Come vincere l'imbarazzo ad una festa 🥂 quando non conosciamo nessuno

Buongiorno e ben ritrovati sul canale. Il video di oggi è dedicato a tutte quelle circostanze in cui si è invitati ad una festa, ma non si viene minimamente considerati. A volte purtroppo capita, sarà capitato anche a voi. Prendo spunto dal commento che ho ricevuto per sviluppare questa argomentazione. Prima di cominciare però vi invito ad iscrivervi al canale se ancora non l'avete fatto e ad attivare le notifiche, la campanellina, in modo da essere avvisati ogni volta che pubblico un nuovo video. Il modo migliore per introdurre questa argomentazione è quello di leggervi il commento che ho ricevuto. Ringrazio la persona che me l'ha scritto perché mi ha dato uno spunto interessante da sviluppare. Questo video ha lo scopo di darvi degli strumenti, degli spunti, dei suggerimenti per riuscire a non rimanere in una situazione di imbarazzo quando si presentano queste circostanze. Mi rendo conto che oggigiorno tutti questi piccoli modi di fare, queste piccole attenzioni sono veramente sparite, bisogna fare le presentazioni. Questa era la premessa ma adesso andiamo a vedere come comportarci se questa situazione ci mette in imbarazzo. Ve lo dico subito, non bisogna stare in disparte, non bisogna fare le persone timide e vergognose, lo so che a volte per carattere si tende a voler sparire, a rimpicciolirsi ma questo è veramente controproducente. Molto meglio partire considerando la propria presenza quindi vi sembreranno dei tecnicismi ma provate poi mi saprete dire queste cose secondo me migliorano molto la situazione. Prima cosa, non pensate che ciò non avvenga perché state antipatici, le persone non vi conoscono e non sono lì che stanno guardando voi effettivamente, se ci fate caso è così. problema, sento una feste quella cui stiamo partecipando. Sottolineo questa particolarità, nel momento in cui voi siete ad una festa, in cui non conoscete nessuno, ma avete un compagno potrebbe capitare no? Io il mio marito siamo invitàti ad un evento dove non conosciamo assolutamente nessuno, io pero conosco mio marito, mio marito conosce me. La tendenza è quella di chiacchierare between us, but games like this are beautiful, we don't solve anything, so I recommend you don't fall into this temptation, in this comfort, try to get out of your comfort zone, I'm not inviting you to make an effort, but try, how to say, to promote a certain balance that certainly favors your presence inside the party. So we come to how to deal with the presentation, because it all starts from there, you have to introduce yourself. First of all, Billy Russo. Identify the person or group of people who inspires you the most, with whom you think you have more affinity, because then in truth, going back for a moment to the fact that it should be the guests, that is, who organized the party to introduce you, the meaning is precisely in the fact that who invited you, knows you, knows also the others and knows what they could be interested in, the topics that could give birth to a good conversation. If this is missing, because who invited you is a bit of a juno, in a good way, you have to think about it alone, so, identified the group with which you would prefer to talk, get closer, you don't have to be flimsy, but don't be shy either, so a nice open posture, relaxed, relaxed, with a light smile, you get closer, obviously in the moment in which you are not talking cheerfully, because you can't interrupt a conversation, but in the moment in which you see that there is a bit of tranquility, you simply get closer and say, good morning, I am Monica. So you introduced yourself and you broke the ice, very simple, then I can remind you, never say it's a pleasure, if you have never had to do with these people, because the Galateans see this approach a little badly, very happy, ok, all very well, and if who you have in front of you is not really a scoundrel, a rude person, you will see that in turn he will introduce himself and from there a little the art of conversation, from thing to thing you will start talking and you will see that it will be simpler than what you imagined. How to say, the first move, even if you are in embarrassment, you have to do it, it must be a packed move, just a break the ice, give the there at the beginning of something and then the kindness of others will stay to carry on this situation. If this didn't have to happen, you already have found it, you try for a dozen minutes, not more, then you can change the group or if you really understand that it is not an environment that is for you, without no resentment, next time you will decline the invitation because no one forces us to accept to spend our time with people who do not like our presence, but here you know how to make an objective analysis of the same situation because being embarrassed does not automatically mean that we are not well accepted. Then being this, then the case of a birthday party, a really unformal event, you could also avoid the handshake, you know, and being an informal event, I recommend, since you are in embarrassment and you have to break the ice, don't introduce yourself by saying I'm the lawyer, I'm the doctor, I'm blah blah blah, no, academic, noble titles, no, they don't work. The moment a conversation starts, don't go personal, don't talk about specific speeches regarding religion, politics, all a bit uncomfortable things and take as cues to use what surrounds you, for example there is someone who is drinking a cocktail, you can ask what cocktail it is, if it's good, or you can make a compliment regarding the location, the party, things that can be involving but not demanding. I didn't forget the fact that there are also children involved, indeed I come to the point which is the part of this video to which I perhaps care the most. The moment we behave as I have advised you, we teach our child to do the same, then here there would be, also in this case to make a specific, we adults have a character, a consolidated behavioral structure, the children, the teenagers are still in an evolving age, so for them the impulse wins much more than the reasoning and the balance, but there are examples that are those that we give them, that they can use to make friendships with their friends, because we are talking about a birthday party, but this happens in all occasions, in all circumstances, we with our children can waste huge amounts of words to teach them how to behave, but in the end what wins is our behavior, our example. It is no coincidence that the family that organized the party and invited these people was not able to put this family at ease, it is no coincidence that the children did the same thing with the child of these guests, the fruit never falls too far from the tree that generated it, that's why the example comes in handy, we give a good example to our children so that they do the same and that they do not feel embarrassed, because if it is bad for us that in any case we already have a certain awareness that in any case makes us maintain objectivity for the children it is a little worse perhaps. I personally have always tried to, how to say, show my son that there is nothing to be afraid of, just propose, I don't know, the situation could be this, there are children who play with a game, if the child has arrived who is not involved in the game, however, approaches, I know it takes courage, but if he approaches and says oh what a nice game, how does it work? Obviously he is breaking the ice, at that point it depends a lot on the education of the children in the group, if it is an open group it will be included in this group, if it is a closed group because they learned it from the parents there is little to do, you cannot change the behavior of others but you can adapt yours to the circumstances and that is why I always say, when you understand that you are not well accepted, so here it is no longer about rules and good manners, but about feeling, perception, you do not feel obliged to accept another invitation or to meet these people again, because in general we have the freedom of choice, so we meet the people we like, we meet the groups we are comfortable with, because no one forces us to do the opposite, our time is precious, our values ​​should not be put aside just because we have to accept the circumstances that arise in life, there is absolutely no harm in being selective, indeed then probably someone may also think that you are too sophisticated, but let the others think what they want, you are doing it for your own good, so do not let yourself be overcome by hesitation, calm down, look around and you will see that at least in that particular circumstance you will still be able to spend a pleasant time. As always I hope that this video has been useful to you, I thank the person who wrote this nice comment because it gave me a great inspiration to develop this video, if you also have any doubts, any curiosity, any questions, write to me in the comments, I always read them all, I look forward to seeing you in the next video, always in my company, here on the Cooquette style.