Five Habits That Will Make You Powerful Beyond Belief Life Over 60

Hello and welcome. This is Sandra Hart at Life Over 60. Today's conversation is going to be for you. It's going to help you no matter how young or how old you are. Doing things for other people is actually more rewarding than virtually any other thing you can ever do. Hello and it's so great to see you again. Thank you so much for stopping by for a few minutes for this conversation today. My son, just a little while back we had the deep conversation. Both of us are interested in life. We're interested in people and we're so curious about a lot of things around us. Well, he opened my eyes to a clinical psychologist. His name is Jordan Peterson. I must have been living under a rock because I'd never heard of him before. He is absolutely awesome and probably most people in the world know about him except I didn't. But since then I have listened to a lot of his lectures, a lot of his podcasts, and everything that he says aligns with exactly how I feel about my life. But he has put in five simple easy tips, five really powerful things that we can do to have the best life ever. And this is for you if you are 15, 18, if you are 85. It doesn't matter because all of these tips are so, so powerful. Maybe you've already discovered them. Maybe you already are living these tips. But if not, I would like to go over them again and we can share them together. The first one, of course, is if you have any bad habits, whether you're smoking, overeating, maybe whether you're drinking more than you should and you feel remorse after you've been drinking because you know you've had too much and if it's affecting your life and your way of life, those are bad habits. That is a way to give yourself more power in your life because you'll feel better. You'll absolutely feel better. The second one, of course, is something I've talked about so often and that is taking care of your physical body. Exercise. They have found that people who exercise, even if in your earlier years, if you have exercised and you've been in pretty good shape, when you're older, if maybe you don't exercise as much, that people who at one time in their lives, if they really have been in great shape and they've exercised, it helps them live longer and it helps them be healthier. When you exercise, it helps your cognitive ability. It helps you to feel better and actually it's been proven it will help you to live longer. Any type of weight-bearing exercises, any type of cardiovascular exercises that get your heart moving, that will keep you young and it will keep your brain functioning and all of your organs functioning so much better. Plus, it's a mood booster. How many times maybe I've been a little depressed because of things around me and if I can just go outside and take a walk and deep breathe, oh, it's like a miracle because then I can come back into the house and I can face whatever it is that's really bothering me. I mean, we have genetic things going on and certain things that we have no control over, but the stronger you are, even if you have to come across a life-threatening illness, your chances of survival are so much better if you are in good, good shape. And the third one we've talked about also and that's why I like him so much because he and I kind of have the same mindset, but relationships. Foster those relationships. Now, those of us who are older, we have more of advantage over the young people because we've had a lifetime to be able to build networks and relationships with people because the more people that you have in your network as you go along in life, the more people you will be able to call or talk to who will be able to help you and give you feedback. It's extremely important to keep that social network. People who as they age even, the more friends they have and the more social life they have, the longer they will live. We humans are social animals. It doesn't mean, you know, I'm kind of an introvert. I am, you know, not running around making a thousand friends, but those friends that I have met, those people that I feel close to who are in my bag of marbles, they are so extremely important to me and I think they keep me young. I really do. When I was in New York in my 50s, you know, I was an actress and when you are an actress, you don't work every single day and I got married to Arthur when I was 45 and I was always used to earning my own living, having my own money and being independent. So, when I decided to go into acting, I wasn't too sure if that income would be so steady. So, I got another job. I had two jobs. I was acting, but I also worked for Orlena Paris, the cosmetic company, and I was in charge of promotions and hiring all the models. I was in charge of the big B21 promotion when it came out and we premiered it at Saks Fifth Avenue, but all of the department stores in New York, all of the promotional models that you see, walking around with perfume and doing makeovers on people, I was in charge of all of the Fifth Avenue stores. That's what I did, but because I was in my 50s, a lot of my promotional models were younger and they would call me. I became their big sister or their mother and they would call me whenever they had problems. I was on the phone a lot and that was before cell phones where you could go in another room and our phone was in the living room in our apartment. And Arthur used to get so mad at me because I was constantly on the phone with these young models when they had problems, giving them advice. Well, I never knew that my life would eventually evolve into being a life coach and, of course, you know, being here on YouTube where I enjoy helping people. This has virtually given me the biggest satisfaction and the biggest high in my life that I have ever, ever had. Every time I read the comments from my subscribers, from all of you, and you're telling me about your lives, you're telling me how you've overcome circumstances and that maybe that I have helped you a little bit, that to me is the best thing that could ever happen to me. That virtually gives me such a wonderful feeling that my life has purpose. You have no idea what all of you have done for me because I really enjoy people. I love people and I enjoy helping people. When you do that, when you help people and you know that they are so grateful, doesn't that give you an emotional high? Doesn't that give you a feeling of having purpose and a powerful feeling beyond all words? I'm sure it does, just like me, because I'm no different from any of you. And to me, of all of these suggestions, that's the one for me that I believe for myself personally is so awesome and so extremely powerful. And the last one is to always try to be productive, straightforward, and genuine in your life. Always to try to have good moral values and basically always try to just be a good, good person. I think in our lives, being able to reach out to other people and really trying to to be an honest person and trying to be very generous with your life and your time it really is so powerful. I know Jordan kind of gives an example and he said, you know, during the times of Auschwitz and when the Jews were being persecuted by the Germans, what type of courage it took for those Christian families to hide those people that were being persecuted because they were risking their own lives. How many of us today, if put in that situation, would be willing to step up and to risk our lives in order to help someone else? Today, when I watch the news and all the chaos is going on in the world and you see people being mugged and hit in the subways and in the streets and you see people walking by or stepping over them, I mean it's really a scary, scary feeling. It puts us to the test for sure and I am not too sure that if I lived back in those days, if I would have been brave enough to reach out and give shelter to a family. It's really a testament to who you are and it's really a test of of how moral and how generous and what kind of a good person we are. You really sometimes, it's very hard to be a good person today, isn't it? But we can all try to achieve all five of these things and I just wanted to share them with you because we have talked a lot about many of these, but if we all, and I put myself in that all, if we all could follow these five steps that would make us more powerful beyond anything that we could imagine. It would be wonderful and we could feel that we are living a life. Thank you so much for joining me today. I really appreciate each and every one of you. Be good to yourself today and maybe you can be a kind and generous person to whomever crosses your path. That's part of it. That's part of being a good person. Let's all share the love and of course pray for the troubled souls and pray for world peace. Thank you so much for joining me today and I really hope that you will think about coming back next Tuesday for another conversation. Thank you and have a beautiful day.