8 Easy Attraction Habits Ryan Gosling Uses On Everyone He Meets | Classic Charm

Ryan Gosling has been considered one of the most attractive men ever in the entire world. Let's learn how Ryan is able to capture the hearts of so many with his charm while still being an introvert in this episode of Classic Charm. What is charm? It's an unspeakable energy that somebody has. I disagree. As a social coach, I've been studying this over the past 20 years, and I have found that charm comes down to nine traits. Here they are right here. Now, I personally believe Ryan Gosling is the most charming person that I've ever analyzed and studied on Classic Charm, and also does it in a way that's not big and bombastic, but in a very calm, collected, relaxed way, but also very focused. And that's why I'm going to be covering so many of these traits of charm. The first mark of charm is embracing your individuality. Now, I want you to watch this question that Ryan gets asked in this interview right here. Most people, most celebrities, they jump to an answer, especially when talking about a co-star. They want to try to show everybody how amazing they think they are and say, oh, my God, he's the best actor. He's so, so, blah, blah, blah. But I want you to watch how he responds to the question. Going to work every day with George Clooney, um, highlight for you? Well, he's just, he's such an interesting guy. He's doing so much all the time, you know. He wrote, direct, produced, starred in the film. He's also, he's got satellites over Sudan, taking pictures of the border that he's navigating from his cell phone, you know. He's checking the scores on the game. He's got a few practical jokes in the work at all times. He's, uh, you know, he's very busy and it's, he's so high functioning, you know, that it's like kind of fascinating to watch somebody like that in action. Do you see how he takes a pause? How he stops and he thinks about what he wants to say. You can see that he goes into himself and really tries to give the best answer possible here. But not just the best answer, the best answer that has to do with what his true experiences, how he truly feels about his co-star. That is somebody that embraces his own individuality because he doesn't give a **** about just jumping to answering the most common, boring, obvious answer of going, Oh, he's such an amazing person. Oh, we have such a great time. He doesn't do that bullshit. He takes a moment. He thinks and then calmly he tells exactly how he feels. And that's another thing about Ryan. Even though he has an amazing sense of humor, he's super charismatic. I want you to realize that most of the time he's very calm, he's collected and that's because that's who he is. He's not trying to be calm, especially in a world where charisma and being big and huge is such a popular, accepted, ready to be loved trait. Ryan doesn't give a ****. He's calm when he wants to be, and he's an idiot when he wants to be as well. So the next trait of charm that Ryan embodies so well is having fun and being playful. In this interview, you could see easily how he keeps interrupting the person that's asking him questions, and he does it in a fun way where it's purposeful, where everybody knows this is him being playful. This is how he jokes around. We're having problems. We'll get into your therapy. We're going through a conscious unbuddying right now. Conscious unbuddying. I like that. Yeah. Because he'll be on tomorrow. So we're separated. We've agreed to keep 24 hours apart. All right. Good to know. All right. But when you see him, tell him I look happy. We'll play some of what you had to say to him. Tell him I look really... I'm happier than I've ever been. Okay. Okay? Will you tell him that? I will tell him that for you, Ryan. Great. I want to get into the movie in just a bit, but first, I understand the girl to boy ratio in your house is now three to one? Yes. How's that going? It's heaven. It's like walking through a field of flowers every day. Well, congratulations. I live with angels. Very nicely put. It's a ray of sunshine in a dark time, honestly, because with Russell, it's really... It's sad. It's sad that we've turned out this way. Well, you actually play a father in this, and that relationship between you and your... She's a 13-year-old actress, but your daughter... It's really the heart of the movie, because you and Russell have your issues, but your daughter... What was it like working alongside her? She's just a star in the making. Yeah. You said it that because you didn't know how to pronounce her name. I don't. It's Angourie Rice? It's Angourie. Angourie Rice. And they say it... You know it so well. I read that I have similar fear in my eyes, too. Angourie. They say it like... It's like Maori. Okay. Although I think it's pronounced... In this interview with Jay Leno, I want you to see how he's constantly trying to show that he's not a celebrity. He's just a regular guy. Watch how when people are clapping for him, he mentions, oh, you guys were just clapping because of the applause sign. I saw the applause sign. I know. I'm hip. It's a nice... Or when Jay Leno comments about how much attention is on to him lately, and how well he's doing in the media, he goes, it's a bit overkill. I'm ******* sick of myself. It's been a busy year for you. Three big movies. You got Crazy Stupid Love, Drive, Ides of March, huh? Yeah. That's pretty good. It's a bit overkill. Is it overkill, you think? It's a little too much. Think you're overexposed and everything? I'm sick of myself. Really? Wow. Yeah. Wow. I can't imagine how everyone else feels. That is Ryan bringing himself down to earth. He's never trying to show that he's better than others. He doesn't have this type of ego where he needs to show that I'm this ******* hot shot movie star. This is a very important part of charm. Most people think that, oh, to be attractive, to be especially attractive, I need to show high value. Go **** yourself. It's the exact opposite. If you are trying to show off, it only proves that you are insecure in yourself and you truly don't feel happy just in yourself. So you need to get that validation from people. You need to prove it to people how great you are. Ryan doesn't give a **** about that. He is always, always bringing himself down to earth. Here are a few more examples. I feel a little self-conscious about it. Now why? Well, because I already wore it once. You wore it once? And apparently in show business, you know, would know this, you can't wear the same thing twice. Yeah. It's like you're spitting in fashion's face. Really? Yeah. But I don't care. I'm wearing it again, so. Yeah, there you go. That's a fact. It's been a lot of fun. I mean, it's sort of ridiculous. You know, I told them I'd be better suited to play the young Xena, but they cast me here. I mean, I'm excited. It's going to be a lot of fun. You know, every time something like this happens, my mother calls every kid that used to beat me up. She's like, remember when I used to beat him up, huh? Well, he's Hercules now. You just shut up. Yeah. So she's very proud. She's very excited. I'm also feeling a little self-conscious because I, uh, okay, so I ran into my friend Lisa Shields last night. Lisa? Yeah. And she, um, her job is to work for, she works for my agent now. Right. One of her jobs is to record all my late night appearances. Yeah. She told me this last night. She said, I'm trying too hard on talk shows. You're trying too hard. Yeah. She said, you're trying so hard to be cool. Wow. And I said, well, what should I do? And she was like, I don't know. Just like, uh, I said, I'm going on Jay Leno tomorrow. Yeah. So what should I do? She said, I don't know. Like, just don't talk. Even in this interview about the movie, The Notebook that he was in, he's always taking the importance and placing it onto his co-star, Rachel McAdams. He's never saying, oh, I did it. He's always saying she is the person that made this movie what it is. We weren't making the movie when we were auditioning because really the whole, it's really Rachel's movie and the whole film kind of, if it's a car, she's driving it. Now the one thing about Ryan is he is an expert at conversation. He knows every in and out of how to chat with somebody, how to ask questions, how to make that eye contact, how to listen, how to take a conversation from normal and boring and put a little spice, put a little charisma in it and how to make it more sexual at the right times, how to get physical with somebody. 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I'm just asking you to get my course for free on Skillshare. This is my little loophole that I created for you. Click the link in the description, QR code. I'll talk to you more about this Conversation Mastery course after this video. Let's get back to Ryan. Now another mark of charm that Ryan embodies so incredibly well, just like all of them, is taking a special positive interest in the person that is in front of him at any time. And one of the best ways that Ryan exemplifies this is when he's in an interview, he's never trying to make it about him. He's never trying to make it an interview. He's always trying to make it a conversation. So he's always taking that question and he's throwing it back at the interviewer. This turns it into something where it's two people that are just relating to each other. Or are we just too nice? I don't really know. What do you think? I think we're just too nice. I said that yesterday and Paul Giamatti really went at me for that. My first thing I thought was, I gotta get a motorcycle. When was the first time you got a bike? Oh, my first time I got a bike or what did you want on a bike? When did you know? You know, I remember actually because I was six. Because he never takes the person that's in front of him for granted. If there's a person that's asking him questions, he's not just dehumanizing them and acting as though they are just some computer that's spouting out questions to him that he has to answer. No, that is a person that is a human being in front of him. And he has to acknowledge that he has to show that person how important they are to him. Now, the next thing that Ryan is so ******* good at, I want you to watch how good Ryan Gosling's eye contact is. And now remember, it's not just eye contact for eye contact sake. A charming person isn't just staring at you, okay? What Ryan Gosling is doing is he's using his eyes to look into that person. How you do this is you kind of just gaze onto the person's face. You're not staring at any one thing at a time. But what you're doing is you're taking in their emotions that they're constantly expressing on their face at every given moment. When you do so, you're able to see through the lines of what that person is actually trying to tell you or not trying to tell you. Everything is on a person's face. Now, this is a big one here because without this, Ryan wouldn't be charming. You could be interested in people. You could be embracing your individuality. But if you don't have a rebellious streak in you, if you're not a little bit cheeky when you're interacting with people, you kind of come off boring, a little bit flat. I want you to watch in these clips how Ryan takes so many situations and makes them a little bit fucked up. He likes to turn them on their head. He likes to take situations and say, you know, this is going really nice and well. Why don't we just like throw a little bullshit into the mix? Bye. What? Bye. No. Bye. Ryan. Bye. This is not something that most celebrities are doing on interview junkets. They're trying to behave. They're trying to be squeaky clean. Ryan knows how to balance that with just a little bit of deviance. So because charming people are so good at balancing the deviance and the normalcy of their personalities, I want you to watch this very subtle thing that Ryan does in an interview when he's about to talk about sex, but instead of saying the word sex, he chooses a better, more acceptable word, copulate. We share the same dream somehow. I don't know how. And so I think it makes for a good, a good, a good team, you know? So did it end with a kiss goodnight then? No, we just kind of creatively copulated and made a movie baby in my car. He does things like this because if you push too hard in the rebellious, misbehaving vibe, you're going to come off a little crazy, annoying, just unacceptable. So you always want to be cleaning it up with being a pleasant, courteous, polite person. Now here's where Ryan's charm is probably the most abundant. He's probably the most quick-witted A-list celebrity I've ever known. Now being quick-witted is a skill that you develop, but at the same time, it's all about being as alert as possible for what the conversation is actually about, what's actually being talked about. Look at it a little bit deeper than just surface level, and you're going to be able to make these quick connections to what somebody says or to something that you even say, turning something into something more funny or more interesting. Was the magic immediate or did it evolve? Yeah. No. It's a filter that they added in post. Just later on. The same people that designed Gollum for Lord of the Rings. They just went in there and they gave us chemistry. It's good. It works, right? It feels real. Going back to Ryan's interviews in The Notebook, I want you to, this is probably the best example of Ryan showing his quick wit. Now there were some other people that were talked about for your role, from Tom Cruise to Matt Damon. I didn't hear that. What do you think about that? What were they doing casting me? You know, Nick sent me the script and he said he thought that I should do it and I read it and I thought he was crazy and I met with him. I said, Nicky, you know, come on. This is not the face of a romantic lead. And he said, well, you know, that way when she says that she loves you, we know that she's in it for the right reasons. So I thought, well, that's probably true. And he's like, Brad Pitt, anyone's going to fall in love with Brad Pitt. You? Who's going to fall in love with you? And I thought, yeah, that's mean, but you don't need to say that. He was like, no, I'm not trying to be mean. I'm just saying that, you know, you make babies cry. And I'm like, whoa, that's what do you stop it? You know, he's like, no, I'm just feeling nauseous looking at you. It's nothing. I was like, come on. You know, if I was going to give you the magic pill for how to be charming, I would just put you in an improv class. The most fundamental concept in improv is something called yes. And it's where you take whatever is being talked about, you agree with it, and then you add on top of it. Ryan is the best in this, and it shows that he's actually studied improv for years. And just like most celebrities that I analyze on Classic Charm, they are passionate about a wide array of things. Now, Ryan is no different. He's an actor, but at the same time, he's a musician. He's released an album. He sings. He plays instruments. He is multi-passionate in life, and every charming person that I've ever studied is the same. We all know his performance in Barbie singing I'm Just Ken, but I want you to listen to this song that he wrote years ago and performed with his own band. Now, I don't think I'm ever going to analyze somebody as charming as Ryan Gosling on Classic Charm, but if you have any suggestions for me, put it in the comments. If you're interested in my conversation class and learning all of the ins and outs of how Ryan actually goes about having conversation, how does he ask questions? How does he express himself? How does he make eye contact? If you really want to get deep with his stuff and learn how to flirt just like Ryan does, if you want to have that energy just like Ryan does, get my Conversation Mastery course on Skillshare on my website. It costs over $600, but I'm not going to do that to you today. Today, I'm going to give it to you for free when you sign up with Skillshare for a month. Now, this is not a sponsorship with Skillshare. 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