THAT NARCISSIST CHARGED YOU UP!

Hello, beautiful people. Welcome back to my channel. If you're new here, I am your girl. Mommy. So true. Hi guys. I'm dropping in, stopping in, sending some love and some light on today. Y'all we're still thriving. We're still thriving. You guys are survivors. You guys are thrivers. You guys are champions. You guys are winners. You guys are warriors. We're fighting through this. Narcissistic abuse is a lot of pain. It took a lot from us, but we are taking everything that that devil stole from us. You guys, I am here to tell you that I am feeling charged up, charged up. When I think about the pain now, when I reflect, I just get charged up because what I'm not going to do is prove the narcissist, right? The narcissist has so much bad stuff to say about me. He tried so hard to make me something that I was not. And being an empath, hearing stuff that's not true about you, hearing criticism, that's not real hearing bad and negative things about you can break you. It can make you really sit back and wonder, is there something wrong with you? Is there a problem? What do you need to do to fix you? And if you're not careful, this pain will leave you stuck. It will leave you feeling like you are unworthy of a better life. And that's what I'm not going to do. So what I do now with the pain, when I do think about it, I let it recharge me, like a rechargeable Duracell AA battery or something. I get recharged. I am now more determined more than ever to do everything that I wanted to do. Even before I ran into a narcissist, I had a list of goals. I operate on a vision board. The narcissist came in completely blinded me, not from my vision, but from the goals that I needed to be working on to get to where I'm trying to go. So now that you've hurt me so bad, I just use that pain to recharge, to get back into my groove, to start writing things down again. When I remember the words that has been said to me since childhood, what I can't do. Oh, you can't do this. And you can't do that. All of those things that made me feel like I was lacking in an area made me feel like I wasn't cute. Made me feel like I didn't have the body to fit in. It made me feel like, you know, I just was some type of outlier. I now use those negative thoughts and I now reprogram my mind and I get charged up y'all. And I'm here to talk to you today because you need to understand that a narcissist really came into your life to charge you up. You need to now let that pain push you into beast mode because you're really a beast for real. You were really the ---- before a narcissist came into your life. You were the ---- dealing with narcissistic family members and parents. They know that they know you're talented. They know you're talented. They know the skills that you have. They know that if you really put your mind to it, you're actually going to do it better than anybody has ever done it in this world. This is why I call NPD a narcissistic demonic disorder because these people are evil. They do evil things to keep you from thriving in your life. Every time you turn around dealing with a narcissist, there's this chaos, there's drama, there's always some type of event to pull you back and set you back from what you're trying to do in life. The pain is truly intended to help you reshift your mind, reshift your focus and your attention back onto yourself and what you're doing in life. You know what you're called to do. You know what you need to be doing. You know exactly what it is you need to be filming and put it out on YouTube. You know that you're a speaker. You know, you carry a healing voice. You know that your story alone will touch and reach so many souls. So the pain is here to charge you up, get you fired up that fire that's burning inside of you. It needs to come out now. You need to now birth, whatever it is that's sitting inside of that heart of yours. Let that pain be the reason why you do get up and go to the gym and workout. The reason why you do aim to lose that weight or gain some weight. The reason why you do get up and go start that business you've been talking about with that narcissist for so long, that business they've talked you out of or the business you started and you haven't really put too much. You haven't really put too much into it cause you've been focused on the pain. You've been focused on the drama. You've been focused on this person. You've been focused on how am I going to have peace dealing with mom and dad, even though they're draining me. Now that you've let all that go, now that you know in your mind that this is a narcissist and as long as you let them in your life, as long as you allow them in, you're going to keep pulling yourself back. Now that you know that you can reshift. Now that you know that you need to charge up, charge up and fall into the things that you know you need to keep yourself going. What do you enjoy doing? What do you like to do in the mornings? What do you like to do throughout your day? What do you like to do when you get off work? What are some of the things that you want to do that will make you happy? Charge up and go do those things. Now charge up and get into that groove. Now I said, charged up like a double eight. I said charged up like a rechargeable battery because the narcissist came into our lives and drained us, been draining us for years. Sometimes we can't even think straight. You operated on enough battery energy for that person. Now you need to recharge for you. Remember all the things this person has been saying about you while you were in the relationship behind your back. They've talked about you. They've asked you, after the, after the relationship, they have bashed your name. They're calling you a bad mother. They're telling people that you never cleaned the house. You never cooked. You never took care of the kids. They're calling you a bad father. They're saying you never showed up for your children knowing damn well, that's all you did. That's your number one job. So now that you know that this person was pretending to be in your life and they never cared one bit about you or those kids, not for real. Now that you know that they really were fake, all those I love yous were never real. Now that you know they were putting you down because they knew that you were really a real one. Recharge, bounce back up, show them from a distance, those flying monkeys, all those people that are watching you and believe in all that crap that they're hearing, whether they believe it or not. The narcissist themselves don't even believe the crap they've said about you, but they've said it anyway. So now let that charge you up to prove them wrong. You are a, you are an amazing father and amazing mother. You'll be damn to sit around and let this person ruin your reputation the way that they've tried to everything that this narcissistic demon came into your life to stop you from is everything that you need to now go out here and do. And be great at it. You're going to be great at it by nature because you call to do it anyway. Let this pain charge you. Let it charge you up for good. Let it charge you up for the best. Prove to that idiot that you are a great person. The best part about it is you don't have to try hard. All you gotta do is be naturally you. All you have to do is be yourself. The universe is waiting for you. This pain charged you for a reason. The pain had to happen. I say this on my channel so much because I am living it. I see it and I know this is real. The pain had to happen. Years of abuse from your family had to happen for you to get to this very moment in time today, this very moment in time, this phase of your life right now, this is the time now where you need to see that. Oh my God, I'm charged up. I'm charged up for the better. You're over it. You're, you're over it. You know what they're doing. You see it for what it is. So you need to be charged up to now go out here and thrive, thrive, be your greatest and your best self. These people showed us where we need to work on ourselves at and they showed us where we need to be more prideful at where we need to gain a little bit more ego at where we need to actually be like, man, I see that I'm the ----. I don't need nobody to validate that. You need a little bit of ego in life as a human, just a little bit. You need to have a little bit of pride in the things that you stand for and the things that you do in your life. The things that you know are great. You need to know how to pat yourself on the back when you deserve to pat yourself on the back. The narcissist made you feel like you're so imperfect. You're so flawed. You need so much help and there's something just so wrong with you. We all need help. We all got issues, but we're not all the narcissists. Many of us are chosen, chosen for something, something in this world that we need to be doing. I don't know what it is. I can't tell you what you're chosen for. Only you need to know that and those of you who know that just know that that pain had to happen to charge you up to my chosen ones. You had to be charged up to think the way that you're thinking. Now you had to be charged up to look at people the way you look at them. Now you have to be charged up to move the way you're moving. Now you don't look at men and women the same no more. You don't date the same no more after dealing with this narcissist. You may not even want to date. So many people say that they don't want to date no more and I don't blame them because the pain charged you up. Now you got to guard up that guard may be necessary because some of us are too nice, too loving. We don't know how not to be in love, too codependent and those are the things that I'm saying need to be worked on for some of us and that's what a narcissist came into your life to show you. They're showing you your codependency issues. They're showing you where you need to, where you need to be strong at and that's okay because as much as they were showing you, they helped you charge up. Now you can go out here and fight. Now you can go out here and fight this battle like a warrior. You have the tools and the resources like a soldier. You won't go out here and kill and slay like you need to because you can see you'll see them before they come. Now you're like a nine and shining armor for real. The pain, the pain has charged a different type of confidence into your soul and we need to show gratitude to these narcissists for hurting us because they have charged us. So many of us are going to encounter the best parts of our lives now because we're charged to fall into our greatest selves. Now thank you for the pain because you've charged me. I can't stop now because of you. I can't stop talking. I can't stop helping others. I can't stop showing love to the right ones. Now I can't stop pinpointing other narcissists. Now I can't stop letting it be known what the truth is now because of the pain I'm charged up to be completely honest. I'm arched up to be honest and take accountability for my own actions, my own flaws, whatever it is I've done wrong, whatever, whatever characteristics, whatever characteristic traits I carry that need to be worked on. I'm taking full accountability for it because the pain has charged me into wanting to be that type of a person. I want to invest in myself now. I want to put money in places that's going to get me to places where I need to go now. That's what the pain has done for me. It has charged me up y'all and if you're feeling me, give me a thumbs up. Give me a like, give me a comment. If you're new to my channel, subscribe if you haven't already hit the notification bell because I am letting you know all the time how much you need to let the pain charge you into your greatest self, into your destiny. The pain was here to let you identify the purpose for your life. Don't be stuck in how much it hurts. It hurts. I know it hurts, but when you reflect on how much it hurts, let it kick in that beast mode for you. Let it push out what needs to be pushed out of you. Learn how to be a little mean. It's okay to say no. I'm not telling you to learn to be a narc. No, but learn how to carry some healthy narcissistic traits for your own good. If you don't know what that means, look on the screen, screenshot this and read this and learn that there's a difference between having unhealthy narcissistic traits and carrying healthy narcissistic traits. Having healthy narcissistic traits does not make you a narcissist. Having unhealthy narcissistic traits does not make you a narcissist. You become a narcissist when you are way, way up there on the spectrum of and checking off on everything that makes you a narcissist. When we talk about what a narcissist is. Some people carry unhealthy narcissistic traits, but it's just one, two, maybe three of them that just needs to be worked on. They might be very, very, very low confidence. They have zero self esteem, so they come off as the victim all the time because they're always looking for validation. They may not be a narcissist. They just need real love. They need someone to let them know, Hey, you're good enough. I'm gonna need you to really look in the mirror and really point out your beauty inside and out and stand on that because that's what you need. You're not a narcissist, but you carry unhealthy narcissistic traits. You have no confidence. You don't have any ego. You don't know how to be a little prideful about the things that you are good at. You're so used to blaming yourself and questioning yourself and putting yourself down about everything. All you know is how to criticize you and that will make you very unhealthy or still hope for many people that carry narcissistic traits. And if you've dealt with narcissism in your life, if you've dealt with narcissists in your life, you have some type of unhealthy narcissistic trait. That's why education is important. When you get educated and you get put on game about what this is, you need to charge up. You need to work on yourself. Erase these negative traits that you have. Erase these negative thoughts that you have. Work on yourself and become better. Incorporate more healthy traits and become better. You might've been discarded. You might've went through the devaluing stage and all of that. But let me tell you something. If a narcissist discarded you, they did you a favor because they're trying to help you charge up and get back on your ----. They're trying to help you wake up because you've been sleeping on yourself for far too long. If they devalued you, first of all, they can only try to devalue you. They can't devalue anything that they never gave you in the first place. The narcissist didn't create you. They didn't design you the way that you are. So whatever they tried to devalue, that was them trying to devalue. They were able to make you feel devalued because at that time you were blind. You were hurt. You were focused on the pain and how it felt. But now you're thriving. Now you are a survivor and you know it. So what you're doing now is you're letting the pain recharge you. You're letting the pain be the reason why you are waking up and going to work still. You're letting the pain be the reason why you are pushing to get through that debt they left you in. You're going to see the other side eventually because you're still going. You're still standing. You're charging up every day. Every day when you're choosing to wake up and continuing your healing journey, you're charging, you're recharged. Every day you wake up, you are recharged. You're going again. You're back at it again. Ain't no stopping you now. You are on the move. My God, I love that song. Y'all ain't no stopping us now. We're on the move. God, we are on the move. There's no stopping us. There is no stopping us. The narcissist pushed you to keep you charged up. You got to keep going. There is something you need to be doing and there is no room for stopping. You got to keep going. So let the pain keep you charged. Every time you reflect back on it, if you've already left, let it charge you up. If you living with them now and you're dealing with them still, be charged up mentally and know that eventually you're going to be away from the situation and you're going to be somewhere thriving and living your best life because this person got you so messed up and everything they're doing to you every time you're crying on the inside cause they're hurting you and still saying that ---- to you. It's charging you up because once you set yourself free, they may not recognize you a year or two down the road and that's just what it is y'all. This is your girl. Mommy so true. Just here with some facts and some truth. Stay charged up. Don't you give up. Keep going. Keep thriving. Stand with me. Stand true. Follow your purpose. Follow your call. It's time now. The time is now. The time is now y'all. It's time for us to charge up and go. Keep going. Keep standing. I love you. Keep thriving. I'm here. Don't forget to book your life coach session with me. Let me help you on this recovery journey. I'm here for you to talk to vent to whatever it, whatever it is that you need. I'm your support. Love you so much. Take care until next time you guys.