Values, not privilege, determine whether a child thrives. In this episode, Katharine Birbalsingh traces her journey from left-leaning Oxford graduate who blamed racism and poverty for school failure, to founder and headmistress of Michaela Community School who believes the opposite. Small-c conservative values, personal responsibility, and high expectations matter more than circumstance ever could.
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Katharine Birbalsingh, Britain’s strictest headmistress, talks about what matters for our culture both at school and in the home. Gentle parenting and progressive schooling have replaced the values our grandparents understood instinctively. Whether you’re a parent, a teacher, or anyone interested in how politics impacts children, Strictly Education is your source for the traditional advice you can't find anywhere else.
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Catherine Berval-Singh, headmistress of Michaela Community School, advocates for \"small c\" conservative values in education. She argues that personal responsibility, discipline, and high standards are essential for student success and dignity, contrasting her traditional approach with modern \"gentle parenting\" and systemic excuses for underachievement.
People write to get me struck off all of the time, saying that it is outrageous that I'm saying the
things that I'm saying. Well, I'm going to keep saying them. I'm just going to keep saying them
because they're true. They're what's right. It's what we need to do for our kids. Because if you
want to know how to make your classroom better, how to help you in the home mums and dads with
your kids, how to help all of us have a better world, we have to look at what we're doing with
our children. Hello, and welcome to Strictly Education with me, Catherine Berval-Singh,
Britain's strictest headmistress. So this is kind of an introduction, you know,
who is Strictly Education for? You know, I speak to parents all the time who want traditional
advice on their kids, or I speak to teachers who want traditional advice for their classrooms,
and they can't find it anywhere. But it's not just for teachers and parents. It's also for those of
you who, you know, you don't think that kids are that important. You know, you think, oh,
kids are for mums and for teachers. Well, you're wrong, okay? I'm here to tell you that you're
wrong. This podcast is about doing things differently, because if we don't change,
we're in big, big trouble. Because your grandmother was right. Your gentle parenting
neighbor is wrong, okay? Look, a few months ago, I met this wonderful 86-year-old man in Florida,
and he said something very wise to me. He said that children make up 15% of the population,
but they make up 100% of the future. The values we give to our children matter,
because the values we give to our children make for a good life as adults, okay? And the things
I'm going to talk to you about will relate to anything that informs our values about how we
raise our children. So sometimes this might be about parenting methods or teaching. Other times,
I'm going to get a bit saucy. So other times it might be about race, might be about gender
identity or men and women, how we approach mental health or technology. Actually, any topic or news
story that tells us something about the values that we're giving to our children. And you might
think, well, what does that have to do with kids? Well, let me tell you, it has a lot to do with
kids. And I'm going to do it right here from my office. This is my office here. Look, I need to
show you actually, let me show you. Look, I've got items. This is my favorite item. You see him?
This is my little monkey. And you see how he has a little British flag on him there?
Like there is our little British monkey. And wow, we've got lots of items here. I got to show you
this. You can't even see it in the set. Look at this. This is football. Anyway, I'm going to put
out an episode once a week. And whatever the topic, it will always relate to the values that
our children need to live a life of dignity. So you might be thinking, who am I to make this
podcast, right? Well, I'm the headmistress of Makayla Community School, which is in Wembley.
We're a state-funded, non-selective inner-city school with normal inner-city kids in northwest
London. Guests tend to think that they come from Mars. I promise you, they're just perfectly normal
kids. Kids we didn't choose. Kids the council gave us, right? Just like any other school.
We actually get a thousand guests a year. It seems crazy that a thousand people would come and visit
us. I'm telling you, they come from all over the world. Today, we had some guests from Australia,
from the US, from all over the place. It's true that we get amazing academic results that can
outperform some of the elite private schools. So that's one thing that we're famous for.
But I have to say, I don't think I've ever... And I talk to the guests every single day.
I don't think there is a single guest that's ever said to me, oh my goodness,
your results are so amazing. I can't really think of one. All of them come here and they speak to
the kids and they sit with them at lunch and they have a tour and they're always struck by the fact
that the kids are so nice, kind to each other, polite, ambitious, driven. Just good people,
right? Now look, I founded the school 12 years ago and people always ask me why we haven't expanded.
I mean, look, the school is obviously working. People come from all over the place to come and
see it. So, you know, why haven't we got a second school, a third school? Well, I've tried. Okay,
we've tried. We've been blocked at everything we tried to do. We tried to open a primary. We
tried to open a secondary. I tried to set up a training course for deputies and headteachers,
principals, you know. We've just been blocked by it and everything we've tried to do. Okay.
So, I've just been doing it by stealth, really. I, through social media, you know, I have to say
I'm not a big social media person. You know, I'm a bit of a hermit in that way. I'm happy to sit at
home and, you know, do stuff for school. Like, I'm really not, like, social media is not my thing.
You wouldn't think it because people think, they call me the social media queen and I'm really not.
What I am is the Michaela Queen and I really believe in what we're doing here. So, I'm like
an evangelist going out there and just trying to spread the word. I always say I'm like a
traveling salesman with a suitcase going from door to door saying, let me tell you about
traditional teaching. Let me tell you about traditional values and how, what we need to
do with our kids. So, Michaela's traveled far and wide because of me being on social media.
And it's basically just spread through word of mouth. And then these guests come from all over
the world. You know, a journalist always asks me every time I'm ever interviewed, and I've been
interviewed a lot, they always ask me, why are you the way that you are? And so, I thought I'd
take this opportunity now to tell you a little bit about myself. I was born in New Zealand.
My mother was a nurse and she's originally from Jamaica. My father is, or was an academic,
I should say. And he is originally from Guyana, Indo-Guyanese. I grew up in Canada. When I was
about four, we spent a year in Nigeria. And when I was about 10, we spent a year in France.
Here's a photo of me and my sister in Nigeria. You can see the car there, right? 1970s really
dates me. My dad had these sabbaticals from the university where he taught in Toronto,
and we would go off and live somewhere else because he was a great adventurer. You know,
he took us around the world. He really did. And we eventually moved to England when I was 15.
Although I say that my parents spent a year here in England, and then they went back
to Toronto. I ended up staying. And each time I was going to stay for a little bit longer,
stay for a little bit longer. And then in the end, I just never went back. So, we lived in
Leamington Spa because my dad was placed at Warwick University for that year. This is a
photo here of Mrs. Crissick. So, Mr. and Mrs. Crissick were this wonderful old English couple
who, when my dad came to England in the 1960s, he knew their son who lived in the Caribbean.
And so, when he came to England, they treated him like a son. In fact, he called them mum and dad
for his whole life. So, in that photo, I remember being introduced to Mrs. Crissick as Mrs. Crissick,
but when my dad would refer to her, he always called her mum. They were a lovely, lovely couple.
Her husband had died at that point. Mr. Crissick was no longer there. They brought me up very much
with small C conservative values because we were a Caribbean family and in our West Indian home,
those small C conservative values were just normal values. I suppose they were Christian.
We used to go to church and I wouldn't call myself a Christian now, but certainly my parents
brought me up that way. It's funny, just today, I had a guest in, one of the local teachers,
actually. She's from Guadeloupe and she was saying how much she loves the school. And she said,
the thing is, Catherine, in Guadeloupe, this is just normal. She said, you're giving the kids
an education here that you get in Guadeloupe. And my mother would say the same thing about Jamaica.
My father would say the same thing about Guyana. I always say to the parents, actually, before they
join, I say to them that our school is more similar to the schools in their countries and
they could be from Poland, they could be from China, they could be from India, they could be
Nigeria, Jamaica, wherever. It's true. Our school is more like their schools. Or you go back in a
time machine to the 1950s and you'll find our school is quite like the 1950s schools in England.
It's just that schools in the West have really changed. In our school, we're not celebrating
victimhood. We embrace personal responsibility. We're grateful for what we have. And these are
the kinds of small C conservative values that my parents taught me and instilled me. So they're
just here. So later I went to Oxford. I used to read Living Marxism. I was a lefty
and I think I've moved in terms of my politics since then. And I changed my mind about a lot
of things. I chose to go into teaching because I wanted to teach inner city kids in schools.
I wanted to change the world. I've always taught deprived kids, really. And that was because I had
this real sense of, well, it's racism and it's poverty that's holding kids back, you know.
So here's a photo of my first form class. They were my little tutor group, you know, and I
checked them in in the morning and in the evening. And oh gosh, I love those boys. I love those boys
more than anything. So much so you see the curtains in that photo. I made those. I got a
sewing machine and I'm no seamstress. I got some material and I sewed those curtains because I
wanted them to have really nice curtains because the curtains that were there were horrible.
And I thought, this is our classroom and our classroom is going to look great. And so I got
some nice, bright material and made them those curtains. I remember a science teacher once,
when I got that form class, he said to me, you'll never forget your first form class.
And I tell you, it's true. It's true. I'll never forget those boys. I cried and cried and cried
when I left those boys. Oh my goodness. And they gave me this mug, you know, and I still have
that mug. And then a few years ago, the school where I used to teach those boys was closing down
and there was a teacher who had been there for years. So this teacher, he had been
in the school, I don't know, 25 years or something. And so he'd organized an event in the pub to kind
of say goodbye to any of the now young men. I say young men, they're not even that young now,
like they're in their thirties. Anyway, my boys came back, you know, my boys came back and there
they were. I couldn't believe it. And there you can see in this photo how, well, there they are
with me years later with the teacher who was their head of year and I was their tutor. It's just
lovely. It's one of those things where you think, you know, teaching really is the best job in the
black and brown children were failing because of racism and because of poverty.
And I really just believed all, I just thought, you know, if we get rid of the old-fashioned racist
ways, because anything old-fashioned is racist, that's kind of the idea. If it's traditional,
then it must be racist. You know, like Dead Poets Society, if you think about Dead Poets Society,
you know, with Robin Williams, and you know how they all stand on the desks and, you know,
captain them, my captain and all this, you know, there's a real sense of we are going to overthrow
the old doddery old guys who are teaching us boring traditional stuff. I kind of believed
that stuff, you know, and I thought, you know, what needed to happen was that white teachers
needed to question their racism to stop telling black boys off for no reason. When I went into
teaching, that's what I thought. And when anything went wrong, there just were always two reasons. I
mean, it was poverty or racism and that's just how I thought. Everybody thought like that, frankly.
And I think, unfortunately, because I've changed my mind, I don't think that's the case.
Whereas I do think that there's a lot of us who still think like that. And actually, I think
thinking like that is a massive part of the problem. I mean, it's huge. Okay. And when I say
part of the problem, it's not that, you know, black boys are failing, actually, in this country,
in England, the stats show that it's often white boys who are underachieving. I'm just talking
about a general problem of our kids, not just underachieving, because this isn't just about
kids achieving. It really isn't. It's about the values that they've got. Why are our kids
misbehaving? Why are our kids rude? Why do you get on the bus when there are kids on the bus
and you think, oh my goodness, I'm going to get off the bus and get on a different one. That's
what Strictly is about. All right. Look, why did I change my mind? I went to so many places around
the world. And I used to go and visit schools because I was obsessed with education and I
wanted to find out more about schools in different parts of the world. I spent time in schools in
South Africa, in Rwanda, in Turkey, Brazil, China, India. I also went to schools in America
and New Zealand and Australia. So parts of the West, you know, and I'd compare the two. I'd
compare the richer countries, the Western countries with the poorer countries. And in the poorer
countries, they really had nothing. You know, there'd be 50 kids in a class, sometimes more,
a hundred kids. You'd have old textbooks from the 1970s. You know, the place would never have
been painted. You'd have a desk shared between four kids. I mean, it was awful in some places.
As an example, like in South Africa, I worked there for about six weeks in a school and we were
in the middle of nowhere. It was just totally rural. I mean, like there were goats that would
walk into the classroom. Everything was sort of outside. There was no technology or anything.
They had one computer, which they'd never turned on because nobody really knew how to use it. And
it really was the back of beyond. And the kids would turn up late to school, some of them. They
were walking miles to get to school. And remember these people, you know, they have nothing and
they've paid for a uniform and then walking miles. But I said, no, we need to get you in on time.
So I had this whole assembly about the early bird gets the worm. And I drew a bird. I'm no artist,
but I drew a bird because I didn't have a printer or anything. And I drew a worm.
And then I made loads of these posters, drawing them. And then I stuck them up all over the place.
And, you know, kids came in early. And, you know, one time we got into a car and we drove
hours to another school, which was miles and miles and miles away. And when I arrived at the school,
I was wandering through the school. I could hear kids in the classrooms there saying,
it's the early bird. It's the early bird. And like, it was amazing because I mean,
here we were miles and miles and miles away. It took us hours to drive to this place.
And somehow the news had spread about the early bird. And I was the early bird woman. I mean,
it was amazing. Anyway, all my travels taught me that the biggest difference for kids is their
values. So those kids in all those countries that I went to visit were far poorer than the kids in
inner cities in New York and in Sydney and in London. I mean, I'd been to these schools. I'd
seen them. I know what it's like to work with kids who are deprived because I've done it all my life.
And yet the kids who were poorer in those other countries were more positive. They were happier.
They were more hardworking. They would walk miles to get to school. They valued their education.
So I'm like, well, why is this happening? Well, I can tell you why. It is because of the small
conservative values that are in their veins, right? Poverty has nothing to do with it. You can be as
poor as anything. If you've got conservative values in your veins, you will overcome. That's
what happens, right? So look, in the West, we are much richer, but we don't have any of these values
anymore. We used to. They're all gone right now. That's why we've got loads of fights going on in
schools. We've got very little learning going on in schools. And some people will say, that's not
true. We've got loads of learning. No, I don't think so. I always tell guests, I was telling
them just today, I was saying we're a show pony, right? Because the fact is, if you come here,
you see just how much kids can learn. I didn't know how much kids could learn. I didn't know,
not until this happened here at Michaela. And if I go into the classrooms now, and I think,
my God, I had no idea kids could learn so much. So another reason why I changed my mind is that
the teachers who I've met in my career, they have embodied those small C conservative values.
And these are teachers on all sides of the political spectrum, right? So Michaela herself,
who we named the school out of, was a woman very much on the left. The teacher who was the head of
ear of those boys who I just showed you, he was very much on the, he's still on the left. Like,
he's retired now, but he would tell, he will say to me, oh, you know, Catherine, I'm one of your
lefty friends. So, but they were small C conservatives. And it used to be the case
that those small C conservative values were both on the right and the left of the political
spectrum. They're not, that isn't the case anymore. So here's a photo of my old department.
You can see Michaela in there. You can also see her in another photo here where she's just,
just enjoying life in St. Lucia. You know, she always used to say to me, Catherine,
where is the rigor? She used to say. She used to get really frustrated with the fact that everybody
just seemed to be so lazy and laid back all the time. You know, she was strict, but she loved the
kids. And the thing about being strict is that I think real strictness is totally loving. And
sadly, sadly, Michaela died of cancer in 2011. I wish she could have seen this school. She would
have loved it. You know, she would have loved it, but you know, maybe she's looking down from up
above. So I started changing my mind and thinking differently about how to teach kids. And I came
to realize, look, the adult has to lead. Okay. And we need to believe in pride and shame. And
the idea of making a kid feel ashamed about his behavior nowadays is completely unacceptable,
which is crazy. Okay. Personal responsibility. We've abandoned that as a value. You know,
if you turn up late to school, that's on you. If you don't do your homework, that's on you.
But we accept every excuse under the sun now. We say he has special needs. We say he has mental
health issues. We say the bus wasn't on time. We say that his dad isn't in the home. We say that
he lives on a council estate. We say that he's black or he's brown or he's white. I mean,
whatever it is, like it's insane. Now I came to realize as a teacher, and I want everybody who's
watching this, I want you all to realize too, if you have different values and if you teach the
kids those better values, the kids will be better for you. Okay. That's just what happens. If they
have better values, they become better kids. When people come here every day and the guests say,
why are your kids so amazing? Because they've got better values. It's as simple as that.
So I made the mistake of saying this publicly in 2010. All of the stuff I'm telling you now,
I said it publicly in 2010 and I got in a whole load of trouble. So here's what I said.
Black underachievement is due in part to the chaos of our classrooms and in part to the accusation
of racism. If you keep telling teachers that they're racist for trying to discipline black
boys, and if you keep telling heads that they're racist for trying to exclude black boys,
in the end, the schools stop reprimanding these children. When the lawyers argue against a school
and readmit a black boy, who do we think suffers the most? It's all the other black boys who now
look to this invincible child and copy his bad example. I feel old when I watch that.
I feel really old. Anyway. Yeah, that's what I said in 2010. And I basically ended up out of a
career, actually. I mean, I was just told I'd never work in the state sector again.
And I was told that the sorts of things I was saying meant I shouldn't be allowed to be a
teacher. And I have to say that still happens. So people write to get me struck off all of the time
saying that it is outrageous that I'm saying the things that I'm saying.
Well, I'm going to keep saying them. I'm just going to keep saying them because they're true.
They're what's right. It's what we need to do for our kids. And I think it's completely outrageous
that the whole system is such that anybody who tries to speak out and say what's going on,
this is what ends up happening to them. And it's only through some kind of miracle that I've
managed to set up the school. It's just amazing that I've managed to survive. The fact is,
I have survived. I'm going to keep on going and I'll keep telling you what's wrong.
Because if you want to know how to make your classroom better, how to help you in the home,
mums and dads with your kids, how to help all of us have a better world,
we have to look at what we're doing with our children. So I decided to set up my own school.
I called it Michaela after Michaela, who sadly died in 2011.
We had to try three different times to try and open up in London.
It took us three and a half years to open up because we had so many people trying to stop us,
because of course you'd want to stop those evil people from trying to set up a school for kids
in the inner city who are deprived. I mean, definitely. They're your number one enemy,
aren't they? So three different parts of London. We went from two different parts of South London,
then eventually we came to North London and we managed to get this building through no help from
the council or anyone else. We managed to get this building. And amazingly, we have now opened in
Wembley. We opened in 2014. Now I have to say, before we did open, we had all these information
events for parents. We'd have events in the back garden of a pub. And you wouldn't believe the
stuff that would happen. I mean, people would be protesting outside. Like when I say people try to
stop us, they would protest outside with big banners calling me a Tory teacher. We were always
so worried about the possible violence that might ensue that we'd have to hire bouncers to deal
with these protesters. I would have to walk across the picket line with them shouting abuse at me.
And then they would come into the event and they would sit themselves. So I just want you to
imagine this, right? So I've gone around South London. I've handed out loads of flyers to black
mums in the local markets saying new choice of school, new choice of school. These mums are
already excited about the idea of being able to have another choice of school for their child.
They come along to the parents' evening to find out about it. And then all these white people have
been bussed in, white middle class people have been bussed in from out of London to sit amongst
these working class black mums and to then stand up and shout at me when I'm talking to the
to the parents to just try and drown me out and so that they can't hear me. OK, now this
happened more than once. Death threats came our way. I mean, it was just it's just crazy.
I used to say you'd think that we were setting up a nuclear armament. I mean, I don't understand
what on earth. All we're doing is setting up a school. But the progressives had wanted to
stop us. They didn't succeed. OK, like I say, it's like some kind of miracle that we've managed to
get here. You can see a photo here of the building that we eventually got, which was totally
derelict and it was just awful. But we got some money from central government so that we could
refurbish it. And you can see me with my parents. My parents came to visit me here and we went
round and and, you know, like it was a big thing. And then when we opened, there were still
like the protesters would not go away, right? There were still protesters. They were handing
out flyers to our 11 year olds, telling them that their lives were in danger for coming into the
building because the refurbishment was still going on. And so we had all these, you know,
construction workers around working. Now, you can imagine every health and safety box had been ticked
and we used to walk through this little tunnel to get into the school. But the detractors decided
to use that against us and then tried to scare the kids and the families into thinking that their
lives were in danger. I mean, look, I could go on forever. But basically, look, 12 years later,
let me tell you how McHale is different, OK? The critics always said it would never work.
We can't have traditional values. Various politicians and journalists would come and
visit us in the first year and they'd say, yeah, well, let's just come back when you don't just
have 11 year olds. Let's see what happens when you have 16 year olds. Well, we now have 11 to
18 year olds and we have had for years and we are still, you know, top at everything, really. I mean,
we really blow people out of the water when it comes to our results. But like I said, that's
not why the guests come and it's not what the guests are impressed by. The guests are impressed
by who our children are as people, OK? That's what they love. And then people say, well, you know,
how do you do it? And they'll assume that I spend all my time reading research, educational research.
How does the brain work? How do children, you know, how do they learn? I can tell you right now,
I don't read the research. I don't. I don't read any of the research at all. I just don't.
Some of my staff quite like it. I don't. I don't read it. I spend all my time with my staff
trying to move them on their values. That's what I spend all my time doing.
Now, the guests always come every day and I speak to the guests every day. I mean, I spend 10 minutes
with them, 15 minutes with them. And almost every day somebody will say, but how can we make my,
how can I make my classroom into Michaela? How can I make my school into Michaela?
And I would like to, over the next year or so, try and create a kind of manual that would help
people do the lineups and the silent corridors and the, you know, the slanting in the classrooms.
But I think people fundamentally misunderstand if all they want is to know the kinds of ins and
outs of the practicalities of the school, they're missing the point, which is that it's all about
the values. And I've realized I cannot explain the values through a manual. It's impossible,
right? I can't do it. I know how I move my staff and I move my staff and their values by having
conversations and by talking to them. So that really is the point of Strictly. I mean, I wish
I could talk to each and every one of you individually. I can't. But what I can do is
have a podcast where I'm trying to change the way in which you see children and the values that are
in here. Because I promise if you change your values here and you give your children different
values, whether you're a parent or a teacher, your children will change. And I don't know,
you know, lots of people talk about saving the West. I'm one of those people. Well, I'm often
saying it's the end of the West. I've been saying it for a very long time. The thing is, I think the
only way we save the West, the only way we save our schools, the only way we save our kids is if
we teach them the right kinds of values. I mean, that's where the solution lies. And so for all
you guys who love talking about immigration and talking about the economy and, I don't know,
defense, I'm telling you, if you don't want to talk about childhood, all of those conversations
are for nothing. Okay. Everything starts in childhood. Okay. People pat me on the head.
They say, you got a nice little school. Stop patting me on the head. This is the foundation
to Western civilization. Right. And so there's a lot of reasons for you to be on Strictly.
Moms and dads, you're going to come here and find out about what kids need. Right. Teachers,
you're going to come here because you're thinking, I want to know what kids need.
And everybody else who think you're too clever, you're clever clogs too big for your boots.
Come and listen to me about what I'm telling you about children. And I'm hoping I can change
your minds because those come big conversations you have about the geopolitical stuff. If you
don't talk about children, all of that stuff is for nothing. Okay. Children are everything.
Children are the future. And so the future lies with Strictly education.
So, you know, what I love is that people have already come up with questions. And my plan is
to always answer a couple of questions on each episode. So if you want to give me future questions,
put them in the comments below. And I'm going to answer a couple of questions now.
Right. So this is a question from Will Mack on X. I'd be really interested in how you
communicated your early vision for Michaela. How did you get buy-in for such a radical vision?
Seems like an important case study in successful leadership.
Yeah. I mean, how you get buy-in for anything is you go step by step. So to be honest,
in many ways, I didn't necessarily have this vision for the school. I just knew things could
be better. So I got together with my founding teachers and we decided, well, what are the
small things that we can fix? Do we want them to have bags in the classroom where the bags are
just going to be sitting on the floor and the teachers will fall over them? Small things.
And what you find is when you take care of the little things, the bigger things take care of
themselves. So that just happened gradually. I'm always just trying to move people step by step.
So in particular, even now, I mean, you say at the beginning, but now I hire new staff,
I have to move them slowly in their understanding of what values they might want to change inside
themselves, because otherwise they just run away to begin with. So I have to start bit by bit.
So this is from KMP, a question saying, how does a teacher teach values in their classroom
when the school system has none? Meaning there are no real consequences for poor behavior or
attendance. You need to set the rules of your classroom, regardless of what is happening
elsewhere. So implicit in that question is, but there are no consequences outside of my classroom.
Well, fine, but that doesn't mean you can't give consequences. I used to leave an hour at the end
of every day so that I could ring parents, sometimes for good things, sometimes for bad
things. I had to, because nobody was going to support me. I had to do it. It's the only way
in which you just have to take control of your own classroom. So here's a question from James,
who says, you want kids to take personal responsibility, but how about their awful
situations at home? They just come from real poverty. Yeah, it's a good question.
The thing is, is that those of us who are well-meaning, we think to ourselves, well, we want
to be able to allow that kid off for his homework, or it's all right if he's not on time. But you
remember what I said about the school in South Africa, where kids were walking miles to get to
school, and I was still getting them into trouble for not being on time. Look, the only way to live
a dignified life is to have the sorts of values that are going to make you be a better version
of yourself tomorrow than you are today. It's the only way. And so you're not helping children when
you make excuses for them. That's the thing to remember. What you're doing in that moment is
you're helping yourself feel better about yourself, okay? You're making you feel bad,
because he isn't as privileged as you are, and then you want to adapt yourself and what you're
asking for him in order to make yourself feel better about your own privilege. It's not going
to help him. It's going to turn him into somebody who's functionally illiterate and functionally
innumerate and isn't able to make something of his life without the right sorts of values,
which are whatever obstacles are in front of me, I'm going to jump those obstacles, because I've
got one set of cards to play, right? That's all I've got in life, okay? So if that's all I've
got, my teachers and the adults in my life better not take those cards away from me by making
excuses for me. We need to hold children to account, whatever their situation is at home.
So Jordan here is asking, how do you transfer your way of teaching into a homeschool setting?
I mean, people always ask me, how do I transfer it into my classroom in Argentina? How do I
put this in my school in Australia? You know, homeschool. I mean, the fact is, kids are kids,
wherever they are. You have the right kinds of values and you instill the kinds of values
that are good, the small c conservative values into those kids, you know, with one-on-one
conversations, every interaction you have with them. You know, you're teaching three kids at
home. It's the same as teaching a whole class of kids. I mean, it really is. It doesn't matter.
You hold them to account. You praise them. You punish them. You have heart-to-heart conversations
with them. You love them. I mean, it's the same thing. Here's another question from Richard.
He says, I'm now 74 years old and was brought up and learned too many things. The traditional
ways of teaching appears to be a lost art. Is it too late to change? Have we as a country lost
control, given it up to this woke type of society where lies are portrayed as truth and truth
defined as lies? Oh, it always breaks my heart when I hear from people who are older because,
I mean, they do look back and think they remember what those values were like. They remember all
their friends having those values and those values have sort of disappeared. But Richard, listen to
me. You know, we don't give up, right? That's what strictly education is about. I just said about how
you have to jump over obstacles. The fact is, yeah, we've got some big obstacles in front of
us as a country, but we're not going to give up. We're going to get those values back. We're just
going to keep arguing for them and we're going to keep spreading the news. And Richard, don't you
worry. We're going to get back there. Okay. You keep watching Strictly. I promise you we're going
to spread the good news. So I want to hear more of your questions. You can put them in the comments
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