Women Are EXTREMELY Attracted To Men Who DETACH

Women are extremely attracted to men who detach. Hi guys, my name is Christine and I'm a dating relationship and personal development coach and today I'm talking about women are extremely attracted to men who detach. So what does this mean then and why? Because there was a study done in 2011 and the study was literally titled women are more attracted to men whose feelings are clear and you can literally type that into google and it'll come up with that study and basically just to give you a brief description of that study basically what they found out was that women were more attracted to men who they were unsure of really liked them right so they weren't sure where they really stood with him and they found that attractive they were more engaging there was more anticipation and they just found those men more attractive for some reason okay so the idea then is how can you appear like you're detached so you can attract more women have better success with the women that that you're dating so there are very few there's a few simple things that you can do um that can help with this okay but one of the reasons why it may be difficult for you to detach um is because obviously when you meet a woman and you really really like her you know the emotion and the feeling and the passion can be so powerful that you feel like it has to be expressed you feel like you have to say something you have to like it and you have to say that you like it you have to say that you love her you have to you know because you're that passionate about because she just rocks your world and i think everybody feels that way even women feel that way about men who they meet that they really really like um it's just one of those things like if you've got a strong passion for someone it's very very hard to hide it and to mask it yeah um because it's like this it's like a release you want to be able to release this feeling this passion inside um so but that's not a good idea though to do that if it's too soon in the courtship like you can't be saying um i'm in love with you after the first date unless you know she says it first then of course you can reciprocate if you feel the same way um because the the truth of the matter is is that yes women are attracted to men whose feelings are unclear so one of the best ways that you can sort of um adopt that and appear more detached is if you simply just wait for her to say i love you wait for her to say i like you first because then you know you're not saying it prematurely then you know you're not saying it too soon you just wait for her to say those things first okay and most women will know that you like them anyway um because you're asking her out like if you're asking her out if you're the fact that you're there you know you're physically there on the date with them lets them know that you're interested on some level but it's the amount of interest that maybe you want to keep close to your chest okay because if you really really really like her but you can tell perhaps she's not quite there yet then um you kind of do have to hold your your your cards close to your chest and just wait for her to reveal hers first because what you'll find is when you go out on dates and you meet women yeah they're going to be women that like you that are into you but they may not be quite as into you yet as you are into them because everyone falls in love at different rates so you might fall in love with her really fast and then say yes she's got the potential to fall in love with you but she needs a couple more weeks than what you did basically so that means you've just got for those couple of weeks you've just got to hold your cards close to your chest and wait for her to you know just keep on dating her like you have been and eventually she will she will get there and it isn't it's not a long process you don't have to wait a long time for a woman to fall in love with you it's usually after about like the third date that things start to get a little bit more serious you start sleeping with each other and that's usually when you know women will start to say things like oh i like you and maybe even i love you um but it's one of those things that you have to um sort of wait out a little bit but the longest time is about three months so if you're if you're dating a woman for three months by the end of those three months she should be in love with you okay so that's about as long as you've got to wait okay and like i said she already knows on some level that you're interested in her because you're dating her because you're physically there and you're sleeping with each other and you're taking her out and you're doing all these different things but you don't have to explicitly ever tell a woman that you're into her okay because the fact that you're there just proves that you like her at least a little bit all right okay um and honestly if you tell her that you you're in love with her and you really really like her too soon before she's ready to hear those things before she's hit the point where she's at the same level as you it's not going to make her more attracted to you it's not going to like make get her to like you more now it's true that um if she really likes you a lot you can say those things and it won't make her lose interest in you but it won't make her like you more it won't make her more attractive to you it won't make her feel more into you it won't make her more you know sexually aroused okay if you tell her those things before she's said those things okay um now with a woman who's sort of on the fence about you yes that could turn her off right if you're unsure of how she feels about you and you're not sure if she really likes you that much um then yes if you tell her that you're you really really like her too soon and you're or you're in love with her that could put that woman off you that could turn that woman away because um it's just too much too soon and they didn't have enough time for their feelings to develop and it's just it just makes them feel a bit icky it's like i said it's not attractive it's not going to make her more attracted to you okay to tell her that you're in love with her to tell her that you really really like her and like i said you don't need to say these things you don't need to tell her because if you're dating her she knows that you're you keep on asking her out she knows that you like it okay um but it's um what women like and what i mean by you know what that study showed about women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear is that it's good to keep them sort of guessing because obviously they they probably think okay well yeah he he you know he shows up to the dates he's there um we have a great time it's fun but he's never said that he likes me um he's uh he's kind of a little bit distant um you see can you see how like she's thinking it makes her think about you a lot right these are the things that she's going to be telling herself and basically that means that you're in her brain and she's thinking about you and she's wondering about you she's wondering where she stands she's like well yeah he hangs out with me we hook up and stuff like that but he's never said that he likes me what's going on i wonder if he liked me and basically the more she starts thinking about you in these ways and the more she ruminates about you the more faster she will fall in love with you okay um so um one of the reasons another reason though as well why it's hard to detach so obviously there's the oh i'm really into her sort of thing um and and that you have if you when you're really really attracted to someone it's very very difficult to sort of like contain that attraction and that passion but also um one of the reasons why a lot of people not just men women as well um can't detach and find it difficult to detach is because on some level they don't really like being single um they feel like a relationship is going to um make their life complete in some way or it's like a missing puzzle or they believe falsely that having a relationship will fix their problems or make them feel happier and and uh fill a gap and fill a void inside themselves and yes a relationship will on some level fill you up and make you feel better for that period of time um but if you learn to like being single if you learn to enjoy yourself on your own and you know how to use your time wisely and productively and you like who you are when you're alone with yourself and you enjoy your life and you enjoy the things that you do when you're on your own um it's not gonna and you've got goals as well if you've got goals and things that you're trying to achieve it's going to get to a point where you actually feel a little bit inconvenienced by going out on a date with a woman because you'd rather be at home doing you know grinding away at an important project or going to the gym whatever it may be for you whatever is important to you you're like you would rather be actually doing the thing that you have a lot of passion for like a passion project um and and your purpose basically in life you're calling you you'd rather be doing that actually than going out on a date okay and if you've got that and if you've got something that that feels that important to you then you develop this sense of well if things go wrong with this woman i'm dating or my current girlfriend or even my current wife if things go wrong if she disrespects me like if she cheats on me or she does something else that just disrespects the relationship like there's a deal breaker or if things go sideways with the girl that i'm dating and she loses interest and she suddenly just goes ghost she leaves me on read i know that i'm going to be okay i know that i am going to be able to get over that and because i know how to use my time wisely it's not like i'm going to be sitting alone in a room just thinking about her upset and devastated so if you learn to love being single okay then when you do meet a woman it's not going to matter too much it's and it's not going to affect you too much if things go wrong whether that's now or whether that's five years from now if you end up together and in a relationship so that's a reason why a lot of people can't detach and they find it difficult to detach because they make the relationship so important to their life so important to their life that if they become single it will just break them and if people don't enjoy being single while they're single they often appear they often become very desperate in relationships and they often say things like i love you too soon because they're trying to lock that person down to a relationship because they're trying to make they're trying to force something to happen and they may not be even aware of it but that's what they're doing because they just hate being alone and they just feel like they can't go alone like they just have to have a relationship so that's another reason why some people find it very difficult to detach but it's absolutely crucial that you at least learn to let her say things like i love you or i really really like you first because um if you can do that then you are holding your cards close to your chest um and you're not you are going to remain more like one of those men who it appears that their feelings are unclear okay so if you always just wait for her to say those things always wait for her to bring up the topic of being exclusive um you know even getting married as well when you're in a relationship let her be the one to bring those things up first let her be the one to bring up the next step okay of the emotional side of the relationship like i love you i like you let's be together let's get married let's have kids let her always be the first one to bring those things up because then you will always appear like you're the one that is more detached and she's the one that's more into you than you are into her and then she because basically if she is more if she acts and feels and believes that she's more into you than you are into her she will always be chasing you and if she's always chasing you and she's always pursuing you and she's always believing that she likes you just a little bit more than you like her then she can't be dumping you she can't be losing interest in you because she likes you more than you like her so it's it's she's the one that's going after you she's the one that's pursuing you and if she's pursuing you she's not breaking up with you okay and she's not leaving you so thank you so much for watching um if you would like more tips on attracting beautiful women then i highly recommend you go and read my book attracting the beautiful woman of your dreams i just go to the link in the description you can also get coaching with me as well if you feel like you need help with a specific situation um so if you feel like um there's something that you personally really need help with then i do recommend that you get coaching with me um because then we can just go over everything that's going on um you can even send me screenshots of messages that you've been sending to a woman um if you want me to analyze them you can send me uh screenshots of your dating profile and i'll be able to optimize it for you so you can um get better matches and things along those lines or if you just need general advice about a specific situation that you're going through and you want me to hear your story and i can help you with it analyze it put you on the best path forward to turning things around if it is salvageable and um yeah so just and just click click on whichever coaching option works best for you but if you would like to read the book um then go to the menu on the website and then just click on the book and it'll take you straight to the pdf reader um so thank you so much for watching and i shall talk to you again very soon goodbye