now those things that have happened in our past they tend to program us about what reality is like, what people are like, what everything is like. When we're young we soak up information like a sponge and it programs us about what reality is like and how to deal with it and so on. And if it's been somewhat inhospitable for example it programs us that reality is inhospitable and then we feel, for example, anxious today because we believe that negative things are going to happen. So part of inner work on our spiritual path is resolving these traumas, healing them, finding where they've been repressed in the subconscious mind and instead of just dealing with the negative emotions day to day we address them if we feel like it's safe to do so. If we can. Whenever an emotion comes up it's a clue that we need healing because the subconscious mind causes emotions to bubble up for us not because the subconscious mind wants to punish us it's actually trying to protect us. It's a clue that we have healing that needs to be done in the subconscious mind. Hurts and traumas that need looking over, new perceptions gained and healing. Often these emotions come up as signposts that we need healing and even to protect us. For example if we're very distrusting of people today it's usually to protect us from more hurt because we've had reason to distrust people in the past. Okay so we don't want to change memories in the past we want to change the perception of them. So I'm going to talk about all this in a different way today, slightly different way, different angles for you to help you to really get into it so that you can really embody this kind of knowledge and do your inner work yourself. We can look at ourselves and work on these bits and bobs that need healing and bit by bit day by day we can feel better on our spiritual path. So we gain new perceptions by looking at these things by mulling them over because the conscious you of today is better able to evaluate these things. You have better reasoning now than when you were a child or a young adult. You took on ideas and perceptions when you were younger which you may not take on today with a different point of view that you have now and we try to eliminate these negative and limiting beliefs that we took on. So here we go ways to heal traumas. Now number one is the most important point. It's the point on how to do it and the following points will give examples of when it's needed and to help you recognize when healing is needed and how to. So point number one is the most important point. In point number one we're talking about revisiting what went on in the past and remember only do this if you feel like it's safe to do so that you're not going to have some kind of emotional breakdown things like that without full support. It's a good idea to let others know that you're having this kind of healing happening to you. You're on a spiritual path if you can so they're there to help support you. So we revisit what went on. Now as I said we often gain new perspectives and that's why we're doing it and to change old perceptions with your mind of today. Now this is always best in a relaxed state. The reason for this is that the subconscious mind is accessible in a relaxed state. When we're very active the conscious mind is very active. Now you're in two minds the conscious mind as I always say. I'll just run through it quick. The conscious mind is a working everyday you. It does one thing at a time. It processes reality. It filters reality. It judges. It decides. It thinks. That's you thinking doing one thing at a time, right? You can only think about one thing at a time. Am I right? Okay but the subconscious mind is the deeper mind. It holds all your programming from younger years. It holds all your memories. It's the seat of your emotions that come up day to day even those involuntary ones. So that's why it's called the involuntary mind. Things just come up and bubble up from it. So this bigger deeper mind can be accessed much better in a relaxed state because in this state the conscious mind gently fizzles away and the subconscious mind becomes dominant. It becomes more accessible and in this way it's easily changed through perceiving things in new ways. Rewriting those perceptions. Not rewriting the memories but rewriting the perceptions. So the way to do this is a couple of ways. First of all you know I'm going to say it in meditation. So you relax yourself down through meditation but you're still concentrating. You're allowing your brain waves to lower from that of the active beta state to an alpha state or even lower perhaps the theta state so that your brain waves are lower and the subconscious mind can come through. Or you can do this in contemplation. We don't always have time to meditate every single day. I know that sometimes I'm guilty of that because I'm so busy with all the commitments and everything. So we can sit quietly just sit quietly five or ten minutes and then begin the following point. Mulling over things. Looking over old issues. Wondering why do I feel that way? Where is it coming from? And how can I perceive that in a new way with new understanding and new forgiveness? So there's meditation and then there's quiet contemplation. Nice and quiet undisturbed just having some time to yourself. Now here is a really key bit in point number one. When we're doing our meditation or contemplation here's how we can try to heal these old perceptions these old programs running that cause us to feel certain ways about reality or certain ways about the self. So in point one we've got some sub points here four of them. So point number one is becoming aware of what went on. So we feel an emotion which I'll go into various emotions in a minute. We feel an emotion and we become aware of that emotion and in meditation or contemplation we try to allow the subconscious mind to present to us earliest times of when this emotion first began to grow. So becoming aware of what went on number one. Number two is realizing it wasn't us it was given to us. So for example if we're in some kind of negative circumstances in younger years we realize that through no fault of our own we were in these circumstances and we have understanding that these circumstances they were happening to us around us and that the negative perceptions it gave us in the way that it hurt us or traumatized us it wasn't us it's not something we take on ourselves. I'll give more examples soon. So number two is realizing it wasn't us it's not of the self it was happening outside of us. Number three is to go back in a memory and understand why you or they acted that way. So if you allow the subconscious mind to just bring up memories here and there in your meditative state or contemplative state long words it's best to have your eyes closed just go into the memory and just have understanding of why you or they acted the way they did or why the circumstances happened. So let's say there was a lot of arguing going on in the home why would that be have understanding okay the parents were very stressed they had money worries perhaps their parents used to argue a lot perhaps they're just under a lot of pressure so through understanding we can understand that it was no fault of our own and that they were like grown wounded children themselves they were unable to self-reflect like you are and in a way it's not their fault either there's always reasons why people do what they do and it's probably because they needed a whole bunch of healing themselves but they may not have been aware enough to get it so we're not blaming anyone we have love for them but understanding which leads to forgiveness because there's always reasons why people act the way they do even if it's negative if they had been if their backstory was entirely positive they'd probably be completely different people okay and when you go back in a memory understanding what went on perhaps someone passed away so having understanding of the circumstances surrounding that looking back and realizing again that there was nothing you could have done and also if you go back into a memory where you were doing something that say you feel guilty about having understanding of why you behaved the way you did as well there would have been reasons why perhaps you were stressed perhaps you were upset perhaps you were going without there would have been reasons perhaps you needed a lot of healing then there's always reasons why people act the way they do and it's usually because of some unhelpful backstory of their own so we can have understanding and forgiveness and when it comes to an event understanding the circumstance circumstances around it and having forgiveness for that okay and point number four is when you go back into a memory in a relaxed state you can tell those in the memory if it was circumstances where something was happening to you you can tell them in the memory freeze frame the memory tell them that this does not apply to you today okay i wish them love in that memory that's one way to do it have a conversation with them you can tell them how you feel in the memory and tell them why it doesn't apply to you today and why you don't need to carry this forward and the same goes if it's something you've done in a in a memory that comes up you can say to yourself this does not apply to i can leave this behind so those are the four points there just to summarize real quick one becoming aware of what went on two realizing it wasn't us three going back into the memory and understanding why you or they acted the way they did or understanding of the circumstances surrounding what happened and number four tell them in the memory or repeat to yourself that this does not apply to me today okay in the next point i'm going to run through examples of emotions that you might be feeling today to help you to figure out why they might be happening so main point number two now so much counting guilt if we experience guilt today and this is a very frequent one and this means we have a burden upon the self we're taking responsibility upon the self which is fine a certain level of responsibility is great of course but when we take it on the self and it starts to create a lot of negative energy it can make us feel like i do things wrong or i have done things wrong it eats us away so we can have guilt today if we've for example done someone done wrong by someone in the past or we can have guilt today if people have done wrong by us so let's say we're in a family environment where our parents were quite neglectful therefore we can have guilt today raising our own children because we've done a u-turn and we want to make sure that we never act the way our parents did so it makes us feel guilty all the time that we're not doing well enough another thing we can have guilt today if someone has made us feel guilty a lot so let's say there was a parent that was always giving you guilt trips about what you're doing and not taking care of them properly that's caused a program running in your subconscious today of guilt you have to feel guilty about everything okay so there's some sources of guilt for you if you have excess guilt today and sometimes we have trouble identifying where it's come from but it's always come from somewhere so if any of those points ring true with you my point number one which i already went on about comes in and how to heal okay so here we go on to number three if you're experiencing shame now what's shame shame is different from guilt guilt is feeling like we are doing things wrong we're not doing well enough shame is when we feel like it's an i am i am a bad person now why might you feel shame feel like you're a bad person here's some examples perhaps we were never accepted in younger years if we never felt acceptance we can feel like there's something wrong with us there's something wrong with me or i'm a bad person perhaps we were often criticized or belittled in younger years that would make us feel shamed right there wouldn't it make us feel low down smaller than everyone else i am not good enough i'm a bad person and perhaps you did something you perceive as bad in the past that can cause you to feel like you're a bad person today so same with guilt now shame go back to point number one and do the healing technique i laid out okay number four unworthiness you might suffer from unworthiness and sometimes it's a hard one to identify now unworthiness can come about if you feel a bit like i'm not worthy of having what others have or i'm not worthy or good enough to be here or i'm not worthy to have to participate in this social context social interaction and it can cause poor confidence okay so unworthiness can come up if we have not been provided for well enough in the past you may see others around you that have lots of care and attention love and nice things when you were younger and but you didn't get any of that so subconsciously you end up programmed that you're not really worth that much you're not worthy of these things care love and attention or if you are denied opportunities in younger years as well you can feel like well other people get to have these opportunities but i don't therefore i'm lower than everyone else i'm not worthy to have them or if you were belittled a lot in younger years perhaps you're told you don't deserve this because being belittled a lot can cause a sense of unworthiness too so then we go back to my big point number one and perform the healing with a meditation and contemplation okay number five then what about feelings of general anxiety i did a separate video on social anxiety but let's just address generalized anxiety okay so you might have generalized anxiety in your day-to-day life now if your subconscious was trained into thinking reality was a place to be anxious in so for example in younger years if you're living in a high stress situation a very stressed out family super busy chasing after this goal and the next and the next or as i touched on before a family that argues a lot that's a high stress situation or if you've lost someone or something losing people losing something that can cause you anxiety that you're going to lose people again in your life or lose something in your life you lost a business before you can have a lot more anxiety now that you're going to lose one again or if you've had for example too much responsibility too soon in life when kids end up with too much responsibility like looking after their siblings because the parents are neglectful too much responsibility can cause anxiety in later life because that's too much for a child to handle so it programs them that reality is like that it's hard work i've got to be on the ball i've got to make sure everyone's okay things like that so that's just a small selection of things that can cause generalized anxiety today then we go back to my point number one and we become aware of what went on realizing it wasn't us taking the burden off the self a little bit go back in the memory understanding why you or they or those responsible acted that way what's their backstories having forgiveness and number four telling them that this does not apply to you today okay let's do a couple more defensiveness or being disagreeable or distrusting of people so we can have a low amount of trust for people poor trust in other people and also be disagreeable or defensive for the following reasons is that if we've had reason to lose trust in someone you trusted so in younger years any time from birth up until now really but mainly in younger years if you had reason to distrust someone who you previously trusted that can teach your subconscious mind to be careful so it causes you to be distrustful of people today because your subconscious mind is trying to protect you from more hurt being betrayed again or if you are the subject to anger or emotional abuse that can cause you to distrust people because your subconscious mind is expecting that the same thing's going to happen again so you put up some walls there in case they're going to be emotionally abusive again or angry towards you that can also make you defensive and disagreeable as I said or if in younger years you're unable to defend yourself against something perhaps it's physical abuse or more verbal abuse again if you're unable to defend yourself against something which children often are unable to do that can cause you to really distrust people in your life today because your subconscious has been programmed that you are defenseless and that people attack so we need to work on building up the confidence that you do have your own boundaries and defenses we go back to point number one do the healing methods that I laid out there and last of all we have anger if you're experiencing anger day to day that's a clue that healing is needed so a cause of anger coming up for us today maybe in the past unresolved pain perhaps something was done to us or an event out of our control that we haven't been able to reason yet understand or forgive that can cause anger because how could that happen to me why did that happen to me why did that happen to them however it is another cause of anger is being in an angry environment a lot it teaches the young subconscious mind that in this reality we are angry this is how we behave so those are just some examples and then we go back and do the healing section on those so I know that's been a long video for you today but it's a very big topic and I hope that goes some way further to helping you do your inner work to heal the traumas people often say about healing traumas in the spiritual community and quite right really um it doesn't need to necessarily be some massive traumatic event like a big car accident but which is also a good example of a trauma but it can be lighter ongoing circumstances that wear us down terribly over time it's basically negative things that have happened that have affected us in some way so I've given some examples for you of emotions that come up that are signposts that we need to follow to go back into the subconscious mind using meditation or contemplation and I've given you four sub points under my big point number one of ways to heal during your meditation and contemplation of these traumas now I always say remember Rome wasn't built in a day it's bit by bit it's day by day and you start to feel better and better and better as you go along and then you look back a couple of years ago wow look how far I've come I've come a really long way and in the end you start to feel like everything's okay and you don't have these emotions coming up all the time negative ones you don't have the negative ones coming up all the time and wow you know I'm free to experience the positive ones without feeling all these other things that always would come up bit by bit it really does get better and we can transcend all of this stuff with a bit of healing changing our perceptions of what went on our vibration rises our consciousness ascends and we're free to just become become a range of potentials that we can so leave me and others a comment and what you think about these methods and how you've been able to heal yourself a little bit or how far you've got left to go things like that we can support each other in the comment section and please consider visiting nikkisutton.com because I've got a really great ascension course there discovering your true self and that's got lots of inner work in it as well and I know a lot of people have been enjoying that I'm feeling a lot better after completing the course so I recommend that to you okay and remember to click subscribe if you're not already a subscriber to receive regular spiritual inspiration on your journey through life and don't forget to click that bell button too for notifications because so go now in love and 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