ENGLISH SPEECH | THE ROCK: Be Yourself (English Subtitles)

Thank you, Oprah, for having me. Thank you, guys. So your father was very strict. Now, here's the thing. You've gone one on one with some fierce competitors in the ring, right? But now you're in one of the scariest situations any man can be in, raising three daughters. Yes. Yeah. Yes. Extremely scary. And are you a strict dad? Yeah, I am not super strict, but discipline is important. And but also, you know, I'll go back to my dad. My dad loved me with the small capacity in which he was capable of. So I learned from that. And so with my daughters, I want to be as full and as present with the love that I give them. Present. Yes. Yes. That's what we've been talking about. What do you want to make sure that they get that you didn't get? And it's so interesting when you have children. I've seen this from a lot of people who you didn't get what you needed. You just didn't get what you needed because of what the Rock just said. Your parents didn't have the capacity to give it to you. And now that you're older, you have to learn to give that to yourself and to be able to give that to your children in a way that you don't carry on what was done to you. So what is it you want your daughters to know about the way you love them? I want my daughters to know that I love them. Unconditionally, truly unconditionally, without condition. And I have a daughter who's 18 years old. Her name is Simone Jasmine, who just turned four. Maybe Tiana, thank you, who is getting ready to turn two. And I am, as I told my 18 year old daughter, Simone, I said, I love you. I'm going to tell you I love you every day. I'm going to text you. You're one of those say the words out loud. Yes, because I didn't get that. And I will look at you. I love you. And I'm going to text you. But I also told her I'm unattached. You don't even have to text me back. Right. You could text me back. It's fine. But you don't have to. Like, it's OK. It's without condition. It's unconditional love. And I also want to teach my daughters the value of hard work. More importantly, I want to teach my daughters the value of being kind and how important that is. Well, you know, I read that your father, you used to watch him in training and he would say, if I'm going to get up at six a.m., you're going to get up at six a.m.. So what do you think you got the most from him? Was it your work ethic? What was it? It was definitely my work ethic. My dad was a man who who against the odds made it. And but he would get up at usually five, five thirty in the morning. And he would say, if I get up, you're going to get up, too. He would drag me to the gym. By the way, I'm five years old. And he would drag me to the gym. Yes. And I would I wouldn't work out. But he would just make sure that I was there and be with him. And that was our time that we could spend together. And but I would say my work ethic from my dad. My dad always said to that, regardless of what you do in life and where you go, respect is going to be given when it's earned. And you have to go out and earn it every single day. Yeah. So your dad taught you a lot. I wonder what have your daughters taught you? My daughters taught me how to be. I think more caring and more sensitive and more selfless. Yeah. Were you there for all of them when they were born? I was right there. Right there. I mean, right there. Yeah. Yes. I mean, you were right. I was right there. Yes. And bring it on. I mean, this is our moment. Yes. Yeah. Yeah. And is that a life changing moment when that happens for you? It's the greatest thing that I have ever experienced in my life. And it gave me such a profound respect for my baby's mama's. I have two. I was once married and now I'm happily married. Lauren is back there. We've known each other for 13 years now, but I have. It is has been the most profound experience of my life, because also, too, you know, when you meet as a man, you meet someone, you meet a woman and this is going to be the one and you want to get married in my first marriage didn't work out. But then the birth of a child and what that does and the the lens perspective that just shifts. And it just gives me a new profound respect for. Again, their moms, as. So it didn't work out with the marriage, but then she became your business partner. Your first marriage. She did. Yes. Yes. And you still are. We still are. So my my first my ex-wife, Danny, we the marriage didn't work out. And it was just one of those things where it wasn't an ugly divorce. It was just marriage wasn't in our cards. Great friends. Marriage wasn't in our cards. But we had but we both had an appetite for business and to accomplish things. And we thought, well, what if we continue to do business together? And do you think we can? And it felt like it was like we could make something happen. And we did. I know you didn't grow up with a lot of money. And I read the story about when I think you were around 15 and there was an eviction notice on the door and how that was made a big impression on you, right? It did. Yes. Now you're one of the highest paid actors in the world. Thank you. I do. All right. Thank you. You do. All right. And does does that title, the sexiest man alive, the highest paid and all the do all of those. Do what do those titles mean, if anything? You're the greatest. You're the most popular. You're the most followed. You're the most you're the most, the most, the most, the most. It's great for the ego. It's wonderful. Yeah. Yeah. The better question is, how do you keep your ego in check when all of that is happening around you? Very important people I have around me and how important that is. Do you have anybody who can tell you the truth at this point? Yes. She's called my wife. Yes. OK. OK. Absolutely. Yes. Lauren can tell me the truth. But by the way, and this is where it's the tricky thing for us to being in this position is we want to make sure that we have people around us who are inspired to do well and reach for and continue to share our vision, but also at times say, well, I'm not quite too sure if that's the right thing to do. So, look, I've had a wonderful career, especially coming from being evicted. And those titles are nice and everything is fine. But honestly, you know, the I'm so grateful to be in the position of men, and I never take anything for granted. I try not to. Aren't you glad that you were once evicted because it gives you such an appreciation for what you have now? It just gives such perspective. When we were 14 years old, we lived in Hawaii and we lived in a small efficiency apartment. And we were my mom and I came home. And I'll never forget the rent was one hundred and eighty dollars a week. And there was an eviction a week. And there was an eviction notice on the on the door. And it was this was the one it was the final eviction notice. Like, that's the one my mom started crying. And I never forgot in that moment, it was a seminal moment for me because I felt like I never want to be in this position again. What can I do? So at 14 years old, I thought, well, the heroes in my life, Muhammad Ali, for example, professional wrestlers, they're all men who have worked hard with their hands and they built their body. Yes, that's what I'm going to do. I'm going to do what my dad taught me and these other heroes. I'm going to go build my body. So we're never evicted again. But being evicted, by the way, has, as you were saying, has not only given me just great perspective, but also great gratitude, but also and my team and my family, we laugh at it. But I feel this way. Like, oh, well, you know, we're a month away from being evicted. I got to go to work. Like, I still have that in my head. I still have that in my head, you know, where it but it keeps you grounded, by the way. Yeah. Yeah. Because I that's why the the most this and the most that again, it's wonderful. But the alternative is what I once was. And it also doesn't change the way you're wired, because I still save toast. I do. I will save toast rather than throw it away. And I know I know there's going to be more toast. But I still do because there's something in me because when we were growing up, we had to save it. You know, you weren't allowed to like throw food away. So there was a really big deal. So here's the deal. You have now the you get the biggest paychecks. You have all this money, acclaim, fame. You didn't have that growing up. How do you raise children who have good sense and are also kind when they have everything? Because part of what made you who you are is having had that eviction notice and having not had everything. So how do you do that with how are you planning to do that with your children? So, for example, with our 18 year old daughter, it was really important that we share those stories, share the stories about being evicted. Her mom's parents were were immigrants who came over from Cuba. It's important that we've always shared those stories. And also we live. We try and keep it as simple as we possibly can. I live. We have a farm in Virginia. Happily to say that we I've moved my family here to Atlanta. Place 30, 45 minutes away where it's very quiet, but also just making sure that we continue to instill in the babies and the kids the value of a dollar and what it means and the value of food and always saying how grateful we are and the things that we're grateful for, especially at that young age. Uh huh. Uh huh. So I want to know, how is success different from the way you imagined it would be? I never imagined this. I at one time when I was a kid, I did feel in my heart and in my gut that I was that I thought, oh, I think the world's going to hear from me. I don't know how, but I do feel that way. But I never thought in my mind it was this level of success or fame even. It was I don't know how, but the world's going to hear from me. So, you know, which is maybe why, you know, I at times I could walk around and I could look at things like I'm a like I'm a big kid, like everything can at times can be like I'm in Willy Wonka's chocolate factory where I'm just really in awe of everything that's really happening around me. What's the first thing you splurged on when you realize you had enough to splurge? OK, so. All right. The first thing I splurged on. So when I was a kid, 14 years old, 13, 14 years old, in my mind, the what it meant to be successful, it was a Rolex watch. Ah, right. So there's there was such a valuable lesson out of this. So I thought for years, oh, wait, everyone, every successful man has a Rolex watch and has diamonds in it. So when I finally was making a little bit of money and this was in 1999. And I thought, OK. And by the way, I was still living in an apartment paying monthly rent. But again, are you renting and buying a Rolex? I was I was just renting horrible financial decisions. If you're buying a Rolex. Yes. Yeah. This is what not to do. So I thought this is it. I'm going to splurge. And I went and I got myself a Rolex and I wore it at that time. I was wrestling. I wore it in the ring, not for a match, but I was doing an interview in the ring. And I wore it in the ring and a melee broke out, which always happens in the wild world of professional wrestling. One of the wrestlers fell on the Rolex when it came off. It broke a live TV. And you see me. Oh, my gosh. My Rolex. And I'm supposed to be in the moment and wrestling these other guys. Oh, no. My Rolex. Like you, you can see the tail. I'm trying to get my Rolex and somebody is like kicking me and they're trying to get it. So I finally get my Rolex back. I go backstage and I look at it. I'm heartbroken now. This is my thing. And I go home that night. And I remember I remember immediately thinking this is a sign. And I believe in signs. Yes, it's a sign. Yeah. And I will and I don't need it. And and it wasn't right for me at that time. And I never got anything like that again. And so now do you just do you splurge carefully? I do. I'm not a big bling guy or anything like that. And I I always want to just make sure that now the splurge is usually with property, like we have two properties that way. I believe in real estate. Yes. Yes, you do. I do. Yes. Yes. I love property the way some women love shoes. You know, I do. I do. Because God isn't making any more land, OK? That's what we got here on the planet Earth. You're not getting any more. Yeah, that's right. Yeah. And also the properties are our anchor. It's where we can be comfortable. And so that and I have a few pickup trucks. That's it. Just a few. So I remember reading this, that it was like WrestleMania 13 and you were still being called Rocky. And there were a bunch of fans at the time who were jeering you and they were saying, you know, you know, unkind things. And you use that moment and literally turned on your heels and turned it around. And, you know, this whole vision tour is about people who've been knocked down sometimes in life. Everybody, you know, not in a ring, but have had those moments where you didn't feel like the rest of the world saw you for who you needed to be. How were you able to turn that around? OK, so thank you for bringing that up. So this is it was a turning point in my career, and it really allowed me to to grow. And it really allowed me just to be me. And be anchored in with who I am. So when I first started wrestling, the idea was, well, why don't you call yourself Rocky Maivia out of respect for your dad, Rocky Johnson, and your grandfather, Peter Maivia? I hated the name. And I thought, well, I just wanted to make my own way and I wanted to be independent. I love my family, but I don't want to do it like that because it feels like I'm trying to leverage their fame. The powers that be said, no, that's your name. I was also told, well, when you go out and you wrestle, you have to smile, you have. I want you to smile big. This is in the WWE. Why are you smiling? Because, you know what the idea was? I was a I was a rookie in the wrestling business. I was a what's called the wrestling business is a term called Babyface, which is a good guy. I was being groomed as a good guy wrestler. Young. The idea was you're grateful, grateful for the opportunity. So when you go out there, I want you to smile. You can't smile enough. And I thought, well, what if I lose? No. Yes, exactly. You still got to smile. And it just didn't feel right. That didn't sit right with me. So a few months later, the company made me the Intercontinental Champion. And then a month later, we go into the annual biggest event. It's like the Super Bowl of wrestling. WrestleMania. And it was WrestleMania 13. By the time I got to Chicago. WrestleMania. Sixteen thousand people in the middle of the ring when I was in the ring, and I'm supposed to be a good guy and you're supposed to cheer me. Sixteen thousand people were chanting, Rocky sucks. Thank you for laughing. But it was. Can you hear the word sucks clearly when you're on the mat? Rocky sucks. When? Yes. Yeah. Rocky sucks. There's a reverb that happens in the arena. And when in unison, not not one person. Yeah. Sixteen thousand. And I was I remember laying there in the ring and the referee said to me, don't listen to him. And it was crippling for me. Yeah. But so then at that time, the powers that be thought this isn't going to work. And for whatever reason, people are not liking you and they're not connecting with you. And so in that moment, it was very defining because I asked then. If I could just be myself and if I could go out there and if I can speak to the crowd and if I could just be myself and be authentic and if I don't want to smile, I don't smile. If I want to laugh, I laugh. If I want to sing, I sing whatever it is. I just want to be me. Can I have that for one minute of live TV time? Powers that be at that time, Vince McMahon said, you got it. So on raw live TV, I grabbed a microphone and I said. I may be a lot of things, but sucks isn't one of them. And I said something to the effect of basically it's not a this thing, it's not a that thing. It's a me being myself thing. And and before you know it, I guess the moral of this story is the importance and the power of finding your identity and being true to who you are, even in that wild world of pro wrestling. It still applies to everyone in the room and how powerful that could be because it was a true shift and click moment. And I never looked back and I became, fortunately, the biggest draw that the business has ever seen. Wow. You know, I was talking earlier about intention and you have acquired and continue to acquire a lot as you're continuing to build seven bucks. What is the purest, highest, truest intention behind it all? Because I know at the end of the day, it isn't all about fame and it isn't all about making money. So the reason why you want to continue to grow and succeed is what? To create an amazing experience for people. And that's important to me, because that's an opportunity that I have to give joy and help, whether it transform or a movie or a thing or whatever it is like that. The audience's experience, audience experience is something that's deeply personal to me. And I think that goes back to when I would. So before the bright lights of the WWE, I was wrestling in a small wrestling company would wrestle in flea markets and used car dealerships. You put a ring in the used car dealership in the parking lot. But the reason why I bring that and state fairs. But there was an intimacy there. And even at that level, it was always about, well, how can I send the audience home happy and make people feel good? And that's and by the way, I also feel like if you were in a position to make people feel good, that is such a powerful thing. Yeah, it's such a powerful. I know we did you for masterclass for own and something you said there really stuck with me that the most powerful thing you can ever do is to be yourself, be yourself. Yeah. Yes. And you were talking about that earlier, about that moment that you learned to be authentic is when everything changed. That's when everything changed. It's like a shift and click moment when we for me, when I realized there's great power and being myself, same thing for all of us. But I do. I believe it's the most powerful thing that we could be. It's easier said than done because I struggled for a long time trying to figure out, well, what's my identity and who am I? And for example, when I got to Hollywood, the very first time I got to Hollywood in the early 2000s, I was told again, well, if you want to be a star, then you maybe you shouldn't talk about wrestling. Maybe you shouldn't go to the gym as much. Maybe you shouldn't raise your silly eyebrow. And, you know, there was a lot of things like that. But when you don't know, you buy into it. And so I thought, OK, well, maybe so don't call yourself The Rock. OK, so again, I went through that entire process for years trying to figure out who I was. And then when you look back on my earlier career, the films I was doing, they were good, but just not, you know, like, oh, that's how I like to see him because he is his true, authentic self. And have you had a sweet revenge moment? Yeah. Who sucks now? Yeah. One of those. Yeah. Yes. It was. OK, so at this time when I felt like, OK, I really need to make a change in my career, I need to be me and I want to have the kind of career that is a global career. And I said, I'm not quite too sure how we're going to do it, but I need you to buy into the vision with me and I'm willing to put in the work of my own two hands, as I was telling my my agency at that time in Hollywood. And they all looked at me like I had three heads and they thought, well, we just don't. They thought, OK, sure, sure, sure, sure. Kind of placating me. And then eventually I'd left them and and then decided, you know what? My name is The Rock and I come from the world of professional wrestling and I look the way I look and I talk the way I talk and I love to work out. And you know what? This is who I'm going to be. And then here I am today. So for those who said we don't get it, kind of sweet revenge. So you posted on Instagram in November, joy and hope cost nothing. Remember this? Yes. And yet it's the most powerful gift that we can all give. And that's the real magic to life. So after everything that you've been through, particularly this past week, what are you now most grateful for today? I'm most grateful for life. I'm most grateful for an opportunity, most grateful for my family. I'm most gratitude is a big thing with me. I mean, it is truly my my anchor. Yeah. Yes, I do, too, right? It's my anchor. And I wake up with a heart full of gratitude. And even in death and even when things don't go right. And even though I didn't make it to the NFL, me making it to the NFL was the best thing that never happened. Yes, because it also gave me a great sense of gratitude to be here. So I would say that it would be. And also, I want to tell you and I'll tell you this, Oprah, and I want to tell you guys like I, I was so excited to come here and do this with you and share a little bit of my story and background and any kind of wisdom that I have learned over the years to share with you guys. But I want you to know that, especially this week, I've just, you know, laying my dad to rest. I needed this from you. And I thank you truly. Thank you. Thank you so much. I did. I love you back. I truly do. Good money. Y'all just gave some good money. But thank you. I did. I needed this and I needed this. I needed the love and this mana, because what I also realized is and I felt it coming in is that, you know, you go to rock concerts and things and events and wrestling matches or whatever. But, you know, when you come to this room and you have thousands, twelve, thirteen, fifteen thousand people who have one intention, which is to be better and give so much love and receive so much love. It's a powerful thing. It is a very powerful thing. Thank you for being here today to share it.