What a Guy Wants (Online Dating) | Ep. 71

Happy Thursday everyone the week is almost over first and foremost I should say at the top of the show that I have my Invisalign in today I decided to keep it in I normally take it off for the podcast, but I'm keeping it in So if I sound a little funny or I say words a little weird Please be nice to me Or don't be nice to me and say cruel things in the comments like some of you guys tend to do tell me how bad I look and how bad I sound moving on to the question of the day today. It's on my mind I'm excited to talk about it I'm excited to hear feedback on what you guys think but are you engaged in online dating? I'm fascinated by the online dating world I'm fascinated by the by the psychology of the online dating world and I want to know if you have done it Are you doing it? No judgment, but I do have a secondary question Which is that if you are engaged in online dating, do you heavily edit your photos that are on your profile? I'll tell you why I'm asking that question and my theory about the answer to that question Also later on in the show, we're gonna discuss this Gwen Stefani debacle. Is it a debacle? Is she culturally appropriating Japanese people people are really angry at her or are people just being annoying Hint people just in fact being annoying all that and more today coming up on Hannah sounds So I'll start off by coming clean I have actually never online dated and that's just because when I was of the age where The online dating apps appeared I would say first started with tinder before it became the hookup app People were actually using tinder meaningfully I was in a long-term relationship living with my boyfriend and I've kind of had longer relationships since I've never had a need To date online doesn't mean I wouldn't I totally understand why people do do it I think times are changing our culture is changing a lot of stuff happens online and people just find it to be easier Especially as you get older it makes even more sense to me your lifestyle changes You're maybe not hitting the bars every Friday Saturday and brunching on Sundays Kind of want to stay at home more maybe cook at home And so you don't meet as many people as you would if you were a bit younger all of that makes sense to me But I'm fascinated by online dating because I do think that it's mutating the human experience and there's no question It's mutating the human experience. It's changing people It's changed the way that we think it's very weird to look at a human being and to read a couple of facts about them and to swipe left or right or to like it or pass on it and It's just giving us so many more options and sometimes of course it can just give you analysis paralysis There is just such a thing as having too many options, you know, I'm talking about and so Savannah my assistant She has an online dating profile She sometimes uses it sometimes doesn't sometimes meet people in person But I told her that I wanted to use her app hinge yesterday So I went on Savannah's app hinge and I almost want to say I played hinge because it was a bit like a game It was actually kind of fun I was looking at these guys and and I was seeing what they said and I was like Oh, I think you should want to date with him and I would like their profile I will look at their profile and say mmm. He's kind of giving me Northeast Connecticut vibes I just don't think it's gonna be a good match for you and your redneck persona She's like, yeah, he ain't for me. And then I would just I just judged this guy. Maybe he was for her Maybe they would have been happily ever after But I was being judgmental because the app encourages you to be judgmental and it is kind of really fun Also a random fun fact my husband's best friend the guy who was the best man in our wedding He was actually the number two most liked man on hinge His profile was the most like me on hinge hinge one year released who all of their top ten profiles that were liked and they Talked about it in an article of why they thought these profiles were so liked and he was number two And I was talking to him about the dating world when I saw him in Africa and South Africa a couple of weeks ago I mean last week rather and I'm fascinated by the fact that people that are on the apps all say the same thing They hate the apps right? Oh, I hate the apps I hate being on the apps like I'm on it because it's a good way to meet people But people are all together having a pretty miserable experience on the apps and yet they still engage in them And when you ask the question The reason why people don't like the apps are different depending on whether or not you are a woman or you are a man So I think the number one complaint that I got from men I asked a few of them about the online dating world is that women are just lying about how they look Which is such a bizarre concept the women are heavily editing their pictures Putting them on these dating apps and the women don't look like that So the men say they show up to the date and maybe the woman looked like that 20 years ago or 20 pounds ago But she looks nothing like that as she's standing in front of him. So you imagine what what was the purpose? Why did she think she was gonna dupe him? We pick somebody else's body or you pick your body from when you were in high school and then you said, oh, it's okay Once uh, once I see him, he'll just go with my personality Doesn't make sense if I had an online dating app Yeah If I was on the online dating apps I would definitely use a picture in which I looked slightly less attractive than I do in real life Because I want the guy that says, okay I like this person to think that I'm gonna look like that and then be pleasantly surprised. I look even better So why are so many women lying about how they look on these apps? Why are they pretending they have a different smile a different body? Maybe they're changing their their skin. Whatever it is the texture of their skin Maybe they have really bad acne and they give their self themselves perfect skin Eventually the idea right is that the guy is going to see you Now the number one complaint that I got from women when I talked about the apps is that a lot of times men will reach Out to them and they'll say hey start the conversation and then when the woman replies the guys just go cold Why the heck are guys doing that? Why are guys reaching out to women making the effort and then never responding to them ever again? That's very weird So I tried to think about why these two things might be recurring and I asked actually women yesterday online Why they heavily edit their photos here are some of the responses that we got and then I'm going to tell you the truth Which is what I think only one person admitted So this woman said cameras add a few extra pounds and I'm gonna go with maybe if we were still in the 90s Cameras added a few extra pounds. Sure. I could agree with that when we had Polaroids and tech wasn't really figured out But I don't think that that still holds now in 2023 I think that that that excuse is not exactly being honest But thank you for the feedback another woman said I may only edit the lighting or background never the details of me Okay fair the third person said not photogenic in the control room say people agreed with that. They said yeah, it's true Some people are just not photogenic I think if that is honest and there are some people that when they smile and look super parallel and symmetrical and other people where They don't have a great smile, but actually we seem in person. They're very beautiful So maybe they're just slightly editing editing it so people don't pass on them because they don't have the best smile Next person says I don't like a few figures on my face I'm not sure what she means by that if she maybe she means facial features on her face Okay still begs the question it is your face Are you expecting the person that you then meet in person to think? Oh, okay. Well, it's okay because you edited your nose, but you have an entirely different one What is the what is the point and the purpose of fooling them until you meet them in person? I I don't understand that the next person says some people are just not photogenic might actually be better looking in real life Okay fair But I think this this last one is the truth and I'm gonna tell you why I believe this to be true this person says honestly just to impress and because of insecurities if anyone says otherwise they are untruthful and I think that that really gets to the heart of the issue I think a lot of women are editing these photos because they don't actually anticipate that It is going to result in a real-life date I think a lot of times when people are feeling insecure or they're feeling lonely the apps give them something to do and like I said it was fun to look at all of these profiles and if you maybe are a person that you don't think would be first picked At a bar and you're feeling a little insecure Well, what better way to sort of boost your your self-confidence then to have a photo? That's really edited and having a bunch of guys That are messaging you telling you how beautiful you look or how you look or how they want to take you on a date Now that if that date never Materializes then oh well at least you felt like you were first picked at least you felt like men were looking at you I think that that is the reason that a lot of these women are lying in their photos if they are being honest if they're Being honest with the reasons that they're essentially lying and advertising something That isn't real that isn't as it appears in real life. So to speak now on the male side though I think it's something else I think for men the way that their mind is processing these apps Is this a simple numbers game and I think men actually think like this, right? It's just it's a numbers game So I'm gonna say hey, hey, hey to 40 girls I rate some of these girls a C some of these girls a B and a small minority of them in a plus Honestly, I think this is how men think and they're thinking if I throw out and I cast my line 40 times and maybe four of the A's will come back Then I'll focus and I'll just have a conversation with them And if none of those A's come back because maybe they're a little insecure then okay, I'll start talking to the B's But that's why they're throwing out. They're just thinking I'm eventually I'm gonna catch a big enough fish and that is what makes sense Anyways, this was going through my mind because again, I'm fascinating with the online dating world. I want to hear your stories I want you guys to write me about some experiences that you've had some dates that have Materialized and if you are having luck if you even like online dating my guess is that you don't and this is kind of the ways in which the world has Promoted an advancement that has actually been a regression, right? We're regressing we people don't know how to speak to each other People don't have the confidence to have face-to-face conversations And so they're comfortable behind the apps people don't have the confidence to address their own insecurities and so they linger behind the apps and I think that as our Confidence is shrinking. We're tending to tell the world more lies and perhaps even worse. 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Birth rate is continuing decline as nearly half of women under 45 Are childless and That should surprise no one especially be mostly this podcast as I have been telling women that there is a war on fertility The government is sponsoring the war on fertility and they have been really since the 1970s since the rise of birth control pills and then turning hormones into your body and telling women that they shouldn't want to have children and that they should go to work and they shouldn't aspire to take care of their husbands or their children or to be the CEOs of their homes all things that are aspirational and wonderful Listen to this podcast I've been telling you that the government is in fact anti family and you should not trust the government least of all with your ovaries And your fertility, but what do I know? I am NOT the the CD. I am NOT. Dr. Fauci I'm not I'm not even a doctor. How could I possibly understand the science? Behind why inserting hormones into your body every single day is somehow healthy I mean, I don't know maybe because I have common sense. Do you have common sense? Why would you think that? Putting hormones into your body every day is a good thing for decades and decades and decades. And of course what this is lending to are a bunch of women who are having fertility struggles and the good thing about once you have fertility struggles that then you have to turn to the government to have a child and you need to turn to doctors and You need to sacrifice your body even more to Big Pharma. What a wonderfully vicious cycle Anyways about 52% of women according to this study between the ages of 15 to 44 gave birth between 2015 to 2019 which is a drop from the nearly 55% in the prior four-year period The number of biological fathers in the same age range also dipped from 2015 2019 about 40% of men Had fathered a child compared to about 44% during 2011 to 2015 now, of course what runs parallel to the fact that the government is attacking fertility and has been for decades and Wants to be able to control birth. I love that by the way, they're not even hiding that one They call it birth control when I'm like, I need my birth control. It's like the government sometimes they're so in our faces You know, they're like let's just call it birth control and then tell them that we're not trying to control their births and that actually We're giving them control. It's like that's not what's happening But once parallel to this obviously is the Department of Education and the lie of feminism Anyways before I say more on that subject here is dr Jordan Peterson discussing this with a guest on his podcast. The guest is Chris Williamson. Take a listen The first time ever since records began 50.1% of women are childless by 30 So there are more women without children at 30 than there are women with children the first time Somebody clipped a part of one of my podcasts, I believe it was where I was talking about What what our society does to 19 year old women or 18 year old women 19 year old women? We just lie to them all the time. You know, the first lie is There's nothing more important than your career more or less by definition That's the first lie. The second lie is there will be nothing more important to you in your life than your career So that's the second lie and then the third lie is there should be nothing more important in your life than the career career So that's the third lie. What I've seen is that as women progress towards their late 30s now late 20s, there's a psychological transformation and what happens is that they place less emphasis on their career and Way more emphasis particularly on having a child and that really reaches a crisis point around 29 or 30 for the vast Majority of women and and their attitude flips and I've seen it very dramatically with many women Yep, I've been saying that for years, but I'm not a doctor But dr. Jordan Peterson is a doctor which gives us the permission to say that Yeah, common sense feminism is a lie feminism is cancerous and it is cancerous to your lifestyle It is poisonous to your mindset and you don't realize the lie of feminism until you get to we talked about that period in your Late 20s. I am so honest if you're a younger person listening to my podcast Younger women in particular do understand them people talk about the biological clock ticking and as this sort of imaginary thing Something does psychologically and biologically shift inside of women in their late 20s. It just happens I was shocked by it in my young 20s I was young and I was wild and I was free and the concept of being a woman like a Wife and a mother was so far off and then I feel that when I turned 26 suddenly There was this alarm going off inside of my body that suddenly all I wanted to do was find a mate and have children and begin That part of my life. It was not taught to me. In fact the exact opposite It was is what was taught to me I did not come from a household in which I had a mom that was saying you need to find odds Nothing like that whatsoever There was something that took place within me that is natural and is biological that made me aspire to that and what feminism teaches you is that you can outthink your biology and you can't right and when it's too late because you've bought into the lies of feminism for too long and suddenly it's too late because the Biological clock has ticked down to the last minute women go crazy You know, I once said this on Twitter and I got into trouble I said when women don't use their eggs, they scramble and that was me being you know, funny but also trying to make a point that when I see women and They are and by the way Let me be clear because I know there are people that listen to this podcast or write in the comments that me and my husband Never had children and we're perfectly happy. There are exceptions to every rule You may very well be an exception to the rule that I am talking about, right? But as a rule when I come across a woman and she has bought into the lies of feminism and she has warded off men so Usually you are at least being married allows you to to dig into your nurturing spirit your natural nurturing spirit as a woman But if you don't do that you buy into feminism and you have no husband you have no kids Something happens to a woman. I find that these are the craziest people. They're the most radical feminists They marched in the streets there. They look possessed There was an anger burning inside of them and all that is by the way, it's not a possession. It's unhappiness It's actually unhappiness and unhappiness that was actually being taught to you So I have been very open with the fact that I am anti all of the birth control I am anti handing over our bodies when we're 13 years old when the gynecologist only goes birth control birth control birth control birth control I think it's horrific. I think it does women a great disservice. I think it's leading Obviously to the high infertility rates that we have and it's anti family. So I am anti all of that Anyways you guys moving on to the next topic You may have seen this very I think rather strange debate That has been waged in the press right now a war on Gwen Stefani And they are likening her to Hilaria Baldwin Ilaria Baldwin who her real name as it turns out is just Hillary It just gave you a background on that story in case you don't remember Alec Baldwin is married to Ilaria Baldwin who has been pretending that she is Spanish literally pretending that she is Spanish pretending that she can sometimes forget English words it turns out that she's like a rich white girl from Boston who just Felt spiritually that she wanted to pretend to be Spanish after high school Which is kind of strange and that is very very bizarre that she's named all of her children a bunch of Spanish names And that she pretends to have a thick Spanish accent at times Gwen Stefani on the other hand is not that and people are angry at her because she had an interview With allure magazine and they were talking about her Harajuku brand if you remember Gwen Stefani And she always was surrounded by all these Japanese women in her videos They were super fun, and it was like Harajuku style I don't even know what Harajuku was as an American until Gwen Stefani sort of brought brought it Into I would almost say the the Hollywood purview right so as a kid You'd like oh, that's so cool, and you were sort of I was learning more about Japan So she's talking about How she loved Harajuku how she brought this and in describing Different elements of what she brings right to the world of like what what is the brand of Gwen Stefani? She described herself as quote even though. I'm an Italian American Irish or whatever mutt that I am That's who I became because those were my people right I think it was a beautiful time of creativity a time of the ping-pong match between Harajuku culture and American culture she proclaimed herself later on to be a super fan of Japan and Basically was giving an answer for why she brought this to the forefront never once did she say that she was Japanese? She just said that she was a little bit of an Orange County girl a little bit of a Japanese girl a little bit of An English girl during her chat as she was talking about this brand that she brought to the forefront Obviously because people love to call everything cultural appropriation There was this swift backlash And they were basically saying that what she did was inappropriate and that she's pretending that she is Japanese Which clearly she didn't as I just read to you She said that she was a an Italian American an Irish or whatever mutt that she was but she was talking about the creativity of her brand and what she brought to the forefront during that period and this Horrible journalist. This is all this person is wanted attention. They wanted to create a scandal. They wanted to find a scandal in nothing basically pretended that she showed up and said I am Japanese and that she was crazy and was confused and thought that even though She was raised in Orange County as a white girl an Italian American that suddenly Gwen Stefani was trying to pretend to be Japanese and it was not that at all and all the backlash was completely unwarranted and It is because this is how the left is they they don't look at something and say wow This person is celebrating someone else's culture. These are the same people that get angry when When Kim Kardashian has her hair in French braids who cares who cares they say you need to credit your hair to Africans Would you imagine doing your hair in the morning and crediting it you have to get credit? I don't I don't know who first did this hairstyle. Maybe it was a Viking I don't I don't know. You can imagine doing your hair every episode I say I would first like to credit my hairstyle to this random culture this other left thinks right? It's completely cancerous. And of course what's so ironic about this is that they're totally fine with men dressing up as women And saying that they are women and demanding that their licenses be changed and the birth certificates be changed to reflect how I feel on The inside that they love they love to platform literal and actual insanity But when someone is actually paying respect and saying I was influenced by this Amazingly beautiful culture when I was surrounded by these Harajuku girls. It's because when I you know when I went to Japan I was so inspired by and I wanted to bring this to my audiences They attack that and and this sort of gets the fact that the left does not want people to come together Comprehensively, they actually don't want a world of multiculturalism That's a they they love to say that they want that that they want multiculturalism They want people to be blended and they don't want people to see races They don't want that whatsoever because if they did this would be aspirational they would say oh my god, right in Japan there were Harajuku girls girls like Candace Owens that were growing up had no idea what Harajuku even met and then this Artist who was so in love with it when she visited the country and understood the culture brought it into one of her music videos They would applaud that Instead what they do they rebuke her. They try to turn it into a scandal They make it seem as if she's trying to pretend that she is Japanese not a girl from the Orange County And so I just want to say that Gwen Stefani. I know that you are And I don't know if you're far left. I do know you're a liberal I think it's been reported that Blake is conservative and you are a liberal and Maybe you can sort of wake up to the fact that this is sort of the cancerous culture that we're trying to fight Because as I said, it's not about bringing people together It's about tearing people apart putting them in specific boxes and telling them that if they even dare step out of that box They will absolutely chew you and try to ruin your career. 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So look out for that guys and Finally, I wanted to provide an update for all the women that listen to my podcast when I covered the new Ozempic trend girls are taking some a glutide It's mimics the semi glutide hormone that comes into your body that makes you not hungry It tells your body that you are full and so you don't eat anymore And so they had now have all these different brands Ozempic will go be so many that are coming out and celebrities are Using this to lose weight and of course women are now using this to lose weight very quickly A ton of women are that are dropping 50 pounds overnight and claiming that they went for a run and it happened No, they're all injecting themselves and it's pretty horrific and I've communicated the terrific because it causes cancer It can cause pancreatitis. It is just not worth it Just get a a healthy eating habits, of course, there's no such thing as a quick fix Of course, there is going to be consequences, right? there's there's no shortcuts in life and I want to talk about this and give you an update because I was following a thread on reddit first and foremost of women that went off of Ozempic because they didn't realize they would Have to inject themselves every day every week for the rest of their lives I thought I'm gonna lose the weight and then that'll be fine No, of course, what happens is that you have to keep injecting yourself to keep that weight off Or they're gonna get a ton of weight back and very quickly that's kind of how it works in your anorexic, too You're sort of shut down your metabolism so that when you reintroduce food to it Your body goes crazy. And so a young woman a tik-tok star named Remy Bader revealed how she gained double the weight back and grappled with binge eating again after getting off of Hollywood's trendy new favorite diet the drug that is Ozempic So I want to let you hear her in her own words describing what that was like for her We've been talking about Ozempic lately. I know so I've been talking about it I was on that before it was trending and I just like was like they said I need this, you know And and then I had I've had a lot of mixed feelings because then once I was you know if you once later got into the bad binging and went off it and I saw a doctor and they were like 100% because you went on Ozempic because it was making me think I wasn't hungry for so long. I lost some weight I didn't want to be like obsessed with being on it long term and I was like, I bet the second I go off I'm gonna get starving again. I did and my binging got so much worse So then I kind of blamed Ozempic, but I really now see it as like if you it's really like so it doesn't work When you get off of it, like you have to be on it. So it's I gained double the weight back There you have it ladies and gentlemen So if you are interested in injecting yourself making yourself physically ill Throwing up not wanting to eat but also feeling chronically ill as you go through the week The bonus being that within a couple of weeks you will drop some weight But if you don't want to physically make yourself ill every week for the rest of your life and you get off of this pill You start to eat again You're going to blow up and also potentially have cancer as all of the lab mice that were given Ozempic and these hemaglutide were they started they had cancer they had tumors If you want to run the risk of doing all of that so that you can look skinny in a picture Go for it Let me know how it goes. I don't know how people are surprised that they suddenly gain drastic weight after they get off of it I'm always surprised by people surprised that people are surprised and then I'm surprised at the surprise because Common sense anymore, of course It's just we don't live in Harry Potter world everybody there There's no magic way to lose weight by just injecting yourself once a week. So I'm just gonna end it there common sense is I guess not that common and that's all I have to say about that Using the internet without ExpressVPN is like checking your baggage at the airport without a lock. You think your stuff is safe But how do you know for sure that no one is going through your personal items? 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