DEAR BONNIE: I know it’s the holidays, but I am not looking forward to seeing some of my relatives. My energy and some of theirs no longer align. It’s as if some of us have grown spiritually, while others have not. What can I do to keep the peace, but at the same time respect my feelings? Thanks Michael
DEAR MICHAEL: The holidays can be an especially tough time for almost every family, and sometimes, when there are some very opinionated voices in the mix, it can be difficult to keep the peace. I believe we all have the right to our own beliefs, and it would be nice for family members who are getting together for a celebration to honor those around them.
Families can be the hardest to get along with because we are here to learn valuable lessons from each other. Keeping the peace with our family members during holiday gatherings can be full of anxiety and stress, and to many, the sadness of lost loved ones who will not be joining us around the table or at the gathering can be as painful as the day we lost them.
Try to imagine how they are feeling and find only compassion for those who find it difficult to keep things peaceful. Our lives are made up of memories, and when we are missing someone, special emotions can stir, and it’s not really about who is gathered, but who is not in the room.
We can feel angry that we no longer have that special person with us. We don’t know what is going on inside someone’s heart or mind that could be making them behave badly. We need to pull out all our compassion and wisdom to know when to speak and when to hold our tongues.
Try to be as understanding as you can without giving away your own contentment. We need to take care of ourselves first. Keep those who are pulling you into their drama at a distance and send them light and love.
Just remember the Golden Rule: Treat others as we would like to be treated. Look to your heart to find the kindness and compassion for those who do not understand or are missing the tools in their toolbox to recognize pure love without putting restrictions on others. Stay away from the naysayers trying to bring others down so that they may feel better about themselves. Forgive them, Lord, for they know not what they do.
Honestly, it happens in almost every family I know where someone is just not happy with themselves and they want attention so they turn up the drama. No one is all good or all bad so try to find the good in them even for the day.
God knows who says what and there is no need to try and defend yourself around someone who just doesn’t get it. Do your best to be the best version of yourself and hold your head up high. Your loved ones in Heaven are looking out for you so hold that thought in your heart. Say a prayer when you walk into the room that peace will reside within everyone’s heart.
Bonnie Page is a psychic medium. spiritual teacher and counselor. For more information about Bonnie, please visit her website http://www.bonniepagemedium.com. If you would like to send Bonnie a question for her column, please send it to [email protected]
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