You don’t have to sit at tables that broke you.

Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, Wednesday, Wednesday, welcome in, welcome in, welcome in, welcome in, what's up, beautiful people, y'all bear with me one second here, what's up, what's up, family, when they win, welcome in, hey, hey, members, subscribers, what's up, y'all, I see y'all in the chat, how are you doing, beautiful people, i see your comment hey dominic morris 2600 viewers watching 57 12 happy thanksgiving family kiwi embryos haha i forgot it was winning wednesday that's because every day is a win that's why you almost forgot because it shouldn't matter what day of the week every day should be a win how y'all doing how what's going on you know what's you know what are your plans are you holidaying are you thanksgiving what you got going on on your side of the world y'all know me i'm excited i'm i'm just like you know turn up no yay turn down okay i'm testing your pulse testing your temperature anybody cooking turkeys making that mac and cheesy no yes maybe so it's all good hopefully you just somewhere eating tomorrow or if not resting or if not somewhere at peace maybe getting to the money i don't know i don't know i don't know i don't know but what i do know what i do know is that you don't have to sit at tables that broke you you don't have to you don't owe these people anything you owe yourself everything this holiday really every day y'all know I'm about that life but it's really important to dive into something tonight and I want to I want you to join me in discussion help others encourage others you know start by liking hit the like button subscribe if you're new you might be new welcome welcome to the community survivors of narcissistic abuse and healing is a journey it's a journey so here we are we're on our journey we're on our journey hey dominic morris um thank you for the super chat happy thanksgiving to you and your family as well oh yeah eating good as the narcs watch lol yup that part i like that comment let me see yes yes much love viewers watching says my third straight thanksgiving single may be ham greens cornbread store-bought potato salad simple but peaceful a simple but peaceful yeah nice way to end that simple but peaceful that's the word simple but peaceful because you owe it to yourself that peace is everything and after going through so much chaos and so much heartache, so many, you know, unnecessary ups and downs, man, you owe it to yourself. So I'm going to invite you to join the conversation. It's just a few things in mind that I want to share with you that I've learned. And I think that other thrivers have also learned that. So let it be encouragement and motivation to you. If you're one of those people struggling because of narcissistic abuse i am a certified life coach you can reach out book those coaching sessions take your power back take your power back you don't have to sit at tables that broke you when you when you're talking about healing from narcissistic abuse it's much deeper than most people will understand unless they really are walking in those familiar shoes. But because it's holiday time, people tend to have these feelings that come up. Sometimes it's just feelings that come up, period, because you've dealt with narcissistic abuse. But it's these feelings of, what should I say, guilt, pressure, or pretending. They feel guilty, it's the holidays. They feel pressure, it's the holidays. but they're pretending because it's the holidays and this is so real um when you're in narcissistic matrixes and narcissistic dynamics you are held hostage in so many different ways and you're used in so many different ways and you have so many responsibilities and so much pressure and you have to fake and pretend a lot because there's this mask that everyone is wearing in that dynamic. There's these roles and there's this narrative that one or two people are controlling and everybody's going with the flow. And holidays are important because the way narcissistic abuse is set up, the holidays make it seem like you should erase, the holidays should erase the harm. The holidays should erase the harm. No, no, it shouldn't. It shouldn't replace the harm. No contact is no contact for a reason. And it applies to every single type of narcissistic dynamic for a reason. Skipping the table is not disrespectful. I wanted to get up here and say that tonight. As part of my own personal healing journey, these are things that I've learned to tell myself, condition myself to learn and accept and remember. Because once again guilt pressure pretending that's real that's real it's not disrespect that you're skipping the table it's self-preservation it's self-love it's healing for you forget who don't understand it it doesn't matter who don't believe it some of us grew up at tables where we were mocked and ignored and humiliated and criticized and treated like we didn't really matter like we were strangers going back to that environment as as someone trying to heal is re-traumatizing okay it's re-traumatizing no you're not holding no grudge it's not about that you're not holding a grudge you're holding your boundaries and when you hold your boundaries you become a villain you become a bad person to these freak shows these these these wackos these nut jobs there's a big difference between holding on to your peace and holding a grudge you don't have time for that i love you too keenly thank you so much for the super chat love you as well Alan Alan underscore LMH thank you for your for your subscription and your love and your support i appreciate you so much shout out to all my members in the house get a membership before the year ends y'all book that coaching session before the year ends you you gonna get through this like i said people don't understand what you're going through so if you don't really understand it don't feel too bad it's a lot but nobody knows it like you do once you gain the clarity you need you're gonna feel much much freer and i hope that's a word a word i hope that's a word but people that go through narcissistic abuse don't realize that a holiday invitation um it's not just a magic fix of years of denial and gaslighting and manipulation and favoritism it's not they gonna call and and be desperate to reach out and get that supply on the holidays from whoever they can and that includes you and this is a lot of families around this time that's that that has to deal with this level of abuse the most because there's an expectation that you must sit at the table you must come join you must show up you gotta be there this isn't cruel when you refuse to sit with people who broke you because sometimes no contact can come off as cruel sometimes it can seem difficult sometimes this could be your own parent some of y'all this is your your own child perhaps there's so many different dynamics ex-lovers wives people you once cared about shared things with lived with maybe even honored you know what i'm saying but the cutoff is so brutal because what's behind the cutoff the motivation behind the cutoff is the severity of the the breaking the process of breaking you down that you had to go through that that that type of psychological exhaustion and that type of psychological maze and that type of man having to use that type of bandwidth consistently to keep up with some fake person with bad energy man man it's not cool to refuse to sit with them or to allow them to sit with you just because it's the holidays so what it's christmas oh it's a birthday oh it's this then the third oh it's thanksgiving okay hope you have a good one nice and sweet hope you have a great one you enjoy it not gonna pretend to have the holiday spirit to make you comfortable in a lot of these family dynamics what i've learned is that going around them sometimes hurts much more than it does heal the comments the things that are gonna be said the the the gossiping the energy i mean the walking on