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The speaker provides a simple heuristic for managing negative emotions during inner work. He suggests that feelings of shame, depression, and unworthiness are typically signs that the mind is dwelling on the past. By bringing awareness to this mental placement, individuals can recognize the link between past-oriented thinking and suffering, allowing them to return to the present.
I want to give a short little tip here. When you're doing inner work on yourself,
trying to figure out your moods, confidence levels, motivation levels, why you're anxious,
why you're depressed, etc. etc. It's a deep world. There's many tools that we use.
And with all those tools and practices and whatnot, it becomes very, very overwhelming,
confusing. I'm going to give a very short little heuristic, a tip here that simplifies a lot of it.
Now, it can be a little bit overly simplified, but there's great value in it, certainly at times.
And it's this. You're feeling shame, feeling depressed, embarrassment, unworthiness.
It's a little overstated, but there is truth in it an awful lot of time. It's not always true,
but it's almost always true. If that's what's happening, just watch where your mind is and
you'll find that your mind is in. So there's truth to that idea that it's being brought into
the past, analyzing it, not letting it go, failure to recognize that it's gone. It's over. And today
is a new day and that you can choose to let it go. The most important thing about whatever it is
that you're thinking about is that it's over and it doesn't define you. I mean, that is another
self-help sound, the idea that you can define yourself however you want to be, or you can be a
new you, right? Or you can be the underlying you that's beyond any of that self-judgment at any
time you choose. So just keep that in mind to simplify it all. If you're feeling any of those
heavier, dark emotions, more than likely your mind is in the past. Now, what you do with that,
you recognize it. The mind's in the past. There's a tendency to go there. Just bringing awareness
to that is super helpful. And you can realize over time that every time the mind does go into
the past like that, what you'll start to associate that with is those heavier feelings. So we start
to pay attention to it, bring awareness to it and realize, okay, if I'm in the past, I suffer.
That's a way for us to actually learn to become more present or even to look forward in our life
rather than to look into the past, but certainly to become more present. So keep that in mind. The
idea that you can simplify a lot of this stuff by just bringing awareness and recognizing where
your mind is, sort of a timeline. And if it's in the past, probably almost always not that helpful.
You're not figuring things out by visiting that place.
Okay. So keep it in mind. Hope that's useful. I'll talk to you guys again very soon. Bye-bye.
