Control emotions not behaviour

We often try to control others behaviour as a way of protecting our own fragile emotional state. Trying to control others behaviour so that they serve your emotional needs is a waste of time it’s exhausting and doomed to fail.
YOU CAN ONLY CONTROL YOU.... we are not responsible for your emotional climate you are.
You are thermostat not a thermometer.
Take charge of your own inner thermostatic settings, then other peoples behaviour will be irrelevant.