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What's up brothers? Hope everyone's doing well out there. The title of this video is How to Vibe with a Woman Emotionally. Now I know what some of you guys are thinking. Why the hell would I care about learning how to vibe with a woman emotionally? And here's what I'll say to that. If there ever comes a day when you'd like to have a woman in your life, you're gonna have to learn how to do it. So you know it's up to you. Me personally, that's what I'm into. So anyways, here's where I want to start with this. Because a lot of people get this part wrong. A lot of people will tell you attention is currency to a woman. You know out there in the dating market, attention is currency. Well that's kind of true, but it's only one form of currency. There's three forms. One is attention. One is validation. I should say one is attention, two is validation, and three is emotional connection. And number three trumps the first two. So when you're good at that, you got it all down. You don't really have to worry about much else. No rattlesnake over there says hi. It's a little hot out here and they're getting a bit angry. Anyways, let me explain the difference between these three, because a lot of people don't quite understand. Let's start with attention. Okay, let me give you an example. Let's say you have a woman who's done her makeup all nice, done her hair up all nice, she's got a nice outfit on, she's styling, looking good, and she walks past a group of guys and they're all checking her out, giving her the googly eyes. That's attention. That's what attention is. Now let's say she walks past a group of, it could be men or women, and they say, damn girl, you're looking good. It could be women. They say, girl, you're looking good. Your dress is fire. That's validation. Could be from men or from women, but she's being validated. Emotional connection is what takes place. Let's say you're standing next to her and you give her kind of a look, straighten her eye, and give her like a little half smile, almost like a flirtatious I'm attracted to you. I kind of am interested in you type of deal. It's not you checking her out. It's not you telling her how good she looks. It's a moment that's being shared. It's a connection. Now that's the difference between the three, and the reason why that's important is because if she places you in the attention category, that means you're essentially below her. It's as if you're going to a concert to see your favorite singer sing. The singer doesn't really consider you to even, like they don't even know you exist. You paid $100 to see them, but you're there to give them attention. They're going to do what they do, and you're going to cheer for them. That's it. That's the whole dynamic. Validation basically means you're one of her girlfriends, or you're the equivalent to one of her girlfriends. That's why I say it doesn't matter if it comes from a man or a woman. I think women probably value validation from their girlfriends more than they do from men. You ever notice them upload a selfie on Facebook or Instagram? They got all their girlfriends telling them how beautiful they look. They like that. Then a dude comments. He's like, damn you're looking good, and she doesn't even like his comment. Doesn't respond to it. Yeah, they like it from their girlfriends. So validation is never really something, it's never really the angle that a man should take. That's not the category you want to be in. Emotional connection is self-explanatory. It's a connection between the two of you. It's actually an investment. It's a romantic encounter. It's something that matters. So that part is important. That's something that has to be explained before we even get into the video so you know the difference. Now there is a time and a place to give a woman attention and validation, but that's not what we're talking about in this video. So how to create the emotional vibe with a woman. Hey, old, uh, what do you call those small airplanes? The ones that only hold like a couple of people? Whatever the hell those are called. We got a flight path going on over us. Anyways, the emotional vibe. Let's not get too distracted. So here's why it's difficult first of all, and you have to understand this part too, but men and women emote differently. They express and they receive emotions differently. Women emote through what you could call emotional memory. They remember emotional highs that registers in their brain and they remember them forever. So you could be standing next to a gal at the gym or the office anywhere, right? A first date at a dinner table, but I'm just going to say at the gym and, you know, you just happen to be stretching right next to her and you look over with, you know, that half smile, like a kind of a flirtatious look like you're, you're into her and, you know, the mirror neurons kick in. She can't help but smile and blush and give you the same look back. That may sound like a tiny moment to a man, but that's how women emote. That's one of those moments that she'll remember for the rest of her life, even though it's something that's so basic and it seems meaningless. Months from now, you may be texting with her and she may say like that day at the gym when you were standing next to me, I almost fainted. You're like, huh? Yeah. I mean, it was a moment for her. It was that emotional connection. It was something that got her excited. It just, it's something she was thinking about for the rest of the day. It was just imprinted in her memory forever. And she always will crave that from you. Now, the way many emote tends to be through logic and reason and problem solving. So men in general, and this is a problem that we have, we start to analyze how can I get her to like me? How can I make this relationship work? What did I do wrong if she's not talking to me? You know, it's this overthinking and overanalyzing, but that's a sign of a man becoming emotionally connected to a woman, right? It's just how it happens. It creates this problem solving process of how do I, you know, how do I rationally make this relationship work? How do I get her to like me? Logically, how do I make this happen? So men are remembering events like I screwed up or what worked? Did I do good? So it's like almost like robotic. It's like mechanical. Whereas men, women are just memorizing these emotional moments, you know, just these brief moments when they're getting butterflies, it's being stored in their brain as you being the one that's causing this. So that's the difference between a man and a woman and how they emote. So as a man, logically, rationally, you know, you understand that you need to give her those moments. You know, it doesn't matter if you've been married to her for 15 years or it's the first date. It's about those little moments. They're free. They don't require, you know, any really even any effort. It's just taking the time to have these moments, you know? And the reason why I say such a vague moment of just standing next to her and just kind of just giving her a little almost like a like a shy smile, like you're you're into her, but you're like being shy. And I'm not saying that you're shy. I'm not shy either. But if that's how it's perceived on her end, like, oh, whoa, like I'm into you, you know, that's that's big to her. Right. But here's the thing. You can't force it. And it's not going to happen with every woman. As a matter of fact, it's most of the time it's not going to happen. You know, it's kind of rare having that mutual emotional connection can be rare. But when it's there, you know, you can walk into a room full of people and, you know, you kind of have that you share that little connection and you sort of know on her end, she's really enjoying that. Like you can tell that moment registered with her. And from that point on, every time you bump into her, it's as if she's addicted to those moments. She wants that moment again. You know, she wants to be near you. She'll walk past you, you know, put herself close to you like trip over something and do something cute to get your attention. You know, anything to just get you to say hi to her, because that emotional connection, you know, to her, just that that dopamine, that serotonin, that oxytocin to get scientific about it. You know, it's it's very powerful. You know, it makes her she could be having the worst day in the world, you know, the worst time in life. Everything is going wrong, but you give her those moments and everything's better. You know, that's the power that a man has when it comes to socializing and dating and relationships and anything long term marriage. You know, a man has that power if he understands how to use it. You know, there's so many things, you know, I've talked about some of these things in the past, like, you know, if you're on a date with a woman and obviously if there's chemistry there and you're feeling things and you just kind of, you know, give her a big ass hug, big ass bear hug, you know, and kind of lift her off the ground, that'll be one of those moments. You know, that'll be something that just drives her nuts. She'll be thinking about you the rest of the night, the rest of the week. She can't wait to see you again. You know, she will make any excuse to see you during the week and she'll intentionally go out of her way to make sure that it's easy for you, that you don't have to spend a dime, that you don't have to go out of your way to, like, make something happen. She's going to do whatever she can to see you again because you're giving her a certain feeling that other guys are unaware of. Other guys don't know how to give her. They just, they don't understand it. You know, when you're driving in a car with a woman, always, like, and don't use this for evil, but if you wanted something from her, like, if you wanted a favor from her, it would be almost guaranteed that she would do it if you put your hand on her leg and, like, grab her hand, hold hands with her with your hand on her leg over there and then occasionally, you know, grab her, pull her in, and give her a kiss. Little things like that without even, you don't have to say a word, you know, to tell her what you're up to, what you're doing. Just let it happen, you know, and I promise you, like, if you were, like, gonna do something and you knew that she wouldn't like it, you would do something like that to, like, butter her up and she'd be like, okay, you know, but you're giving her that emotional connection that she's looking for, that vibe that she's looking for. Now, if you're a single guy and you're trying to create this and you've got a woman in mind that you'd like to create it with, you kind of have to understand that you're really in a position where you can do subtle things just to try to strike up that emotion, you know, you can approach her with a certain posture, you know, like a confident but open posture, not like a cocky fighter posture, but like a certain posture like you're welcoming, you know, just just a normal posture and talk to her, you know, looking at her, listening to her, kind of feeling her out, and if you have, like, okay, if she's, I don't want to say copying your mannerisms, but really that's what it is, kind of mirroring you, then that means, like, she is having that experience, right? But you really can't force it, you know, when even if you cold approach a woman and you're talking to her, if you're not reaching a point where the both of you have a posture that is open and you're sort of, like, just mimicking each other's behaviors, like, oddly enough, that's how it is, like, you know, if your eyebrows go up, her eyebrows go up, you smile, she smiles, it's like contagious, right? When you're having that emotional connection, that's how it goes, and it's the man leading and the woman following. So, if you're getting that, then it's good to go, you know, that, like, from that point on, you don't really have to try too hard, you just keep it natural, keep doing what you're doing. If you're not getting that, then you're essentially, whether you realize it or not, probably being put in that attention category or the validation category. So, like, no matter what you say or do at that point, you're just giving her attention, and it's not being reciprocated back, that's why you can't force it. There also has to be some emotional maturity, emotional intelligence going on here, if you're not seeing a willingness to emote from her, you know, it's probably time to back off, even though maybe you really like her a lot, and I hate to say it like that, but it's got to be a two-way street, you know, you can't just be over here loving on a woman that doesn't want you back, you know, that's what causes a woman to be repulsed, because emotions are contagious, and if you're pursuing a woman that doesn't want you back, what you're doing is you're being needy and desperate, you're almost being sad. So, your sadness is, like, contagious to her, like, this uncomfortable feeling is contagious, it's going around all over the place, and it's just a ugly environment. That's why you have to say, if I'm not experiencing a full willingness to emote from her and from me, you know, if that's not the dynamic that's taking place, there's no point, you know, it's time to back off. I'm wasting her time, and she's wasting mine, but really, you're the one that's in control, so you're wasting her time, and you're wasting your time, but it ain't hard to do, you know, like I said, it doesn't happen with every woman, but when it does happen, you know it's happening. Now, I've seen this, I've accidentally done this, you know, what we'll have, and I'll just stick with the gym thing, you know, I could be at the gym, and I'm working out next to some lady, and I'm kind of being polite and smiling at her or something, and, you know, that we, whatever, somehow we end up text messaging or on Facebook messenger or something, and she's always memorizing, like, you know, we were working out right next to each other today. It's like, huh, and then it'll sometimes get to a point where it's like Saturday, and they've had a couple of drinks, and it's like, hey, can you, can you come over? I want to see you, you know, it just, like, steadily progresses, and sometimes you'll get in such a habit of doing it if you're a single guy, and you're just, like, kind of learning, like, women, women actually really like this a lot. This is how they communicate. This is how they get aroused and turned on by guys, so, you know, you're just, like, doing these little subtle things that you don't even, like, they just become second nature to you, you know, just the way you look at her, the way you talk to her, the way you posture yourself, and, you know, sometimes you'll have women that are married or in relationships, and you didn't even mean to do it. It was just an accident, right, but they're starting to become addicted to you, and this is not a looks thing. It's not a, you know, I know there's always somebody in the comment section that says, like, they'll say that I'm like a Chad or something. I'm really not. I'm the most average looking dude you'll ever see, but it ain't about the looks. 100 percent it is not. As a matter of fact, there's a lot of women out there that are turned off by handsome men, and the reason why is, number one, they view handsome men as somebody that's going to bring them competition anxiety, you know, somebody that's going to make their life difficult because there's going to be other women chasing after him, and he's probably arrogant, and it's probably going to be like just a difficult situation to be in, so they don't want to do it, you know, and women tend to go after their looks match, somebody that they perceive as relatively close to them in looks, you know, that way a lot of those problems are mitigated, but, you know, I'll say it like this. If you worked in an office and you were the best looking guy in the office, there's a really good chance that you would be eye candy to all the women. They would all be looking at you all the time, checking you out. You're so good looking, but anytime you try to make a move on them, they all just kind of like ghost on you, whereas the more average guys are having better luck. It's a weird dynamic, but it's true, and anyone that says that that's cope or blue pill, you've never been the best looking guy in the office. I guarantee it, and that's why you're saying that. You've got a negativity bias based on your own situation, maybe, but it's true. All right, guys, I think I've pretty much said everything I need to say in this video, but I hope this video was somewhat informative, and that's about it for tonight. Until next time, see ya!