An 85 Year Old Woman Shares Her Best Life Advice

Everybody thinks when they're young you get a second chance, but there is no second chances. Nothing is long-term with the younger people. They kind of take life like like it's it's easy. Nothing comes easy. If it's not today, it'll be tomorrow. Yeah, I find young people live in the moment. Yeah, a lot of them live in the moment. I don't live in the moment anymore. You want that life? You want that kind of money? You're in charge. Go get it. So we posted this video a few weeks ago And so many of the comments talk about this 85 year old woman with her very cute dog the advice that she left Honestly blew my mind and we only released just a piece of that conversation So today I want to share with you the full-length Conversation with this 85 year old woman asking her about her biggest Regrets in life and her best advice for someone of your age. How old are you, 85? What does it feel like to be 85? Scary? scary scary to be 85 to know that you don't have that many more years in front of you so you've got to make the best of it you want to do more now than than before because before you had all the time in the world and now you don't what's more important now then now that you're you say this whole scary 85 by the way you look great wouldn't have guessed 85 thank you uh what's more important family relationships which you could take for granted before but now you don't take it for granted because you've been you've seen so much and you know so much and you hear so much and so you don't take it for granted relationships family everybody thinks when they're young you get a second chance but there's no second chances is there something that happened in your life that makes you say this and realize this like a a big event there have been a few but um you can't dwell on that because if you dwell on that it sets you back right and you have to move on things happen when you're young you don't think anything's gonna happen life happens yeah and that's why you have to take it seriously life really happens yeah and eventually I think everybody gets to that point it's just not me everybody else gets to that point some people get to it much earlier yeah but I was kind of a late bloomer I didn't get to it when my in my 60s or 70s I didn't get it do you have an example if you don't mind sharing one of those events you're talking about yeah a few but i'd rather not talk about them that's fine but then you have to move on if not you get stuck definitely yeah you get totally stuck if you sit back and now that i'm older i can take my time with everything what do you think young people in general might be taking for granted might not be realizing is is as important as it really is and just thinking that you have tomorrow you know just it doesn't matter what you do today it's just it's nothing is long-term with the younger people. Young people put off things. They take it for granted. They kind of take life like it's easy. So if it's not today, it'll be tomorrow. Yeah. And maybe it's good. Maybe it's good. They just, you know, take life easy. And I take it a little more seriously because of the time factor. And I know that you don't have all the time. I find young people live in the moment. Yeah. A lot of them live in the moment. I don't live in the moment anymore. When did that change? I don't know. I don't know when it changed. I think it just comes with age. I think it just comes with age and experience. And I'm a very easygoing person. I don't follow the trends. I don't have to do this at this age and that at that age. I just, I do stuff. And a lot of times I have to do it alone because my friends don't want to do that stuff anymore. Like I walk long distances and I'm very physical and I like to do physical things. and a lot of friends they're not they're not they just they're not up to it or it's not important to them i like being outdoors god i have a dog he's only jackson is five years old yeah so you really young right yeah i've always had dogs do you think that having these dogs have kept you more active more mobile absolutely absolutely because when i get up in the morning there's another heartbeat in my house absolutely my husband recently passed away so i'm on my own gee I have to take him out I have to go for a walk and I might as well go for a walk yeah absolutely because when you get older you don't yeah like my friends don't do the stuff I do and it's okay how long were you together with your husband for oh my god he would have been married uh 60 odd years well I got married when I was 20 20 20 oh my god 20 years old yeah yeah He passed away five years ago, just when we got him. Do you recommend that? Is it times are different? Well, I see my grandkids, and they're in their 30s, and nobody's getting married yet. Marriage, I don't know. It's not for everybody. Today, you don't have to get married. If you still have kids and you don't have to get married, it's different. And it's fine. There's nothing wrong with it. You were married for 60 years. Yeah. What would be your advice for finding that? like what does that person look like or what do they have maybe you could talk about your late husband of what he had that I don't know we just um we were very different we just clicked if I said it was rainy out he wouldn't turn to me and say well I think it's more like snow it's not rain we were always on the same page yeah you know if I said tonight um let's go for dinner do you feel like Chinese food yeah sure Chinese food's fine it's not like no I don't want I want it's like, I don't know. We just finished each other's sentences. We were on the same page all the time. It was never, yeah, we were always on the same page. We liked the same thing. We loved to travel. Yeah. We loved going for dinners. We loved being with our kids. Nobody, we were just like on the same page all the time. Can you define the word love for me? When people say they're madly in love. I just met somebody and I'm so madly in love. You see it all over the place. I'm madly in love. Madly in love. And then of course later on you see it. I watch too much Instagram. Right. Yeah. We all do. I don't know. We just he was a very good boy. And he was very calm. We were just easy. You know. And the kids picked up on it. So I'm hoping my kids have the same kind of relationship yeah so they remember that yeah if you could give one piece of advice to your 25 year old self what comes to mind what would you say to her i would never say don't take life seriously take it seriously but you work through it and you have to work through everything everything nothing comes easy and don't listen to what other people are doing and saying and what their life is like and don't wish you had that or you were like that or you had a relationship like this, you wish you had more money or you wish you had a better job or you wish my life circumstances were different because you're in charge. Don't look back because you're in charge. You want that life? You want that kind of money? You want that kind of car? Well, go get it. Yeah, that's what you have to do. You can't worry about what other people have, what other people say, what other people think. Just be your best self. Be your best self. Be a good person. 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