Dear Bonnie: I had the worst childhood that no one should ever go through. I want to come for a reading, but I am so afraid this anger would block any of the goodness that could come from connecting with the spirit world. Any advice?
— Thanks Jake
Dear Jake, I have given a lot of readings where a child is angry at a parent. It’s a tough one because they are not physically here to talk things over.
Children can be holding onto the thought “I wish I could do it all over again — I would speak up this time or take a stand about something I didn’t believe in.”
They have a regret: “I should have, could have, done something different or spoken up about the injustice that was placed with me.”
They feel they could have been stronger and spoken their truth when they had the chance. It’s OK to feel this way, but it’s good to try to let go of these pent-up feelings. Some children can be resentful for having lived through the divorce of their parents, while others feel abandoned by a mother or father who had left them, either mentally or physically. The reasons can go on and on.
It’s OK to know that your feelings are your feelings and you have every right to them.
What you do need to know is that if you suppress those feelings deep inside of you where you cannot see them on occasion, they will pop back out at you. It’s like looking at the face of a clock. If there’s a problem at 2 o’clock and it doesn’t get fixed the hand will keep going around and around again, but it always will end up back at 2. If the problem doesn’t find a way to resolve itself and you haven’t fixed it, then it will be hanging around until the next time. In other words, we need to come to peace with troubles or resentment, or they are going to stick around.
Now that we know our feelings are not going to be dismissed, we need to fix them so that we can flush them out of our systems. How do we do that when the person we are mad at is no longer here?
One way is to have a conversation with the person in heaven that you have a grievance with. You say, “well that’s not so easy,” but isn’t it? Our loved ones are always with us whether we are mad at them or not. They know your thoughts! Go to a medium that you trust to have that conversation with you.
From spirit, through spirit, to spirit
Most mediums are here to serve the spirit world as well as their clients so they often listen to both sides with an open heart and mind and usually can give you honest answers that can bring peace and forgiveness for both sides. Try to forgive them as it helps not only them but you also.
Please remember, after they passed, they had a life review to see where they could have done better with you, so go easy on them because they have regrets also. In heaven, only love shines through for us.
Take control of your life now that he/she no longer has any influence on you and live life to its fullest. Your life now is yours to do with exactly as you would like. Let go of the past. Now is your time and forgiveness is something that you give to yourself.
Please remember we all signed up for life lessons and sometimes those lessons came from our parents that we chose for us before we came down from heaven. Lessons are hard but without them them our soul would not have the chance to grow and expand. Life is our school room, heaven is our home.
Bonnie Page is a full-time psychic medium, spiritual counselor and teacher as well as a Reiki Master. Find out more about Bonnie by visiting her website www.bonniepagemedium.com. If you have a question for bonnie, send it to [email protected].
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