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There is a saying like this Nhut Nhut Phu The Bach Nhut An Bach Nhut Phu The Ti Hai Tham That means that one day should be a husband and wife is equal to 100 days of love 100 days as a husband and wife, the meaning is even deeper than the sea Hello everyone Welcome to Vien Dung Phat My name is Nguyet Anh Yes, today we meet again in this video And today we share with each other What is the topic? I think that the topic we share today is a problem that takes up quite a lot of importance in our lives It also makes us think and pay attention to it quite a lot So what is the topic? That is the meaning of husband and wife Yes, today we want to share our understanding and awareness of the basis of marriage And first of all, to go to a comprehensive view a clear view of marriage and family we must first go to the awareness the perception of the ancients about the basis of marriage In the past, they taught that husband and wife are not only respectful like relatives that is, husband and wife are not only respectful like guests but husband and wife also have to be grateful to each other So in the past, they paid great attention to the issue of love and affection Love here is affection Affection here is love That is, in the past, they paid great attention to the issue of love and affection between husband and wife So we can see that in the past, they thought that the basis of marriage was not only the issue of love between husband and wife but also love and affection So why did the ancients have such an idea? In the past, they thought that when a girl is still at home with her parents the person who loves, cares and cares for her the most is her parents When she grows up to the age of marriage she will choose a boy and marry that boy That is equivalent to she puts a great trust in that boy She brings all her remaining life from now to the end of her life and puts all her life into that boy and takes care of that boy As for the parents of the girl they also put a great trust in this boy They gave this boy their beloved daughter the daughter they gave birth to And when a family has a son they usually teach their son to understand the meaning of their wife to understand the trust that the girl's parents put in them And so the son must be responsible to love, protect, care and protect that girl And that is also a manifestation of the reciprocity the trust that the girl and her parents put in them We also hear the saying Nữ đại vô phu, thân vô chủ Nam đại vô thê, tài vô chủ That means when a girl reaches the age of marriage but has no husband her body is equivalent to having no husband And when a man reaches the age of maturity reaches the age of marriage but has no wife his property all his property has no one to take care of it So when a man reaches the age of maturity and has a wife he will find himself a girl and marry her And when he has a wife he will 100% trust to give all his property to his wife to take care of it And if in the past a husband was an official in the court then the seal or mark that the court gave to that official that official also gave that seal to his wife to manage and take care of If an official in the court loses that seal then that is equivalent to that official's whole family being beheaded So we can see that when a husband is an official he gives his wife the seal or mark That can be seen as that official has placed a great trust in his wife He has given his whole family's life to his wife So when a family has a daughter they have to educate their daughter to understand the trust of the husband So she has to be responsible First of all, she has to see her husband's parents as her biological parents She has to be wholehearted to raise her husband's bag to make him successful in life She has to see her husband's honor and humiliation as her own honor and humiliation And that is the answer to the trust that her husband has given to her So we can see that in the past, the foundation of marriage was honor and humiliation In a married life there is no way to avoid conflict Husband and wife sometimes argue But with a foundation of marriage of honor and humiliation the husband and wife will place that honor and humiliation on their own personal interests They will for the sake of the stability of the marriage They will for the sake of the peace in the family forget all the personal feelings and thoughts for themselves And a husband or a wife will never go against or treat the wife or husband who has been with them from the beginning So we can see that when the marriage is based on honor and humiliation it will be very stable And that can also prove why people in the past didn't get divorced Now let's go back to the concept of our perception of marriage Today, we focus on love We focus on love above all We use love to measure and decide our marriage Love is a fragile thing and it's easy to change Why do we say that? Because when a person treats you well you will feel happy and satisfied And you treat them well But when a person treats you badly you will be angry and resentful And you also tend to treat that person badly So when a person treats me badly I treat him badly So we can see that in a family life there is always a conflict And when there is a conflict we can't avoid the words that come out and even the words that are hurtful So if marriage is based on love then with insults or loud words like that marriage can't last and it will break I can give you an example like this I think this example is very common and it's a typical example in our society A couple male and female They love each other since they were students Their love is very beautiful Their love is a symbol that makes their classmates admire them and admire them The male student is very good at studying and he gets a lot of scholarships from the school The female student also gets a lot When they go to school they are all accepted by big companies And everyone thinks that this couple will be happy Then they have a wedding and their children are born They work in big companies so their job is very busy and in the end they have to rely on their parents-in-law The husband comes home late The wife also comes home late Then the meals that the husband and the wife cook in the middle of the meal will be less and less in the family In the end, they can only share with each other and hang out during meals in fancy restaurants After a while their love is fading and their job is boring So their love is fading and small conflicts start to arise First of all, small conflicts small arguments But little by little conflicts start to arise They argue about educating their children about how to treat both sides in many birth problems And the pinnacle of these conflicts is when the husband has feelings for another woman and they end up getting divorced So we can see that when marriage is based on love it is not sustainable It cannot be sustainable And now it is a very common phenomenon Many people think it is a coincidence but it is not Divorce has great consequences for people involved First of all, we have to talk about children A child who grows up in a family where his parents are divorced it is a great loss for the child Because a child wants to develop in the most complete way he has to live in a family with both parents How strong he is cannot replace his father No matter how hard his father tries he cannot play the role of a mother in a perfect way And we know that women have a feminine nature and men have a masculine nature The masculine and the feminine also represent the feminine and the feminine In a harmonious family the child has to live in an environment full of harmony All the elements in the child have to be developed in the most complete way In fact in the human mind there are changes there are psychological activities that we cannot know And when we don't know we don't feel it we see it as normal But the psychological development of the child especially when he is young before 18 is a very important stage Let's take an example When the parents are divorced the son lives with his mother the daughter lives with her father The son has to develop his masculine nature When he lives with his mother his mother's masculinity is full The daughter lives with her father Her masculinity has to develop in order to be compatible with her paternal nature Now her father's masculinity is full So when the two children grow up the son will have a strange tendency to be weak And the daughter will be stubborn So we can see when a child is not fully developed in a family with a father and a mother he has a strange tendency to lose his masculinity And these children usually have psychological problems and a wrong perception of their future marriage A husband or a wife who has to go through a divorce have a wrong perception of their future marriage and a wrong perception of other people And some of them can accept that and live alone until the end of their lives So we can see that a divorce can have huge consequences for people involved So what should we do? In our society we may have a perfect marriage and that's wonderful And we also have people who have to bear their marriage Their marriage may be boring but they have to bear it for many reasons For their children for their parents even for their career For their career they have to bear their marriage And we may have people who haven't been through their marriage and are waiting for their marriage in the future So to strengthen their marriage or to adjust their marriage or to prepare themselves to accept their marriage in the future I think we should look for good books about marriage and family Or we should read good books where they teach us how to be a wife how to be a husband and how to build a happy family a perfect marriage What do we need to do? And I also want to share that when we have to change or improve our marriage we should invite our friends to join us Because marriage is a mutual relationship between two people So if only one side does it, it will be very difficult and it will be hard to get the best result If a man can't show his strong character If he can't show his strong character in his family then the woman will not be able to trust him If a woman can't be gentle then her husband will be very afraid of her and the husband will not be able to protect his wife We are women and we always hope that our husbands are strong men But we always force our husbands to be like women So how can he show his strength his true character in such a situation? People say a mountain can't have two tigers a country can't have two kings a family can't have two husbands A family with two husbands will definitely fall apart And one more important thing is that if we don't think for each other we always put our interests on the line We always have to fight for our rights then we will not have a common voice in the family After a tiring day at work we all want to go back to our warm bed where the wife is cooking dinner for the family where the husband is giving the baby a bath or teaching the baby But if our actions accidentally broke that warm bed then where is the place we can go back to? A family's warm bed is a place of happiness with the laughter of parents and children It is a place where we can let go of all the tiredness, discomfort, worries in a working day It is an endless happiness that no money, no property can buy So, as husband and wife we need to think for each other Husband thinks for his wife When conflicts arise we need to avoid them Find a balance a zero so that we can calm down Then put yourself in the other person's shoes Try to understand them Oh, why is my husband so difficult today? Or is there a conflict at work today? The work is too hard and makes him uncomfortable Then we need to support him We need to be patient so that he can let go of his anger Oh, why is my wife so difficult today? Or is there a change in her body today? Or is there something in her eyes? Then we try to comfort her If husband and wife always treat each other like that then there will be no conflict no conflicts no conflicts in the family And it is a happy and peaceful family Husband and wife can hold each other's hands until the end of their lives Actually, the issue of divorce the ratio of divorce in our society today is a pressing issue It is a problem that everyone is worried about So, the marriage was established on the basis of gratitude and gratitude Today, we cannot build gratitude and gratitude So let's try to think for each other Let's try to understand each other Put yourself in the position of the other and understand the other Yes, today we share the issue of love between husband and wife I also hope that our understanding our awareness today can give you some insights or some more understanding about a problem And we also hope that you will always share and send us your thoughts Please contact us by email support.vienzungphat.com Today's sharing is over I sincerely thank you for watching Goodbye and see you in the next videos