Aging Angst And How I Look At It | Life With Sandra Hart

[Music] I found peace with my life when I quit looking in the mirror with remorse when I stopped obsessing about my mirror my wrinkles and lived my [Music] life hello and thank you for arranging your schedule so that you are spending a little bit of time with me here today on Sunday it's a much better day for me to be able to upload my videos because I do it during the week and then I can relax on the weekends I'm going to be talking about aging today and it's something that we all do while we're still here we can't stop it but I was going through some of my magazines that are sent to me for free I don't know why I'm getting People magazine and I get The Hollywood Reporter which is a an acting industry magazine for free and perusing through all of these magazines you know trying to get rid of them and throw them out I was thinking about aging and about Hollywood and how these poor women actresses are not allowed to age gracefully there is such a stigma in Hollywood about women having to look like they're 30 when they're 50 so in order to stay viable and not be invisible and to get work a lot of these women have bended to getting procedures on their faces and I didn't even recognize them and I thought how how awful is that because maybe some women wanted to do it they opted to to have all of this stuff done to their faces but I'm sure that there are some women that that would rather have just kept on working and being able to age gracefully and some of them have some of the actresses have not been to that I think Annette Benning is one of them American actresses that I'm talking about has allowed herself to age gracefully and I really admire her for that but I was thinking about us because even my daughters I have one daughter who is 58 another daughter who is in her early 6 60s uh they don't want to have procedures but they are worried about aging I mean they look in the mirror and they see a wrinkle and it's like death warmed over like oh my gosh you know it's the end of my life you know what am I going to do that's so natural I know all of us when I used to look in the mirror and I would find a wrinkle or gray hair coming in it was kind of depressing and a little sad for me but it is when I stopped looking in the mirror with three more remorse that I began to accept the aging process it is when I realized that I am not that face in the mirror that's not all me I am much more than that when I changed my priorities to think about my purpose in life and that I was in my Prime because I had found my purpose in my life that was all that mattered to me and those triggers when I was younger even that would set me off and stress me out that I was worried about I let go I really let go because I understood or I understand now things that are really important for me to think about things that are really important for me to deal with and when I was younger I had so many things that would maybe set me off and stress me out and I was trying to deal with it and that is the worst position to be in ever I know my grandchildren tease me now and they say Oh Nana you're so chill and I said well you know you have to learn that it's life lived and if you really want to figure out your prior prorities because you realize that hey you know I told myself a while back Sandra you're only here one time around your journey is going to be one way just one time unless somebody comes back and and tells me oh you know that's not true this is what I really have to believe so I've been able to let go of certain things in my life problems that would stress me out and age me I have learned to let go and to let life flow just to let life flow because there are things you have control over and there are things that you don't have control over you are not you have no control over the natural aging process of getting wrinkles you can use good skin care I'm all for that and sunscreen I'm all for that but there's no way way in Hades that you are going to stop the aging process no matter how many fillers you get how many face lifts you get how much hormone therapy you get your body is going to age so why not age gracefully and why not start to appreciate who you are right now and when you let go of all of that angst about aging that's when your life is going to turn over and you're going to start really living your life it's hard because I used to not prioritize things when I was younger I was always so busy doing this and doing that but when I really let go of the fact that I am not going to look look young forever I am not going to be young forever you know I'm going to slow down and I'm not going to be who I was when I was 30 when I let go of that reality and I started prioritizing and living my life today and not worrying about am I going to be invisible am I not going to matter anymore when I quit worrying about that then life became easier for me if you really want to be in your Prime and you really want to get that steam engine and keep it going and going and going it is important that you find your purpose in life now I don't know what that is you know what that is and if you haven't found it yet don't stop looking everybody and I have said this so many times because I believe it with all of my heart everyone has a purpose on this life each and everyone is here for a purpose no matter what stage you are in life no matter how bad you think your life is now there is a purpose for you there is a purpose for for you being here there is a purpose for you going through what you're going through right now when you start to look at the aging process a little bit different when you start to look at the aging process as a natural thing that happens to all of us and wanting to find your purpose and wanting to find your happiness and living in the moment every single day that's when the Aging angst will disappear acceptance of life and acceptance of reality of what happens to our body and how we age you know I had a conversation with somebody the other day who's been a friend of mine for a long time my husband Arthur introduced me to her years ago she is French has worked in the UN and lives in New York City but eventually she is trying to get back to Paris where she lived she told me about a friend that she has had for years this woman worked in the theater business she was uh a a great in influence in the theater industry very smart but she gave beatric my friend her first job at 17 well beatric has maintained a connection with her still today in Paris and do you know that this woman is now 103 years old she lives in her own home she does have somebody come in to look on her and in France they you know bring her meals from time to time so she is living alone but with outside assistance and beatric said she has all of her marbles she uh goes out for a walk every day but when I think about that I said beatric what is her secret she said it's because she remained active she remained interested in life and had a wonderful circle of friends so don't have angst about aging as long as you feel that you are serving a purpose in life you know forget the wrinkles forget the white hair forget all of that superficial stuff because we still can matter and we can still find happiness within ourselves for years to come if we just let go of the negative aging mentality we're all different and it's easier for some of us than others but I'm going to tell you that don't stress about aging it's going to happen while you're still here on this planet and if you're here here on this planet it's a blessing and it's a gift that's how I look at aging and that's how I have gotten rid of my angst of Aging it's going to happen but I'm going to make the best of it while I am still here thank you oh do something wonderful for yourself and don't worry about aging just go with it and do the best you can with the life while you're still here and be the best person that you can while you're still here and let's all share 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