ANSWERING YOUR ASSUMPTIONS ABOUT US...

Hello you guys! Welcome back to another video. Today we are having kind of a spicy long overdue video. We are going to be answering your guys's and just social media's assumptions about us as people, as Christians, as parents, as a young married couple. We got married at 19 and 22, we have been married for two years, we have a baby already, and as you can imagine there are a lot of assumptions people make about us and we usually aren't able to address each and every comment so we thought we'd make a video kind of addressing some of the assumptions that people have about us. I haven't even seen any of these yet so I'm kind of interested to see what people think of us. It's really interesting because I don't know it gives like people form an opinion of you and don't even know you really on a super deep level and so I'm really interested to see like what people said and what just random assumptions they have about us and to like clear the air on whatever they assume. Yeah so you guys are gonna get an inside scoop into some things we've never talked about before and so let's start off with assumption number one. It says y'all didn't really plan on being social media influencers. I would say that's a correct assumption. Yeah you'd be accurate. I think it was something that God just kind of made possible like I it's so interesting I think Julia kind of has a similar story but like in 2019 I just posted because I love making videos and I just love creating and I never thought it would ever become a ministry like it is and it's been so cool to see just so many people be impacted by just content whether it's funny or whether it's uplifting or whether it's a video like sitting down sharing what we're reading in the bible. I just think it's been really cool that God has used it for so much more than we could have ever imagined so pretty cool. Yeah another assumption that you guys had was you guys are trying to make your YouTube videos and Instagram all about your baby. So I would say no right off the bat. I would say our YouTube right when we had our baby like right when we had Judah we were so excited to share with everybody that he was entering into the world and share just like what a beautiful part of life he is with us and then also take people along the journey of like what it looks like to be parents who are taking care of a newborn and allow people to have insight in that whether they don't have a child or to help feel help other parents feel seen in what they're going through having a newborn and having a child. I think actually we've done a very good job of not making everything that we post about him although he is a very very big part of our life. If we wanted you know if we could we would post about him all the time just because he's our greatest pride and joy but we do think there's a responsibility that comes you know with you know being on the internet and not putting everything out there for everybody to see and so I think we've done a pretty good job. Yeah and that that there was another assumption that someone had said that you guys are bad parents for posting Judah and I think this is something that we've wrestled with because I do think there are a lot of people who may view us or anybody who posts their children as bad parents but this is where we are at and we can only answer for ourselves like we want our content to be as organic as possible and we do choose to share our baby. That may change down the road I have no idea but right now we share little glimpses we definitely don't share everything and we're comfortable with what we're doing right now and we want to always honor and respect Judah and we have a lot of boundaries in place when it comes to that when we do post him that's obviously something that in our culture and society right now is like an ever-changing ever evolving question. Well and I think too like when you look at it and you know oh you guys are bad parents for posting your child this is the way I kind of look at it is if everything we did ended up being about like you know just centered towards him and on him I think there's you know a line you have to walk but like I think personally like this is what's happening in our everyday life right we're taking care of Judah we're spending time with him so I think bringing you guys along our journey right Julia and I's journey with a newborn while featuring him just a little bit and not in the majority of the videos also gives you a realistic life a look into life of like what it's like I said what it's like being a parent and having a newborn four month old five month old that sort of thing I think there's definitely a balance for us that we feel really heavily about where it's like we're not gonna make everything about him we're gonna make it all about us and what we're learning with him being new parents that sort of thing and so we really do make a good effort to you know not have it all be about the baby and about Judah but also you know be able to share like where he's at and what he's learning and what he's doing and being able to allow people to kind of you know be able to meet our family through the screen in the most responsible best way we can possible and I feel like we've done a really good job yeah for sure it's definitely something we take seriously something we talk about all the time how we can best protect him and things like that and we've taken you know measures to do so and so we're sharing what we feel comfortable right now and yeah not everybody's gonna agree with that obviously but yeah and some people will be like no you should never post your child online and that's okay till that which is you know hey that is totally totally okay yeah so you know yeah everybody every family is different so that's where we are at and um honestly there have there were a lot of contrary assumptions people sharing super nice things about our family one person said that you guys are amazing parents who know what's best for their family god bless you oh which I thought was really sweet and I think that this is the perfect time to share with you guys about the sponsor of today's video Bobby so as you guys know and I've shared before I absolutely love Bobby I actually found them before I even got pregnant I was researching which formula would be the best option for our baby if we needed to give him formula and I decided that the best formula for him would be Bobby Bobby is the only mom-founded and mom-led formula company and it is made right here in the which was so important for me when picking out which formula would be best for him because I wanted to know where it was being made and what ingredients it was being made out of obviously when it comes to feeding your newborn you never truly know how things are gonna go and when we were in the hospital with Judah 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assumption but now that he's four or five months we've been hanging out friends a lot more yeah we still talk to our friends on the phone and stuff but yeah we were pretty sheltered in the very beginning with like his immune system and things like that especially because he was born like in the winter time but yeah no I think obviously your priorities change when you become a parent like you have a child to take care of and so you have a lot less time and you got to choose that time wisely and like maybe time that you would spend with friends is now time you're spending with your kid but obviously our friends are still very important and moving on to the next assumption about us it is that hate comments actually do get us down this one's a little bit of a hard one because I think at the beginning of doing social media I took a lot of what people said to heart I remember back in like 2020 like and you always get hate comments nowadays we really just don't even see them or give them the time of day but I remember the first time I got a hate comment I got like really in my head about like oh you know am I am I supposed to be doing this am I doing this right and too like when I whenever I get a hate comment I used to feel like I was doing something wrong and so I think like personally early early on I did get hate comments and it kind of got to me but now especially with what we do is you know posting Christian content like remember what the Bible says which is that if the world hates you remember it hated me first and so that's just Jesus basically saying like if you're persecuted or hated for sharing your faith remember that the world hated him first initially and so I think that's the biggest thing that helps me when it comes to hate comments and bad comments or you know assumptions that are completely inaccurate and not true it's just knowing like there are going to be people who are going to hate for no reason and just knowing that most of the times too it's not even a personal feeling towards somebody or something it's just like the way that they feel and the way that they act they just those things come out of people's mouths and knowing too that it's you know not like we don't fight against flesh and blood but it's the powers and principalities and darkness of the world yeah and honestly it's not even coming out of those people's mouths like I bet you like most of the people commenting things like that would never actually say it to our face like a lot of the times the comments are just you know people in their bedrooms scrolling on video and just saying something and usually it's not even directly at us well yeah most of the time I don't even say it's directed at us like it's it's like an anger towards God yeah and so the people who follow God like people are just naturally angry at yeah which is like it's sad and it's hard to like think about and you know when you see these people who are upset at the Lord it's it's sad to know that you know they would want to make that so clear I think and just because I know that there's so much redemption in following Jesus and there's so much peace in following Jesus and so I think that's the thing that continues to keep us going though is even like if we are reaching those people like their life could be transformed as well and so I think that's something that really keeps us going amidst the hate comments that we get which isn't a ton well but well sorry the ones that we notice like it's yeah it's it's not a ton that we actually notice and sit on and dwell on yeah we just can't look at our yeah I'm sure there's more than than we know but yeah that's yeah that's how I'd answer that yeah we try not to let it get us down and ultimately just pray for those people because they really need Jesus moving on to the next assumption which is so funny I think people ask us all the time it's that we don't have real jobs I mean I can answer this one okay we don't have structural nine to five where we leave our house and we go to work every day and I think this is becoming a lot currently we don't currently we used to um yes this is becoming a lot more common and understandable I feel like back when we first started people were like what do you mean you make content like what do you mean you use social media like that wasn't really a thing but now like YouTube, Instagram, TikTok, things like that like I feel like it's becoming a little bit more normalized for it to be a job it may not be considered a normal job but we do not have like actual nine to fives outside of this if that I think that's what most people want yeah like we don't we don't we don't have a nine to five job that we go to but like for example like this is kind of the way I'll put it is we're always working for someone doing something so like in 2020 like I was working and doing social media but I was you know going and doing massage therapy and Julia was working at Plato's Closet and then we went and worked at a ministry like 12 hours nine to 12 hours a day and then after that we I went to Austin Texas and I worked a job five days a week and we still did social media during all of that and to this day too we even still do some work with other companies doing stuff for them even to this day like social media like yes we do it full-time we make a bunch of content but even to this day social media like isn't our if you guys want to call it a job it's not our only job like there's still so many other things behind the scenes that you guys don't see that we do to work and earn an income and a living and so you know there's a lot of other people who do social media as a full-time job full-time income which is great but there's also like so many other things that we do which I just think is personal like I don't have to put those things out there like the different things that we do but we feel called to share Jesus online and we're so grateful that we have the ability to do that and that you guys truly feel like you're growing closer to the Lord through the videos that we post and through what we feel like God's calling us to put out each and every single day so that's how I would answer that question yeah so hopefully that answers your question I think a lot of people have wanted to know that and ask so there you go I feel like we've never actually talked about that before well it's it's not it's not it's not super common for people to hear about like oh you do social media like what does that mean what is you know what is that and two I don't even see it as doing social media either I see it as like a ministry like we are able to minister to people every single day and I think it's a beautiful thing that God has opened the doors to do that yeah so it's such a blessing and we absolutely love it and then also for me like I'm a mom and I do all the mom things and things like that too well into I'm not you know like Julia said too she does music I mean there's just so many other things that are you know deeper and deeper than you know which you know what's your occupation like we just I don't really know we do so many different things for so many different people and we love what we do and I think that's the best way to put it and and at the end of the day everything that we do is for the Lord and so I think that it's a really cool place to be able to operate in when you're able to do what you enjoy doing and do it for a purpose that's bigger right so all right y'all and the final assumption about us is that we are disappointed that we cannot have kids closer together initially yeah I think so like yeah initially I think I was sad that we have to wait longer than what we wanted to wait because we've always wanted kids like closer in age so Julia didn't have any siblings I have a brother and a sister and we're all like two years apart like not even two years like even closer and I think having that such a close age gap was really really fun just because it made us all so much closer it felt like we're kind of going through similar seasons of life at similar times yeah so I think yeah like having to wait like at least two years was kind of like sad for me I guess a little bit but again it's more for Julia's safety and the baby's safety and so when it comes to that it's like you know I'm okay with that I'm at peace with that it's no longer about what I want but about what's best so and another assumption just kind of like piggybacking off of that was somebody said that I am worried like afraid to give birth again and I kind of I go back and forth like I actually had like a bad dream about it last night and like I do like it was very traumatizing what I went through but because I know how much I love Judah like I would do it again and again and I know that I'm gonna love our future kids just as much as I love him and so yes it's gonna probably be a little bit scary for me to like hop on that table and let them cut me open because you know that's I don't really have an option I know people have their opinion but like I'm not really probably a candidate for a VBAC and that's okay but yeah it's gonna be scary but I'm not allowing that to stop me from having more kids because you know I want more kids obviously so we'll keep you guys in the loop it's not gonna be for a little while um yeah people keep asking they're like are you pregnant I'm like no I have a five month old baby like I hope I'm not pregnant because that would be crazy but yeah we're excited to grow our family one day and that's gonna be such a blessing so anyways those are just a few of the assumptions that people have had about us um we know that you guys love us and we are most I was gonna say most of the assumptions that you guys left us like 90% were like I have no assumptions we love you guys like and that was so comforting and like cool to see too like it makes us very happy to see that we're serving you guys and coming to you guys in a way that you guys you know there's not like you just speak highly of us and I just I really appreciate that because I feel like I've dwelled on the negative for so long in the past it's really really cool to see people just like appreciate and don't get us wrong like we do have our flaws we're not perfect people but it's cool to see like people having assumptions about us that I feel like actually align where it's like it's encouraging yeah it's very encouraging and to see some of the nice comments they weren't even nice I mean some were nice assumptions but some were just nice comments like I assume you're a great Christian family who loves your children it's like yes like that is what we strive for each and every single day and so it was comforting and amazing to see you guys always just being so kind and supportive and that so anyways we love you guys so much we're so thankful for all your love and support do not forget to go check out Bobby in the description below and we will see you guys in the next one love y'all bye