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If I were to get married again, I would tell that person that we should sleep in two different rooms. Hello everyone! As you can see, I'm wearing a red shirt today. As you know, I want to talk about the topic of love. Especially love in a couple, in a marriage. Ah, before I continue, I know what you are thinking. Are you thinking, this girl has failed twice in a marriage, so what does she know about love and marriage to come here and talk about it? Ladies and gentlemen, it's true that I have had two marriages and I admit that I have failed in marriage. But people say that failure is the mother of success. And I also assure myself that if I fail in marriage, statistics now show that 50% of married people will get divorced. It means that I am also on the side of 50% failure, not me. And the other 50% who continue to be together in marriage, I would like to ask you, are they really really happy? Or in that 50%, there are people who are divorced, there are people who do not want to change, there are people who have children, because they need to have each other, they need to go to work together to be together, to be able to live together. So even in the remaining 50%, we don't know if it's really happiness or because they have no other choice. Ladies and gentlemen, I have to say more. Of course, I am not a psychologist, I am not a doctor, I am not a professional. But there is one thing I realized that after I broke up twice, I went to school, I listened to a lot, I read books, I listened to the conversations of professionals. When I heard it, I realized that what I went through, those doctors interviewed, that is, how many thousands of people they pulled out, I see that the problems I face, many thousands of other couples also face the same. It's not just me going through those obstacles, and the things that make me sad, lead to arguments and jealousy, it all happens to a lot of couples. So today I just want to share with you what I have been through. And I hope that you can listen to my story and can draw out a few things or see a few things similar to my case that can help you. I hope so. Ladies and gentlemen, the first thing that made me talk about this issue is that I was lucky that I went through the marriage. But after that, I had the opportunity to make friends with my ex-husband. And after the two of us met again, we both felt that why is that person so cute now? Why is that person so well-behaved? So why did we live together at that time? Why couldn't we stay together? Why did we fight so much that we had to divorce? And now we meet again, is there anything different? Is there any change? So the two of us sat down and talked, and we got used to each other. I, myself, I can only draw out the main problems. Why do we still talk when we meet again? There are still a lot of love for each other. There are no arguments, no jealousy, no things that used to make me crazy about each other. It's nothing, ladies and gentlemen. Because now, we are not each other's. I don't have the right to own the other person. That's all I see. It's different. Money does not collide with each other. The door does not stay with each other. And it's true that I don't own the other person. It means that the other person is free to be that person. In the past, when we lived together, of course, it varied from small to big. Money, I want to use one thing, you want to use one thing. Where are you going now? Why haven't you come back yet? Why do you say this? Why do you dress like that? Why? Every little thing can make me angry. And now I've discovered why I'm angry. Because I think I have the right to be angry. Because I think the other person is mine. It must have a duty to bring me happiness. And I think maybe when we get married, we all think like that. But it's very difficult, ladies and gentlemen. And this is something I learned. I went to listen to Esther Perez. She is a very famous psychologist. She said that why in the past, our parents lived together all their lives. First of all, because in their mind, they were taught to live together all their lives. And besides, if you get divorced, you go to your neighbor's neighborhood, you will get depressed, you will say this and that, and it will make you feel very lost. I just talked to a friend, she is only 6 years older than me, which means this year she is only 60 years old. But she said that the first time she got divorced, her husband, she came home, her mother, she was in the North, her mother and the whole family did not want to talk about her parents, scolding her, as if it had humiliated the whole village, the whole neighborhood. In fact, there are many factors that make me unable to get divorced. And to be honest, during these months when I was at home, I had to cook 2 meals for 8 people in the family to eat, I realized that the function of my grandmother to go to the market, to cook, to wash dishes, it was over. Not to mention that the Vietnamese women in the past went to the market to wash dishes, to clean the house, to clean the house without washing machines, washing dishes by hand, my grandmother did that and I was out of work. And I didn't have the time or the right to ask for any happiness for myself. I turned off my face all day, I didn't have time to say why don't you bring me happiness, why don't you play with me, why don't you have romantic moments. It was totally not there so I didn't think about it. The second factor is that in a small village in the past, we all know each other, neighbors, neighbors below, we are sad, we can go out and talk to the neighbor next door. And besides that, in that society, we still have many things, for example, we go to church every Sunday, we go to the pagoda, we have many interactions with many people. And now, life now, my life, especially my life in the US, you know that we live in a closed house that sometimes I moved here for 5-6 years, I never met my neighbors. Closed again, we only know each other. So, my husband, my wife, I asked that person to do a lot of roles. All my friends, people I used to respect, in the past, a whole village, a whole neighborhood brought me those joys. Now, all those things I put in, there is only one person. And so, I asked too much from those people. So, no one, no one can give me all the roles and give me all the joys and happiness that I need. So, I think that the more couples, the more difficulties they face in marriage. Oh, and you know that in the months I closed the door at home, on the one hand, I thought that OK, now is the time when husband and child live together, have time together. But now, statistics show that the rate that people go out to meet lawyers, to file for divorce, it is too high at this time. It is because they may have difficulties in money. I am upset in my heart and I go out, I meet each other at night, I fight. It means that marriage now lasts long. If we can go out, go to work, and only go home to meet for a few hours, eat, drink, then go to bed at night, if two people only have to go to one place to have nothing else but to meet each other, it makes us crazy a lot. 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Oh, let's try this, I can't do this, let's try something else. If you see your love is cold, why don't you try to talk to each other and see how to make it warm so that you can be together, in happiness, so that you can be honest, so that you can feel that your love is growing, it is becoming more mature, it is changing. It's not that the love is standing still like that. While a person is determined to enjoy the experience of everything he has gone through, it has to change. So don't sit here and blame others. Oh, why 20 years ago, you were like that, I was like that. We will completely change. And if we still want the love to be better, it has to change. So that's what I realized for myself. Of course, once again, I say that I only bring out what I have gone through. But if you see something that makes sense, and you want to try it, then try it. And if you find it completely wrong, then that's just my personal opinion. So that's what I've realized lately, and I just want to share it with you. If you are one of the lucky ones, happy so far, then I wish you all the best. And finally, we humans deserve to find true happiness for ourselves. Because life is very short, and we go through this life, I just hope that I will bring a lot of happiness, a lot of memories with me when I leave. That's the only thing I can bring. I wish you all a lot of happiness and good luck in love.