THE WEDDING NIGHT, MOVING TO HAWAII, AND ARGUMENTS | Luckett Wedding Q &A

Feelings and thoughts post wedding night. Oh, we're getting into this already. Are they talking about what I think? Can I just say something? Yeah, let me get in the nitty gritty of what we did it that night. Yeah, I know Hello everybody, it's abby and ryan and we are officially And we are officially the luckiest we got married on may 25th. There's a lot to catch you guys up on This is take one of the intro, but this is not take one of the intro We have a lot of takes of the intro. Hey guys, welcome to wait. How do I want to intro this? What should I say? Are you gonna say it? I'm waiting for you to stop drinking. Why can't I drink? Yes. I'm waiting for you to stop. Why does it matter? everybody welcome back Are officially the luckiest We're married. You have to say it with me. We're married. We are the luckiest We are Ryan we are the luckiest anyways We put up a question box. All right, you want to start over? We out here at the beach and I took me a little bit to get going. We're in hawaii right now We're on our honeymoon for five weeks If you're new here, or if you just recently joined we're gonna give you guys the spark notes on how we met Basically our timeline of things and then we're gonna get into a little life update q a ryan And I met about two years ago. It'll be one year in 10 months on the 25th of this month Actually, wow, we actually got married on our one year in nine months. So we started dating officially august 25th of 2023 He proposed on september 23rd 2024 We had been dating over a little over a year. We started posting online end of april 2024 and now we're here and we just recently got married. So it's been wonderful There's a whole lot of details in between that but now, you know every single thing about us But we're gonna answer some questions for you guys about marriage We're gonna clear up everything and then also get into some fun ones question. Number one What is the most unexpected thing you've been surprised about since getting married? I mean, it's been like three weeks So it's really hard to answer some of these questions. Well, there's definitely though a shift bus now in marriage than in engagement I mean, we know a lot more about each other. Oh, I know so we sleep together now and abby gets We sleep together Yeah We sleep together now and abby gets up to pee probably this isn't even exaggeration like 10 times Yeah, I get it to be a lot like a lot. It's absurd Yeah, what do both of y'all do for work that you were able to move to hawaii for five weeks? I've been out of college since 2022 I worked full-time in sales in nashville, tennessee for over a year And then when I moved back to kentucky, I got a new position So I work in technology sales now and I work fully remote and I have since november of 2023 So we're in hawaii, but my time zone is still mountain time zone. So it's still really early get up for me I'm getting up during abby hours is what I call it 4 a.m I'm a wannabe full-time content creator though. We're trying to get him there and I am a full-time content creator. So Yeah, I just get up at 4 a.m Because i'm psycho next feelings and thoughts post wedding night So for those of you that don't know ryan and I did wait till marriage I will just say like I didn't save myself for marriage I became a believer late in college and did all the things I wish I would have saved myself But I didn't I have never ever been intimate before or seen anything done anything So I really had a lot of anticipation going into this night We're not going to get like super into the details of wedding night We just kind of want to keep that private abby and I have really intentional and deep conversations We had expressed to each other like worries Awkwardness all the things going in and had a team of people praying for us going into it And i'll just say that we thought it might be weird. We thought it might be awkward We thought it might be like really really hard for us But in all honesty, like the night was amazing. It went better than I could have ever imagined it I was gonna say like when we say it was amazing It was amazing for us like it was amazing because it was so us. It wasn't this movie emotion Like it was very matter of fact and normal. It almost felt normal We kept being like why does this feel normal? Like why is all this feeling so normal and I told ryan it kind of reminds me of when adam and eve were first created And they you know before they sinned like they walked around naked didn't think anything of it Like it was just their normal. That's how it felt for ryan and I it just felt very normal which is so weird because we've never seen each other in a state like that before or Been on that emotional level before that's why it was amazing because it just felt so right I'm, not gonna lie to you and be like, oh, yeah, like I went with the flow and like no What would you tell your engaged self boy? I went through the struggle bus during engagement season I talked a lot about this in my last video But engagement season for me triggered a lot of my past evie thoughts and body image issues I went through the ringer during engagement season towards the last like month-ish And if I could tell that girl what I know now, I would say it literally doesn't matter it's so weird because You know when you film your whole life You're always looking at yourself and there were weeks where I would look at myself in videos and really not like my body at all And take it apart and now I go back and I look at those videos and i'm like, oh my gosh Like why was I picking myself apart? I look fine. I look beautiful Why am I doing this? But when we're in that moment and we're in that mental state the body dysmorphia is out the wazoo Especially when you have this pressure of oh, I need to look pretty on my wedding day So I would just tell that girl what you're telling yourself is what you're going to believe Give it to god and he will align your heart with the beauty of how he has wired you and made you and start praying For him to reprioritize your thoughts because my priorities were all wrong And now my priorities are marriage and life and experiences. I don't even think about my body And I mean, of course I have thoughts here and there but it wasn't nearly as bad as what it was Yeah, every time you see that picture that you didn't think you look good in you're gonna look different Every time you'll look back at it again I think I would say pray to god to align your heart with what really matters You can get so caught up in things that you're not even gonna remember During the wedding or during the ceremony or during the weekend but i'll just say the things that I remember from the wedding weekend that I just want to hold fast to is like the time I got to spend with my family Going out to dinner with like our friends and stuff that weekend I would tell my engaged self be in prayer and ask god to align your heart with things that he cares about And his desires you can really get caught up in little things that do not matter at all I would also say to any engaged couple This is kind of veering off from the question There are going to be things in engagement season that the enemy is going to try to use to Bring up to bring you guys apart Like there were little things or little thoughts that I hadn't thought in years about ryan about myself Held so much weight and brought so much conflict into my heart and confusion into my heart that affected our relationship And the moment that we got married not that it just all disappeared or anything But there was just an added level of attack. I felt in engagement that I don't feel anymore one thing too abby and I really tried to rush like we wanted to rush to get to the wedding so bad and We were like we should have just eloped like we we said that a couple times while we were engaged She wouldn't have done a single thing differently because of like how special it was It was the best weekend being with our family. It was awesome. It was perfect I would encourage engaged couples to consider a small intimate wedding. Yeah, because it was perfect We got to see everybody talk to everybody. We just filming your life ever get exhausting slash want privacy It used to for me because I never let myself have a break I felt like I had to constantly work and work and work and edit and edit and edit in order to Have this be a valid job and have it be like a valid thing that I do Because it is such a wonderful job. I get to record my life and post it and that's my job and i'm so blessed And so thankful but I felt so guilty if I wasn't constantly working that like I didn't deserve it and I don't think that's true So ryan has really helped me establish boundaries I kind of operate on a nine to five now with flexible hours here and there sometimes i'll stop sometimes i'll start because that is One of the bonuses that comes with the job, so it's not exhausting anymore And honestly, it feels like a video diary at this point. I love videoing things. I love sharing things. I love documenting my life I love creating the narrative for myself I've always been infatuated with reality tv shows vlog channels and people videoing their lives and putting it out I just find that stuff so interesting now I will say it is one of my dreams in life to be on a reality tv show or on a game show or some Sort of show i'm an open book and sometimes a chronic oversharer. So privacy wise I would literally share everything But I need to take into account the other people in my life who may not want all of their stuff shared There is a huge balance element to it for our point of view We don't film nearly as much as you guys probably think we do I wouldn't get in front of a screen all the time. Like this would just be only abby's channel I truly enjoy this and both of us truly enjoy it So it doesn't ever feel like we're over sharing or we're not having enough privacy because the things that we want to keep private We keep private things that we want to share and like be real with y'all We we do the good bad and uglies, you know every now and then you're like, ah Maybe we shouldn't have shared that or something like that But other than that like we love filming and doing this so we do it and it's like it's the cool part It's like not for everybody but the people that like to do it can do it. I think humanity is so cool I think mistakes are so cool I think learning is really cool And I think being able to document that and to follow along and share that Storyline and timeline with someone is so cool. So for me, that's what keeps me motivated I don't really get exhausted at least right now Now I will say we're only about a year and a couple months in so yeah Our answers might be a little bit different later. But for right now i'm enjoying where we're at Yeah, it says any honeymoon arguments we didn't have any really not on our honeymoon if you consider where we're at right now We're at right now. So part of our honeymoon Yeah, we had a fight about oh the wedding video literally the wedding video and I will say that it's not a coincidence Because it is just like the enemy to try to try Try to bring up conflict for something so beautiful I wouldn't even say it was really a fight We just agreed for a few minutes then we came back together and it was fine The only thing ryan and I argue about is social media because he has his version of how he thinks it's gonna go And I have my version of how I think it's gonna go So when we put it together, it's different than like co-worker kind of dynamic because we're married Yeah, it's just a really important to separate it clearly communicate what we're talking about in that moment And I think it just holds more weight and hits a little bit more Emotionally because the brand is our lifestyle and it was the wedding video and it was our wedding video So there's just a lot that this is a good question Oh, we're moving on did y'all date before abby and ryan if so, what did you learn slash change we did yeah, we did we did Seal is out. The seal is out. Oh the seal is we're gonna have to go see our seal That could be the end of this video, but we did start dating before we started posting eight ish months in Yeah, but we didn't really think anything of it. Now. It is what it is today It's fun to look back on too. Now. It's like watching like old family videos. Yeah, it's so cool It's like a little video diary and our kids will be able to go back and watch that I'm gonna go back and watch it constantly I am the kid that is gonna go back and watch it something that i've learned though Is that we have to assess boundaries when we're in relationship mode and when we're in work mode if you're so passionate about it Get more excited. So you want to talk about it, but we were never finding time to just be actual abby and ryan We are not that important Like the reason we do this is to give glory to god and to like make jesus known in a way when you actually sit Back and think this isn't even about us. Anyway, like we're just having fun making videos. I had a friend I was telling her that I was overwhelmed with the amount of work that I Wanted to get done and she was like if documenting your life takes away from the joy of actually living life What's the point that really put things into perspective with me? Like ryan said at the end of the day, it's to further the lord's kingdom So it takes a lot of pressure off of you whenever you have that perspective. Yeah favorite thing about mayor ryan Abby my favorite thing about marriage other than being one with the lord I feel like that's like first and foremost like we are a unit now, which I just think is so cool Unit, we are we are literally one. It is so cool. Like this bicep is abby's bicep Yeah, all right. We're gonna cut that out. Don't leave that in i'm leaving it in my favorite thing about marriage having a built-in best friend I know that's so cheesy, but it's actually so true We just get to spend a lot of time together right now because it's just us on an island But it's so fun like I know i'm always gonna be able to do things with someone we go out places together We do things together like he's always there. It's like a constant sleepover every single night I feel like that's the common answer but it becomes so real when it's you I just say like abby is home It's very cliche abby is my person There's a level of like safety and comfort knowing that like you have somebody for the rest of your life And it doesn't have to be this big thing Yeah, we're in hawaii and it's amazing right now But like even like the little the littlest things little walks or whatever or just like watching tv on the couch It's it's like a very safe feeling knowing that you have somebody to do life with I also think it's really cool that we legitimately get to choose life goals together Like we are actually now talking about the life we want to build there's actual reality to what are our kids names gonna be god Clearly articulates like you leave father and mother to go create your own family Like abby and I left father and mother to hold fast to one another and became one And it's like something so cool about that that we get to just create our own life It's also so nice that I never have to date anyone ever again Yeah What are your plans as far as having children in the future? We're gonna wait unless god doesn't want us to wait. We're excited about kids. We're talking about kids names We definitely want to have kids We have some desires that we would like to accomplish first But I think we're both open and just life to live first and not even like to live Yeah, but I did ask ryan. I was like if we had an uh-oh I got pregnant What would your reaction be and he was like i'd be excited and I was like well me too So we're still in that place. Like if god provides we'll be excited, but we are not trying. We're not trying What's the coolest animal you've seen? That's a great question Sorry, go ahead. You can say it. What's the coolest animal you've seen in hawaii? Abby has a new favorite animal that's overtaken the giraffe. I do a giraffe used to be my favorite animal But now because of this trip, it is a sea turtle. I'm like obsessed with these sea turtles. We see them We've named them. They're our friends. I love them. They're so cute. And every time they come above the water, they're like It's like a little smile. It's so cute. It's the most precious thing i've ever seen in my entire life We've seen marlin jumping. We've seen dolphins seals otters Wait, we haven't seen otters. Abby's just out here. I'm not excited. What's the coolest one you've seen? Oh, definitely the seal seals are really cool. They're so cute. They lay and then they in the yawn when they itch You think ryan will be on team live in hawaii? I hate to say this, but it kind of flipped What abby has been getting a little homesick not to say she like doesn't like hawaii I think she's realizing how much she like loves community like our friends. We have great friends in kentucky Obviously our family's there too, which is really important I don't think I could live on the north shore, but I could 100% live in waikiki I couldn't live on the north shore, but I could live in waikiki as well. I need friends I think that's what it is and you know, like I think that's kind of unpopular Yeah, I think people would rather live on the north shore. We just like the city I think ryan and I are realizing we like a little more hustle and bustle and it's really chill here in the north shore Which is great for the time that we're here but if we're looking to live we would live in waikiki which I would but I would need to like find friends and find Friends fast because i'm getting so She doesn't like hanging out with me anymore already. No, I love being with ryan. We're basing it strictly on environment I could live here I just would need to get rooted in a church and start making friends and then i'd be set How do y'all communicate your feelings when you're annoyed with one another this one is evolving? It depends on the kind of couple that you are haven't mastered it. Nobody will ever master it But we have grown a ton when i'm annoyed with ryan I just tell him and then we just talk through it. It matters how you deliver it We proceed slowly because if you speak too fast You may say something in the heat of the moment that you might not actually need abby has is the first girl that has ever Shown me through grace whenever I shut down or like just don't want to share how I feel Or like when i'm mad and i'm like I don't want to talk about it She's like the first person or the first girl that has to be willing to like sit there with me and be like well Like I want to hear how you feel and it's gonna be good for you to share that So will you share that with me? We both just remember that even though we may get frustrated with each other the love outweighs that and so it's worth Figuring out even if we are annoyed with each other when you already think it's you versus them You've already lost the battle. You're on the same team the same team That was a really bad high five. If y'all were starbucks drinks, what would you be? First off you Would be a dirty chai latte a chai latte is spibey aesthetic like it's fun. It's sweet But if you make it dirty like it's got a little bit of like a kick to it And you have a little bit of a kick too. Yeah You would be that medium almond milk latte you ordered today, but with four shots of espresso I would have like eight shots of espresso at the end of the day God is good and you're on the same team and you're also just figuring it out I mean we've literally been married for like two-ish weeks now Yeah, I was gonna say some of the questions that we answered probably will change in the next two months Like it'll probably change all the time Abby and I are gonna go take a little walk see on the beach and if you stay tuned till the end of the video You're gonna see seal still over there. Let's go. So you'll see the seal. Let's go Thank you all for watching and we love you. Jesus loves you as well. And that's and that's now time to go see the seal Yeah, come see this